When your friend tells you that you can just drop them off at the top of the neighborhood and they will walk home - what do you do? When your children ask you for a new pair of socks to replace the holey ones - what do you do? When your neighbor asks you to shovel just their front walk - what do you do?
In each of these, the nice response is to do what is socially expected, follow your friend's directions, buy a pair of socks for your children, and shovel the walk. To be kind is to see beyond expectations to offer care and respect.