Lameka Fox is an international fashion model whose career has taken her around the world. But in 2018, she became the target of a stalker. What began as unwanted contact escalated into years of harassment, surveillance, threats, and repeated invasions of her privacy. Despite reporting the behavior, she struggled to get the protection she needed. Today, Lameka shares her story of surviving stalking, how it changed her life, and how she helped advocate for New York's CREEP Act to strengthen protections for stalking victims.

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Ryan is a musician and founding member of the metalcore band Until I Wake. What began as a fan purchasing merchandise soon crossed a dangerous line. The fan became fixated on Ryan, flooding him with messages, changing their last name to match his, claiming they were married, and threatening to travel across the country to wait outside his home. Today, Ryan shares what happens when fandom turns into obsession, how stalking can impact musicians and public figures, and what it's like to continue performing and living his life while facing an active and ongoing stalking threat.

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Is your partner tracking you without your knowledge?

In this episode of lovelustlaw, family law attorney and host Michele Locke sits down with cybersecurity and reputation-management expert Alan W. Silberberg of DigiJaks to explore the growing intersection of technology, privacy, and modern relationships. From digital stalking and spyware to online harassment and reputation attacks, Alan explains how everyday devices, including AirPods, smartphones, smart cars, and connected home technology, can be used to monitor, track, or gather information about unsuspecting individuals. The conversation examines common surveillance tactics, including malicious links, shared account access, Bluetooth and NFC-based threats, and deceptive techniques such as "evil twin" Wi-Fi networks. Michele and Alan also discuss practical steps listeners can take to protect themselves, including strengthening privacy settings, reviewing app permissions, disabling unused device features, and enabling two-factor authentication. Beyond personal security, they explore the challenges law enforcement and courts face when handling technology-driven cases, the rise of malware marketplaces and organized cybercrime, and the increasing role of AI in shaping online information and reputation.

Key topics covered:

• Cyberstalking and digital surveillance
• AirTags, AirPods, and "Find My" tracking concerns
• Spyware, phishing links, and account compromise
• Bluetooth, NFC, and proximity-based threats
• Evil twin Wi-Fi networks and cybercriminal tactics
• Smart cars, connected devices, and privacy risks
• Digital forensics and reputation management
• Law enforcement and courtroom challenges in cyber cases
• AI-generated search results and online reputation
• Practical cybersecurity and privacy best practices

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Dr. Jessica Taylor has spent years helping survivors understand abuse, coercive control, and stalking. Then she found herself living it. What started as online harassment grew into a relentless campaign of stalking and surveillance. People she had never met seemed to know intimate details about her life, her family, and her movements. As the harassment escalated, a whistleblower came forward with evidence that exposed just how closely she had been watched. Today, Jessica shares her experience surviving online stalking, the impact it had on her life, and how it led her to write Click. Stalk. Destroy.

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For over six years and 300 episodes, Strictly Stalking has been powered by brave voices, willing to speak the truth. If you have a story, we want to hear it. With over 25 million downloads and a global audience, our platform gives survivors a place to be heard often for the very first time. By sharing your experiences, we work to break the silence and support organizations fighting for real change, including Sparc, Standup Resources, Action Against Stalking, and Stop Stalking Us. Your story matters, and your voice could change everything. Sharing your experience can break the silence, expose the reality of stalking, and remind survivors they are not alone.

If you'd like to share your story and be a guest on Strictly Stalking, you can reach us [email protected] or on Instagram Strictly Stalking

Thank you so much for listening and your support!

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• Action Against Stalking https://actionagainststalking.org/
• Stop Stalking Us https://www.stopstalkingus.com/

Dr. Christine Cocchiola is a social worker, professor, researcher, and internationally recognized advocate on coercive control and abuse. But even Christine didn't realize she was being stalked. Her ex always seemed to know where she was, who she was with, and even details about her finances. Whenever she questioned it, she was told she was imagining things. After leaving the relationship, Christine discovered her phone had been hacked, her car had been tracked, and she had been monitored for years. Today, Christine shares how stalking and surveillance were hidden behind years of gaslighting—and how she finally uncovered the truth.

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SK never imagined that a former co-worker's interest in her would spiral into years of stalking and harassment. What started as unwanted attention grew into thousands of messages, videos, and online posts, leaving her constantly on edge and afraid of what might happen next. Now, after an arrest was finally made, SK is sharing the emotional toll of prolonged stalking, the fear of never knowing when it will end, and what it's like trying to get help while feeling like the system moves too slowly.

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In Chapter One, Jennifer revealed the terrifying reality of being stalked and harassed by a nanny placement agency she once trusted. What began as a personal nightmare soon unraveled into something far more disturbing. Now, determined to expose the truth, Jennifer launches her own investigation into the agency and the person behind it, uncovering a trail of intimidation, manipulation, and fear. But the deeper she digs, the clearer it becomes: she was never the only target. As Jennifer connects with women across the country, a chilling pattern emerges. Victims who once suffered in silence begin finding each other, sharing eerily similar stories of harassment and stalking. Together, they form an unlikely alliance united by one goal — justice.

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EPISODE SUMMARY

In this powerful and insightful episode, Vanessa Reiser sits down with Dr. Ramani Durvasula, one of the world's leading experts on narcissistic abuse and coercive control. They explore how public understanding of narcissistic abuse has evolved, particularly among younger generations who now have expanded language around gaslighting, love bombing, and coercive control. Dr. Ramani and Vanessa discuss the dangers of over-labeling, the limitations of "just leave" advice in complex situations, and how culture continues to reflect these toxic dynamics. Using the Epstein files as a lens, they examine grooming, enablers, epistemic power, and how unchecked power shapes harmful systems. Dr. Ramani shares practical harm-reduction strategies, the importance of healing in community, and the value of "climbing into the gray" without excusing harm.

KEY TOPICS DISCUSSED

Youth and the New Vocabulary Around Narcissistic Abuse Therapy Shifts and Rebuilding Agency Culture Rewriting Old Narratives (Amy Fisher / Joey Buttafuoco Case) Epstein Files: Grooming, Enablers, and Institutional Betrayal Kids Facing Modern Horror and Pattern Recognition Power Sadism and Lack of Accountability Covert Narcissists Explained Avoiding Narcissists: Practical Tips Spotting Limits and Safe Disengagement Staying Anchored in Yourself Amid Chaos What Continues to Move Dr. Ramani Therapists "Getting It" – Progress and Gaps Wild Gaslighting Examples and Environmental Manipulation Epistemic Power Explained When the Narcissist Leaves and Smear Campaigns Supply Networks and Control Tactics Collective Healing Through Community Leaning Into the Gray Without Excusing Harm

RESOURCES Dr. Ramani Durvasula's Books:

• Should I Stay or Should I Go?
• It's Not You
• Don't You Know Who I Am?
• You Are WHY You Eat

Dr. Ramani's Podcast: Navigating Narcissism Connect with Dr. Ramani: Instagram: @doctorramani Website: doctor-ramani.com AND Dr. Ramani's therapist only program can be found here: https://drramaninetwork.mn.co/therapistsonly

Connect with Vanessa Reiser: Instagram: @vanessareiserlcsw Patreon: For exclusive bonus content and deeper discussions

CONTENT WARNINGS This episode contains discussions of: Narcissistic abuse and coercive control Gaslighting and reality distortion Institutional betrayal and systemic power abuse Epstein-related allegations Emotional manipulation and trauma

QUOTES TO REMEMBER "The truth doesn't need your permission to exist." — Dr. Ramani Durvasula "Even when the system fails you, your body still knows the truth." — Dr. Ramani Durvasula "Climbing into the gray doesn't mean excusing harm — it means refusing to live in black-and-white thinking that keeps us stuck." — Vanessa Reiser

Disclaimer: This podcast is for mature audiences and is not a substitute for therapy, legal, or medical advice. Guest opinions are their own and don't necessarily reflect those of the host or affiliated platforms. Produced by Vanessa Reiser and music by Alex Productions "Once Upon a Time".

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Jennifer is a career nanny who says an ordinary job search became something far more disturbing after she declined a position through a nanny agency. What began as routine professional communication soon escalated into hostile messages, fake identities, relentless phone calls, and harassment that followed Jennifer for more than a year — even reaching her on her wedding day. As she tried to figure out who was behind it, Jennifer began discovering other women with eerily similar stories. For Jennifer, what should have been a simple job opportunity spiraled into a campaign of stalking, intimidation, and obsession.

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