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Episode Summary:

In this episode, Rita breaks down one of the most common unconscious identities she sees in women - the Poverty Wound. If you’ve ever felt like no matter how hard you work, you still stay stuck in the same money loops… or you panic anytime things slow down… this one hits home.
You’ll learn what the Poverty Wound really is, where it comes from, how it shows up in adulthood, and how it creates codependent patterns like overworking, people-pleasing, and shrinking your worth.
Rita walks you through practical tools, nervous system steps, the exact questions to ask when you get triggered, and how to start healing this pattern with compassion, curiosity, and small intentional actions - not force.

Top 5 Takeaways:

1. The Poverty Wound is a survival identity.
   It forms in childhood from instability, fear, or lack - and becomes an unconscious pattern that runs your adult life.
   
   
2. Your body remembers even if your mind forgets.
   Anxiety, overworking, panic around money, and always bracing for impact are nervous-system responses, not “mindset issues.”
   
   
3. The core belief: “I am not safe.”
   This creates overwork, control, people-pleasing, shame, and the feeling of “not enough” (money, time, support, you name it).
   
   
4. Triggers are gold.
   Slow months, raising prices, success, investing in yourself - these reveal the wound, not your worth.
   
   
5. Healing starts with awareness + one opposite action.
   Name the wound when it shows up, breathe, regulate, ask the body questions, and take one small step that contradicts the old identity.

Timestamps:

[5:00]  What the Poverty Wound Really Is

[11:00] How This Identity Forms + Real Examples

[18:00] How the Poverty Wound Shows Up in Adult Life

[30:00] Triggers + The Core Belief: “I’m Not Safe.”

[40:00] The Healing Process: Awareness → Acceptance → Aligned Action

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In this powerful episode, Rita dives deep into the sneaky ways codependent behaviors infiltrate every area of life - from business and money to relationships and self-worth. She shares her own story of awakening to the drama and chaos that kept her stuck, unpacks how language patterns like “can’t,” “have to,” “always,” and “never” reinforce victim energy, and guides you toward awareness, empowerment, and freedom.
You’ll walk away with clarity, new awareness of hidden patterns, and practical exercises to reclaim your energy, boundaries, and voice.

Top 5 Takeaways:

1. Codependency is behavioral, not your identity. It’s a pattern you learned - and you can unlearn it.
2. Language reveals your programming. Words like “can’t” or “have to” signal victimhood and keep you disempowered.
3. The Drama Triangle runs unconsciously until you bring awareness to it - victim, rescuer, and persecutor roles all stem from the same root.
4. Rescuing ≠ helping. True support empowers others; rescuing depletes you and reinforces dependency.
5. Clarity is your superpower. Awareness + acceptance + aligned action = empowerment and freedom.
   
   

Timestamps:

 [02:40] “How you do one thing is how you do everything” - the wake-up moment
 [07:30]  Codependency in business: rescuing clients & over-responsibility
 [12:00]  Money patterns: discounting yourself and overgiving
 [16:30]  The rescuer archetype & burnout
 [21:00]  The Drama Triangle explained: bully, victim, rescuer
 [26:30]  The power of language & Rita’s “no-fly words”
 [33:40]  Reflection questions & awareness practices

Resources & Links:

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Book recommendation: Codependent No More by Melody Beattie

 Affirmations:

• I choose language that empowers me.
• Clarity is my power.
• I release fear and scarcity thinking.
• I honor my needs and trust others to handle theirs.

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Episode Summary:

After a month-long pause, Rita returns with one of her most powerful episodes yet - centered on the Law of Attraction, Cause vs. Effect, and the power of receiving. She reads a heartfelt prayer for women stepping into new chapters, then dives deep into how beliefs shape reality, why “desire is divine,” and how to shift from waiting for life to change to actively co-creating with it. This episode is a reminder that you are not “too much,” your desires are sacred, and it’s okay to want more….even when life already feels good.

Top 5 Takeaways:

1. The Law of Attraction is exacting: you don’t attract what you want, you attract who you are being.
2. Cause vs. Effect: living “at effect” keeps you in blame, excuses, and the Drama Triangle. Living “at cause” means owning your energy, choices, and results.
3. Beliefs become limitations: most of us unconsciously run beliefs planted in childhood that block prosperity and joy. Question them.
4. Receiving is active: stop shooing away compliments, opportunities, and abundance. Being open is an at-cause state.
5. Desire is not greed, it’s Divine: your longings are your roadmap, proof that more is available to you.

Timestamps:

[00:00] Welcome back + prayer for women in new chapters

[05:40] Why the Law of Attraction is as real as gravity

[12:15] Cause vs. Effect: shifting out of the Drama Triangle

[20:30] Client stories of staying at effect vs. moving to cause

[28:45] Receiving as your divine feminine birthright

[36:00] Desire is not greed: it’s okay to want more

[42:15] Releasing the “I’m too much” belief + reclaiming worth

Resources & Links:

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Episode Summary:

“You’re not lost. You’re not behind. You’re in a sacred space. This is expansion"

In this milestone 50th episode, Rita takes you on a deep-dive journey through the messy middle - that liminal space between the old identity you’re shedding and the future self you’re becoming. She shares her personal stories, universal truths, and powerful mindset and somatic tools for navigating emotional overwhelm, identity shifts, and internal chaos with grounded courage.

This episode is spiritual and practical, fierce and compassionate, offering everything you need to move through transition with grace and momentum.

Top 5 Takeaways:

1. The Messy Middle is Sacred
That in-between space isn't failure, it's transformation. You're not broken; you're becoming.

2. Awareness is Power
Emotional mastery starts with recognizing you’re in a loop, a trigger, or an identity shift and not letting it define you.

3. You Are Not Your Emotions
Instead of “I am sad,” shift to “I feel sad.” This small language tweak separates your identity from your experience.

4. The Market Is Between Your Ears
Your mindset, not external conditions, shapes your reality.

5. Action Is the Way Out
You can’t think your way into your next self. You must embody her/him now. Start with one grounded choice.

Timestamps:

[08:15] Why Familiarity Isn’t Safety—and Why We Stay Stuck

[16:08] Emotional Flatlining, Grief & Looking Over Your Shoulder

[20:10] Identity, Expansion, and the Drama Triangle

[25:45] Emotional Mastery Defined (and Why It Changes Everything)

[32:26] 3-Step Tool #1: Awareness & Identity Inquiry

[38:04] 60-Second Reset – Somatic Tool #2: Box Breathing + Self-Soothing

[43:00] Embodiment Tool #3: Grounded Future Self Activation

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Episode Summary:

In this powerful episode, Rita dives deep into what it really means to be ready for a bigger life. She shares the three signs that you’re ready (even if you’re scared), why fear is boring, and how to let go of limiting beliefs, old patterns, and the identity that no longer fits you. If you’re tired of choosing struggle over unknown joy, this episode is your green light.

Top 5 Takeaways:

1. Fear is boring
Fear keeps you in mediocrity, repeating the same patterns without growth.

2.  3 signs you’re ready for a bigger life:

1. You’re uncomfortable with the version of you that’s staying small.
2. Your life feels “fine” but not fulfilling.
3. You can’t unsee the bigger vision within you.
   
   

3. Your beliefs shape your reality.
Thoughts repeated become beliefs, and beliefs drive your decisions.

4. You can’t hold onto the old and reach for the new.
Like monkey bars, you have to let go to move forward.

5. Make a move.
Clarity comes from action, not overthinking. You won’t know if it’s a good move until you move.

Timestamps:

[03:30] – Love vs. fear: The A Course in Miracles perspective

[08:50] – Dead Man’s Island vs. Fantasy Island analogy

[19:00] – Identity shifts: How to say no without anger

[28:15] – 3 signs you’re ready for a bigger life

[35:00] – Letting go of limiting beliefs and making your move

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A Course in Miracles – Book referenced about love and fear

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Your brain isn’t broken—it’s just running old software. This episode will show you how to reprogram it and reclaim your power!

Episode Summary:
In this fierce and fire-filled solo episode, Rita dives deep into the science and spirituality of thoughts, beliefs, and how our subconscious programming is running the show, whether we like it or not. She unpacks the concept of neuroplasticity, the energetic frequency of thoughts, and why your thoughts aren't always true, even though they’re shaping your life. This is the episode for you if you're ready to rewire your inner dialogue, break free from outdated beliefs, and align with the version of you that's ready to receive more abundance, peace, and success.

Top 5 Takeaways:

Your brain is wired for survival, not success
You’ve got to train it with new programming—it won't do it on its own.

Your thoughts aren’t facts
Just because you think it doesn’t make it true. Choose better thoughts.

Energy follows attention
Whatever you focus on gets stronger. Start feeding thoughts that serve your vision.

Your Word is Your Wand
Your language is casting reality into form: ditch “should,” “always,” “never,” and negative “I am” statements.

Repetition creates belief
You become what you repeatedly think, speak, and feel. So, create new loops that support who you’re becoming.

Time Stamps:

[05:10] “What’s my DNA in this?” – self-inquiry to break blame patterns

[07:30] Brain science + neural programming explained through floppy disks and AI

[14:30] Frequency, vibration, and the power of subconscious language

[24:10] “Your word is your wand” – why casual phrases are energetic commands

[33:30] Rita’s story: Losing everything after making $1M—identity vs. capacity

[42:00] Anchoring new beliefs through movement, mantras, and repetition

Resources & Next Steps:

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Your Word is Your Wand  by Florence Scovel Shinn

Mentions of Dr. Joe Dispenza & Dr. Deepak Chopra on brain science and energy

Ho’oponopono practice for energetic clearing

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Episode Summary:

In this powerful episode, Rita unpacks the psychological and spiritual threshold we all face in the “messy middle”  the in-between phase of desiring change but feeling frozen in fear. Drawing from real-life examples, nervous system science, and transformational coaching, she shares how to move from fear to aligned action using three life-changing tools.

Whether you're standing in the doorway of your next chapter or circling your vision with doubt, this episode gives you the clarity and courage to take the next step forward—messy middle and all.

Top 5 Takeaways:

Liminality = The Messy Middle
It’s the transitional space between your old self and your new self

Fight, Flight, or Freeze Isn’t Just for Gazelles
Humans stay frozen in survival mode because our perception keeps our nervous system activated long after the threat is gone.

Tool #1: The 90-Second Rule
Allow yourself to feel fear fully for 90 seconds, then ask: “What would I do if I trusted myself right now?”

Tool #2: Future Self Journaling
Write daily as your future self—what you decide, think, and no longer tolerate

Tool #3: Flip Fear with a New Question
When fear masquerades as logic, ask: “What if it works better than I imagined?” and choose faith over fear

Time Stamps:

03:10 The concept of liminality and standing in the threshold

07:20 Nervous system dysregulation and how humans freeze

10:00 Why you can’t “figure it out” from a fear-based mind

12:40 External excuses (economy, market, etc.) and reclaiming agency

21:30  Tool #1 – The 90-Second Rule for emotional release

24:00  Tool #2 – Future Self Journaling + daily prompts

29:10  Tool #3 – Fear masquerading as logic and how to flip it

33:10 How we unconsciously justify playing small

40:30 Reframing “I’m stuck” and rewriting your internal story

Resources & Next Steps:

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Episode Summary:
In this episode, Rita unpacks why you keep circling the same goals but don’t make real progress—and spoiler alert: it’s not because you’re lazy. It’s because your brain is running old programs designed for survival, not success. Rita explains the psychology behind self-sabotage, introduces her three powerful tools for creating momentum, and invites you to take radical ownership of your focus, identity, and habits—one small step at a time.

Top 5 Takeaways:

• You're not broken—you're running a "competing intention."
• The brain is wired for survival, not success.
• Clarity + Accountability > Hustle.
• Focus creates evidence; evidence rewires belief.
• You don’t rise to the level of your goals—you fall to the level of your patterns.

Time Stamps:

09:08 The unconscious vs. resourced self—and what both really want

13:47 The problem with past programming and why we stay small

18:51 Personal story: bullying, self-worth, and identity healing

23:40 How we gas-brake our goals (and fool ourselves doing it)

26:01 Tool #1: The Focus Formula – commit to one result this week

32:00 Tool #2: Daily Evidence List – track one momentum action/day

38:54 Tool #3: Habit Stacking – drop the old stackers, build new ones

40:40 Reality vs. expectation: bridge the gap with aligned strategy

Resources & Next Steps:

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The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks

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Episode 45 – Interview with Jasmyn Jefferson on Around the Block
 

In this episode, Rita is interviewed on the Around the Block podcast by Jasmine Jefferson, former president of Tacoma Pierce County Association of Realtors. Recorded after Rita's keynote workshop, this candid conversation dives deep into mindset, success in real estate, emotional healing, and showing up authentically—especially for women in male-dominated industries.

Top 5 Takeaways:

1. Mindset Creates Your Reality—Good or Bad.
   Your beliefs become thoughts, your thoughts become actions. Whether you're building a million-dollar business or burning it down, it all starts in the mind.
2. Give Yourself 24 Hours, Then Shift.
   Feel the disappointment, the fear, the funk—then choose to move forward. Staying stuck is just familiar, not safe.
3. Success Without Inner Peace Will Still Break You.
   Rita’s story of making—and losing—a million proves that mindset and emotional healing matter more than money.
4. Authenticity Over Approval.
   Strong women will always trigger someone. Your job isn’t to fit in—it’s to be aligned and unapologetically you.
5. Real Transformation Blends Science & Soul.
   From somatic breathwork to nervous system regulation to rewiring limiting beliefs, this isn’t woo—it’s how real change happens.

 Timestamps:

[02:00] – “I made a million dollars—and then lost it all.”
Rita shares the raw truth behind her entrepreneurial rise and fall.

[06:45] – How she became the first non-agent MAPS coach at Keller Williams.
A bold pivot fueled by purpose and persistence.

[10:00] – The 'wedding and funeral' reality of real estate.
Why mindset—not strategy—is what determines success.

[13:00] – “Give yourself 24 hours. Then choose again.”
A game-changing emotional reset rule for when life hits hard.

[17:45] – Why your brain argues for your limitations.
The science behind playing small—and how to stop.

[22:00] – Real talk on feminine energy, burnout, and showing up fully.
Why so many women in real estate are exhausted and how to shift out of it.

Resources & Next Steps:

Around The Block Podcast with Host, Jasmyn Jefferson

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Summary:

In this powerful episode of Stop Bending Over - Align Your Life for Radical Success, Rita dives deep into the connection between self-abandonment and financial freedom. She challenges listeners to recognize the ways they undervalue themselves, overcommit, and tolerate scarcity—whether in their finances, relationships, or daily lives. Rita shares practical tools to shift from scarcity thinking to abundance, explaining how structural tension plays a key role in breaking cycles of under-earning and over-giving.

If you've ever struggled with undercharging, over-delivering, or feeling stuck in financial struggle, this episode is packed with insights to help you reclaim your worth and step into abundance.

Key Topics & Takeaways:

• Self-Abandonment & Scarcity: How self-betrayal leads to financial struggle and lack in other areas of life.
• The Difference Between Tolerance & Acceptance: Learning to set boundaries instead of tolerating things that drain you.
• Structural Tension & The Gap: Understanding the space between where you are and where you want to be—and why that discomfort is key to transformation.
• The Holding Frequency of Money: How unconscious beliefs shape how much money you hold onto or let slip away.
• Breaking Scarcity Cycles: Shifting from over-giving, undercharging, and fearing rejection to confidently owning your value.
• Tools for Rewiring Scarcity Thinking:
  1. Radical self-honesty: Identifying where you're tolerating lack.
  2. Stopping over-giving and learning to receive.
  3. Mindfulness in catching scarcity thoughts.
  4. Holding frequency: Getting comfortable with wealth.
  5. Leaning into tension instead of running from it.

Timestamps:

• 00:32 – Introduction: Self-abandonment and financial freedom
• 03:00 – Episode Affirmation
• 11:45 – Why tolerating something is not the same as accepting it
• 15:20 – Structural tension: The key to shifting from scarcity to abundance
• 20:10 – The holding frequency of money: Why money seems to disappear
• 25:45 – Signs of being stuck in a scarcity cycle
• 31:20 – Five tools to break free from self-abandonment and step into abundance
• 38:55 – Closing thoughts: One action step to shift your financial reality today

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