March 03, 2026

Supporting a Traumatized Partner in BDSM & Sex

31 minutes

How can you support a partner with trauma while exploring sex or BDSM safely and lovingly? Learn trauma-informed ways to build trust, create emotional safety, and help your partner reconnect with their body, pleasure, and power.

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TIMESTAMP CHAPTERS:

(00:00) - Intro

(00:17) - What Is Trauma?

(02:36) - How Trauma May Manifest in BDSM

(05:33) - How Trauma Impacts Pleasure

(06:14) - How Trauma Impacts Power Exchange

(07:35) - How to Support a Partner with Trauma

(10:02) - Stage 1: Safety & Stabilization

(16:59) - Stage 2: Remembrance and Mourning

(18:57) - Stage 3: Reconnecting and Integrating

(28:27) - Stage 4: Consolidation and Resolution

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🔗 Trauma-Informed Consensual Kink: https://www.instagram.com/traumainformedkink
🔗 The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness, and Healing in a Toxic Culture: https://amzn.to/47cfOIJ
🔗 Attachment Disturbances in Adults: Treatment for Comprehensive Repair: https://amzn.to/3J21zNr
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🔗 NAMI Family Support Groups: https://www.nami.org/support-education/support-groups/nami-family-support-group/