If you’ve ever found yourself sending long paragraphs, rambling through your reasoning, or feeling like you have to defend every decision you make… this episode is for you.

Today, we’re breaking down why we overexplain, where this pattern comes from (hint: it’s not your fault), and how to finally stop feeling like you need to justify your boundaries, needs, or choices.

We explore the connection between overexplaining and nervous system safety, people-pleasing, rejection sensitivity, and growing up in environments where you had to “earn” acceptance. And more importantly — we talk about how to unlearn it.

This episode is part psychology, part self-compassion, and part pep talk for anyone who wants to communicate with more confidence and less guilt.

💬 In this episode:

• Why overexplaining becomes a survival strategy
• How trauma, RSD, and people-pleasing shape this habit
• The emotional cost of constantly justifying yourself
• How to communicate with clarity instead of defensiveness
• Practical strategies to break the overexplaining cycle

✨ You’ll walk away with:

• Language that helps you express your needs without a full essay
• A deeper understanding of where this pattern comes from
• Tools for building self-trust and communicating with confidence
• Permission to let your “no,” “I can’t,” or “this is what I need” stand on its own

📲 Loved this episode? Share it on your stories and tag me @ErinBurnsWellness