On today’s episode of the StephUp Podcast, join me in a lovely and fun chat with behavioural profiler, dating and life coach, Lily Walford.

Lily helps people to understand both written & body language within relationships. She advises that there is a way to tell when people are lying as their language has a certain pattern to it. 

“A healthy relationship starts with a healthy relationship with ourselves. We can’t connect with someone else if we are not connected to ourselves.” 

The way we see ourselves as adults comes from our childhood and we get stuck in a cycle of people-pleasing, victim mentality, being an overachiever, etc. It’s important to know you are worthy of love and if someone doesn’t appreciate you, do you want to be with them?

When dating, it’s important to ask yourself if you connect with that person. Does this person align with your goals? 

There are 4 main components of a healthy relationship:

1)    Compatibility

2)    Consideration

3)    Communication

4)    Collaboration

Lily and Steph discuss aspects of abuse of power in relationships and specifically with regards to religion and also having a narcissistic partner. It’s important to be curious about your emotions. They are valid. Be empowered by them and not over run by them. 

Lily and I chat about “Twilight” and how creepy it was but why did we think it was romantic?

In the podcast I mentioned Evy Poumpouras. Check out her website.

Check out Lily’s website Love with Intelligence, and follow her on Facebook, YouTube and Instagram

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On today’s episode of the StephUp Podcast,  join me  in a lovely and fun chat with speaker, trainer, coach and author of “The Five Magic Wands”, Tami McMullin.

I met Tami on Facebook and loved how open and honest she was in her posts. Tami says she has received so many messages from people who thank her for being herself and sharing those vulnerable things because it helps them to not feel alone. 

Tami talks about how connecting with people is so important in this world and she loves to do that by being authentic, transparent and vulnerable. She shares about how she felt so different and shy growing up, especially in a very performance-based environment. I can relate to that and we talk about how we are basically the same person in how we grew up, how we felt and how similar we are in personalities. 

Tami and I also chat about how feeling judged can lead to judging others, how working in retail is so helpful so we can understand how hard it is and how we love to “ask for the manager” so we can give out compliments. 

“You are always going to be less than for some people and more than for others.  And yet if that is how we are viewing ourselves as, that doesn’t give you a chance to be who you are and bring who you are to the table.”

Thank you to the amazing German, aka Your Podcast Editor for editing my audio conversation with Tami. Follow him at his website, Instagram and Twitter.

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On today’s episode of the StephUp Podcast, Steph talks with the World’s Fastest Reader, Howard Berg.

Howard shares how growing up in a rough neighborhood in Brooklyn, NY led him to the safest place he could find: the library. At the age of 11, he was already reading at college level. While he attended university, he studied Psychobiology and used the information he learned about how the brain works to develop his approach to speed reading.

Howard Berg has been teaching and training people all over the world on how to speed read while retaining the information as well as teaching techniques on memorization.

Listen in as Howard shares some of these amazing techniques to Steph!

“You can’t just assume that giving people information is the end. Tell them how to remember it.  Use words they understand in a schematic significance to them. Show them how to get in the right frame of mind to use it successfully.”

Check out Howard’s courses on his website. You can also follow him on YouTube and Facebook.

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On today’s episode of the StephUp Podcast, Steph talks with motivational speaker and author of “Sustainable Excellence”, Terry Tucker.

Terry has been through a lot in his life as he went through a variety of different careers from basketball coach to Hostage Negotiator, but his most challenging battle came in 2012 when he was diagnosed with a rare form of cancer. Going through treatment, sickness and pain really brought Terry to a place where he wanted to die. In 2018, his left foot had to be amputated and then in 2020, a tumor was found in his ankle and his left leg had to be amputated up to his knee. While he still goes through many bad days, Terry looks for the joys and positive things in his life and likes to share that encouraging outlook with others. 

Terry and Steph discuss his book, “Sustainable Excellence” and how encouraging it is and full of amazing advice on life. In his book, Terry talks about finding your purpose, how we are all unique and how important it is to keep moving forward in life, even if taking just small steps. 

“The only way to find your purpose is to search it out. To try things that make you uncomfortable, to fight against the status quo, and experience something that scares you.”

Check out Terry’s website, follow him on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram and buy his book, “Sustainable Excellence” here.

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On today’s episode of the StephUp Podcast, Steph talks with money coach, Dennis Harhalakis. 

Join Steph and Dennis as they talk about how money is not really about numbers and math, but it is about our emotions and our relationship to ourselves and to money.

Dennis explains that since our brains are wired for immediate gratification and to push discomfort to the future, it is important to learn how to delay gratification. Since our finances and our relationship to it have become more and more complicated, it breeds a lot of anxiety. We make bad decisions when we are: Hungry, Angry, Lonely and Tired. And those decisions can really affect our relationship with money.

Listen in to find out how our emotions and money are so interconnected and how money coaches like Dennis can help rewire our brains to begin a healthy relationship with our finances.  

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Let’s Talk!

On today’s episode of the StephUp Podcast, Steph talks with Art Rios, lawyer, adjunct professor at Stetson University College of Law and author of “Let’s Talk…About Making Your Life Exciting, Easier and Exceptional”

Join Steph and Art as they talk about the wisdom to be gained from reading Art’s book that includes topics like…

 -       Enjoying the little pleasures in life

-       Logging off social media

-       Meditation

-       Exercise

-       Taking time for yourself

-       Taking care of your mental health

-       KISSing (Keep It Simple Stupid) and more

Buy Art’s book, “Let’s Talk” on Amazon.com and on his website and follow him on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook.

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Have you been curious about the terms “deconstruction” and/or “evangelical”? What do these things mean and why are people talking about them?

On today’s episode of the StephUp Podcast, I welcome special guest, Tim Whitaker from the New Evangelicals, a group that is “centered on Jesus, driven by our stories and committed to pushing the church forward together.”

 Deconstruction can mean different things for different people. 

 “One of our core values as New Evangelicals  is that we really don’t want to dehumanize other people, even people that we really, strongly, vehemently disagree with.”

 Tim and I discuss CRT, right/left politics, church abuse, different interpretations of the Bible, and can we really know what is true?

“In our society, we are such an either/or society. Either you are a Christian or you are an atheist. Either you are an evangelical or you are a heretic. What a lot of us are saying is actually that is not healthy at all. There is really a wide spectrum and evangelical is simply one room in Christian thought."

Check out The New Evangelicals and listen to the podcast on the website, on Instagram and onTwitter

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Listen in on my conversation with psychotherapist, eating disorder therapist, podcaster and author of “Bulimia Sucks”, Kate Hudson-Hall. 

Kate shares her own story of how she became bulimic. It started when someone made a suggestion about how she could eat a candy bar without putting on weight if she just made herself sick. The behaviour of her eating disorders, anorexia and bulimia, were also the coping mechanisms that Kate was using to deal with her difficult past. In those days, there wasn’t much information about eating disorders. It wasn’t until Princess Diana shared her own story about bulimia that people started to talk and learn about it more. 

“What is really important on the road to recovery is we know diets don’t work because the statistics have proven time and time again that if you deprive yourself of the foods, you will binge everything else to try to satisfy that feeling."

In her book, "Bulimia Sucks," Kate explains the triggers that can cause the eating disorders to keep surfacing and gives a variety of techniques that can help people on the road to healing and living a healthier lifestyle. Some of those techniques are:

1) Urge surfing - sitting with your emotions so you can understand them and hold off on those urges for as long as you can

2) Tapping technique (the Emotional Freedom Technique) in which you tap on certain points - the meridian channel endings) that helps to change your body's energy and the way you feel

3) Hypnosis - going into a trance to figure out what goes on in the conscious and unconscious mind and why they are out of sync.

4) Thought Stopping  - that evil leprechaun sitting on your shoulder is your inside voice that whispers the horrible things you believe about yourself. We can choose whether we listen to him or not. 

“It’s really important that you understand that when you’re talking to yourself, it is worded in the positive.”

Mindful eating is another way that we can deal with that hungry/full feeling. When we look at the hunger scale (from 1-10, 1 being super hungry and 10 being super stuffed), ask yourself where you are on the scale as, ideally, you want to be around 4, 5 and 6. What feelings am I trying to change? That is when you take the new tapping skills and tap on specific feelings you have. 

It is also important to eat slowly and consciously instead of wolfing down the food without tasting it. 

"Bulimia Sucks" is an amazing book that provides more information, techniques, help and resources.

You can find Kate’s podcast and resources on her website (where you can also buy her book) and follow her on Twitter, Instagram and Facebook.

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Are people really as toxic as we think? Listen in on my conversation with The Nocturnal Therapist, Harry Turner! 

Harry is licensed clinical social worker and therapist who helps people remove the barriers that keeps them from living their best authentic lives. There is such an US verses THEM mentality in the world. It is not about good or bad energy but about the balance in between.

Steph asks Harry if we are born with more of a propensity towards a negative or a positive mindset. Harry says that looking at it that way is a judgment and instead, look to the negative and positive as energy without judgment. The mind wants to put us in a them vs us mentality because we see things from our own experiences and therefore we like to call things good or bad. If we look at our hearts, we can start to see it with clarity.

Anxiety is a huge part of our society now as we also have more access to fear because the news is on all the time.

“Whatever we stare at most certainly does become our reality because the mind attaches itself to what it sees.”

Harry does not believe in calling people toxic because it “others” people. It is a judgment that we cannot make. If we accept and love ourselves and become intentional about understanding how to love and not demonize the darkness, we stop judging ourselves and others. 

“We extend to the other what we fill ourselves up with. We love the other to the extent that we have love within ourselves. I can’t give what I don’t have. Whatever is inside, we project outward.”

Harry believes in speaking your truth. He has a program on Clubhouse that started in August called the LIT series. LIT means “Live In Truth”, which is the core of Harry’s mission. 

You can find Harry and listen to his “Is That Soo?” podcast on his website, listen to When Harry Met Daphne podcast, follow him on Instagram and on youtube

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Were you frustrated and confused by the response of many of the churches during the Covid lockdown? 

On today’s bonus episode of the StephUp Podcast, I welcome my pastor, Jon Korkidakis, who is the lead pastor at Village Green Community Church in London, Ontario in Canada. Even before the pandemic, Village Green was starting to venture out into online services as another way to reach people as they asked themselves: can the church also be a virtual community?

Many churches that were the loudest in the media indicated that they were being targeted. But where they? Jon and I discuss that there is a difference between being singled out and targeted because you are Christian versus having to close due to a worldwide pandemic.

"To live the most courageous life is to live loving the way Jesus loved people. That's going to mess with a lot of people because that takes the whole judgmental thing out of the vocabulary. That's what we tried to emulate through the entire pandemic: that we were a church that cared for people, loved people, wanted to lead people to a life of faith in Christ." 

The extremes on both sides are usually the loudest. But the people in the middle who are just obeying guidelines and doing their thing will not be shown in the media. Jon thought this would be a wonderful time for the church to stand up and show the world what we are really all about. And many churches did. But then many didn’t. 

Since Village Green was abiding by the government rules and not fighting against them, the church and Jon were targeted by other pastors who had been friends and colleagues. This was an incredibly challenging time but the support of the church community who are also in agreement has been amazing.

"I've been in ministry for over 20 years and I've never been attacked theologically, morally, socially the way I’ve been attacked over this pandemic. I’ve been told I’m leading people astray and that I’ll be answerable to that at some point and it will be a price to pay, that I’m a sheeple because I’m going to be more accountable to God for what I’ve done.” 

The time we live in now is an amazing time to be alive! During a worldwide pandemic, shouldn’t we be grateful for things like the internet, online services and chats?

Watch the video of Village Green's Stance on the Pandemic here

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