If you’ve ever found yourself sending long paragraphs, rambling through your reasoning, or feeling like you have to defend every decision you make… this episode is for you.

Today, we’re breaking down why we overexplain, where this pattern comes from (hint: it’s not your fault), and how to finally stop feeling like you need to justify your boundaries, needs, or choices.

We explore the connection between overexplaining and nervous system safety, people-pleasing, rejection sensitivity, and growing up in environments where you had to “earn” acceptance. And more importantly — we talk about how to unlearn it.

This episode is part psychology, part self-compassion, and part pep talk for anyone who wants to communicate with more confidence and less guilt.

💬 In this episode:

• Why overexplaining becomes a survival strategy
• How trauma, RSD, and people-pleasing shape this habit
• The emotional cost of constantly justifying yourself
• How to communicate with clarity instead of defensiveness
• Practical strategies to break the overexplaining cycle

✨ You’ll walk away with:

• Language that helps you express your needs without a full essay
• A deeper understanding of where this pattern comes from
• Tools for building self-trust and communicating with confidence
• Permission to let your “no,” “I can’t,” or “this is what I need” stand on its own

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If you’ve ever walked away from a social interaction completely drained — wondering why it takes so much energy just to exist around people — this one’s for you.

In this episode, we’re unpacking masking and mirroring through a neurodivergent lens. We talk about what they are, why they happen, and how these unconscious coping mechanisms — meant to keep us safe — can quietly disconnect us from who we really are.

We’ll also dive into what it actually means to “unmask” in a world that still isn’t always safe for authenticity, and how to start rebuilding a relationship with your natural self — one that’s rooted in regulation, not performance.

💬 In this episode:

• What masking and mirroring really look like day-to-day
• Why your brain learned to camouflage in the first place
• How masking protects you (but also drains you)
• What unmasking looks like in practice — without shame or urgency
• How to find safety and authenticity in small, sustainable ways

✨ You’ll walk away with:

• Language to understand your masking patterns
• Permission to stop calling yourself “fake” for adapting
• Tools to start reconnecting with your natural self
• The reminder that you’re not broken — you’re adapting to a world that wasn’t built for your wiring

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You say you want peace… but when you finally get it, it feels weird, uncomfortable, even boring.

In this episode, we’re unpacking why calm can feel so unnatural after years of emotional chaos, hypervigilance, or unpredictable relationships. If your body learned that intensity = love or that chaos = connection, peace can feel like a threat instead of a relief.

We’ll talk about how the nervous system becomes addicted to emotional spikes, why “boring” is actually regulated, and how to retrain your body to feel safe in stability.

This isn’t about avoiding passion — it’s about learning the difference between chaos that drains you and peace that sustains you.

💬 In this episode:

• Why your brain and body crave emotional intensity
• The sneaky ways chaos becomes “comfort”
• How to stop mistaking peace for emptiness
• Practical tools to build safety tolerance
• What real emotional safety actually feels like

✨ You’ll walk away with:

• A deeper understanding of why peace feels uncomfortable
• Tools to help your nervous system trust calm again
• Permission to stop chasing intensity and start embracing stability

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Let’s get real: “Being the bigger person” sounds noble… until you realize you’re the only one doing the emotional labor.

In this episode, we’re breaking down how the cultural obsession with being “mature” or “above it” often leads to self-abandonment. We talk about the fine line between emotional growth and people-pleasing, and how to tell when “keeping the peace” is actually costing you your peace.

If you’ve ever walked away from a situation proud of your restraint but secretly furious, this one’s for you.

💬 In this episode:

• The sneaky ways self-abandonment hides behind “maturity”
• Why we confuse peacekeeping with healing
• How to recognize when you’re betraying yourself to be liked
• What real emotional maturity looks like

✨ You’ll walk away with:

• Permission to stop swallowing your truth to look “healed”
• Language to hold boundaries without guilt
• The reminder that authenticity is more peaceful than silence

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Are you the one who always feels the vibe shift in the room? The one who starts overexplaining, fixing, or apologizing before anyone even asks you to?

This episode is your permission slip to stop taking responsibility for everyone else’s mood. We’re unpacking how emotional caretaking starts, why it’s not your fault, and how to finally stop confusing empathy with control.

If you’ve ever felt emotionally drained just by being around people, this one’s for you.

💬 In this episode:

• How emotional caretaking becomes a survival pattern
• The difference between empathy and enmeshment
• Why other people’s emotions feel like your responsibility
• Practical tools to stay grounded in your own lane

✨ You’ll walk away with:

• Language to notice when you’re absorbing others’ energy
• Tools to detach with compassion (not guilt)
• A nervous-system-level reminder that your peace matters, too

You know that feeling where your gut tells you one thing, but your anxiety tells you another? In this episode, we’re breaking down how to actually tell the difference between intuition and anxiety — because they can feel identical when you’re in it.

We’ll talk about what each one feels like in the body, why they get tangled when you’re dysregulated, and how to rebuild trust with your own inner voice. If you’ve ever second-guessed yourself or felt paralyzed by overthinking, this episode will help you come back to calm clarity.

💬 In this episode:

• The emotional and physical differences between intuition and anxiety
• Why trauma and stress make it hard to trust your gut
• Tools to regulate before making big decisions
• How to start listening to yourself again

✨ You’ll walk away with:

• A practical filter to tell intuition from fear
• More confidence in your own inner guidance
• Permission to slow down and trust your body’s wisdom

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Your brain is loud—but it’s not always right. We all have that inner narrator that loves to run wild, turning every thought into a fact and every worry into a prophecy. But here’s the truth: not every thought deserves your energy.

In this episode, we’re getting honest (and a little spicy) about what happens when you overidentify with your thoughts—when you treat them as truth, identity, or destiny—and how to stop letting your mental chatter run the show.

If you’ve been spiraling in overthinking, anxiety, or constant self-criticism, this episode will help you separate yourself from the noise and start reclaiming your peace.

💬 In this episode:

• What it really means to overidentify with your thoughts
• Why your brain lies to you (and thinks it’s helping)
• How overidentification feeds anxiety, self-doubt, and emotional chaos
• Practical ways to stop giving your thoughts all the power
• The mindset shift that will help you find calm without control

✨ You’ll walk away with:

• A spicy reality check about how your brain actually works
• Tools to notice your thoughts without becoming them
• Permission to stop arguing with every intrusive thought
• A reminder that your thoughts aren’t facts—they’re just noise

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When life feels messy, overwhelming, or out of control, it’s easy to get stuck in the spiral—overthinking, carrying too much, and feeling paralyzed by all the noise. But here’s the good news: cutting through the chaos doesn’t have to be complicated.

In this short and practical episode, I’ll walk you through 3 simple questions you can ask yourself anytime you’re feeling overwhelmed. These steps will help you reset, find clarity, and create more space to breathe—without needing hours of journaling or a 10-step routine.

💬 In this episode:

• Why overwhelm isn’t a sign you’re “broken”
• How to quickly sort what’s really yours to carry (and what’s not)
• A simple mindset shift to calm the spiral
• The 3 grounding questions that bring clarity in the moment

✨ You’ll walk away with:

• A mini-reset you can use anytime chaos takes over
• Permission to keep things simple, not perfect
• Tools to help you move forward with clarity and calm

📲 If this episode resonates with you, screenshot it and share it on your stories—tag me [@yourhandle] so I can cheer you on as you practice cutting through your own chaos.

When life feels messy, overwhelming, or out of control, it’s easy to get stuck in the spiral—overthinking, carrying too much, and feeling paralyzed by all the noise. But here’s the good news: cutting through the chaos doesn’t have to be complicated.

In this short and practical episode, I’ll walk you through 3 simple questions you can ask yourself anytime you’re feeling overwhelmed. These steps will help you reset, find clarity, and create more space to breathe—without needing hours of journaling or a 10-step routine.

💬 In this episode:

• Why overwhelm isn’t a sign you’re “broken”
• How to quickly sort what’s really yours to carry (and what’s not)
• A simple mindset shift to calm the spiral
• The 3 grounding questions that bring clarity in the moment

✨ You’ll walk away with:

• A mini-reset you can use anytime chaos takes over
• Permission to keep things simple, not perfect
• Tools to help you move forward with clarity and calm

📲 If this episode resonates with you, screenshot it and share it on your stories—tag me @ErinBurnsWellness so I can cheer you on as you practice cutting through your own chaos.

When most people think about ADHD in therapy, they picture tools, tips, and coping strategies—planners, reminders, timers, and hacks to “manage” symptoms. And while those are helpful, they only scratch the surface.

ADHD isn’t just about executive functioning. It’s also about identity—how you see yourself, how you narrate your story, and how years of living with ADHD shape your self-esteem, your confidence, your relationships, and even your sense of consistency.

In this episode, we’ll go beyond tools and explore the deeper work: how ADHD impacts identity, the self-fulfilling prophecies that often keep people stuck, and how shifting the way you see yourself can be more transformative than any planner or productivity trick.

💬 In this episode:

• Why ADHD is about more than executive functioning skills
• How ADHD influences self-esteem, confidence, and relationships
• The hidden cost of self-fulfilling prophecies (“I’ll always be flaky,” “I’ll never follow through”)
• Why identity work is crucial for long-term healing and growth
• How therapy can help you rewrite your story, not just manage symptoms

✨ You’ll walk away with:

• A deeper understanding of ADHD as more than “tools and hacks”
• Language for the identity challenges ADHD can create
• Permission to see yourself beyond the stereotype of being “lazy, disorganized, or inconsistent”
• Hope that healing ADHD includes reclaiming who you are—not just what you can do

📲 If this episode resonates, share it on your stories and tag me @ErinBurnsWellness—I’d love to hear how ADHD has shaped (and how you’re reshaping) your identity.