In this episode, Adam and Ashlee unpack a viral dating idea: “I want my man to be the leader of his friend group.” And they push back hard—because status isn’t the same thing as integrity. They talk about why chasing the “head honcho” can actually be a red flag, and why what you really want to look for is something deeper: initiative, discipline, character, humility, and the ability to lead in a healthy way—not just perform confidence for attention.The conversation goes further into something most people don’t connect to dating: friendships. Adam and Ashlee get real about how unhealthy relationships can spill into your marriage, your peace, and your family—and why maturity sometimes means letting go of friendships you’ve outgrown, setting standards, and refusing to carry someone else’s chaos. They also talk about “surface-level” friendships, one-sided relationships, and what healthy community actually looks like when you’re trying to build something lasting with your spouse and kids.--Join our AFTER I DO community for Exclusive Content & community!www.afterido.app--Have a question about relationships? Ask us by clicking the link below!https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondIdo_BEYOND I DO: MARRIAGE COURSEhttps://beyondido.thinkific.com/courses/beyond-I-do--Connect with Adam & Ashlee Mesahttps://instagram.com/amesa?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA==https://instagram.com/ashleemesa?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA==--Don't forget to stay connected with us: Instagram @beyond.idoTik Tok @beyond.ido--We've entered into an exciting new partnership with renowned jeweler Erin Barnett in Los Angeles. This partnership perfectly aligns with our love for relationships and jewelry. Whether you're looking for a special gift, an engagement ring, or a wedding band, Erin has you covered. And as part of the Beyond I Do community, you get exclusive discounts and the opportunity for a private showroom experience. It's time to celebrate your love with exquisite jewelry from our partner, Erin Barnett.How to get the exclusive discount?SEND HIM A DM and tell him you are part of the BEYOND I DO family or mention Adam Mesa. https://www.instagram.com/by.barnett/?hl=enhttps://bybarnett.com