In this episode of Surreal Thoughtz Podcast, I reflect on what it really means to love an avoidant — and how self-love is the only way to stop repeating the same emotional patterns.

While cooking and talking from the heart, I dive into the psychology of avoidance, why it’s born from pain, and how we unconsciously become mirrors for each other’s wounds. I also share a story about two people whose connection felt fated but became a lesson — a reminder that when love lacks healing, it turns into confusion.

This episode is for anyone who’s loved deeply but lost themselves in the process. It’s about learning to come home to yourself, to your inner child, and to the kind of love that doesn’t abandon you.

💫 In this episode:
• Why avoidants behave the way they do
• How emotional pain becomes a cycle
• What true self-love looks like beyond the aesthetics
• A story that might sound all too familiar

✨ “They can’t see you because they can’t see themselves. But you can — and it’s time to.”

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• Have you ever noticed a sign so personal you couldn’t ignore it? In this episode, I talk about watching a Spanish movie that showed me my nickname on a number plate and my angel number 44, and how that pushed me to pay attention to what the universe was trying to tell me.

• From there, I dive into what love really means. Love isn’t just a feeling, it’s an action word. It’s built on trust, loyalty, respect, consistency, and effort, and without those, it’s not love. And before you can even give that to anyone else, you have to give it to yourself first.

• We’ll break down how self-love shapes your choices, why boundaries are self-policies, how Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs explains our struggles with love and success, and why courage means facing fear instead of avoiding it.

• This is a blunt wake-up call to stop avoiding yourself, start dating yourself, and remember your worth. If you don’t choose yourself, you’ll always feel unchosen.

-Wildrose

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In this episode, Nas talks you through on how you can implement healthy habits that can help you on your healing journey. The habits that you can form through getting to know yourself by dating YOU. Don't wait for anyone to come and show you the love that you've been needing. You can show yourself love. It's essential to create a stable foundation for yourself when it comes to your self-image.

What do we need to pay attention to?

Let's heal together.

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