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29 – Dance a Little and Take a Nap

In this episode, we will discuss preparing for a tough conversation. We’ll cover everything from getting a good night’s sleep to identifying negative thoughts and picking the right location for the conversation. You’ll learn to warm up the other person and be in the right frame of mind. And most importantly, we’ll give you a mental phrase to repeat in your head to stay strong and talk slowly. So buckle up, and let’s dive into how to have a successful tough conversation. That’s a mentor, a friend, someone to vent to, or a professional counselor.

 
https://startwithsmallsteps.com/?p=2542

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28 – Is this a good question?

I am diving into the art of negotiation with Alexandra Carter’s book, Ask For More: 10 Questions to Negotiate Anything. She suggests using action verbs and open-ended questions while keeping an eye on body language and emotions. It’s important to clarify with “Tell me” questions and to know when to keep silent. By framing the situation in the best possible light and finding the middle ground, both parties can come out as winners. So, let’s start negotiating like a pro!

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https://startwithsmallsteps.com/?p=2478

https://alexcarterasks.com/book/

https://startwithsmallsteps.com/?p=2521

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27 – Negotiate the River Of Your Life

Do you know what can be really intimidating? Negotiating. But don’t worry, I am sharing the book Ask For More by Alexandra Carter. it’s packed with some seriously valuable tips on how to prepare for a negotiation. First, figure out what you want and what problem you’re trying to solve. Then, turn those issues around and make them positive. And don’t forget to figure out what the other person needs, too! During the negotiation, keep your eyes and ears open, take notes, and follow up on any action items. And last but not least, have a BATNA - the best alternative to a negotiated agreement. So, if you’re ready to become a negotiation pro, keep listening!

Links

https://startwithsmallsteps.com/?p=2502

https://alexcarterasks.com/book/

https://www.brodow.com/Ten-Tips-For-Negotiating

https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/20140706235222-29831932-5-steps-to-create-a-strong-batna-for-negotiation-success/

https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/20140318020938-1468172-top-10-tips-when-negotiating/

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26 - Have Insight in Sight

Today’s topic is all about self-awareness as discussed in the book Insight by Tasha Eurich. It’s important to understand what’s going on inside of you, as well as how others perceive you. Look out for those “alarm clock moments” - whether it’s a new role, new rules, or just everyday insights - and really listen to what they’re telling you. And don’t just focus on yourself - getting feedback from others can be just as valuable. Make sure you choose the right people to give you feedback, ask specific questions, and focus on one or two things at a time. It’s all about gaining a better understanding of yourself and the world around you.

 
Links
https://startwithsmallsteps.com/?p=2490

https://www.insight-book.com/

https://www.kornferry.com/insights/articles/565-accurate-self-insight-decreases-derailment-risk

https://www.forbes.com/sites/joefolkman/2015/01/08/top-ranked-leaders-know-this-secret-ask-for-feedback/?sh=1bfa53bb3195

https://www.successpodcast.com/blog/2018/6/25/adam-grants-guide-to-success-and-self-awareness

https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2006/04/11/americans-see-weight-problems-everywhere-but-in-the-mirror/

https://hbr.org/2015/03/research-were-not-very-self-aware-especially-at-work

https://www.prnewswire.com/news-releases/youre-not-all-that-self-promoters-six-times-more-likely-to-derail-according-to-pdi-ninth-house-and-university-of-minnesota-study-147742375.html

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25 - Memories, The Corners of My Mind

Today we’re diving into Jim Kwik’s book, Limitless. One of the key takeaways is that when you want to remember something, you need to have motivation behind it. Ask yourself why you want to remember it and figure out the best technique for you, whether it’s using a memory palace, chain linking, or pegged listing. Don’t forget to reward yourself along the way! And remember, unique experiences with strong associations will help with recall even in tough situations.

 
Links

https://startwithsmallsteps.com/?p=2485

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/memory/types-memory

https://jimkwik.com/kwik-brain-002/

https://www.mind-expanding-techniques.net/memory-strategies/

https://www.wired.com/story/how-to-trick-your-brain-to-remember-almost-anything/

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24 - Learn More, Work Less

Are you interested in effective learning strategies? Today we’re talking about the book Learn Improve Master by Nick Velasquez, which talks about breaking up your learning into small, manageable chunks and testing yourself after each one. It’s important to vary your learning style, media, and environment to ensure that you can learn in any situation. And don’t forget to give yourself enough time to really learn something deeply. Oh, and one more thing - make sure you get enough sleep! That’s when your brain cleans up and organizes all the information you’ve learned. So if you want to be a better learner, follow these tips and get some good rest!

Links

https://startwithsmallsteps.com/?p=2478

https://unlimitedmastery.com/

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H-DJEU9N1y4

https://www.aft.org/sites/default/files/periodicals/dunlosky.pdf

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23 – Young Brains

Want to keep your brain young and healthy? Here are some tips: get enough sleep, eat well, and exercise regularly. Learn new things at a good pace and practice them often. Avoid negative stereotypes and challenge yourself with complex brain activities like playing video games or learning a new language. It’s also important to have a purpose in life and stay connected with friends and groups. So go ahead and take care of your brain today and listen to the episode.

Links

https://startwithsmallsteps.com/?p=2471

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/inspire-rewire/201402/pruning-myelination-and-the-remodeling-adolescent-brain

https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/how_to_keep_your_brain_young_even_as_you_grow_old

https://www.powerofpositivity.com/ways-to-keep-your-brain-young/

https://thriveworks.com/blog/keeping-the-brain-young-as-you-age/

https://www.everydayhealth.com/columns/zimney-health-and-medical-news-you-can-use/keeping-your-brain-active-10-tips-for-improving-your-brain/

https://www.health.harvard.edu/healthbeat/7-ways-to-keep-your-memory-sharp-at-any-age

https://www.health.com/mind-body/17-ways-to-age-proof-your-brain

 
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22 - Foreverish Young
 
Learn how to stay young and healthy as you age! In this episode, I share tips on staying active, eating well, and improving your posture. I draw on scientific studies and a book called “Younger Next Year” by Chris Crowley. You’ll discover the benefits of resistance training, gut health, and good sleep habits. Plus, get inspired to make small changes each week to improve your health.

Links:

https://startwithsmallsteps.com/?p=2461

https://www.youngernextyear.com/

https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0091743517301470?via%3Dihub

https://www.healthline.com/nutrition/sarcopenia

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/23190588/

https://www.iowaclinic.com/physical-therapy/how-to-combat-sarcopenia/

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21- Once Upon a Time, There Was a Story

We’re talking about the eight steps to telling a great story. So, what does it take to captivate your audience and leave them wanting more? Well, it all starts with a hook - something that grabs their attention and draws them in. From there, you need to use descriptive words to build intrigue and keep the story short and relevant. Weave emotions and motivations into the events, and practice telling the story with different tones and gestures. And, of course, you need to consider your audience and focus on the journey, not just the destination. To find out more about how to craft a great story, listen to this episode!

Links

https://startwithsmallsteps.com/?p=2449

https://www.scienceofpeople.com/captivate/

https://theartofcharm.com/art-of-personal-development/how-to-tell-a-great-story/

https://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/785-how-to-tell-a-great-story-in-8-easy-steps/

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20 -Have Great Conversations

In this episode, we dive into the science of succeeding with people. We cover everything from body language to making meaningful connections with others. The book by Vanessa Van Edwards called Captivate, shares tips on showing your best self from the moment you walk in the door, using exciting words and ideas, and finding mutual interests to build strong relationships. I challenge you to step up your everyday conversations and make them more exciting and memorable. Don’t miss out on these game-changing insights!

 Links

https://startwithsmallsteps.com/?p=2434

https://www.scienceofpeople.com/captivate/

https://www.forbes.com/sites/johnhall/2013/08/18/13-simple-ways-you-can-have-more-meaningful-conversations

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