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Stop Shrinking Yourself: When Being Good started to Mean Being Small
When did being “good” start to mean being small?
So many women — especially moms with ADHD — learn to quiet themselves, over-accommodate, over-explain, and over-function in order to be seen as loving, responsible, and Christlike.
But what happens when “good” turns into disappearing?
In this episode, I’m talking about:
The subtle ways we shrink ourselves
How resentment builds when we don’t ask for what we need
Why managing everyone else’s emotions is exhausting
The difference between healthy sacrifice and self-neglect
And how honesty — not shrinking — is actually holiness
If you’ve felt like you’ve lost yourself inside motherhood…
If you’re overwhelmed but telling yourself you should be fine…
If asking for help feels harder than just doing it all…
This is your permission slip.
You are not too much.
You are not selfish for having needs.
You are a whole human.
And you don’t have to shrink to stay good.
00:00 Welcome Busy Brain
00:23 Free Scripts Guide
01:38 Episode Theme Being Small
02:50 Mission Confidence Story
04:19 Moms Need Support
05:33 Ask For Help Steps
07:05 Brandi Carlile Balance
12:04 Treat Yourself Humanely
14:24 Resentment And Needs
16:10 Mindful Group Coaching
17:52 Christ Big And Humble
20:36 Stop Managing Emotions
22:21 Laundry Conversation Example
25:52 Work Life Miscommunication
26:08 Solo Workload Reality
27:14 Rest Interrupted Misread
30:19 Feelings Versus Truth
32:04 Overexplaining Patterns
34:48 Stop Overfunctioning
38:37 Healthy Sacrifice Lessons
42:47 Find Yourself Again
47:02 Modesty As Stewardship
49:52 Motherhood Truth And Hope
52:19 Next Steps And Farewell
Download my free Communication Guide for Overextended Women with ADHD to get scripts that make asking for what you need easier.
Songs Mentioned:
So Myself
My Body's My Buddy
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We’re so glad your busy brain made it here. 💛 Hit LIKE, SUBSCRIBE, and share this with another Latter-day Saint who has (or loves someone with) ADHD.
Also check out:
-Kamden's Website | https://www.kamdenadhdcoaching.com/
-Kamden's Instagram | / kamden_adhd, /thebusybrainedsaint
-Subscribe to The Busy Brained Saint on Apple Podcasts or Spotify | https://www.kamdenadhdcoaching.com/po...
-MiNDFUL ADHD Group Coaching https://mindful.kamdenadhdcoaching.co... For 10% off your first month use code: FOCUS10
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When did being “good” start to mean being small?
So many women — especially moms with ADHD — learn to quiet themselves, over-accommodate, over-explain, and over-function in order to be seen as loving, responsible, and Christlike.
But what happens when “good” turns into disappearing?
In this episode, I’m talking about:
The subtle ways we shrink ourselves
How resentment builds when we don’t ask for what we need
Why managing everyone else’s emotions is exhausting
The difference between healthy sacrifice and self-neglect
And how honesty — not shrinking — is actually holiness
If you’ve felt like you’ve lost yourself inside motherhood…
If you’re overwhelmed but telling yourself you should be fine…
If asking for help feels harder than just doing it all…
This is your permission slip.
You are not too much.
You are not selfish for having needs.
You are a whole human.
And you don’t have to shrink to stay good.
00:00 Welcome Busy Brain
00:23 Free Scripts Guide
01:38 Episode Theme Being Small
02:50 Mission Confidence Story
04:19 Moms Need Support
05:33 Ask For Help Steps
07:05 Brandi Carlile Balance
12:04 Treat Yourself Humanely
14:24 Resentment And Needs
16:10 Mindful Group Coaching
17:52 Christ Big And Humble
20:36 Stop Managing Emotions
22:21 Laundry Conversation Example
25:52 Work Life Miscommunication
26:08 Solo Workload Reality
27:14 Rest Interrupted Misread
30:19 Feelings Versus Truth
32:04 Overexplaining Patterns
34:48 Stop Overfunctioning
38:37 Healthy Sacrifice Lessons
42:47 Find Yourself Again
47:02 Modesty As Stewardship
49:52 Motherhood Truth And Hope
52:19 Next Steps And Farewell
Download my free Communication Guide for Overextended Women with ADHD to get scripts that make asking for what you need easier.
Songs Mentioned:
So Myself
My Body's My Buddy
--------------------------------------
We’re so glad your busy brain made it here. 💛 Hit LIKE, SUBSCRIBE, and share this with another Latter-day Saint who has (or loves someone with) ADHD.
Also check out:
-Kamden's Website | https://www.kamdenadhdcoaching.com/
-Kamden's Instagram | / kamden_adhd, /thebusybrainedsaint
-Subscribe to The Busy Brained Saint on Apple Podcasts or Spotify | https://www.kamdenadhdcoaching.com/po...
-MiNDFUL ADHD Group Coaching https://mindful.kamdenadhdcoaching.co... For 10% off your first month use code: FOCUS10
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