Hey Doc —

What if I told you your husband and AI have way more in common than you think?

Not in a “men are robots” way, but in a “this explains so much about your marriage” way.

In this episode, I’m breaking down the four big parallels between husbands and AI — the ones that quietly shape your communication, your expectations, and yes… your resentment. And listen, I love AI and I love husbands, so this episode is coming from a place of deep affection and deep realness.

We’re talking about the stuff we all experience but rarely say out loud:

• The mind-reading you wish he could do (but he absolutely cannot)
• The unspoken expectations that turn into premeditated resentments
• How his upbringing — just like AI training data — shapes everything
• Why he jumps straight into Fix-It Mode when you just wanted “Ugh babe, that sucks”
• And why you should be using (and leveraging) both AI and your husband way more than you are

If you've ever wondered “Why doesn’t he just KNOW?” or you’ve found yourself venting to him only to get a full strategic plan you didn’t ask for — this episode is for you.

Share this one with another physician mom who’s ready for more clarity, less resentment, and better communication in her marriage.

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Strategy Coaching Session with Dr. Toya

Hey Doc —

Dr. Toya Coaching is turning two! 🎉

Two years ago, I had a newborn, a burnout hangover, and an idea that didn’t make much sense on paper, but made perfect sense for my life. What started as a postpartum support concept has evolved into a global coaching brand, a thriving community, and an impact that‘s undeniable.

In this anniversary episode, I’m reflecting on the year everything changed — the burnout, the baby, the business, and what I’ve learned about building boldly when the plan doesn’t make sense to anyone else.

This isn’t a highlight reel. It’s about the real lessons behind the glow-up:

how I certified my way into a trap, how clarity showed up when I stopped trying to be “qualified enough,” and how every detour — even the useless ones — got me exactly where I was supposed to be.

We talk about:

• The trap of overqualifying yourself before you start
• Why “just start” is more powerful than another certification
• How every misstep can still move you forward
• The mindset shift that turns fear into freedom
• And why you don’t need to see the end to take the first step

This is a celebration, but it’s also a reminder: you can build boldly, even when you’re unsure, or a little scared.

Every dream needs a starting point. Two years ago, this was mine.

🎧 Go listen now, and share this episode with another physician mom who needs the reminder that her bold move doesn’t need permission — just a beginning.

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Hey Doc!

What happens when the OB/GYN becomes a new mom and realizes everything she thought she knew about postpartum was incomplete?

In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Candice Wood, an OB-GYN, perinatal mental health specialist, and mom of five, for a conversation that is tender, hilarious, and quietly radical.

Yes, she built a 2-day-a-week career while raising five kids under five. But what we really talk about is what happened after the babies came.

When she found herself:

• silently competing with her husband’s ex-wife
• breastfeeding through gritted teeth and unspoken anxiety
• resenting a partner she had trained to be helpless
• and quietly unraveling, while still doing everything “right” on paper

This episode is about the postpartum identity crisis no one prepares you for — and the healing that happens when you finally name what’s actually going on.

We talk about:

• Why resentment is often a sign you’ve buried a need
• The trap of trying to be both the best mother and the best martyr
• How her patients helped her see her own suffering
• And what it really takes to feel like a good mom (hint: it’s not perfection)

If you’ve ever found yourself doing it all — and quietly wondering why it still doesn’t feel like enough — this one will land deep.

🎧 Listen now — and forward it to the friend who needed this yesterday.

Dr. Candice Wood has spent the last 18 years providing comprehensive wellness, gynecologic, and obstetric care for women of all ages. Over the years, Dr Wood has watched her own patients struggle to achieve wellness while lacking sufficient focus on mental health. With shortening doctor visit times, only the bare minimum can be done during a typical wellness exam, excluding the opportunity for a woman’s most trusted care provider to assess her mental health – arguably the gateway to her overall health and wellness.

Likewise, during postpartum visits, Dr. Wood found that there is no time to help young mothers struggling with mental health issues. Finding another mental health provider to care for a patient with perinatal mood disorders, infertility, or fetal loss is equally challenging.

Following her passion and determined to make a difference, Dr. Wood obtained a certification in perinatal mood disorders, psychotherapy, and pharmacotherapy, and she started the Woman Made Well clinic with one

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Strategy Coaching Session with Dr. Toya

Hey Doc,

When you become a mom, everything changes— your body, your schedule, your sense of who you are. And when you’re a physician mom, that collides with a career that isn’t built for flexibility or rest.

In this conversation, Dr. Sonia Singh and I go straight into that tension — the messy middle between professional identity and motherhood. We talk about what it really looks like to become a mom in medicine, to return to work postpartum, and to rebuild your career in a way that actually fits your life.

Dr. Singh also opens up about the burnout that pushed her to make a change—and how she rebuilt her career by creating her own micropractice, designed for busy women and moms who want more control over their time and energy. It’s a conversation about honesty, courage, and redefining what success in medicine can look like.

Key takeaways:

• Breastfeeding can be deeply challenging—even when you “know” what to do.
• Returning to work postpartum can hold both relief and guilt at the same time.
• The tension between professional life and motherhood is real—and worth talking about.
• Practicing medicine on your own terms is possible when you decide your life gets to come first.

This episode is for you, Doc—the one listening and wondering if there’s another way. You can build a life that fits you—aligned with your values, your priorities, and the season you’re in right now.

Go listen now, and share it with another doc who needs proof she’s not crazy for wanting something different.

Dr. Sonia Singh is a board-certified internist, writer, practice consultant, and mom. Born and raised in Northern California, she attended medical school at UC San Diego and completed her residency at Stanford. During residency, she experienced profound burnout and nearly left clinical medicine altogether. A decade later, she’s deeply grateful she didn’t. Her career path over that time has also been her own wellness journey. Today, Dr. Singh runs a solo direct care micropractice and mentors physicians who are building similar paths. A creative at heart, she feels fortunate to practice medicine in a way that allows her creativity to thrive.

For more information about Dr. Sonia Singh, you can visit her website and Juniper Modern Primary Care, and connect with her on Instagr

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Strategy Coaching Session with Dr. Toya

Hey Doc—

This week’s episode is one of my favorites yet because it’s a full-circle moment.

I’m sitting down with my friend Dr. Sarah Stombaugh—family medicine physician, obesity medicine specialist, private practice owner, coach, podcast host, and mom of three.

And fun fact: she’s the reason I started Dr. Toya Coaching.

Yep. You’ve heard me mention her before. The woman who looked me in the eye and said, “That’s not a medical practice. That’s coaching.”

And here we are. Two years later. Full circle.

In this conversation, we walk through Dr. Sarah’s incredible journey—from meeting her husband in med school and navigating the couples match, to having her first baby the day before residency graduation (yes, really).

We talk about the chaos of postpartum, what it was like to parent through a pandemic while her husband was a critical care fellow, and how she finally built a life that honored her values.

It’s a story of boundaries, self-trust, and creating work that actually fits the life you want—not the other way around.

You’ll laugh, you’ll probably tear up, and if you’re in a season of questioning what’s next, this episode will remind you that you can design something better.

Dr. Sarah Stombaugh is a family medicine physician and diplomate of the American Board of Obesity Medicine. Graduating from Creighton University Medical School and completing her family medicine residency at University of Chicago, Dr. Stombaugh practiced outpatient primary care in Evanston, Illinois before moving to Charlottesville, Virginia with her family.

Upon moving to Charlottesville, Dr. Stombaugh opened a private practice weight loss clinic, in which she sees patients in-person at her downtown Charlottesville office and by telemedicine throughout the states of Virginia, Tennessee, and Illinois.

In addition to her clinical work, Dr. Stombaugh is the host of the "Conquer Your Weight" podcast. Through this platform, she shares valuable insights, expert opinions, and practical advice on weight management, contributing to the well-being of a broader audience.

Dr. Stombaugh believes in empowering both individuals and the medical community in order to promote an evidence-based approach to the treatment of obesity.

For more information about Dr. Sarah, you can visit her website and connect with her on Facebook

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Strategy Coaching Session with Dr. Toya

Hey Doc,

What happens when you stop following the script and start building a life that actually fits you?

This week on Stethoscopes and Strollers, I’m joined by Dr. Saumya Dave — psychiatrist, author, private practice owner, and mom of two — for a conversation that’s equal parts real, reflective, and full of permission.

We talk about the seasons of life and how every one of them demands something different from us. From navigating 200+ rejections on her path to becoming a published author, to choosing private practice straight out of residency, to redefining success and motherhood on her own terms, Dr. Saumya reminds us that there’s no single path to fulfillment.

This episode isn’t about “balance.”

It’s about alignment — and the courage to keep reshaping your life, even when people don’t understand it.

You’ll hear:

• How Dr. Saumya turned 200 rejections into a bestselling book deal
• What it looks like to build a creative life alongside medicine and motherhood
• Why listening to your body is a skill physicians often have to relearn
• The power of grace and empathy in healing relationships with parents
• How giving yourself permission to change your mind can change everything

If you’ve ever wondered how to honor all the parts of yourself — the doctor, the creative, the mom, the partner, the you, this conversation will remind you that you’re allowed to be all of it without apology and without limits.

🎧 Tune in and hear how Dr. Saumya’s story invites us all to live expansively, define success on our own terms, and embrace the seasons we’re in.

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Strategy Coaching Session with Dr. Toya

Hey Doc,

I just came out of 30 days without formal childcare — and let me tell you, it was brutal.

Even with my mom’s help, the constant interruptions, scattered energy, and exhaustion left me running on fumes. I was counting down to bedtime, doom scrolling late at night, and struggling to stay in flow.

Trying to hold everything together without reliable childcare doesn’t prove anything — it only shows how unsustainable it really is. For our family, childcare has always been non-negotiable. But this past month highlighted something important: when formal support falls away, even temporarily, it reveals just how much stability, peace, and freedom the right childcare brings into our lives.

In this episode, you’ll hear:

• The impact of parenting without structured childcare (on your work, marriage, and health)
• Why “just making it work” comes at a cost you can’t afford
• How residual fatigue lingers even after support arrives
• The surprising gifts I found during this season (yes, there were some!)

Doc, I don’t want you living in countdown-to-bedtime mode, running on fumes, or scraping by without the support you need. You deserve better.

🎧 Listen in now as I share what 30 days without childcare really looked like — the struggles, the surprising gifts, and the lessons I want every physician mom to hear.

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Strategy Coaching Session with Dr. Toya

Hey Doc,

Are you the problem? Not you alone, but us. Women physicians.

Without realizing it, we uphold the very systems — patriarchy, sexism, racism — that keep us playing small. It shows up in the way we react when another woman asks for more, when we hesitate to negotiate, or when we discourage salary transparency, and when we are passing down outdated advice to younger women physicians.

The truth is: the system of medicine was built in a different era, for a different demographic — and those old rules still shape how we show up today.

This isn’t about blame. It’s about accountability. It’s about unlearning what we were taught, and replacing them with a culture that actually serves us.

In this episode you’ll hear:

• Why asking for more should be celebrated, not criticized
• The danger of believing negotiation is “unprofessional”
• Why pay transparency matters (and who really benefits when we stay silent)
• How to hold yourself and other women physicians accountable in a way that opens conversation instead of shutting it down

Doc, it’s time to stop shrinking yourself to fit outdated expectations. 

Take back your power. 

Ask. Negotiate. Advocate. 

And support other women when they do the same.

What did you think of the episode, doc? Let me know!

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Strategy Coaching Session with Dr. Toya

Hey Doc,

We need to talk about something that I believe is absolutely essential for every woman physician — especially those of us juggling medicine, motherhood, and marriage.

Money.

Specifically, your knowledge of it. Your relationship to it. And the way you might be giving away your power around it, even if your income looks good on paper.

In this episode, I’m sharing how I fired my financial advisor (thanks to my husband, actually), learned to manage my money confidently, and why that decision transformed my sense of freedom.

This isn’t about becoming a finance pro. It’s about refusing to be disempowered in a system that already makes it hard for us to thrive.

You’ll hear:

• Why “my husband handles it” is not a financial strategy
• How financial advisors profit off your confusion and why most are not worth your coins
• The 3 things every physician mom needs to know about her household money
• Why money can buy happiness (but only if you have the right foundation first)

This isn’t about judgment. It’s about claiming your freedom — because financial knowledge is protection, peace of mind, and having the power to choose.

And I want that for you.

If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed by money, avoided looking at your accounts, or told yourself “I’m just not good with finances” — this episode is for you. Listen now!

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Strategy Coaching Session with Dr. Toya

Hey Doc,

If you’ve ever looked into the au pair program and wondered, “Okay but… how much does it actually cost?” — this is for you.

This episode was inspired by a client who asked me directly what she’d really be signing up for financially. And when I say there’s nuance? Whew. There’s nuance.

The au pair program can be more cost-effective than a nanny, but only if you understand what you’re actually paying for and how to make it work for your family.

Yes, it can be more affordable. The flexibility is unmatched. The cultural exchange is a beautiful benefit for both your kids and your home.

In this episode, I walk you through:

• A full breakdown of the real costs — required and optional
• How program structures differ between agencies
• What to absolutely know before you offer more than the stipend
• The subtle traps that can cost you way more than money (👀)
• How to avoid common mistakes that lead to frustration… or rematch

I also share how we’ve structured our own au pair experience to support our values, our lifestyle, and our kids.

Key Takeaways:

• Hosting an au pair will cost you at least $20K/year, but most spend closer to $25K–$35K (or more).
• Some perks sound generous, but can cause friction later if not clearly defined from the start.
• Even with the extras, an au pair is often still more cost-effective than a nanny — especially if you're using close to the full 45 hours of coverage.

This episode isn’t about convincing you to choose one path or another. It’s about clarity. Because the more you know, the more empowered your decision will be to make the right choice for your family.

🎧 New to the au pair program? Listen now and bookmark this episode!

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Strategy Coaching Session with Dr. Toya