Summary

Betrayal in relationships, discovering cheating, or realizing the person is not who you thought they were. All of these are painful relational experiences that can take quite the journey to recover from, but it doesn’t have to be painful or long with the help of Accelerated Resolution Therapy.

Key takeaways from the episode:

Katie K. May is a therapist, group practice owner, speaker, author, and consultant. As a Linehan Board-Certified Therapist and Master Accelerated Resolution Therapy Practitioner, her expertise shines in her work with depressed teens, the LGBTQ community, and parents dealing with the complex emotions surrounding their child's mental health challenges while reimagining their future. 

Katie's deep passion lies in helping "black sheep," neurodivergent individuals, and those with traumatic backgrounds, find their sense of belonging. Together, she collaborates with her clients to create personalized coping strategies that empower them to navigate overwhelming emotions and build a life of connection and purpose.

Noteworthy quotes from this episode:

[07:44] "I can help my clients regulate and  restructure their beliefs about who they can trust and how they can trust themselves and really activate that self trust again and decrease the self blame."

[31:00] "It is typical in betrayal trauma for your body to go into overdrive and to overcorrect. If you were trusting before, [you may] be completely untrusting as a way to protect yourself which is an extreme that is intended to protect you, but in fact, likely doesn't serve you at all."

Connect with Katie

Website: creativehealingphilly.com 

Instagram: @creative_healing

Facebook: facebook.com/creativehealingphilly

TikTok: @teensupportcenter

Connect with Paige Bond

Instagram: @paigebondcoaching

Facebook: @paigebondcoaching

TikTok: @paigebondcoaching

Website: https://paigebond.com

Paige Bond hosts the Stubborn Love podcast, is a Licensed Marriage Therapist, and a Polyamory Relationship Coach. Her mission is to help people-pleasing millennials navigate non-monogamy so they can tame their jealousy and love with ease. Her own journey from feeling lonely, insecure, and jealous to feeling empowered and reassured is what fuels her passion to help other people-pleasers to conquer jealousy and embrace love.

Free Jealousy Workbook: 

⁠⁠http://www.paigebond.com/calm-the-chaos-jealousy-workbook-download⁠⁠

Free People Pleasing Workbook: 

⁠⁠https://www.paigebond.com/people-pleasing-workbook⁠⁠

Disclaimer: This podcast and communication through our email are not meant to serve as professional advice or therapy. If you are in need of mental health support, you are encouraged to connect with a licensed mental health professional to receive the support needed.

Mental Health Resources: National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255SAMHSA’s National Helpline: 1-800-662-HELP (4357)Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741 for free, 24/7 crisis counseling.

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This episodes features a solo episode with your host, Paige Bond, LMFT who provides premarital therapy for couples. 

You'll learn about:

Paige Bond is the host of the Stubborn Love podcast, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, and the Creator of the Jealousy to Joy Journey. Her mission is to help people-pleasing millennials navigate non-monogamy so they can tame their jealousy and love with ease.

Want to learn ten effective strategies to calm your jealousy in less time than it takes to finish your morning coffee ☕ ⏰?  Download Now at www.paigebond.com/calm-the-chaos-jealousy-workbook-download

Disclaimer: This podcast and communication through our email are not meant to serve as professional advice or therapy. If you are in need of mental health support, you are encouraged to connect with a licensed mental health professional to receive the support needed.

Mental Health Resources: National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255 SAMHSA’s National Helpline: 1-800-662-HELP (4357) Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741 for free, 24/7 crisis counseling.

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Accelerated Resolutions for Heartbreak uses brain-based procedures that involve imagined exposure, image replacement, somatic focus, eye movements, and hypnosis—memory reconsolidation steps to change how the brain stores an emotional memory.

Key takeaways from the episode:

Dr. Elizabeth Michas is a licensed clinical psychologist who has helped thousands of people recover from abusive relationships and heartbreak by transforming their emotional pain and trauma with brain-based perspectives and interventional methods to play the brain for change. 

She is an expert in the neuropsychology of change, brain-based hypnotherapy, and eye-movement reprocessing processes for the rapid resolution of post-romantic distress, anxiety, trauma, love addiction, grief, and heartbreak.

Noteworthy quotes from this episode:

[04:00] "But with a therapist, they're like stabilizing the problem, validating them and people were getting more stuck and sometimes dropping out of therapy and saying therapy isn't working for me. You know, “I'm just more obsessed with my ex. I'm not getting over it. I don't want to date.” And so these newer technologies, like using eye movement reprocessing and also hypnosis were doing something different when it came to the brain processing and responding and memory."

[27:00] "So you're not choosing to be a negative thinker or have a negativity bias. It's a feature of how your brain operates, you're just getting played by it."

Connect with Elizabeth

https://drelizabethmichas.com/

Join the Facebook Group - Rapid Recovery from Heartbreak

FREE 7 tips for Healing Heartbreak Video

FREE Are you Lovestuck? Quiz 

Intro Video for Healing Heartbreak and Discount Coupon

Connect with Paige Bond

Instagram: @paigebondcoaching

Facebook: @paigebondcoaching

TikTok: @paigebondcoaching

Website: https://paigebond.com

Paige Bond hosts the Stubborn Love podcast, is a Licensed Marriage Therapist, and a Polyamory Relationship Coach. Her mission is to help people-pleasing millennials navigate non-monogamy so they can tame their jealousy and love with ease. Her own journey from feeling lonely, insecure, and jealous to feeling empowered and reassured is what fuels her passion to help other people-pleasers to conquer jealousy and embrace love.

Free Jealousy Workbook: 

⁠⁠http://www.paigebond.com/calm-the-chaos-jealousy-workbook-download⁠⁠

Free People Pleasing Workbook: 

⁠⁠https://www.paigebond.com/people-pleasing-workbook⁠⁠

Disclaimer: This podcast and communication through our email are not meant to serve as professional advice or therapy. If you are in need of mental health support, you are encouraged to connect with a licensed mental health professional to receive the support needed.

Mental Health Resources: National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255SAMHSA’s National Helpline: 1-800-662-HELP (4357)Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741 for free, 24/7 crisis counseling.

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Summary

Accelerated Resolution Therapy (ART) can be used in healing relational trauma and promoting personal growth. Discover how ART uses bilateral stimulation to move stuck images, sensations, and emotions in the brain, allowing individuals to find relief, gain a new perspective, and create healthier, more fulfilling relationships.

Key takeaways from the episode:

Allison is licensed as an LICSW in MN, Texas and Wisconsin.  She practices out of Minnesota and is passionate about helping people live their best lives.  Allison specializes in working with high achieving adults who have a history of childhood trauma, both big and little t traumas.  She uses an eclectic blend of mind, body, spirit interventions as well as Accelerated Resolution Therapy (ART), a smooth pursuit eye movement therapy. ART clears bothersome sensations and emotions in the body and brain.  

Allison is passionate about helping people heal the root cause of their challenges, whether that results from childhood trauma or a traumatic experience that occurred later in life.  More often than not, these traumatic experiences result in challenges which strain or fracture relationships with others, and or the self, throughout the lifespan. 

Noteworthy quotes from this episode:

[30:20] "ART is like you're not really doing anything different. It's just you're letting someone guide you through helping you allow your brain to move that stuff into the right spot. So you're not just sitting there on your hamster wheel."

[18:23] "It's like when we have trauma... It's like the furnace is always running in the background. It never shuts off. And then when it finally shuts off, it's like this different level of peace. It's quiet and gentle and clean in some way, like light. [That’s what ART can do.]"

Connect with Allison 

Website - ⁠https://www.allisonkirk.net/about⁠

Connect with Paige Bond

Instagram: ⁠@paigebondcoaching⁠

Facebook: ⁠@paigebondcoaching⁠

Website: ⁠www.paigebond.com⁠

Paige Bond hosts the Stubborn Love podcast, is a Licensed Marriage Therapist, and a Polyamory Relationship Coach. Her mission is to help people-pleasing millennials navigate non-monogamy so they can tame their jealousy and love with ease. Her own journey from feeling lonely, insecure, and jealous to feeling empowered and reassured is what fuels her passion to help other people-pleasers to conquer jealousy and embrace love.

Free Jealousy Workbook: 

⁠⁠⁠http://www.paigebond.com/calm-the-chaos-jealousy-workbook-download⁠⁠⁠

Free People Pleasing Workbook: 

⁠⁠⁠https://www.paigebond.com/people-pleasing-workbook⁠⁠⁠

Disclaimer: This podcast and communication through our email are not meant to serve as professional advice or therapy. If you are in need of mental health support, you are encouraged to connect with a licensed mental health professional to receive the support needed.

Mental Health Resources: National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255SAMHSA’s National Helpline: 1-800-662-HELP (4357)Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741 for free, 24/7 crisis counseling.

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Summary

Accelerated Resolution Therapy (ART) can be used in healing relational trauma and promoting personal growth. Discover how ART uses bilateral stimulation to move stuck images, sensations, and emotions in the brain, allowing individuals to find relief, gain a new perspective, and create healthier, more fulfilling relationships.

Key takeaways from the episode:

Allison is licensed as an LICSW in MN, Texas and Wisconsin.  She practices out of Minnesota and is passionate about helping people live their best lives.  Allison specializes in working with high achieving adults who have a history of childhood trauma, both big and little t traumas.  She uses an eclectic blend of mind, body, spirit interventions as well as Accelerated Resolution Therapy (ART), a smooth pursuit eye movement therapy. ART clears bothersome sensations and emotions in the body and brain.  

Allison is passionate about helping people heal the root cause of their challenges, whether that results from childhood trauma or a traumatic experience that occurred later in life.  More often than not, these traumatic experiences result in challenges which strain or fracture relationships with others, and or the self, throughout the lifespan. 

Noteworthy quotes from this episode:

[30:20] "ART is like you're not really doing anything different. It's just you're letting someone guide you through helping you allow your brain to move that stuff into the right spot. So you're not just sitting there on your hamster wheel."

[18:23] "It's like when we have trauma... It's like the furnace is always running in the background. It never shuts off. And then when it finally shuts off, it's like this different level of peace. It's quiet and gentle and clean in some way, like light. [That’s what ART can do.]"

Connect with Allison 

Website - https://www.allisonkirk.net/about

Connect with Paige Bond

Instagram: @paigebondcoaching

Facebook: @paigebondcoaching

Website: www.paigebond.com

Paige Bond hosts the Stubborn Love podcast, is a Licensed Marriage Therapist, and a Polyamory Relationship Coach. Her mission is to help people-pleasing millennials navigate non-monogamy so they can tame their jealousy and love with ease. Her own journey from feeling lonely, insecure, and jealous to feeling empowered and reassured is what fuels her passion to help other people-pleasers to conquer jealousy and embrace love.

Free Jealousy Workbook: 

⁠⁠http://www.paigebond.com/calm-the-chaos-jealousy-workbook-download⁠⁠

Free People Pleasing Workbook: 

⁠⁠https://www.paigebond.com/people-pleasing-workbook⁠⁠

Disclaimer: This podcast and communication through our email are not meant to serve as professional advice or therapy. If you are in need of mental health support, you are encouraged to connect with a licensed mental health professional to receive the support needed.

Mental Health Resources: National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255SAMHSA’s National Helpline: 1-800-662-HELP (4357)Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741 for free, 24/7 crisis counseling.

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Summary

Annie Robershaw shares her personal narrative and unveils the Dare to Dream process. Tune in to explore how to craft a self-fulfilling life, shatter societal expectations, and the importance of having a clear vision that can lead to unexpected magic.

Key takeaways from the episode:

She is also a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in private practice, a Certified EMDR Therapist, and an EMDRIA Approved Consultant providing support and mentorship to emerging EMDR therapists in private practice.

Noteworthy quotes from this episode:

[7:43] "[People] who are child free by choice are really asked to justify their decision over and over and over again. And that there's something about child free women that makes certain people uncomfortable. That somehow our existence isn't enough, just as it is. Like somehow we're not worthy of being, without justifying our existence by who we care for."

[32:57]"I think as a fellow people pleaser, it's revolutionary to get cozy and familiar with the word no. And when you realize, oh, actually some really great things happen when you say no is, is even more shocking when you go down that path and that the no's actually lead to more magical enhanced yeses."

Connect with Annie

Delightfully Free: https://annierobershaw.com

Dare to Dream FREE Guide and Meditation: https://www.annierobershaw.com/dare-to-dream-meditation

Instagram:

Connect with Paige Bond

Instagram: @paigebondcoaching

Facebook: @paigebondcoaching

Website: https://www.paigebond.com

Paige Bond hosts the Stubborn Love podcast, is a Licensed Marriage Therapist, and a Polyamory Relationship Coach. Her mission is to help people-pleasing millennials navigate non-monogamy so they can tame their jealousy and love with ease. Her own journey from feeling lonely, insecure, and jealous to feeling empowered and reassured is what fuels her passion to help other people-pleasers to conquer jealousy and embrace love.

Free Jealousy Workbook:

⁠⁠http://www.paigebond.com/calm-the-chaos-jealousy-workbook-download⁠⁠

Free People Pleasing Workbook:

⁠⁠https://www.paigebond.com/people-pleasing-workbook⁠⁠

Disclaimer: This podcast and communication through our email are not meant to serve as professional advice or therapy. If you are in need of mental health support, you are encouraged to connect with a licensed mental health professional to receive the support needed.

Mental Health Resources: National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255SAMHSA’s National Helpline: 1-800-662-HELP (4357)Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741 for free, 24/7 crisis counseling.

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Struggling to snooze in your open relationship? Dive into how sleep and non-monogamy collide in this chat with therapist and sleep expert, Savannah Hipes. Get ready for sleep tips that'll make you want to dream on!

Key takeaways from the episode:

Savannah Hipes is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and Behavioral Sleep Medicine provider. She uses evidence-based treatments to equip clients with specific tools for changing their sleep patterns. She helps clients try unique strategies that teach their brain and body how to sleep again. Whether it’s Insomnia or persistent Nightmares, she’s there to help retrain your mind and body so you can get the rest you deserve.

Noteworthy quotes from this episode:

[36:15] "Is it [anxiety] worse when you're tired? If it is, then maybe sleep should be something that we prioritize as a method of helping you work through your anxieties and your difficult thoughts.."

[38:22] “Testosterone is usually released when you first go to sleep, that's when it kind of primarily is being released and it hits a peak when you hit your first REM cycle of sleep… So if you're delaying that sleep by multiple hours, you're really delaying that testosterone release and over time, it actually just goes down.”

Connect with Savannah

Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/savannahhipeslcsw

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/savannahhipeslcsw/

Website - https://www.savannahhipeslcsw.com/

Connect with Paige Bond

Instagram: @paigebondcoaching

Facebook: @paigebondcoaching

Website: www.paigebond.com

Paige Bond hosts the Stubborn Love podcast, is a Licensed Marriage Therapist, and a Polyamory Relationship Coach. Her mission is to help people-pleasing millennials navigate non-monogamy so they can tame their jealousy and love with ease. Her own journey from feeling lonely, insecure, and jealous to feeling empowered and reassured is what fuels her passion to help other people-pleasers to conquer jealousy and embrace love.

Free Jealousy Workbook: 

⁠⁠http://www.paigebond.com/calm-the-chaos-jealousy-workbook-download⁠⁠

Free People Pleasing Workbook: 

⁠⁠https://www.paigebond.com/people-pleasing-workbook⁠⁠

Disclaimer: This podcast and communication through our email are not meant to serve as professional advice or therapy. If you are in need of mental health support, you are encouraged to connect with a licensed mental health professional to receive the support needed.

Mental Health Resources:National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255SAMHSA’s National Helpline: 1-800-662-HELP (4357)Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741 for free, 24/7 crisis counseling.

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Summary

Not sure how to express what you want in your open relationship as you navigate polyamory, swinging, or some other CNM dynamic? We get down to business talking about how you can ditch people-pleasing so you can feel empowered in expressing yourself without sacrificing your desires or preferences.

In this episode, you’ll learn about:

Vicki Smith is a licensed psychotherapist and a coach who specializes in people pleasing and perfectionism. She enjoys working with these issues because she loves seeing people discover their true nature and then share it with the world. Her mission is to help folks not just TALK ABOUT the life they’ve always wanted, but to actually start LIVING IT OUT!

Noteworthy quotes from this episode:

[25:54] "Boundaries are scary because first we don't know what we want... and then we feel like there's gonna be conflict."

[24:41] “I believe that most of us pleasers white knuckle our way through boundaries and we hope that we really don't have to have a conversation with someone. We hope we can just kind of plop it out there and that person understands and takes it and says, ‘oh, yes, of course.’ The thing that keeps us from speaking up is we are afraid of staying in the conversation.”

Connect with Vicki

Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100075839538976

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/power.to.the.pleasers/

Website -  https://powertothepleasers.com

Podcast - https://powertothepleasers.com/podcast/

Connect with Paige Bond

Instagram: @paigebondcoaching

Facebook: @paigebondcoaching

Website: www.paigebond.com

Paige Bond hosts the Stubborn Love podcast, is a Licensed Marriage Therapist, and is a Polyamory Relationship Coach. Her mission is to help people-pleasing millennials navigate non-monogamy so they can tame their jealousy and love with ease. Her own journey from feeling lonely, insecure, and jealous to feeling empowered and reassured is what fuels her passion to help other people-pleasers to conquer jealousy and embrace love.

Free Jealousy Workbook: 

⁠⁠http://www.paigebond.com/calm-the-chaos-jealousy-workbook-download⁠⁠

Free People Pleasing Workbook: 

⁠⁠https://www.paigebond.com/people-pleasing-workbook⁠⁠

Disclaimer: This podcast and communication through our email are not meant to serve as professional advice or therapy. If you are in need of mental health support, you are encouraged to connect with a licensed mental health professional to receive the support needed.

Mental Health Resources:National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255SAMHSA’s National Helpline: 1-800-662-HELP (4357)Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741 for free, 24/7 crisis counseling.
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Summary

Who are you and what do YOU really want? Carrie’s mission is to spread the message about how relationship diversity can transform your relationships.

In this episode, you’ll learn about:

International Best-Selling Author, Relationship Diversity Advocate and Podcast Creator, Carrie Jeroslow, teaches people the tools to relate consciously to themselves and others. 

She is the host of Relationship Diversity Podcast, where she aims to explore, question, and celebrate all aspects of relationship structure diversity from soloamory to monogamy to polyamory, and everything in between. This is an inclusive space, giving people the permission to design their unique relationships from the knowledge and acceptance of their unique selves. She believes that when we learn and accept who we truly are, we are able to be more authentic in our relationships with others, bringing an unparalleled sense of joyfulness and fulfillment to our lives as a whole.

Noteworthy quotes from this episode:

"I think people judge their own journey and they think that if I'm not able to do it right now, when there is no right or wrong, if I'm not able to do it in that way, then something's wrong with me."

"Healing has the connotation that something's wrong and something needs to be fixed. Whereas remembering is a process of knowing that innately I am perfect and beautiful and I was born that way and there was all these things that happened in my journey that covered that up. So it's a process of allowing the clouds to clear, to see the sun."

"We are brainwashed to think that...my life happens to me and I don't have any part of this."

Connect with Carrie

Podcast: www.relationshipdiversitypodcast.com (Sign up to receive a free guide to exploring Relationship Diversity) 

Website: www.carriejeroslow.com 

IG: https://www.instagram.com/carrie_jeroslow_author_coach/

Connect with Paige Bond

Instagram: @paigebondcoaching

Facebook: @paigebondcoaching

Website: www.paigebond.com

Paige Bond hosts the Stubborn Love podcast, is a Licensed Marriage Therapist, and is a Polyamory Relationship Coach. Her mission is to help people-pleasing millennials navigate non-monogamy so they can tame their jealousy and love with ease. Her own journey from feeling lonely, insecure, and jealous to feeling empowered and reassured is what fuels her passion to help other people-pleasers to conquer jealousy and embrace love.

Free Jealousy Workbook: 

⁠⁠http://www.paigebond.com/calm-the-chaos-jealousy-workbook-download⁠⁠

Free People Pleasing Workbook: 

⁠⁠https://www.paigebond.com/people-pleasing-workbook⁠⁠

Disclaimer: This podcast and communication through our email are not meant to serve as professional advice or therapy. If you are in need of mental health support, you are encouraged to connect with a licensed mental health professional to receive the support needed.

Mental Health Resources:National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255SAMHSA’s National Helpline: 1-800-662-HELP (4357)Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741 for free, 24/7 crisis counseling.

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