Join me and my guest Pastor Symply Anietie from Port Harcourt, Nigeria for our discussion on "Overcoming Sexual & Spiritual Abuse". Overcoming sexual abuse and spiritual abuse is no easy task but it can be done. Pastor Symply Anietie is a living walking testimony of the healing power of God. She shares how God has transformed her life. She has a love and passion for children and those who have been abused.

Join me and my guest Pastor Symply Anietie from Port Harcourt, Nigeria as we discuss this most sensitive and important topic. Overcoming sexual abuse and spiritual abuse is no easy task but it can be done. Pastor Symply Anietie is a living walking testimony of the healing power of God and she shares how God has transformed her life. She has a love and passion for children and those those who have been abused.

Join me and my guest Lucille Reddic for Part 2. Marriage is not for the faint at heart. You must be committed to one another. God uses both the husband and the wife to help shape us into who He wants us to be. Have you hit a dry spell in your marriage? Do you and your spouse have a disconnect? Marriage is ordained by God and with Him in the middle of your marriage there is nothing too hard for the Lord to help you to get through it. Tune in to find out some secrets to spice up your marriage.

Join me and my guest Lucille Reddic for "That Secret Sauce" as she shares her story and how she intentionally put the sauce back in her marriage. Have you hit a dry spell in your marriage? Marriage is a gift from God to a husband and a wife. Tune in to find out some secrets to spice your marriage up again.

Join me and my guest Rahima Sanders for Part 2 of "Advocating for Mental Health Struggles" as she shares her story and how she advocates for her son.

Mental health issues are real. If you find that you are struggling in this area with your thoughts, depression, the way you feel about yourself, hearing voices or wanting to harm yourself. Seek help and find someone to talk to.

Join me and my guest Rahima Sanders for an episode on "Advocating for Mental Health Struggles" as she shares how she advocates for her son.

Mental health issues are real. If you find that you are struggling in this area with your thoughts, depression, the way you feel about yourself, hearing voices or wanting to harm yourself. Seek help and find someone to talk to.

Loving Yourself

Are you loving to yourself?

Love yourself, you are who you are now accept it! Stop hating on yourself and love you. People will treat you how you treat yourself. If you don’t respect yourself, how do you expect others to respect you. Take some timemfor yourself. Go get your hair done, your nails or feet. Go and get a massage or go someone where you will be appreciated. Buy yourself a dress and get dressed up. Put on some makeup and look in the mirror and do some love talk to

When our understanding of love is immature, it is usually a sign that there is a breach in our identity from somewhere in our past. The journey of healing our past is a journey of first, identifying the areas we have been wounded; second, forgiving ourselves and those who have wounded us; next, we must deal with shame, regret and fear.

Finally, once we have dealt with those things, we can begin to walk into our authentic self. Our Authentic Self is who God created us to be, our strengths and

I Corinthians 13:4-7

We usually use this chapter to see if we are treating others in love but today we are looking at do we treat ourselves in love. We were all made to walk in love and we were made to walk in wholeness. In order for us to do that, we must heal aspects of our past so that we can step into the future. Wilt thou be made whole. When we don’t love who we are, appreciate who we are and accept who we are we create a false image of ourselves.

God loves you and he is waiting on you to rise above it whatever it is.

Healing from the Pain of Regret

Healing from the pain of regret. What is regret? It means feeling sad or disappointed over something that has happened or was done. Being regretful is usually not the same as being repentant because the word repent means to turn away from it. Most of us really don’t mean it when we say we repent of a thing because we have no plans of turning away from it. It’s really just regretting. We allow that thing to haunt us. We allow the situation to freeze us or paralyze us, but we really

You have not turned away from the last thing that has caused you harm. Jesus when we're dealing with regret we have a feeling of deep sorrow, deep disappointment concerning something that has happened to us or something that someone has done. You can even slip into a depression because of regret. It could be a loss or even a missed opportunity. A lot of us are living in places of regret because of something we either miss out on or something that was done to us.

There is a lot of pain concerning missed opportunities, wrong decisions, wrong relationships, in wrong friendships that we step into that are rooted in regret. One of the things about the trauma of the past is that the enemy uses it as one of his main tools. The enemy lives in the past and godly lives in the future. The reason the enemy lives in our past is because he can only rehash what we give him. He does not have any ammo or anything else to use against us. He is waiting always observing and looking at our past to find something to use against us. He cannot live in the future because he’s not the omniscient or all-knowing God. He just looks for clues.

The journey of healing our past is a journey of first, identifying the areas we have been wounded; forgiving ourselves and those who have wounded us, we must deal with the shame, regret and fear. Once we have dealt with those things we can begin to walk into our authentic self. Our authentic self is who we were created to be, our strengths, and our weaknesses, free from trauma and pain.

How to Grow in Being Yourself

1.    Spend time with God, he made you and he knows who you should be. He knows all about you.

2.    Take time to think about why you think the way you think, why you dress the way you dress, why you talk the way you talk, why you act the way you act

and why you like what you like. 

3.    Become aware of your areas of strength: What are you good at? What do people come to you for? What makes you feel alive?

4.    Be okay with the areas you have to work on. What areas do you struggle with and what are things that can make you be a more loving, kind and fun person

to be around.

5.    Process the pain in your personality; either a result of overcoming pain or are you masking it.

 6.    Be proud of your accomplishments.

 7.    Be present with whom you are. Ask yourself where am I and where am I going.

 8.    Deal with regrets, fears and anything that can hold you to your past; deal with it.

 9.    Study what healthy, normal friendships and relationships look like. This helps us find genuine people we can be ourselves around.

 10.  Be vulnerable, do not be afraid to allow people to see all of who you are and who you are becoming.

Healing the Shame

Shame is another thing that we have to get rid of in order to grow authentically and heal our past. We must be vulnerable in order to deal with shame. We cannot share ourselves if we don’t deal with shame, when we show who we are including our weaknesses and strengths we never have to

Did you hear that? When we show who we really are, when we show those scars, those emotional wounds, those life experiences we are ashamed of we will never have to struggle with shame again. That is a liberating feeling! That is what freedom feels like; no more shame holding me, I’m no longer bound, hallelujah

Isn’t this what Adam and Eve did in the beginning? After they ate the fruit, their eyes were opened and they hid from God. How can you hide from God? We can’t hide from the creator but what God is calling us to do is to stop hiding. To come from behind those bushes, to take the mask off and let the shame go.

In order to heal shame, we must forgive ourselves and let it go. As you let go of that shame, then you can begin to heal your past.