Starting a conversation

To start a conversation in an informal social situation - like a party - it’s a good idea to find light, friendly topics to talk about.

For example you could: offer a compliment:

A: I like your shoes.

B: Oh thanks, I bought them last week.

Or, find something you have in common, like work, studies, movies or sport:

A: What are you studying?

B: I’m studying zoology at La Trobe.

A: Really? Do you have Professor Duncan?

Or you could ask about something more general, like the weather, or the area you live in.

A: I can’t believe how hot it’s been. How are you coping with the heat?

When you first meet someone it’s best to avoid personal topics, like money, politics, or personal appearance.

For example, you might avoid asking how much money someone makes:

A: You’re a lawyer? How much do you earn?

B: That’s none of your business.

It’s also best to avoid commenting on someone’s physical appearance.

A: You’re really skinny, what do you eat?

B: That’s really none of your business.

Asking about age can also be seen as rude:

A: How old are you?

B: Excuse me? I’m not telling you that.

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