Surfing Lessons

Surfing Lessons

By Ryan P. LampeEducationSelf-Improvement
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Surfing Lessons episodes

  • Surfing Lesson #235: Hitting That Pop-up!
    Trying to be a good all-around surfer in general will get me absolutely nowhere if I can't even jump up on my surfboard.
    The same is true in my marriage.
    I have hit a wall again and again for years frustrated and even devastated as I've tried to be a good all-around husband and man.
    Getting crystal clear on the very specific gaps in my game have opened the door to creating the connection and DESIRE with Luci I've hunted for my entire marriage.
    Join me in today's Surfing Lessons episode πŸŽ™!
    Create, grow, and OVERFLOW 🍯 with DESIRE inside your marriage!
    #livewildlyconnected #ruthlesslycommitted
    30 min
  • Surfing Lesson #234: Inconsiderate Jerks!
    Few things Instantly PISS ME Off like strolling down the beach and inhaling a lung full of spray-on sunscreen! 😑🀬
    Yes, people can be absolutely oblivious and SO DARN INCONSIDERATE of others.
    But let me share with you how I'VE been the inconsiderate jerk with the person I love most!
    You see, we were taught, especially as men, to consider others in a very practical sense so that we can make the best decisions as leaders.
    But that's only the TIP of the iceberg...
    Join me in today's Surfing Lessons episode πŸŽ™!
    The time is NOW 🚨 to cultivate more pure, raw DESIRE inside your marriage, your family, and your LIFE!
    #livewildlyconnected #ruthlesslycommitted
    20 min
  • Surfing Lesson #233: Yo! Can I Borrow A Wetsuit?
    The act of making a simple, straightforward request...
    It can seem daunting, even stupid or wrong.
    Other times it can be downright embarrassing, or worse, HUMILIATING!
    Why can making simple requests seem so intimidating?
    So intimidating in fact that we won't even do make them
    Choosing rather to simply go without and let frustration, resentment, and even BLAME rule our lives!
    Yet sometimes a simple request is the only thing holding you back from getting what you want.
    In my marriage, I have gone seasons and YEARS doing without special things that I wanted from Luci, simply because I didn't freaking make the request! 😳
    Join me in today's Surfing Lessons episode πŸŽ™!
    The time is NOW 🚨 to cultivate more pure, raw DESIRE inside your marriage, your family, and your LIFE!
    #livewildlyconnected #ruthlesslycommitted
    20 min
  • Surfing Lesson #232: Getting Luci Back In The Water
    I spent the first 11 years of my marriage trying to CONVINCE Luci to do what I knew she was capable of.
    It very rarely worked, and when it did, there was often if not always am inevitable backlash.
    Whether it worked out not, you can bet on the likelihood of resentment coming out sooner or later.
    In fact, it backfired so much that I tried to master the game of trying to CONVINCE her through getting her to think it was HER idea....
    Aka... MANIPULATION!
    That worked the best, BUT...
    It took SO long (think Inception), AND
    It inevitably destroyed trust rather than grow trust.
    What if there was a more effective and efficient way that not only gets results, but creates and grows MORE trust and connection along the way.... πŸ˜‰
    Join me in today's Surfing Lessons episode πŸŽ™!
    Get more PASSION. Get more CONNECTION.
    #livewildlyconnected #ruthlesslycommitted
    23 min
  • Surfing Lesson #231: Letting Go of Past Surfing Experiences
    I often hit plateaus in all kinds of areas in my life simply because I can't LET GO of experiences from the past and all the unwanted emotions that are linked to them.
    Whether it's getting hit in the head by a surfboard, tearing a bicep, getting screwed by someone in business, or having my heart broken by the person I love most in life
    These traumas or mini traumas can leave you and me paralyzed for months, years, even decades!
    Yet these traumas when faced and fully acknowledged can lead to the most powerful opportunities and commitments that take us into becoming next-level human beings.
    It's time to stop being defined by your history and instead be DEFINED BY YOUR COMMITMENT! πŸ’ͺ🏼
    Join me in today's Surfing Lessons episode πŸŽ™!
    Get more PASSION. Get more CONNECTION.
    #livewildlyconnected #ruthlesslycommitted
    20 min
  • Surfing Lesson #230: Paddle DOWN the Wave!
    For a new surfer, paddling down the face of a 5+ foot wave can be the hardest thing to get themself to do.
    Everything inside you feels like you can't or even shouldn't do it!
    But in a beginner surfer's heart as they continue to back off wave after wave, there comes a time when they KNOW they MUST do it.
    A place where they go past there feelings and fears and come to terms with what they truly want and are committed to.
    Like paddling down a wave, we all face these decisions. And often the HARDEST thing to do in life is simply the ONE THING that we KNOW we MUST do!
    You can Google diets and physical training all day long, but the reality is, most of us already know what we need to do.
    We know we need to eat healthy, stop eating junk, and train hard.
    The issue is that it's just so hard to ACTUALLY DO WHAT WE KNOW TO DO!
    And there's only one way to get the body you want – to simply show up and freaking do what you know you need to do to get that body – eat healthy and train.
    And for me there’s only one way to make a marriage work...
    It is to show up every single day and do what I have to do even when I hate it, even when I don’t want to even when I hate Luci and want to kill her and quit and strangle her to death.
    (yeah, I know, the rage a be anger inside me can be INTENSE.)
    Even when I want to leave her.
    To create the marriage I want, I must make the decision to go and collide with her again and again and again and AGAIN and do what I know I need to do in my heart
    even when I think it’s unfair even if I think I don’t deserve it even when I think I deserve so much more even when Luci seems like the worst person this world has ever seen.
    I have no choice but to do what I know I need to do, which can be the hardest thing in the entire world
    To do what I know to do again and again
    To show up for myself, not for her, not for my kids, not even for God not for anybody except myself... for what I want and what I am committed to having – the greatest most connected and passionate marriage.
    Doing what we know we need to do is the hardest thing in the world.
    Get more PASSION. Get more CONNECTION.
    #livewildlyconnected #ruthlesslycommitted
    33 min
  • Surfing Lesson #229: REAL Surfing From the Heart
    Do you find yourself trying to perform "good enough"?
    Say the right things that are good enough for your wife?
    Not wanting to be wrong or seem stupid?
    Do you struggle to find the right words to make her happy?
    The right thing to apologize about?
    Or maybe she tells you, it's not what you say, it's HOW you say it.
    What if there's no "good enough" after all?
    What if there's only "REAL enough"?
    Join me in today's Surfing Lessons episode πŸŽ™ to learn the difference between being good enough and REAL enough for yourself and others!
    Get more PASSION. Get more CONNECTION.
    #livewildlyconnected #ruthlesslycommitted
    25 min
  • Surfing Lesson #228: Hitting the Tipping Point
    Ahhhh...the very exciting and often elusive game- hanging "ah-ha" moment, when EVERYTHING changes!
    I remember the very first time I stood up in my surfboard while planing on top of a green, unbroken wave.
    My entire world turned upside down.
    I felt a little bit like Jesus walking in water, a little bit like Peter Pan flying through Neverland, and like I was on the front of the Titanic with Jack right behind me!
    The feeling that enjoyed a a constantly hunted for after that moment!
    You know...
    The moment after searching your whole life for a magical woman who would be your "Ride or Die" and you meet THE ONE.
    Or that moment when after months of frustration and on and off fighting with your wife, you SUDDENLY see each other differently
    And the connection and intimacy is deeper than you've ever experienced after years and years of marriage
    And it feels like you're in a brand new exciting marriage.
    These magical tipping points are absolute game-changers!
    Join me in today's Surfing Lessons episode πŸŽ™ to learn the KEY to ensuring you create these life-transforming moments for yourself!
    Get more PASSION. Get more CONNECTION.
    #livewildlyconnected #ruthlesslycommitted
    21 min
  • Surfing Lesson #227: Hot Sand and Baby Feet!
    I could give you dozens of reasons to simply say "SCREW THE CRITICS" and just BE YOURSELF.
    But instead, I will give you just one. One that has the potential to set your marriage on fire...
    Join me in today's Surfing Lessons episode πŸŽ™ for a secret buried deep inside your wife's heart ❀️.
    It's time to stop messing around!
    Get more PASSION. Get more CONNECTION.
    #livewildlyconnected #ruthlesslycommitted
    30 min
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This is your podcast for the family man looking to access and unlock more PASSION and CONNECTION across every area of life. Your host, Ryan P. Lampe, directly applies daily surfing lessons from the…