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Jacob sits down with Leo Quinn to talk about his Adventures in Rejection. Leo is doing an experiment where he wants to be rejected 1,000 times this summer. Learn more about this experiment and the results it’s bringing. 

Summer of 1,000 NOs

• Andrea Waltz Author of book Go For No
• I can achieve EVERY goal and reach EVERY dream by simply hearing NO more often! @GoforNo
• Leo set a goal to hear 1,000 NOs during the summer. This goal was lofty enough to make him nervous. 

Benefits of getting rejected

• Increased courage.
• The more times you ask, you’ll have a greater chance of getting a yes. 
• You have to experience a lot of failure to get to success. (See our podcast on failure)
• Leo has made $1,887 from this project so far. $700 of it is monthly recurring revenue.

What’s the time commitment?

• Leo needs 12 NOs a day to get 1,000 NOs this summer. 
• It takes him an hour to an hour and a half each day to get those 12 NOs. 

The importance of being human

• Be REAL with people. 
• Use humor. Charm Offensive
• RESPECT other people

If you want to get started

• Stunt NOs: It doesn’t really matter either way, but it helps you practice.
• Take a look at https://www.rejectiontherapy.com
• Rejection Proof Book
• Volunteer to do cold calling for a charity or something you believe in. 
• Don’t give yourself a No from someone else. 

Leo Links

• Adventures in Rejection Website
• Adventures in Rejection Facebook Group
• Leo’s LinkedIn

Jacob Links:

• Jacob’s Website
• Jacob’s LinkedIn
• Jacob's Twitter: @jacob_m_harmon

Kalob Links:

• Kalob’s LinkedIn

SuccessQuest Links:

• Website
• Blog
• Facebook
• LinkedIn
• Twitter: @MySuccessQuest
• Email: [email protected]

Jacob and Kalob will be taking a break from the Success Quest Podcast this week. We will be guests on the Biz 4 Good Show though, so feel free to listen to us there. 

Biz 4 Good Show

With Bobby Glen James & Ryan Pilkington

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• TuneIn

Jacob Links:

• Jacob’s Website
• Jacob’s LinkedIn
• Jacob's Twitter: @jacob_m_harmon

Kalob Links:

• Kalob’s LinkedIn

SuccessQuest Links:

• Website
• Blog
• Facebook
• LinkedIn
• Twitter: @MySuccessQuest
• Email: [email protected]

Jacob and Kalob get a little nerdy talking about the new Spiderman movie. We also talk about the importance of mentors and heroes in our lives. 

Spiderman Far From Home

• Takes place 8 months after endgame

Kalob’s Mentor

Jacob’s Mentor

Mentoring Others

Jacob Links:

• Jacob’s Website
• Jacob’s LinkedIn
• Jacob's Twitter: @jacob_m_harmon

Kalob Links:

• Kalob’s LinkedIn

SuccessQuest Links:

• Website
• Blog
• Facebook
• LinkedIn
• Twitter: @MySuccessQuest
• Email: [email protected]

Jacob and Kalob discuss how to respond to failure. Failure is part of life. Everyone will experience failure. What matters is how we respond to these failures. Will we quit, or will we learn from them?

Follow Up

• Pictures of new floor in Jacob’s Apartment
• Kalob’s Anniversary

Failure

• Failure: An Essential Ingredient of Success (Blog Post)
• Learning to walk analogy
• Failure is an unavoidable part of existence on this earth
• We shouldn’t quit. 
• Instead, we should learn and pivot. 

Famous Failures

• 15 Famous Failures of All Time (Video)
• Steve Jobs - Kicked out of his company
• Michael Jordan - Cut from high school varsity team
• Abraham Lincoln - Failed at business and campaigned for office many times.

How to respond to failure

1. Admit failure
2. Understand Why
3. Make the necessary changes
4. Repeat

Additional Resources

Interested in learning more about failure and success? Here are some more resources to check out:

• 12 Truths to Tell Yourself After a Mistake or Failure - Marc and Angel Hack Life
• 30 Powerful Quotes on Failure - Forbes
• What The Hype Behind Embracing Failure Is Really All About - Fast Company
• If You’re Not Failing, You’re Not Growing - 99U
• 7 Powerful Ways to Turn Every Failure Into Success - Inc.

Jacob Links:

• Jacob’s Website
• Jacob’s LinkedIn
• Jacob's Twitter: @jacob_m_harmon

Kalob Links:

• Kalob’s LinkedIn

SuccessQuest Links:

• Website
• Blog
• Facebook
• LinkedIn
• Twitter: @MySuccessQuest
• Email: [email protected]

Jacob tells a story of a difficult experience and explains the lessons he learned. 

Pictures of the basement

• Lesson 1: Step back & get a new perspective
• Lesson 2: Have a good sense of humor
• Lesson 3: Be Grateful

Jacob Links:

• Jacob’s Website
• Jacob’s LinkedIn
• Jacob's Twitter: @jacob_m_harmon

Kalob Links:

• Kalob’s LinkedIn

SuccessQuest Links:

• Website
• Blog
• Facebook
• LinkedIn
• Twitter: @MySuccessQuest
• Email: [email protected]

Jacob and Kalob discuss how to become emotionally successful. Life is difficult. There is a roller coaster of emotions, and in this episode we talk about how to be in control instead of letting your emotions control you. We also talk about mental illness and anxiety and depression.

SuccessQuest Milestone: 8 Episodes!

• 8 straight weeks!
• We’ve finished talking about all of the different areas of success. 
• Physical Success
• Intellectual Success
• Financial Success
• Social Success
• Spiritual Success
• Emotional Success (This episode) 
• Consistency is important. 

Emotional Success

• Be in control of your emotions. Don’t let them be in control of you. 
• It’s also important to understand the importance of emotion. 
• Emotions are good. Without them the world would be boring and unfulfilling.

Attitude

• The way we react to and adjust our emotions. 
• Triggers will happen, and we will experience emotions. 
• Attitude allows us to take a step back, analyze the emotion, and appropriately respond to it. 
• This is a skill that can be learned. It takes practice. 

An Outlet for Emotions

• Find an effective way to express emotions. 
• You could:
• Punch a bag, 
• Go for a walk, 
• Pray…

Ways to cope with anxiety and depression

• Talk Therapy (Counseling)
• Medication
• Exercise
• Relaxation Techniques
• Check Your Diet
• Get Support
• Take Some Steps on Your Own
• Be creative
• Read a good book

Ways to support someone who struggles

• Finding out if the person is getting the care that he or she needs and wants—if not, connect him or her to help
• Expressing your concern and support
• Reminding your friend or family member that help is available and that mental health problems can be treated
• Asking questions, listening to ideas, and being responsive when the topic of mental health problems come up
• Reassuring your friend or family member that you care about him or her
• Offering to help your friend or family member with everyday tasks
• Including your friend or family member in your plans—continue to invite him or her without being overbearing, even if your friend or family member resists your invitations
• Educating other people so they understand the facts about mental health problems and do not discriminate
• Treating people with mental health problems with respect, compassion, and empathy

Jacob Links:

• Jacob’s Website
• Jacob’s LinkedIn
• Jacob's Twitter: @jacob_m_harmon

Kalob Links:

• Kalob’s LinkedIn

SuccessQuest Links:

• Website
• Blog
• Facebook
• LinkedIn
• Twitter: @MySuccessQuest
• Email: [email protected]

Jacob and Kalob discuss how to become spiritually successful. Whether or not you consider yourself religious, spirituality is an important aspect of success. It includes a sense of connection to something bigger than ourselves, mainly involving a search for personal meaning and purpose in life. This is everyone’s quest for success or happiness. It's important to find time to pray, meditate, ponder, or have moments to yourself to contemplate your purpose and how you will fulfill it.

Questers

Definition:

(noun) someone making a search or inquiry

Synonyms:

searcher, seeker

Podcast Summit

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Feedback for future events

We would like to receive feedback on what you’d like to see in a future SuccessQuest event. Please reach out to us via email or social media (links found below). 

Spiritual Success

• Spiritual success is for Everyone. U b Even if you don’t believe in God, there will be a lot you can benefit from in this podcast. 

Finding Your Why

• Why?
• Why become successful?
• Why Improve? 
• What is your purpose?

Exercise: Ask why 7 times.

(Example)

• Q: Why do you want to be successful
• A: So I can provide for my family
• Q: Why do you need to provide for your family?
• A: So they can have a better life than I did
• Q: why… 

Kalob’s Why

• I want to be in control of my destiny. 

Jacob’s Why

• I want to reach my full potential
• The Parable of the Talents (Matthew 25:14–29)

Prayer, Meditation and Pondering

• Life is stressful. Prayer meditation and pondering give you an opportunity to escape from this stress. 
• When else do you do your best thinking? 
• Allows for outside the box thinking. 

Tips for Prayer, Meditation and Pondering

• Kalob: There isn’t a best way. 
• Kalob: Find a quiet place. Kneel down. Take time to think. 
• Jacob: Try to eliminate distractions.
• Jacob: Intentionally talk with God.
• Jacob: Take a piece of paper and write down thoughts and impressions. 

Benefits of Mindfulness

• Get better sleep
• Make progress toward weight loss
• Stress reduction
• Decrease loneliness
• Improve attention
• Reduce anxiety
• Increase brain gray matter

Jacob Links:

• Jacob’s Website
• Jacob’s LinkedIn
• Jacob's Twitter: @jacob_m_harmon

Kalob Links:

• Kalob’s LinkedIn

SuccessQuest Links:

• Website
• Blog
• Facebook
• LinkedIn
• Twitter: @MySuccessQuest
• Email: [email protected]

Jacob and Kalob discuss how to become socially successful. We talk about what it means to be an effective communicator, what being socially successful can do for you (the benefits), and also how you can take steps toward becoming more socially successful. 

Social Success

• Social Success: the ability to successfully build relationships and navigate social environments.

We communicate through 

• body language
• Listening
• physical touch
• and much more

Why does it matter?

• Unfortunately, it’s easy to be antisocial. Technology has enabled the avoidance of social interaction. 

The 6 Health Benefits Of Being Social

1. You’re Less Likely To Catch A Cold
2. You’ll Fight Off Depression
3. You Get Better Sleep
4. You’re More Productive
5. Your Brain Stays Sharper
6. You’ll Live Longer

Family Relationships

• Family is the #1 priority

Tips:

• When you’re home, be home.
• Put away the smart phone. 
• Spend quality time with spouse and kids. 
• Be INTENTIONAL about your family relationships

5 Love Languages - Dr. Gary Chapman

• Words of Affirmation
• Acts of Service
• Receiving Gifts
• Quality Time
• Physical Touch

Relationships outside of the home

An Introvert’s Guide to Becoming More Social

• Start small
• Chat with strangers
• Don’t get overwhelmed by those who speak too much
• Learn to act like likeable people do
• Don’t be afraid of silence
• Don’t control yourself all the time
• Find a hobby that’s social
• Go and smile to someone!

Business Relationships

“Healthy business relationships are the foundation of any successful business, large or small” - The Importance of Healthy Business Relationships

Tips:

• Be authentic
• Develop Mutual Respect
• Offer something before asking for something
• Plan something fun to do - outside of work. Go networking together, meetups, events, (business related) etc. 

(These tips come from the article 11 Ways to Build Solid, Strong, Lasting Business Relationships)

Balance

• If you’re at home, be home.
• If you’re at work, be at work. 

25 Tips to Help You Improve Any Relationship in Your Life

Jacob Links:

• Jacob’s Website
• Jacob’s LinkedIn
• Jacob's Twitter: @jacob_m_harmon

Kalob Links:

• Kalob’s LinkedIn

SuccessQuest Links:

• Website
• Blog
• Facebook
• LinkedIn
• Twitter: @MySuccessQuest
• Email: [email protected]

Jacob and Kalob discuss how to become financially successful. It’s important to make small simple choices that lead to wealth and prosperity.

Financial Success

• While financial success isn’t the ultimate goal, it is an important part of a successful life.
• Riches vs. Wealth: Someone who is rich has a lot of money and luxurious items. Having wealth is being in a position where your living costs are sustainable. 

Million Dollar Choices

• Million Dollar Choices - Scott Marsh “How can you save a million dollars by making a simple decision? A Million Dollar Choice© is a decision to save money that you only have to make once that will eventually help you obtain a million dollars in your retirement plan. By making the right choice about your house, business, automobiles, healthcare and other items today, you can invest the money saved and watch it become a million dollars by the time you retire. Million Dollar Decisions© are so powerful because they are available to every person, whatever their stage in life.”

Millionaire Mindset

• “You don’t rise to the occasion, you sink to the level of your training. That’s why we train so hard.” - Anonymous Navy Seal
• Time is worth more than money
• Ask what and how questions. Find solutions.
• Be confident and positive. 
• What’s your why? Clarify your vision. 

Automate your money

• I Will Teach You to Be Rich. - Ramit Sethi
• Make your money work for you instead of working for your money.
• Guilt Free Money. When you’ve taken care of everything else, you can enjoy the money that’s left over.
• Spend money on things that bring you joy and value. 

Saving and Investing

• Saving money is important. 
• Eventually, you need to put your money to work and make it grow. 
• Interest can be your best friend or worst enemy. 
• EARN interest. Don’t pay interest. 

Get out of debt

• As fast as possible
• 11 Ways to Get Out of Debt Faster (we mentioned the snowball method in the podcast)

Where should my money go?

• 50/30/20 Rule
• 50% of your income goes to your needs
• 30% of your income goes to your wants
• 20% of your income goes to your savings
• Maslow's hierarchy of needs.
• It’s also good to add charitable donations.

Being a Business Owner

• While owning a business is a great way to become financially independent and successful, they aren’t required. 
• You can be financially successful working a “normal” 9-5 job. 

Jacob Links:

• Jacob’s Website
• Jacob’s LinkedIn
• Jacob's Twitter: @jacob_m_harmon

Kalob Links:

• Kalob’s LinkedIn

SuccessQuest Links:

• Website
• Blog
• Facebook
• LinkedIn
• Twitter: @MySuccessQuest

Jacob and Kalob discuss how to become intellectually successful. The key is learning something new every day. 

Follow Up

• Follow up on commitments made in Episode 3
• Feedback on including a women’s perspective in Physical Success. 
• We appreciate feedback. Don’t hesitate to send us feedback at [email protected] or using the hashtag #askSQHQ on social media.

What is Intellectual Success?

• Continuous Learning.
• There’s a difference between conventional classroom learning and intrinsic continuous learning. You can spend your time learning things that matter to you. 
• Definition of knowledge: “facts, information, and skills acquired by a person through experience or education; the theoretical or practical understanding of a subject.”
• Becoming intellectually successful will help you become successful in all of the other areas of success. They’re all tied together :).
• “Knowledge is power”
• “If knowledge is power, learning is a superpower” - Jim Kwick

Books

• Books are a great resource.
• Lifetimes of experience can be learned in a relatively short amount of time. 
• Free to Focus - Michael Hyatt
• Give and Take - Adam Grant
• Ben Carson Story
• Ben Carson Story - Video

Additional Resources for continual learning

• Online Courses
• Online Programs
• Live Events
• Podcasts
• Blogs
• Youtube

Jacob Links:

• Jacob’s Website
• Jacob’s LinkedIn
• Jacob's Twitter: @jacob_m_harmon

Kalob Links:

• Kalob’s LinkedIn

SuccessQuest Links:

• Website
• Blog
• Facebook
• LinkedIn
• Twitter: @MySuccessQuest