Success Matters

Somewhere inside, you can feel that what the world calls success is not enough, and a quieter voice keeps asking, “But why doesn’t this feel the way it should?”

In this episode of Success Matters, I speak with communication expert and author Sandy Gerber about what happens when your life looks impressive on the outside, yet feels misaligned on the inside. Sandy had the big clients, the fancy office and the awards, but her closest relationships were strained, and she felt like she was living a double life. That discomfort sent her on a ten year journey into communication, behaviour and emotional intelligence that transformed both her work and her personal life.

We also explore three practical shifts you can use right away:

• Learn your communication blockers. Notice when you interrupt someone’s story to make it about you, then practise staying curious and present instead.

• Discover your Emotional Magnets. Sandy’s work distills our core emotional drivers into four “Emotional Magnets”: Safety, Achievement, Value and Experience (SAVE). One or two tend to drive most of your decisions at work and at home, from the roles you choose to the way you spend your time.

• Redefine success as impact, not image. Success becomes less about revenue and recognition, and more about meaningful change in other people’s lives.

If you have ever wondered why achievement alone does not always feel fulfilling, this conversation will help you rethink communication, connection and what success really means.

What are your Emotional Magnets?

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Success is not just money or status, it is the freedom to choose how you live, work and contribute.

Some days success looks like escape and reinvention. Other days it is having the courage to choose your own path without letting fear drive your decisions.

In this Success Matters episode, I speak with change and leadership expert Giorgia Prestento about how to build a life and career on your terms instead of following a script written by family, culture or corporate life.

Giorgia grew up shy in a small Italian village, then reshaped her identity through moves to London, Spain, Australia, Cairo and beyond, and now defines success as independence and the freedom to experiment with how and where she lives and works.

We explore practical strategies for navigating change, career transitions and purpose driven work, including:

• Treating your life as an experiment not an exam, running small tests like two week pilots of new ways of working or living, then using the data to refine your next step.

• Hunting for blind spots and “black swan” style risks so that change is thoughtful not chaotic, and asking where you might be underestimating the impact of change on yourself and others.

• Doing less with more intention by choosing one key goal per quarter, then aligning your projects and weekly actions to three meaningful outcomes instead of trying to do everything at once.

When you frame your choices as experiments and your results as data, you create room to change country, shift career, travel while working or redefine success around freedom, contribution or education rather than titles and appearances.

If you are in the middle of change and you want a grounded, honest conversation about purpose, fear and designing a life that actually fits you, tune in to this Success Matters episode with Giorgia Prestento.

At the end of the episode I invite you to take a short 2 minute “Change Readiness” assessment to reveal how prepared you are to lead through change rather than chase it. You will receive personalised results, readiness scores and a complimentary digital copy of Giorgia’s book Master the Change Maze.

Take the assessment here: https://giorgia-change.scoreapp.com.

In this week’s episode of Success Matters I speak with coach and former global executive Anita Cavrag about what happens when the life you fought to create no longer feels like a life you actually want. Anita shares her journey from growing up in post war poverty in Croatia, without running water and in an abusive home, to winning international scholarships, building a global career, then walking away from the corporate path to coach founders and leaders who feel successful on paper but strangely empty inside.​

We explore three powerful invitations for high achievers, founders and leaders.

1. Redefine your relationship with success and failure. For years Anita saw only success or failure, where anything less than perfect was unacceptable, which kept her playing not to lose instead of creating the life she truly wanted. Her shift, see lack of results as “not yet” rather than “I have failed” and treat your business as a series of experiments instead of a constant exam.

2. Stop building new prisons that look like freedom. After leaving corporate life Anita noticed that many founders quietly recreate the same toxic relationship with work inside their own business. Hitting the numbers while feeling exhausted, resentful and disconnected is only partial success. The real game is to design a business that is financially healthy and emotionally sustainable, where you experience what Anita calls “good tired” instead of the kind of tired that makes you want to burn everything down.

3. Renegotiate the hidden agreements you have with yourself. Anita unpacks the “secret agreements” that quietly run our lives, like “If I get rejected it means I am not good enough and I should never try this again.” She has consciously rewritten that to “Rejection is feedback that helps me communicate my value better” which has opened up new opportunities, braver conversations and far less suffering.​

If you are a founder, entrepreneur or leader who is doing well by external measures yet quietly wondering “Is this it” this conversation will help you make sense of that feeling and start to create a richer definition of success that includes money, meaning, relationships, love, service and a life that actually feels like yours.

Listen to the episode and ask yourself, “What agreement have I made with myself that no longer serves the life I want to create?” Then download the free guide to discover the number one reason why founders like you feel miserable in their business even though they are successful, and what it takes to light that spark again so you can keep growing without killing yourself in the process.​

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Some days it feels like your life unravelled when you were not looking and you are left wondering how you ended up here, carrying grief, complicated relationships and a quiet fear that you might never really feel whole.

In this episode of Success Matters, I sit down with Dawn Lucht, a woman who has walked through the death of her daughter, an abusive marriage and the slow rebuilding of a self she could finally trust. Her story is not about perfection. It is about choosing, again and again, not to let the darkest moments extinguish her inner spark.

In this real, vulnerable conversation about grief, victimhood, growth mindset and the quiet courage it takes to stop lying to yourself at three in the morning Dawn shares how she moved from disempowerment to a life that feels peaceful, connected and genuinely her own.

1. Get radically curious about yourself

 When you are stuck in a suffering loop, you repeat the same patterns and hope for different results. Dawn talks about using self‑reflection as a circuit breaker: notice your patterns, name them and ask, “What am I doing that keeps creating this?” then commit to changing even one small behaviour this week.

2. Learn the landscape you are living in

 Dawn did not just “power through”. She educated herself about attachment, abuse and boundaries, and credits books and resources like Lundy Bancroft’s book “Why Does He Do That” with giving her language for what she was experiencing. Information became a way to reclaim power, to see that she was not “crazy”, just caught in a system she could step out of with the right support.

3. Reach out, you cannot do this alone

 One of the most painful parts of emotionally abusive dynamics is the isolation and shame. Dawn’s third non‑negotiable is to tell someone you trust “I am not all right, can you help me” and let yourself be supported as you make changes you might not yet believe you deserve.​

Today, Dawn coaches people through a framework that moves them from disconnection to inner trust, clearer boundaries and relationships that feel peaceful rather than like a war zone. For her, success now looks like sitting on the sofa with her partner and son, feeling deeply content and knowing that she has done the inner work to create a home filled with love, not fear.

If Dawn’s  message lands with you, share it with someone who needs a reminder that their story is not over yet.

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Growing up on a council estate, Felix Riley never expected his life to become a masterclass in courage, curiosity and doing work you actually love.

Felix's journey is extraordinary. From council estate kid to BBC comedy writer, City broker who sold his firm in 15 months, running a copper mine in Zambia, best selling author, and now moonshot strategist, he has zigzagged through extremes. Yet his real pivot came from questioning every narrative, sparked by a communist mentor who demanded intellectual rigour.

Felix cuts through hustle culture with brutal clarity. Success is not riches or fame; it is waking up excited to do what lights you up daily, whether as a strategist or a happy dustman. As a result of a divorce, he walked from a dream home to a bare studio flat and felt freer, proving belongings chain us while people and experiences liberate us.

Here are Felix’s top three actions to find purpose:

• Embrace failure as lessons. View every setback as fuel that forges character, like climbing a ladder of losses to wins, and get back up every time life knocks you down.

• Refuse fear of consequences. Walk from any unfulfilling situation because life is short, do not waste a day in the wrong place, and trust the worst outcome is survivable.

• Question everything. Reject imposed stories, start with a blank page on what you truly want, and act boldly in this era where imagination unlocks possibilities.

Listen now, connect with Felix at felixriley.com, and share what resonates in the comments below.

There are moments in life when you realise that you either stay broken by what happened to you, or you decide to grow from it.

In this episode of Success Matters, Frida Siage shares how being forced to leave war torn Syria aged 11, rebuilding a life in Lebanon through revolution and the Beirut explosion, and starting again in London shaped her definition of success, resilience and purpose.

Here are Frida’s three core actions for anyone trying to make sense of their life and find purpose:

• Build resilience that leads to growth. Do not aim just to endure. Use adversity to create hope and to rebuild a future you actually want.
  

• Get clear on your genuine purpose, then work backwards. For Frida, it is helping people and making an impact, especially for women in the Arab community, and every career decision now serves that mission.
  

• Treat doubt as a signal that you care. Confidence is not the absence of nerves, it is seeing an opportunity and choosing to step towards it anyway.
  

If you are wrestling with change, loss or uncertainty, Frida’s journey is a reminder that you can turn hardship into a guiding light for your life rather than a full stop. Tune in to hear how resilience, purpose and genuine leadership can transform the way you see your own path.

The world can change in an instant. One day you are healthy, strong and moving at full speed, the next, you are searching for answers that don’t come easily.

Dr Amrita Sen Mukherjee’s story is one of courage, self-discovery and service. In this episode of Success Matters, Amrita shares how her life was turned upside down by an invisible disability and how that journey taught her to rebuild, rethink and reconnect with what matters most.

These are the three takeaways she hopes you carry forward:

1. Nurture the relationship with yourself. In the rush of being productive and serving others, it’s easy to lose sight of your own needs and feelings. Carve out headspace, reflect and invest in self-awareness. Connection begins within.
   

2. See success beyond achievement. Amrita reminds us that real success is not found in status or accolades, but in cultivating happiness, safety and love both for yourself and the community around you. Practicing gratitude and offering compassion are markers of a fulfilled life.
   

3. Don’t be afraid to think differently. Whether it’s changing career paths, or standing up for what is fair and right, challenge fixed mindsets and celebrate your own growth. If you find yourself in a room where no one sees what you do, be willing to stand up and speak.
   

Her journey from mathematics and medicine to advocacy and positive psychology is proof that when life pauses the ‘doing’, the ‘being’ you choose next is what shapes your purpose.

Listen in and discover how you, too, can turn adversity into connection and meaning.

Speaking to Susanna Smith on this episode of Success Matters, I was reminded that purpose is found not in sudden breakthroughs but in our everyday choices.

Susanna shows real grit from her story of walking 3 miles to school every day despite being in pain to over-coming the challenges she faces today.I

f you are searching for meaning or trying to make sense of life’s sudden directional changes, Susanna’s insights offer true direction.

Here are three actions that stood out and may help you reshape your path:

1) Understand and redesign your environment to support your wellbeing. Susanna’s experience shows that our surroundings do more than shelter us. The colours we see, the air we breathe, the light in each room, all of it can influence healing, focus, and even energy. Pay attention to what you’re surrounded by, because your environment can fuel or drain your resilience.

2) Stay curious, never stop asking why. Susanna credits her lifelong habit of questioning for her progress. Challenge assumptions, question patterns, and ask yourself whether you’re doing things out of habit or with real intent. It’s this curiosity that brings about change and personal growth.

3) Shine a light for others. Success, for Susanna, is measured by the legacy you leave behind. Small acts of kindness add up, whether a friendly smile, a moment of support, or simply sharing what you’ve learned. If something touched you in this episode, consider how you can pass it forward.

Susanna’s story reminds us that progress is rarely linear. Purpose comes from understanding, connection, and a willingness to step into the unknown. If you’re seeking practical ideas for finding your direction, start with your environment, nurture curiosity, and remember to brighten someone else’s day.

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So many have asked me about my Everest Base Camp Trek and for this Special Edition of Success Matters, the tables are turned!

I hand the mic to Steve Payne to interview me about my trek to Everest Base Camp. What started as a bucket list item in a spreadsheet became a real life reminder of why success is about far more than goals, money or milestones. It is about who you become on the way there, and who you serve when you arrive.

Some days you only realise how rich your life already is when you are sitting in the cold, tears streaming down your face into a bowl of soup at 5,164 metres above sea level!

Here are three lessons I learnt that you can apply to your own journey.

1. Turn dreams into dates. 

Too many people sit on their dreams. I did that for years with Everest, until the moment I booked the flights, paid the deposit and put the trek in the diary. That single commitment shifted it from fantasy to future fact and everything else, the training, the logistics, the research, fell into place around it. If you have a dream that has lived in your head for too long, take that dream and give it a date, a deposit or a public declaration. Until you do, it is not a goal, it is a wish.

2. Success is one step at a time.

On the trail, all I could think about was the next safe place to put my foot. Not my career, not my to do list, just the rock in front of me. Hour after hour, it became a moving meditation, stripping away noise and creating a rare sense of clarity in a world where our minds are constantly under siege from information and social media. Whatever you want to achieve, build a simple daily practice that connects body and mind, whether it is walking, cycling or any physical activity that clears your head and reminds you that progress is usually small, repetitive and often uncomfortable.
3. You never climb alone.

I went to Nepal to test myself, but I only reached Base Camp because of others. Guides watching every step. Porters carrying our bags. The support of my son. A horse that appeared when my legs said no and my dream was about to end a ridge too soon. Whatever you do, whatever your goals, teamwork makes the dream work. Stop trying to do it all alone. Ask for help on the goals that matter and look for ways to be that helping hand for someone else, whether through mentoring, volunteering or supporting a cause as I do with BlueBike Foundation.

Having listened to my journey climbing a mountain, let me know in the comments what your “Everest” is. And if you'd like to support BlueBike Foundation as I do, head over to bluebikecharity.org.

Some days it feels like you are shining for everyone else while quietly dimming your own light.

In this week’s episode of Success Matters, I sit down with actor, spiritual coach and creator of House of Wisdom, Buckso Dhillon, to explore what happens when life rips away the identities you have been clinging to and forces you to ask, “Who am I really, without all of this?”

Here are three grounded actions Buckso invites you to take if you want a life that feels successful on the inside, not just impressive on the outside.

1. Choose to wake up: cultivate self‑awareness
   

• Start by noticing where you are living for approval, expectation or old stories, rather than from your own truth.
  

• Buckso’s SPARKLE process begins with S for self‑awareness, because until you see your patterns, you cannot change them or discover your deeper purpose.
  

2. Unearth the diamond within: do the inner work
   

• Instead of waiting for a crisis or grief to crack you open, consciously create space to go inward, question who you are beyond roles, culture and family expectations, and allow old identities to fall away.
  

• Like a diamond forming under pressure, many versions of you will “disintegrate” so that a more resilient, authentic self can emerge and finally shine.
  

3. Know your core values and protect them
   

• Get radically clear on your true core values and notice which one is currently being compromised in your work, relationships or lifestyle.
  

• Use them as your inner compass; it becomes much easier to say “no”, to walk away, or to redefine success when you can simply say, “That does not align with my values.”
  

Listen to the full episode to hear Buckso’s story of “losing” her voice, finding it again in a completely new way and creating Haus of Wisdom as a resource she wishes she had 30 years ago. Then ask yourself: where is your own brilliance waiting to be unearthed?

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