In this episode of The Addicted Mind Plus, Eric and Duane Osterlind delve into the concept of attachment and its critical role in recovery from addiction. They discuss the different types of attachment styles—secure, anxious, dismissive, and fearful—and how these styles impact our ability to form healthy relationships. By understanding your attachment style, you can improve your relationships and strengthen your recovery journey. Tune in to learn how early childhood attachments shape your adult life and get practical tips to build better connections. Join us for a deeper dive into this powerful topic and find out how you can take actionable steps toward healing.

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Key Topics

- The importance of understanding attachment in addiction recovery.

- Different attachment styles: secure, anxious, dismissive, and fearful.

- How early childhood experiences shape adult relationships.

- Practical tips for improving relationship skills in recovery.

- The connection between attachment styles and forming a supportive community.

Timestamps

1. [00:02:01] - Introduction to the importance of attachment in recovery.

2. [00:05:00] - Historical background of attachment theory by John Bowlby.

3. [00:07:00] - Explanation of secure attachment.

4. [00:08:05] - Anxious or preoccupied attachment style.

5. [00:09:40] - Dismissive attachment and its impact on relationships.

6. [00:11:00] - Fearful avoidant or disorganized attachment.

7. [00:13:00] - Stan Tacken’s perspective on attachment styles.

Engaging Quotes

• Eric Osterlind: "It's so important to reflect on this and really figure out which attachment style you are."  

   *Encourages listeners to engage in self-reflection, which is a key step in personal development.

Episode Credits: Music by Magiksolo and Lesfm from Pixabay

In this episode of The Addicted Mind Plus, Eric and Duane Osterlind dive into the groundbreaking ACEs (Adverse Childhood Experiences) study. This research revealed how childhood trauma significantly impacts mental, physical, and emotional health in adulthood. By exploring the origins, findings, and implications of the study, they discuss how early experiences of abuse, neglect, and household dysfunction shape our lives. The episode also provides practical steps for recognizing and addressing these traumas, offering hope and tools for those struggling with addiction and mental health issues. Join us to understand the profound connection between childhood experiences and adult well-being.

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Key Topics

- Introduction to the ACEs study and its significance.

- Types of adverse childhood experiences (abuse, neglect, household dysfunction).

- The impact of ACEs on adult mental and physical health.

- Recognizing hidden forms of trauma and their long-term effects.

- Practical steps for healing from childhood trauma.

Timestamps

1. [00:01:00] – Introduction and significance of the ACEs study.

2. [00:02:28] – History and inception of the ACEs study by Dr. Vincent Felitti.

3. [00:04:21] – Types of adverse childhood experiences.

4. [00:06:25] – Impact of ACEs on adult health and well-being.

5. [00:09:38] – Recognizing hidden forms of trauma.

6. [00:13:23] – Steps to address and heal from childhood trauma.

7. [00:17:11] – Summary and resources for further help.

Engaging Quote

Eric Osterlind: "Recognizing trauma helps us break out of denial and understand how these experiences impact our adult lives."

   - This quote underscores the importance of awareness and acknowledgment in the healing process, resonating with those who might be in denial about their past traumas.

Episode Credits: Music by Magiksolo and Lesfm from Pixabay

In this episode of Stuck Brain, hosts Eric Osterlind and Duane Osterlind explore the transformative power of routines in recovery. They discuss how establishing a daily routine can bring stability to the chaotic early and mid-stages of recovery and how it can even benefit long-term wellness. By setting a routine, individuals can reduce anxiety, improve sleep cycles, and create a positive structure that supports their goals. The hosts also debunk common myths about routines and provide practical tips to overcome roadblocks. Whether you’re just starting your recovery journey or looking to strengthen your long-term stability, this episode offers valuable insights and actionable advice.

Download the eBook “Stability Routine for Early Recovery: Transforming Chaos into a Safe Daily Routine”

Key Topics

• Importance of setting a daily routine in recovery
• Debunking myths about routines being boring and rigid
• Simple steps to start a routine and keep it flexible
• Addressing roadblocks like negative self-talk and burnout
• The role of accountability in maintaining a routine

Key Moments

1. [00:01:00] - Introduction to the topic of routines in recovery

2. [00:02:00] - Definition and benefits of a routine

3. [00:03:29] - The importance of a morning routine

4. [00:05:30] - Debunking myths about routines

5. [00:08:56] - Flexibility and simplicity in routines

6. [00:11:00] - Overcoming roadblocks in setting routines

7. [00:13:47] - The importance of accountability

Episode Credits: Music by Magiksolo and Lesfm from Pixabay

In this episode of Stuck Brain, hosts Eric and Duane Osterlind explore the profound connection between grief and addiction recovery. Using Elizabeth Kübler-Ross's five stages of grief—denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance—they discuss how these stages apply to the emotional process of giving up an addiction. Many people don't realize that overcoming addiction involves grieving the loss of the substance that has been a significant part of their lives. By understanding and embracing these stages, individuals can move more effectively through their recovery journey. Tune in to learn how recognizing and processing grief can lead to a deeper sense of acceptance and a more fulfilling life in recovery.

Download the worksheet here “NAVIGATING GRIEF AND LOSS IN RECOVERY”

Key Topics

• The five stages of grief and their application to addiction recovery
• The hidden grief of giving up addiction
• Emotional challenges and identity loss in recovery
• The non-linear nature of the grief process
• Tools and support for navigating grief in recovery

Key Moments

1. [00:01:00] Introduction to the topic of grief in recovery

2. [00:02:00] Discussion on the grief of giving up an addiction

3. [00:04:00] Explanation of the five stages of grief

4. [00:06:30] Deep dive into the anger stage and its impact

5. [00:09:00] Exploring the depression stage and identity loss

6. [00:11:30] Moving towards acceptance and its significance in recovery

7. [00:14:10] Announcement of the worksheet and deeper dive session

Episode Credits: Music by Magiksolo and Lesfm from Pixabay

In this episode of “The Addictive Mind Plus,” hosts Eric and Duane Osterlind dive into the transformative power of the Three Circle Plan, a vital tool for those battling both substance and behavioral addictions. They discuss the importance of defining sobriety, identifying risky behaviors, and incorporating positive activities into daily life. By creating a clear and personalized plan, listeners can navigate their recovery journey with greater clarity and confidence. The episode also highlights the launch of a new course designed to help individuals create their own Three Circle Plan, providing step-by-step guidance and support.

Get the Course -> Circles of Sobriety: Mastering Your Recovery With the Complete Circle Plan

Key Topics

• Understanding the Three Circle Plan for Addiction Recovery
• Defining sobriety with the inner circle (red zone)
• Recognizing warning signs in the middle circle (yellow zone)
• Incorporating positive behaviors in the outer circle (green zone)
• Adding a relational component with the fourth circle (blue zone)

Timestamp

• [00:01:00] Introduction to the Three Circle Plan
• [00:03:00] Defining sobriety with the inner circle
• [00:07:26] Recognizing warning signs with the middle circle
• [00:10:04] Incorporating positive behaviors with the outer circle
• [00:13:58] Importance of writing down your plan
• [00:15:08] Introducing the fourth circle for relational impact
• [00:16:46] Details about the new course on creating a circle plan

Quotes

Eric Osterlind: "If you do this work, you're going to gain clarity around your behavioral patterns that lead to relapse."

   - Why it's good: Promises a tangible benefit of doing the work, motivating listeners to take the process seriously.

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Course link:

https://addictedmind.samcart.com/products/circle-plan/

Episode Credits: Music by Magiksolo and Lesfm from Pixabay

In this engaging episode of "Stuck Brain," host Eric Osterlind explores the transformative concept of meaning-making. Following up on their previous discussion about values, this episode dives deeper into how understanding and aligning with our deepest values can energize our life's journey. The hosts discuss practical strategies from dialectical behavior therapy and insights from Thomas Mara to illustrate how individuals can reshape their lives around what truly matters. Whether you're battling addictions, anxiety, or just seeking deeper fulfillment, this episode offers valuable insights into overcoming life's psychological hurdles through intentional living.

Download: THE CREATING MEANING MAKING WORKSHEET

Key Topics

• Integration of Values and Meaning: How values serve as a compass and meaning provides the momentum.
• Role of Meaning in Mental Health: Exploring its impact on recovery, anxiety, and depression.
• Strategies for Meaning Making: Practical approaches to integrate meaningful actions into daily life.
• Challenges to Meaning Making: Common obstacles like fear and disapproval and how to navigate them.
• Empowerment through Meaning: Using meaning-making to lead a more intentional and satisfying life.

Timestamps

• [00:01:00] Introduction to Meaning Making
• [00:02:00] How Meaning and Values Interact
• [00:05:00] Meaning in Relation to Mental Health (Addiction and Depression)
• [00:08:00] Practical Strategies for Applying Meaning
• [00:10:00] Discussing Supreme Concerns and Everyday Integration
• [00:13:00] Overcoming Obstacles in Meaning Making
• [00:15:00] Conclusion and Resources

Episode Credits: Music by Magiksolo and Lesfm from Pixabay

Join hosts Eric and Duane Osterlind in this enlightening episode of "The Stuck Brain," where they explore the vital role of values in achieving a harmonious and fulfilling life. Understanding and defining your values is likened to setting a rudder on your life's boat, guiding you through the storms of stress, guilt, and dissatisfaction that come from living out of alignment with your true self. The conversation dives deep into how values serve as a North Star, aiding those in recovery or anyone seeking stability to make intentional, value-driven choices rather than reactive ones. This episode is essential for anyone feeling stuck or purposeless, offering practical advice on defining and realigning what's truly important.

Download the worksheet: Building a Life & Recovery Guided by Your Values Worksheet

Key Topics

- The importance of knowing and aligning with your personal values

- How values act as a guiding light in life, preventing feelings of meaninglessness

- The dynamic nature of values and the need to reassess them over time

- Common pitfalls when values are unclear or unexamined

- Practical steps for identifying and living according to your values

Key Moments

- [00:01:00] Introduction to the importance of values in life

- [00:02:00] Discussion on how misaligned values can lead to life dissatisfaction

- [00:04:00] The benefits of living a value-driven life in recovery

- [00:06:00] How emotional reactions can derail us from our value system

- [00:09:00] Strategies for defining and aligning with personal values

- [00:11:00] The impact of values on decision-making in various life areas

- [00:14:00] Conclusion and resources for further exploration of values

Engaging Quotes

Eric Osterlind: "Values change as you age and life circumstances change."

  - **Why It's Engaging**: Highlights the dynamic nature of personal values, prompting listeners to continually reassess their own.

If you're feeling trapped in a never-ending cycle of worry and fear, constantly seeking reassurance but never finding lasting relief, then you are not alone! Despite your efforts to find peace, anxiety continues to hold you captive, robbing you of joy and freedom. It's frustrating and exhausting, but there is hope for understanding and managing this relentless adversary.

In this episode, you will be able to:

• Understand the purpose of anxiety and how it has helped humans survive challenging situations.
• Learn how to effectively manage anxiety in today's modern world, where invisible threats are ever-present.
• Discover why avoidance strategies, such as substance use or overworking, are counterproductive and learn better alternatives.
• Explore common avoidance techniques, including excessive exercise, and their impact on anxiety management.
• Gain insight into strategies for managing anxiety, such as leaning into it, practicing curiosity, and using deep breathing techniques.

Understand the purpose of anxiety

Anxiety serves a crucial purpose as a survival instinct in humans. It acts as a signal for potential threats, prompting us to act accordingly. Understanding this function of anxiety and its fundamental role in our evolutionary history is vital to managing it effectively.

The resources mentioned in this episode are:

• Visit EricOsterlind.com for more on anxiety treatments.
• Visit the website of the DSM (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders) to learn more about anxiety disorders and their symptoms.
• Consider seeking professional help from a mental health provider if you suspect you have anxiety or need support in managing it.

Episode Credits: Music by Magiksolo and Lesfm from Pixabay

In this vital episode of Stuck Brain, Eric and Duane dive into the critical topic of relapse prevention and planning. They stress the importance of being proactive rather than reactive when it comes to maintaining sobriety. The duo discusses how a well-thought-out relapse plan can significantly reduce the overwhelming feelings of anxiety and defeat that often accompany recovery. They also emphasize that making a plan during moments of clarity and health is essential. By incorporating practical strategies, such as identifying triggers and outlining coping mechanisms, listeners are equipped with tools to navigate challenging situations effectively. This episode is not only a guide but also an encouragement for anyone struggling with addiction to take control and prepare for the future.

"If you put a plan in place, you can let that rumination about relapse go." - Eric Osterlind

   - Emphasizes mental peace that comes from being prepared, which can reassure listeners.

Key Topics

• The critical importance of a relapse prevention plan
• Identifying and preparing for triggers
• The role of emotional and situational awareness in relapse
• Strategies for immediate response to cravings
• Building a support network as part of the relapse plan

Key Moments

• [00:01:06] Discussion begins on the significance of relapse prevention.
• [00:02:22] Explaining the high risk of relapse and the best time to prepare.
• [00:03:15] The proactive benefits of planning are discussed.
• [00:06:32] The value of a support network in relapse prevention.
• [00:10:00] Detailed guidance on creating a personal relapse plan.
• [00:16:48] Conclusion and resources for listeners to create their own plan.

Episode Credits:

Music by Magiksolo and Lesfm from Pixabay

In this exciting episode of Stuck Brain, hosts Eric and Duane dive into the fascinating world of the Johari Window, a powerful tool for enhancing self-awareness and understanding in relationships. They explore how this simple yet profound model can illuminate the various aspects of ourselves—what we know, what we don't know, and what others see in us. From discussing how to navigate personal blind spots to the significance of revealing hidden strengths, this episode is packed with insights on improving communication, recovery, and personal growth. Whether you're on a quest for self-discovery or aiming to deepen your connections with others, this episode offers valuable strategies to expand your open area, embracing both the visible and hidden parts of your identity.

Download: The Johari Window Worksheet

Key Topics:

• The basics and importance of the Johari Window in self-awareness.
• Strategies for exploring and expanding the open area of the Johari Window.
• The role of recovery communities in identifying and addressing blind spots.
• The impact of self-awareness on personal growth and recovery.
• How to safely navigate the hidden and unknown areas of ourselves.

Key Moments:

• - [00:00:00] Introduction to the episode and significance of the Johari Window.
• - [00:01:34] Explanation of how self-awareness affects decision-making and relationships.
• - [00:02:46] The Johari Window as a tool for recovery and growth.
• - [00:03:46] Detailed breakdown of each quadrant in the Johari Window.
• - [00:07:29] Discussing the hidden area and its impact on personal and relational dynamics.
• - [00:11:03] Exploration of the unknown quadrant and its mysteries.
• - [00:14:06] Conclusion and resources for applying the Johari Window to one's life.

Episode Credits:

Music by Magiksolo and Lesfm from Pixabay