SHOULD YOU HAVE KIDS? MORE MILLENNIAL WOMEN AREN'T

“Should I have kids? Maybe if I meet a guy who wants them but for now, nope.”

“I don’t want my life to change right now but that stupid biological clock is ticking.”

“Parenting seems so hard and tiring but then why do all these people do it?”

“I’m on the fence; I think I’d be happy either way.”

“Blargh…why do I even have to make choice?”

Parents will never know how it feels to not be parents (and vice versa)

First of all, I’m going to attempt to be as objective and non-partisan as possible in this article.

However, I am a mom (currently 6 months pregnant with a 3-year-old running around in my living room); so obviously, I’ve made my decision.

I will never know how it feels to not have children.

And someone who did not have children will never know how it feels to have them.

So I’d suggest you read a childless person’s blog on this after you’ve read mine.

Just because I decided to have kids doesn’t mean I think everyone should, that it’s the greatest and most wonderful thing in the world and all women should vacate their uteruses or get adoption papers ready to experience this joy.

To help you change your mindset, here are MY LAST 6 Brutally Honest Dating Tips That Will Make You Say “Damn, You’re Right.”

Dating is like the epitome of your ego going into a Gladiator ring, with no armour, just your naked ass, putting yourself out there for an uncertain number of people to judge you, hoping it doesn’t get beaten to a bloody pulp.

With every disappointing date, every “ghost”, every “rejection”, every “catfish”, every broken heart, you toughen up a bit, get smarter, protect yourself by putting on more armour.

But then the whole purpose of dating is to find someone to share your life with.

How can you do that if you’ve closed yourself off to the point where someone can’t see the real you?

It can seem like a catch-22.

The key is to view dating as a learning experience and not let your ego into the ring. It’s about finding what you need, want and deserve so that you become laser-focused when dating.

Let’s not sugarcoat it…dating sucks.

To help you change your mindset, here are 9 MORE Brutally Honest Dating Tips That Will Make You Say “Damn, You’re Right.”

Dating is like the epitome of your ego going into a Gladiator ring, with no armour, just your naked ass, putting yourself out there for an uncertain number of people to judge you, hoping it doesn’t get beaten to a bloody pulp.

With every disappointing date, every “ghost”, every “rejection”, every “catfish”, every broken heart, you toughen up a bit, get smarter, protect yourself by putting on more armour.

You can’t get hurt if you don’t show your vulnerabilities right?

But then the whole purpose of dating is to find someone to share your life with.

How can you do that if you’ve closed yourself off to the point where someone can’t see the real you?

It can seem like a catch-22.

The key is to view dating as a learning experience and not let your ego into the ring. It’s about finding what you need, want and deserve so that you become laser-focused when dating.

Let’s not sugarcoat it…dating sucks.

To help you change your mindset, here are 9 Brutally Honest Dating Tips That Will Make You Say “Damn, You’re Right.”

Dating is like the epitome of your ego going into a Gladiator ring, with no armour, just your naked ass, putting yourself out there for an uncertain number of people to judge you, hoping it doesn’t get beaten to a bloody pulp.

With every disappointing date, every “ghost”, every “rejection”, every “catfish”, every broken heart, you toughen up a bit, get smarter, protect yourself by putting on more armour.

You can’t get hurt if you don’t show your vulnerabilities right?

But then the whole purpose of dating is to find someone to share your life with.

How can you do that if you’ve closed yourself off to the point where someone can’t see the real you?

It can seem like a catch-22.

The key is to view dating as a learning experience and not let your ego into the ring. It’s about finding what you need, want and deserve so that you become laser-focused when dating.

The more you know yourself, the more you know who you want as a life partner. 

What are the wants when trying to find a life partner? This is the spice that makes you and the other person about being lovers instead of friends. 

I go through some questions, examples to help you self-reflect and figure out your wants when finding a life partner. 

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What are the needs when trying to find a life partner? 

These are your values, reflecting on your moral compass, ethics and spiritual/religious beliefs. 

I go through some questions, examples to help you figure out your needs. 

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How can we make sure our children understand and practice gratitude?

It’s about going beyond getting them to recite the words, ‘Thank you.’ 

A stranger holds the door for you…

Your mom babysits so you have can have a date night with your partner…

Your sister gives you that book you’ve been dying to read…

Your coworker says your new haircut looks fabulous…

What do we say?

Thank you.

Why do we say those words?

Maybe they fly out of your mouth without thought?

It’s a habit like how when you go to the theatre and the cashier tells you to enjoy the show as they hand you your ticket and you say, “Thanks, you too.” But then you’re like wait a sec…

Maybe you’ve been taught since you were little that it’s impolite not to say it? Your parents would scold you every time you didn’t?

It’s like you get a little electric shock every time someone does something or buys something for you and you have to utter those two words.

Or maybe you don’t want others to think you’re ungrateful and unappreciative?

How do you make sure you make great friends instead of toxic ones?

Here are 3 signs to look for when making new friends. 

So in part 1, I shared the 3 signs that I watch for in myself when I think I’m becoming a toxic friend.

In part 2 of my toxic friendship series, I’ll share with you how I manage these behaviours.

Here is part 1 of my 3 part series on Toxic Friendships:

Ah, toxic friends. From Clueless to Mean Girls to Gossip Girl (is it Pretty Little Liars now?)…

Do they only appear in the teenage years?

No.

These appear through to adulthood, from college/university to the workplace to motherhood to old age (who’s a better grandma?)

If you’re reading this right now, you’re probably thinking:

“I want to learn how to recognize toxic friends and avoid them.” It’s them…not me. I’m a perfect friend.”

But here’s a newsflash.

Anyone can become a toxic friend, including yourself, especially when we are down and struggling and the world seems like it’s against us, nothing is going our way. Because life is hard and shit happens.

The best way to identify whether someone is toxic is to be self-aware of your own toxic behaviours and tendencies.

You’ll have a better sense of when a friend is acting toxic and you will understand why they are acting that way since you’ve recognized that in yourself.

I’d like to say I’m always a good friend but I’m not.

I’m human and there are days when I’m not the best person to hang out with.

I can be spiteful, harsh, snappy, jealous, negative and incredibly judgemental.

Here are 3 signs that I watch in myself so that I’m mindful of when I’m starting to become toxic.