As a pediatrician and a mom, there are very few times that we are out of character.

This week's guest embodies the mom, physician, empath, life-saver all in one.

She is a neonatologist on a mission to save moms from the sometimes traumatic events that follow childbirth, that sometimes culminate in self-harm or suicide.

Did you know that many moms take their own lives around 9 to 10 months postpartum? I had no idea it was a thing even though after my last baby, I myself had a health scare at exactly 10 months postpartum!

Quotables:

"Invest in your health, ask for that in your registry"

"Expect it: the first month sucks"

"Find a support system, reach out"

"It's ok to include your partner in your child's care"

Where to find: www.nayacare.org: for telehealth and free consults for moms and their babies.

Are you a parent struggling with your child who just came out as gay?

Check out our brand new website! I am so proud of it, and can't wait to share it with you, especially the resources page.

Click on www.dr-lulu.com and taste what Dr. Lulu is cooking :)

Ciao Bella!

Dr. L

After he went to sleep next to his wife and woke up at the kitchen window, with his wife dying within minutes...anyone else would have been thrown into a fit of depression, and worthlessness, and despair. 

But not Bobby Petrocelli!

Defying the odds to become a motivational and inspirational speaker, Bobby reached deep down and found the strength to take life literally one moment at a time.

He has written and co-written so many books and has spoken to all places and worked with all people. 

His is an incredible story of strength, tenacity, and resiliency.

Quotables:

"They are allowing the hurt and the pain to define them"

"We not only rob ourselves, but we also rob other people of our greatness"

"I came to school today to say goodbye"

"You either run away from your past or you learn from it"

"You don't go to the gym to find a muscle, you go to build it"

"A little of something is better than all of nothing"

Books:

You Matter: It Doesn't 

10 Seconds Will Can Change Your Life Forever

Where to find:

[email protected]

Derek Butler is a man after my heart!

It took us so long to get together to but when we finally did, this episode was DYNAMITE!!

He is a survivor, and a sur-thrivor, who has discovered that self-care, healthy connections, and positive affirmations to his inner child are the key to resiliency and success in today's world.

Find out his daily affirmations, and how he gets them to work for him.

Quotables:

"I wrote a letter to sex"

"I broke up with sex" 

"I tried to muscle my way out"

"I tried to motivate my way out"

Find out what the acronyms: T.I.M.E and S.E.L.F stand for...

Words of Advice: "You don't have to carry that invisible suitcase around"

Where to find: LinkedIn @Derek Butler

Find him and go support his: Adapt, Recover and Grow formula for a 10% discount off his coaching session and tell him Dr. Lulu sent you!

Dr. Lulu

Our first guest this week is a sister, a friend, a fellow African, a coach, and a fellow mom of an LGBTQ+ kid!

We met and clicked right away as was discussed in the show, and our bond and sisterhood have continued to soar! As a coach of parents of LGBTQ+ kids, I am so happy to present her episode to you!

I am so proud of her and the strength she exudes during this episode. She allowed the deepest level of vulnerability and is such an inspiration!

She shares about her unique position as a Black, African mother of a transwoman, and what it took for her to get to her current position being able to share with no restrictions about her child who is a trans-woman, all while living in Africa!

Her story is so inspiring that she will be returning for part 2 of her interview!

Where to find her: Facebook as Thobeka Yose.

See you in part 2!

Dr. Lulu

In this concluding part of her interview, Heather tells us about her second suicide attempt and how and when she decided she needed to get better and heal and leave all her troubles behind and start moving forward with her life.

She touches on the death of her father, her work in the media, and her second podcast. 

Find out the simple advice she gives to all or anyone who finds themselves in similar shoes as hers...

Quotables:

"I did what I had to do"

Where to find her: Facebook, Podcast

Thanks for listening...

Ciao Bella

Dr. L

Fellow podcaster and childhood trauma survivor Heather joins us this week to tell us her story of pain and betrayal of trust as a child. As you know, I always talk about how the betrayal of children is at the top of the list of reasons why our children hurt themselves. 

Listen to her story and let me know your thoughts.

Quotable:

"I was simply tired of being OK"

Where to find:

Podcast: You Should Have Asked Me First

Hope you and your family are keeping safe, wearing your masks, socially distancing, and using hand sanitizers...

Cheers!

Dr. L

This week, we talk with Ms. Sade Cutler. An African American woman who was treated so wrong by her former place of work to add to the list of traumatic events that piled up in her life, ranging from a pulmonary embolus to 8 miscarriages to being laid off from work and everything else in between!

Ms. Sade shares her heart-wrenching story in this episode...

Find out what she said that made me use some explicit choice words...

Thankfully, she is "sur-thriving" today and is even helping others cope with their anxiety and depression through her own work as a mental health counselor. 

Quotables: 

"God just let me meet him"

"Keep the faith and be encouraged"

"This is a moment in time"

Where to find and follow and support her:

Instagram: @ M. E. Impact

Website: My Empowering Impact 

If you or anyone you know is feeling suicidal, call 1800-273-TALK or 1800-SUICIDE

Be safe out there!

Dr. L

When we hear of pivoting and changing and rebranding, many of us do not think about what this week's guest did. At 56yr young, she found herself enrolling in medical school! Today, many moons later, she is a successful family practitioner and goes about her day saving lives.

She describes suicidality as "a moment of hopelessness" which as we know can spiral into the worst-case scenario.

Listen to her thoughts about female physicians and suicide, and what word she uses to describe her life before medicine. :)

How did a motor vehicle accident and PTSD combine to create who she is today?

Quotables:

"I am a mother"

"You make a lot of sacrifices to become a physician"

"Life throws you good and bad curves"

Books: 

Healthy in the Campus. 

Healthy on the Set.

Where to find her:

Mercy Personal Physician: Kathryn Boling, MD

This week's guest is an author and a speaker who came to visit us from the future!

Yes, she really did!

She shares about chronic suicidality from early childhood and what finally happened before she figured out that she comes first.

Books:

1. Keep it Super Simple

2. The Economy of Enough

3. Beyond Aha

4. Keep it Super Simple for Busy Professional Women

Questions to ask yourself:

1. What stresses you out>

2. Create values

3. What am I actually doing?

4. What are the things on your "to-do" list that are for you? 

5. Embrace your to-do list.

Where to find her:

www.sheiqlife.com

Remember if you or someone you love is struggling with suicidal ideation, call 1800273TALK or text HOME to 741741 or call yours truly @ 802-768-1180.

Dr. L

What do Betrayal, Marital Infidelity, Depression, Grief, Anguish, Abandonment, and Trauma have in common? Our second guest for the week!

Ms. Beatrice shares the pain of marital infidelity and how she barely survived it. 

She discusses how a 12-Step program for spouses of sex addicts, great girlfriends, and therapy helped her "see the fruit and the blessing from all the traumas".

Find out the book she recommends to all of us that will help with the healing.

Quotables:

"Don't give up hope, keep seeking and looking for yourself"

"Stay on the path"

"Don't be afraid to go through difficulty"

"They are more than enough"

Where to find her:

Eunoiatherapyar.com

Eunoiatherapysd on IG and FB

Eunoiatherapy and self-development

Dr. L