Send us Fan Mail

Season 2, Episode 17: Wherever You Go, There You Are

How much of what you call “who I am” is still open to change?

A good friend used to say, “Wherever you go, there you are,” when we were in high school. Back then, it was something funny we said. Thirty-plus years later, I’m fifty, raising a family, leading an organization, and wondering how many decisions I’m still making based on an old idea of myself.

“That’s how I am” often sounds like an honest explanation. Sometimes it also ends a conversation we need to keep having.

In this episode of Still Here, Still Trying, I look at the habits we’ve come to accept as permanent. Agreeing to something we already resent. Reaching for the phone when there’s finally nothing urgent to do. Explaining why we interrupted while the other person is still waiting to finish.

I’m in this conversation too. The people closest to me deserve room to tell me what they experience, even when it challenges how I see myself.

If you’ve ever heard yourself give the same explanation and wished the next conversation would go differently, this episode gives you somewhere to begin: one familiar response to practice changing.

There’s plenty about you worth keeping. You still get a say in what happens next.

Support the show

Thanks for listening to Still Here, Still Trying.

If this episode gave you something to think about, please like, follow, subscribe, and share it with three people who could use it in their lives.

You can find more of my work — music, writing, art, and reflections — at:
🌐 mikebakerhq.com

Grab a copy of my book, The Optimist’s Way:
📚 https://a.co/d/4RqPS6g

Thanks for being here.
Still here. Still trying.

Support the Podcast Here:

https://www.buzzsprout.com/2516381/support

Send us Fan Mail

Four beer-league hockey games. One very average goalie. Four completely different results.

In one game, I only let in two goals. In the others… several more.

My skill did not suddenly change, and neither did my effort. What changed was the team in front of me.

When teammates communicated, covered the extra player, cleared rebounds, and trusted one another to do their jobs, I could finally focus on mine. The game felt slower. My decisions became clearer. And a thoroughly mediocre beer-league goalie played one of the best games of his life.

This is not an episode about good teams and bad teams—or good players and bad players. Everyone was trying. The teams simply had different levels of experience, chemistry, and shared habits.

This episode is about what those differences can teach us about leadership:

• Why effort and outcome are not the same thing
• How unclear responsibilities drain people’s attention
• Why trust changes the speed of the game
• How great teammates make the next person’s job easier
• Why leaders must examine the environment before judging an individual
• What becomes possible when people can focus on the work only they can do

The effort may belong to the individual, but the result often belongs to the team.

This episode is supported by Shaka Electric Co., a licensed and insured North Idaho electrical company built around character, competence, and communication. Learn more or plan your next residential or commercial project at ShakaElectricCo.com.

Explore Mike’s books, music, podcast, art, advocacy work, and writing at MikeBakerHQ.com.

Subscribe to Just an Ordinary Tuesday while you are there and let the next letter find you.

What version of you does the team around you bring out?

Still here. Still trying.

Support the show

Thanks for listening to Still Here, Still Trying.

If this episode gave you something to think about, please like, follow, subscribe, and share it with three people who could use it in their lives.

You can find more of my work — music, writing, art, and reflections — at:
🌐 mikebakerhq.com

Grab a copy of my book, The Optimist’s Way:
📚 https://a.co/d/4RqPS6g

Thanks for being here.
Still here. Still trying.

Support the Podcast Here:

https://www.buzzsprout.com/2516381/support

Send us Fan Mail

Two years.

That was the “good” outcome.

People with endometriosis commonly wait four to twelve years for a diagnosis. Our family received an answer in two—and somehow that made us lucky.

That is completely unacceptable.

This episode is not a takedown of doctors. Most healthcare providers I know have enormous hearts and entered this work for the right reasons. But good people still need better training, clearer information, and systems that make it easier to remain curious when the first answer does not fit.

We have to stop treating the exam room like a courtroom.

Patients should not have to prosecute their own pain. Families should not have to arrive ready for battle. Clinicians should not be expected to produce an immediate perfect answer.

We need patients, families, clinicians, educators, and advocates working as a team.

In this episode, I talk about the friends we have made through endometriosis advocacy, why diagnostic delay is bigger than one bad appointment, and what it means to believe someone without pretending we already know the answer.

I am also introducing Period Pain, Explained. It is a free, private tool that helps young people organize their symptoms, describe how pain is affecting their lives, and begin a conversation with a parent, trusted adult, or healthcare professional.

It does not diagnose anyone.

It helps people find the words to ask for appropriate care.

Use the free tool:
https://www.mikebakerhq.com/ibelieveyou/

Read “The Decade Women Lose Before Anyone Believes Them”:
https://www.mikebakerhq.com/writing/the-decade-women-lose-before-anyone-believes-them/

Explore the rest of my work:
https://www.mikebakerhq.com/

This episode is sponsored by Shaka Electric, serving Coeur d’Alene and the surrounding North Idaho community with clean craftsmanship and clear communication.

https://shakaelectricco.com/

Two years should not qualify as lucky.

The next girl should not need luck at all.

Support the show

Thanks for listening to Still Here, Still Trying.

If this episode gave you something to think about, please like, follow, subscribe, and share it with three people who could use it in their lives.

You can find more of my work — music, writing, art, and reflections — at:
🌐 mikebakerhq.com

Grab a copy of my book, The Optimist’s Way:
📚 https://a.co/d/4RqPS6g

Thanks for being here.
Still here. Still trying.

Support the Podcast Here:

https://www.buzzsprout.com/2516381/support

Send us Fan Mail

MikeBakerHQ has changed, and this episode marks where the work is headed next.

For the last few years, Mike Baker has explored artificial intelligence through art, music, writing, and a long list of creative experiments. Those tools helped him bring ideas to life that once would have stayed inside a notebook or in his head. They remain part of his creative process, while the website now places more of his real life, family, voice, and Human First purpose at the center.

In this episode of Still Here, Still Trying, Mike talks about rebuilding his website to feel more personal, honest, and recognizably his. He shares what he has learned about using technology in service of human connection and why the work we create should give another person something meaningful to carry with them.

Mike also introduces Just an Ordinary Tuesday: Notes from a life I’m still trying to pay attention to, the new home for his writing. It is where he shares stories about family, grief, healthcare, leadership, creativity, women’s health, and the moments we often understand only after they are gone. Visit mikebakerhq.com/writing to read the latest pieces and subscribe so the next one arrives directly in your inbox.

The episode also highlights the growing advocacy section at MikeBakerHQ.com, including practical resources for people living with endometriosis and for the partners, parents, employers, and healthcare leaders trying to support them. The goal is to help people move from awareness toward a useful next step.

Mira opens the episode with news of her own upgrade and a reminder that Mike still has a questionable understanding of when one workday ends and the next one begins.

The episode closes with “Ordinary Tuesday,” a new song from an album Mike is still building. The song reflects on Kellie laughing from another room, one of the kids calling because nothing is wrong, and Mike’s mom saying his name before Alzheimer’s slowly took that away. It is a quiet reminder that the moments we will miss most rarely announce themselves while they are happening.

The song has not received its official release yet, but the full lyric video is now available on YouTube: Watch “Ordinary Tuesday”.

Listen, leave a comment, and share the episode or song with someone who needs the reminder. Then visit mikebakerhq.com/writing and subscribe to Just an Ordinary Tuesday.

The work should lead back to people. That is the direction from here.

Support the show

Thanks for listening to Still Here, Still Trying.

If this episode gave you something to think about, please like, follow, subscribe, and share it with three people who could use it in their lives.

You can find more of my work — music, writing, art, and reflections — at:
🌐 mikebakerhq.com

Grab a copy of my book, The Optimist’s Way:
📚 https://a.co/d/4RqPS6g

Thanks for being here.
Still here. Still trying.

Support the Podcast Here:

https://www.buzzsprout.com/2516381/support

Send us Fan Mail

Good intentions matter, but the people closest to us experience our follow-through, attention, tone, and the work we leave behind.

In this episode of Still Here, Still Trying, Mike begins with a very 2026 attempt to connect Google, Apple, Outlook, and an AI assistant named Mira to finally solve the family calendar. Somewhere between the daily brief and the birthday reminders, the technology led him to a harder question: What is it like to share a life with me?

Mike talks honestly about ADHD, responsibility, and the danger of using an explanation as a permanent excuse. He shares the moment he realized Kellie was competing with his phone for his attention, what playing beer-league goalie taught him about owning the result after the puck is already in the net, and what he saw while watching Kellie with all three of their kids together on the Oregon Coast.

This conversation is for men who care deeply and still create extra weight for the people they love. It offers a practical way to hear difficult feedback without turning it into a trial about your character. Growth begins when you stay present long enough to understand what happened and let changed behavior provide the evidence.

The one action from this episode is simple: Ask someone close to you, “What is one ordinary thing I do that makes life heavier for you?” Then listen without preparing your explanation.

Mike draws from The Better Man Field Guide: A Practical Guide for Men Who Mean Well and Still Screw Things Up.

Find Mike’s books: https://amazon.com/author/mikebakerhq

Learn more about Mike’s work: https://mikebakerhq.com

Support the show

Thanks for listening to Still Here, Still Trying.

If this episode gave you something to think about, please like, follow, subscribe, and share it with three people who could use it in their lives.

You can find more of my work — music, writing, art, and reflections — at:
🌐 mikebakerhq.com

Grab a copy of my book, The Optimist’s Way:
📚 https://a.co/d/4RqPS6g

Thanks for being here.
Still here. Still trying.

Support the Podcast Here:

https://www.buzzsprout.com/2516381/support

Send us Fan Mail

Something is shifting.

You can feel it in relationships beginning to heal, communities finding their voices, and people becoming less willing to live under fear, division, and toxic leadership. You can also feel it in the growing desire for something more grounded: real connection, honest conversation, time outside, meaningful work, and a little more joy.

In this episode, Mike explores the Human First thread running through Still Here, Still Trying, The Optimist’s Way, and the wider body of work he is building. The future does not arrive fully formed. We influence what comes next through the attention we give, the choices we repeat, and the way we treat people in the rooms we enter every day.

This week, listeners have work to do.

Choose one practice and stay with it for seven days:

Step away from the news and social media long enough to hear your own thoughts.

Have a real conversation with someone who sees the world differently and look for the human being beneath the disagreement.

Go outside without headphones or an agenda. Feel the sun, listen to the birds, watch the trees, and let your body return to the present.

Reach toward one relationship that matters.

Put hope to work close to home through one act of courage, care, repair, or joy.

Then pay attention.

Notice what changes in you. Look for conflict beginning to loosen, people finding their courage, or a moment when connection becomes stronger than the noise around it. These moments rarely become headlines, but they shape families, workplaces, communities, and the future we are building together.

Share what you notice with Mike through MikeBakerHQ.com or wherever you found this episode. Your story could help someone else recognize that healing, courage, and human connection are still happening.

The episode closes with Mike’s new song, Something Is Shifting.

We are still here. We are still trying. This week, we help create what comes next.

Support the show

Thanks for listening to Still Here, Still Trying.

If this episode gave you something to think about, please like, follow, subscribe, and share it with three people who could use it in their lives.

You can find more of my work — music, writing, art, and reflections — at:
🌐 mikebakerhq.com

Grab a copy of my book, The Optimist’s Way:
📚 https://a.co/d/4RqPS6g

Thanks for being here.
Still here. Still trying.

Support the Podcast Here:

https://www.buzzsprout.com/2516381/support

Send us Fan Mail

Season 2, Episode 11

Why I Released 10 Books at Once: The Human First Story Behind Mike Baker HQ

Why did Mike Baker release 10 books at once?

In Season 2, Episode 11 of Still Here, Still Trying, Mike talks through the heart behind his 10-book release and the larger Human First world taking shape through Mike Baker HQ. This is part release-week author note, part map for readers and listeners who found one piece of the work and want to understand how it all connects.

These books move through endometriosis, menopause, women’s pain, men showing up better, grief, Alzheimer’s, ADHD, AI, faith transition after Mormonism, leadership, hope, and staying connected in a divided world. At the center is one question: how do we stay human when life gets heavy?

Mike shares why the books are personal, how they connect to the podcast and music, and how to start with the book that meets what you are carrying right now.

Find Mike Baker’s books on Amazon:

https://amazon.com/author/mikebakerhq
Learn more about Mike Baker HQ:

https://mikebakerhq.com

Books Mentioned

Human First: How to Stay Connected in a World That Keeps Pulling Us Apart

A book about connection, leadership, disagreement, community, and choosing humanity in a divided world.

The Future Still Needs Us

A Human First look at AI, technology, creativity, leadership, and why the future still needs human judgment, care, imagination, and responsibility.

Believe Her the First Time: A Man’s Guide to Endometriosis

A book for dads, husbands, partners, sons, brothers, and men who love someone living with endometriosis or chronic pelvic pain.

Man vs. Menopause: A Husband’s Guide to Perimenopause and How Not to Mess This Up

A practical and honest guide for husbands trying to understand perimenopause, menopause, marriage, intimacy, sleep, hormones, and support.

Get Out of the Way: A Man’s Case for Women Leading What Comes Next

A direct call for men to face power, entitlement, misogyny, and the ways women are asked to wait, shrink, soften, or prove readiness.

The Better Man Field Guide

A practical guide for men who want to grow with honesty, responsibility, humility, and real change that shows up at home, work, and in relationships.

Still Here, Still Trying: Honest Stories for People Who Are Tired but Not Done

A collection of honest stories about grief, family, work, love, exhaustion, hope, and the quiet courage of continuing.

Still My Mom: Alzheimer’s, Love, Loss, and the Work We Do Before Goodbye

A personal book about Alzheimer’s, anticipatory grief, family caregiving, memory loss, love, and the painful work families do before goodbye.

Still Good: After All We Could Do: A Memoir of Leaving Mormonism and Staying Whole

A memoir about faith transition, leaving Mormonism, family, identity, grief, gratitude, and trying to stay whole after certainty changes.

Beautifully Unfocused

A book about ADHD, creativity, leadership, AI tools, writing, emotional intensity, and building with the brain you actually have.

Support the show

Thanks for listening to Still Here, Still Trying.

If this episode gave you something to think about, please like, follow, subscribe, and share it with three people who could use it in their lives.

You can find more of my work — music, writing, art, and reflections — at:
🌐 mikebakerhq.com

Grab a copy of my book, The Optimist’s Way:
📚 https://a.co/d/4RqPS6g

Thanks for being here.
Still here. Still trying.

Support the Podcast Here:

https://www.buzzsprout.com/2516381/support

Send us Fan Mail

This week on Still Here, Still Trying, Mike records a quick road episode from his hotel room in Carlisle, Pennsylvania while attending the U.S. Army War College.

This one is intentionally simple. No studio setup, no Mira intro, no closing song, no extra polish. Just a portable mic, bad hotel lighting, and a few thoughts worth capturing while they are still fresh.

After a week surrounded by military leaders, civilian leaders, professors, strategists, and people thinking deeply about complex problems, Mike reflects on what he is bringing home. This is not about turning healthcare into the Army or forcing military language onto everyday leadership. It is about the lessons that translate: flip the map, understand what is happening close to the ground, be honest about ends, ways, and means, watch for bad starting points, and make time to think before moving too fast.

Mike connects those War College lessons back to Heritage Health, healthcare leadership, the Human First books, AI, women’s pain, complex adaptive problems, and the ongoing work of keeping the human being at the center of the decision.

The Human First books release June 30, and the early interest has been amazing. Mike takes a moment to say thank you for the messages, encouragement, and support. These books are deeply personal, and knowing people are already connecting with the work means a lot.

Sometimes the work does not need polish. Sometimes it just needs to be said while it is still alive.

Support the show

Thanks for listening to Still Here, Still Trying.

If this episode gave you something to think about, please like, follow, subscribe, and share it with three people who could use it in their lives.

You can find more of my work — music, writing, art, and reflections — at:
🌐 mikebakerhq.com

Grab a copy of my book, The Optimist’s Way:
📚 https://a.co/d/4RqPS6g

Thanks for being here.
Still here. Still trying.

Support the Podcast Here:

https://www.buzzsprout.com/2516381/support

This week on Still Here, Still Trying, Mike records a quick road episode from his hotel room in Carlisle, Pennsylvania while attending the U.S. Army War College.

This one is intentionally simple. No studio setup, no Mira intro, no closing song, no extra polish. Just a portable mic, bad hotel lighting, and a few thoughts worth capturing while they are still fresh.

After a week surrounded by military leaders, civilian leaders, professors, strategists, and people thinking deeply about complex problems, Mike reflects on what he is bringing home. This is not about turning healthcare into the Army or forcing military language onto everyday leadership. It is about the lessons that translate: flip the map, understand what is happening close to the ground, be honest about ends, ways, and means, watch for bad starting points, and make time to think before moving too fast.

Mike connects those War College lessons back to Heritage Health, healthcare leadership, the Human First books, AI, women’s pain, complex adaptive problems, and the ongoing work of keeping the human being at the center of the decision.

The Human First books release June 30, and the early interest has been amazing. Mike takes a moment to say thank you for the messages, encouragement, and support. These books are deeply personal, and knowing people are already connecting with the work means a lot.

Sometimes the work does not need polish. Sometimes it just needs to be said while it is still alive.

Send us Fan Mail

This week on Still Here, Still Trying, Mike talks about the kind of week that makes life feel full, beautiful, hard, and a little too fast.

After a few episodes focused on the upcoming Human First books, this one brings the question home. Sammie graduated. The family went to the Oregon Coast. Jacob was there, recently moved to Moscow and building his electrical company. Cameron was home before heading back to New Zealand. Kellie was happy having all three kids together. And then, after all that noise and love, the house got quiet again.

This episode is about parenting adult kids, being proud while still feeling the ache of change, loving your spouse through the life you built together, missing the people who should still be here, and trying to stay present while everything keeps moving.

Mike also talks about finishing the Human First books, releasing June 30, and why this work has been healing. These books have pieces of his soul in them, and this week reminded him where they came from: family, grief, love, healthcare, ADHD, hope, and the need to make something useful out of the life we are given.

The episode closes with a new unreleased song Mike built for this moment, “All of This Is Us.” It was written after the Oregon Coast trip, while the feelings were still fresh: the joy, the leaving, the pride, the missing, the quiet after everyone goes, and the love that still fills the house.

Learn more about Mike’s books, music, and creative work at:

https://www.mikebakerhq.com

Order Your Books Here: 

https://www.amazon.com/stores/Michael-Baker/author/B0F66J8Q6M?ref=ap_rdr&shoppingPortalEnabled=true&ccs_id=9d6c4ebb-33e7-485f-adca-d0630da90659

Support the show

Thanks for listening to Still Here, Still Trying.

If this episode gave you something to think about, please like, follow, subscribe, and share it with three people who could use it in their lives.

You can find more of my work — music, writing, art, and reflections — at:
🌐 mikebakerhq.com

Grab a copy of my book, The Optimist’s Way:
📚 https://a.co/d/4RqPS6g

Thanks for being here.
Still here. Still trying.

Support the Podcast Here:

https://www.buzzsprout.com/2516381/support