Super Feeler: A BPD Podcast

Dr. Sheetal Lakhani joins the podcast all the way from India to talk about what the landscape of mental health treatment and personality disorder understand is like in India. 

We discuss the cultural differences we see between western nations and India - including differing understandings of mental health, access to treatment, and how relational dynamics may impact how we view what is "disordered". 

We also talk about mentalization and Dr. Sheetal's very own research about MVT - a measurement of mentalization that was developed in India and is now being adapted to fit into the Iranian and Finnish contexts. 

PLUS we discuss her ongoing work in establishing a lived Experience Advisory group of youth in India! For more information on that group click check out their instagram here!

More information about Sheetal's work can be found at:

• Her profile here. 
• By reading her MVT publication

You heard a lot about some previous Super Feeler podcast guests on this episode! Listen to their episodes by clicking below!: 

• Rakesh
• Rakesh and Katie (his now fiance!)  
• Marsha

Support the show

If you want to support the show, dive deeper into the world of super feeling and for tons of bonus content please consider subscribing to the Super Feeler patreon page. 

Click here to register for The Super Feelers Club (the peer support group) 

If you are needing mental health support or someone to talk to, please connect with your local crisis line or call or text 988 in Canada or the US or find a local line

Don't forget to follow us on social media (@thesuperfeeler) and subscribe to our podcast for new episodes and updates. Your subscriptions, downloads, and reviews mean the world to us! 

Thank you for listening! 

KT has had thoughts of suicide since they were a little kid. 

We get into the overlap between borderline and avoidant personality traits, fear of failure, and why finding people who actually get it through peer support can make such a difference.

Plus we get very millennial and talk about MSN, Nexopia, Chat Roulette, and sing a little bit of queen Hilary Duff. 

We talked SO much recording this so if you want a extended version of this episode on video, head over to patreon at the $5 tier! 

Find the BPD Society of BC's Peer Support Groups here. 

Content warning: suicidal ideation, disordered eating, parent death.

Support the show

If you want to support the show, dive deeper into the world of super feeling and for tons of bonus content please consider subscribing to the Super Feeler patreon page. 

Click here to register for The Super Feelers Club (the peer support group) 

If you are needing mental health support or someone to talk to, please connect with your local crisis line or call or text 988 in Canada or the US or find a local line

Don't forget to follow us on social media (@thesuperfeeler) and subscribe to our podcast for new episodes and updates. Your subscriptions, downloads, and reviews mean the world to us! 

Thank you for listening! 

Ashley shares her experience navigating a complicated intersection of trauma, substance use, homelessness, and the systems that are supposed to help but fail us time and time again.

Ashley talks openly about living with the effects of Fetal Alcohol Effects, BPD, anxiety, severe depression, ADHD, complex post traumatic stress disorder (CPTSD), PMOS/PCOS and attachment issues stemming from her many traumatic experiences in the foster system. 

We talk about substance use, including being three years clean from meth, fentanyl, and heroin, and the realities of trying to survive while experiencing homelessness in Vancouver’s Downtown Eastside (DTES). 

While this isn't a true crime podcast it's virtually impossible to explain the DTES without talking about Canada's most prolific serial killer Robert Pickton and his ability to get away with as many as 49 murders of women that police agencies didn't care to look for or investigate - despite having ample evidence pointing right to him. If you are interested in a thorough deep dive I recommend the book On the Farm: Robert William Pickton and the Tragic Story of Vancouver's Missing Women. The stories of these women cannot be forgotten - nor can the countless women, especially Indigenous women, who go missing across Canada to this day for whom justice is never found. 

Support the show

If you want to support the show, dive deeper into the world of super feeling and for tons of bonus content please consider subscribing to the Super Feeler patreon page. 

Click here to register for The Super Feelers Club (the peer support group) 

If you are needing mental health support or someone to talk to, please connect with your local crisis line or call or text 988 in Canada or the US or find a local line

Don't forget to follow us on social media (@thesuperfeeler) and subscribe to our podcast for new episodes and updates. Your subscriptions, downloads, and reviews mean the world to us! 

Thank you for listening! 

Nelson Grey is the author of the DBT with Sherlock Holmes series and shares his personal journey through grief and complex post traumatic stress disorder (CPTSD). We dive into how he used storytelling and dialectic behavioral therapy (DBT) skills to heal, help others understand their emotions and do something about them through narratives. 

If you're a Sherlock Holmes fan, or just want to try a new approach to learning DBT skills I can't recommend these books enough! You can purchase them at these links: 

DBT with Sherlock Holmes Volume 1

DBT with Sherlock Homes Volume 2

DBT with Sherlock Homes Volume 3

Support the show

If you want to support the show, dive deeper into the world of super feeling and for tons of bonus content please consider subscribing to the Super Feeler patreon page. 

Click here to register for The Super Feelers Club (the peer support group) 

If you are needing mental health support or someone to talk to, please connect with your local crisis line or call or text 988 in Canada or the US or find a local line

Don't forget to follow us on social media (@thesuperfeeler) and subscribe to our podcast for new episodes and updates. Your subscriptions, downloads, and reviews mean the world to us! 

Thank you for listening! 

Kat comes back on Super Feeler to share their dissociative identity disorder (DID) assessment findings with us!

We talked about a lot of resources today: 

1. Kat's very own podcast!

2. Petals of a Rose Short Film

3. Coping with Trauma-Related Dissociation: Skills Training for Patients and Therapists book 

4. Caroline's episode of Super Feeler "Rejecting the Concept of a Disordered Personality"

5. Click here for the Plural Association information

6. Skills Lab Peer Support Group upcoming sessions can be found here. 

Listen to Kat's first DID episode "When Childhood Trauma Leads to Multiple Identities"

Listen to Kat on the "BPD Symptoms: Dissociation" episode.  

Support the show

If you want to support the show, dive deeper into the world of super feeling and for tons of bonus content please consider subscribing to the Super Feeler patreon page. 

Click here to register for The Super Feelers Club (the peer support group) 

If you are needing mental health support or someone to talk to, please connect with your local crisis line or call or text 988 in Canada or the US or find a local line

Don't forget to follow us on social media (@thesuperfeeler) and subscribe to our podcast for new episodes and updates. Your subscriptions, downloads, and reviews mean the world to us! 

Thank you for listening! 

Dr. Shari Allen (@mentalectpharmd) is a psychiatric pharmacist and comes on the show to talk all about psych meds and the importance of personalized treatment 

Some of the questions we cover include: 

• How do you know the difference between side effects that will pass and the ones that mean a medication isn't right for you?
• How can we better advocate to our care providers to be listened to when it comes to how meds are or aren't working for us?
• What is the most exciting medication advancement for mental health in the last 5 years?
• Do you see any up and coming medications that might help with borderline personality disorder?
• What makes SSRIs so different from one another when they have the same mechanism of action?
• Are PRNs for anxiety as common as they seem to be on TV?

Don't forget to follow Shari on IG @mentalectpharmd for ongoing psych med education!

Support the show

If you want to support the show, dive deeper into the world of super feeling and for tons of bonus content please consider subscribing to the Super Feeler patreon page. 

Click here to register for The Super Feelers Club (the peer support group) 

If you are needing mental health support or someone to talk to, please connect with your local crisis line or call or text 988 in Canada or the US or find a local line

Don't forget to follow us on social media (@thesuperfeeler) and subscribe to our podcast for new episodes and updates. Your subscriptions, downloads, and reviews mean the world to us! 

Thank you for listening! 

Pippa Scott is the author of Paper Girls Burn, a brand new borderline personality disorder memoir that you're going to love! 

We discuss our mutual (and often problematic) love of men, favorite people, emetophobia (the fear of vomiting), health anxiety and how DBT and learning about ourselves has changed both of our lives. 

Plus we get into the Lindsay Clancy trial a bit (note: we recorded this August 24th 2026 so what we say may be out of date).

Paper Girls Burn is out now and can be purchased at: https://caitlinpress.com/Books/P/Paper-Girls-Burn or your local bookstore! 

Get your tickets to join Pippa (and Laurie) at the Launch Event in Vancouver here!

Register for Skills Lab, the peer support group Laurie mentioned at www.superfeeler.ca/peersupport

Support the show

If you want to support the show, dive deeper into the world of super feeling and for tons of bonus content please consider subscribing to the Super Feeler patreon page. 

Click here to register for The Super Feelers Club (the peer support group) 

If you are needing mental health support or someone to talk to, please connect with your local crisis line or call or text 988 in Canada or the US or find a local line

Don't forget to follow us on social media (@thesuperfeeler) and subscribe to our podcast for new episodes and updates. Your subscriptions, downloads, and reviews mean the world to us! 

Thank you for listening! 

Dene shares his profound journey through life marked by childhood trauma, family histories of mental health and addictions, and the complexities of unknowingly living with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) before being diagnosed at 50. 

Dene recently started BPD Raw, a website that aims to share unfiltered stories of BPD to create better understanding. 

We also touch on the evolving role of AI in mental health and the importance of peer support. 

Learn more about the Strangers Project that inspired Dene to start BPD Raw here: https://strangersproject.com/

We recorded this episode about two months before it was released and a lot has changed for Dene recently including starting his own podcast! You can find out what he's up to today here: https://bpdraw.com

Support the show

If you want to support the show, dive deeper into the world of super feeling and for tons of bonus content please consider subscribing to the Super Feeler patreon page. 

Click here to register for The Super Feelers Club (the peer support group) 

If you are needing mental health support or someone to talk to, please connect with your local crisis line or call or text 988 in Canada or the US or find a local line

Don't forget to follow us on social media (@thesuperfeeler) and subscribe to our podcast for new episodes and updates. Your subscriptions, downloads, and reviews mean the world to us! 

Thank you for listening! 

Dr. Kiki Fehling, a psychologist, author, influencer, and self-proclaimed super feeler joins the pod to talk all about cultivating queer joy through Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT). 

We discuss the history of LGBTQ2S+ issues in psychology, the doing our own self-reflection of positioning in the world through intersectional lenses to understand minority stress, and the need for advocating for systemic change. 

*Buy the book!* (find Crows and Cross Queer Bookstore in Vancouver we discussed or your local queer owned bookstore!)

Find the free handouts that accompany the books at the bottom of this page.

Some of the links to other things we talked about today: 

• Click for Kiki's previous episode of the podcast. 
• Find Kiki at their website https://www.kikifehling.com/
• Substack of Kinnon Mckinnon the trans researcher doing great work in studying detransitioners.
• Research from Mark Hatzenbuhler about systemic discrimination

Support the show

If you want to support the show, dive deeper into the world of super feeling and for tons of bonus content please consider subscribing to the Super Feeler patreon page. 

Click here to register for The Super Feelers Club (the peer support group) 

If you are needing mental health support or someone to talk to, please connect with your local crisis line or call or text 988 in Canada or the US or find a local line

Don't forget to follow us on social media (@thesuperfeeler) and subscribe to our podcast for new episodes and updates. Your subscriptions, downloads, and reviews mean the world to us! 

Thank you for listening! 

Clinical psychology PhD candidate, Jason joins the pod to talk about the impact of internalized racism, his research on self-damaging behaviours (things like self-harm, binge eating, substance use), and his experiences growing up Asian in Canada.

We touch on the concept of minority stress, how badly informed we are on the impact of racism on many health outcomes, and how important it is to participate in research! 

If you're eligible, I highly encourage you to reach out to participate in this important study.

The RISE-C study is currently recruiting people who (1) are 16 years or older, (2) reside in Canada, (3) identify as Indigenous, Black, or a person of colour, (3) have been treated differently because of their race, and (4) who habitually do things (or have strong urges) that are not in their best interests (e.g., binge-drinking, engaging in eating disorder behaviour,  suicide ideation, or deliberate self-harm).

If you are interested in participating in the study, you can complete the pre-screening survey using this link: https://uwo.eu.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_a8BHB591h11CmUe 

Support the show

If you want to support the show, dive deeper into the world of super feeling and for tons of bonus content please consider subscribing to the Super Feeler patreon page. 

Click here to register for The Super Feelers Club (the peer support group) 

If you are needing mental health support or someone to talk to, please connect with your local crisis line or call or text 988 in Canada or the US or find a local line

Don't forget to follow us on social media (@thesuperfeeler) and subscribe to our podcast for new episodes and updates. Your subscriptions, downloads, and reviews mean the world to us! 

Thank you for listening!