Gender roles can weigh especially heavy in a marriage. In this episode, John and Allison have a frank conversation about what it's like to be married to a member of the opposite gender, the pressures and expectations that come with it, and how those forces can drive a disconnection.

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It may be 2025 but the hottest trend on the internet is women pretending like it’s 1950. Trad Wives, short for “Traditional Wives,” boast millions of followers as they pretend to live the pastoral life of a submissive homemaker. But that image couldn’t be further from the truth. Journalist and novelist Jo Piazza joins the podcast to discuss this phenomenon and why she thinks Harry Burns and Sally Albright from When Harry Met Sally should have never gotten together.  

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Most couples assume attraction fades over time, but does it have to? In this episode, Allison shares a fear that’s been on her mind during pregnancy: what if her body changes and John stops desiring her? The two talk about how attraction isn’t automatic. It’s something both partners have to nurture. John also reveals his harrowing appendicitis story. And Allison admits there’s one thing she always finds herself drawn to, no matter the circumstance: corn.

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John and Allison are thrilled to welcome author and historian Stephanie Coontz to the podcast for a deep dive into the complicated history of marriage. How did what started as a strategic partnership between families evolve into the over-idealized 1950s model of gender roles? Allison also unveils her nighttime alter-ego, “the Ali-Baba." John chooses a marriage moment that, curiously, doesn’t involve Allison at all; and Stephanie tells us what happened when she forced herself to read 50 Shades of Grey.

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Conflict in relationships is inevitable, especially when you're making a podcast about your marriage. Allison and John dive into how they navigate conflicts in their relationship, including the surprising disagreement that arose while prepping for this very episode. John shares the exact moment he realized he wasn't afraid to have a child with Allison, and during "Stay or Leave," Allison presents John with the most triggering scenario imaginable.

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This week’s episode is about sex, jealousy, and whether embellishing a story counts as a lie. Writer and content creator Hayley Folk joins Allison and John to talk about her experience with ethical non-monogamy and what it taught her about herself. Allison imagines what it would be like to have a guilt-free make out, and John wonders what it would be like to go on a sexy date… to the orchestra?

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John and Allison dive into one of the most contentious topics for any couple: money. Joined by Megan Ford from the Love and Money Center, they explore how couples can navigate tough financial conversations without getting stuck in conflict. It's a challenging discussion for John, who wrestles with deeply rooted expectations about being a provider, and unexpectedly emotional for Allison, who comes to realize how her own approach to their finances has impacted John in ways she never anticipated.

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Being single isn't failure. For some, it's freedom. Social psychologist and author of Single At Heart, Bella DePaulo joins the show to dismantle the myth that marriage is life's ultimate goal, making the case that for many, the single life can be the most authentic path. And yes, couples might have something to learn from that. Then, John faces a tough choice: if Allison runs off to Quebec to chase her dream, does he follow her... or file for divorce?

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John is concerned that having a baby will totally disrupt their marriage. Thank goodness the co-authors of Baby Bomb: A Relationship Survival Guide For New Parents were available to help Allison and John navigate this new chapter. Therapists Kara Hoppe, MFT and Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT, discuss how Allison and John can continue to take good care of each other despite the major changes babies bring. Also, were the Ratliffs happily married before Timothy lost all their money on The White Lotus? A debate ensues. 

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So many couples focus on the story of how they got together as a testament to whether their marriage was "meant to be." In this episode, Allison and John describe all the ways their early relationship broke the mold of what to look for--from John being worried that Allison was unstable to Allison not wanting to have to get to know someone new after her broken engagement. But despite not having a traditionally romantic journey to the altar, they still found their way there thanks to not having unrealistic expectations of each other, themselves or wedding planning.

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