Surviving Marriage Podcast

#SurvivingMarriage - Generational Curses vs Generational Dysfunction

Ep 011 – Oh hell yes! Surviving Marriage Podcast is back for Season Two and it's getting bigger and better! Already topping the charts in the Top 200 Relationship podcasts in the US and Top 50 in Canada for Season One, these next 10 shows are sure to catapult it to the Top 25.

Co-hosts Rufus and Jenny Triplett, back fresh from hiatus, takes on a popular topic from social media. Breaking generational curses. But while plenty of people are saying that there are curses in their families, Rufus and Jenny feel that curse is a hard word and that mirror should turn inward to reflect on the level of dysfunctions in families.

There's plenty of hurt in families and the discussions need to continue. If you are married, divorced, engaged or single and seeking, this episode is for you. Also, the insightful Food for Thought segment addresses body shaming. This is the eleventh episode of the Surviving Marriage Podcast. Be sure to SUBSCRIBE. RATE. and REVIEW. Oh, and follow on social media and share with a friend. @survivingmarriage

 

Show Notes:

0:24 - Intro

1:29 - Binge Season One!

1:46 - The wisdom that comes in being a long marriage

2:47 - Generational Curses vs Generational Dysfunction

3:36 - Abuse - Domestic Violence Month

6:12 - Infidelity

7:37 - Children out of Wedlock

9:51 - Divorce

11:39 - A Dysfunction rather than a Curse

12:28 - Domestic Violence is one of the worst things you could deal with in a Marriage

14:05 - There's reasons why people cheat in their marriage

16:20 - "you cheat...you skeet"

17:53 - Divorce is a Choice

20:05 - Continue the discussion via social media

21:12  - Interlude - Problem - Pentatonix

21:30 - Food for Thought - Body Shaming

24:25 - Ride Out...

#SurvivingMarriage - 50+ Years of Marriage with Our Parents

Ep 010 – What better way of marking the 10th episode of the podcast than with a talk with Rufus' parents, who have been married over 50 years, about marriage, life, inlaws, society and much more.

Co-hosts Rufus and Jenny Triplett enjoyed this casual conversation with a couple that have been a part of their lives and marriage for over 50 years and 30 years respectively. Rufus Sr & Donzella Triplett are the parents of Rufus Jr, in-laws to Jenny and have been married 51 years. Fun fact...they got married the same day Rufus was born.

When you have this type of marriage longevity in your family, it's selfish not to share the stories behind it and the wisdom that comes out of it. There is no Food for Thought segment as all of the meat is in the interview. This is the tenth episode of the Surviving Marriage Podcast. Be sure to SUBSCRIBE. RATE. and REVIEW. Oh, and follow on social media and share with a friend. @survivingmarriage

 

Show Notes:

0:24 - Intro

:43 - Rufus Sr & Donzella Triplett

2:08 - They got married in 1968

3:02 - They have been together since they were teenagers

4:59 - Moms took a traditional role - stayed home and took care of the kids

5:59 -  Where does the idea of being a traditional breadwinner come from?

8:24 - When a wife chooses to work

9:44 - Her name is not Kizzy

11:19 - Alot of women want to be mothers but not stay at home mothers

12:00 - INLAWS

15:52 - How do you stay neutral as an inlaw and stay out of the marriage

20:39 - Generational Changes

24:47- Happy Marriage Everyone!

25:39 - Ride Out...

#SurvivingMarriage - Ayize & Aiyana Ma'at - The Real Relationship Experts

Ep 009 – First thing's first we're the realest...or they're the realest! Yes, that's right, when you're branded as being real, real talk, real educated, real people giving real advice, you are real relationship experts.

Co-hosts Rufus and Jenny Triplett break down what it takes to be an expert with with Ayze & Aiyana Ma'at in this original Skype interview. The difference between a licensed therapist and a coach is education but education with lack of experience does not make you the best resource. Take a listen as this conversation takes some deeper dives into marriage experts and therapy taboos.

Keeping relationship talk fun & fun, this discussion is what happens when husbands and wives give perspectives . If you are married, divorced, engaged or single and seeking, this episode is for you. Also, the insightful Food for Thought segment "cheaper to keep her." This is the ninth episode of the Surviving Marriage Podcast. Be sure to SUBSCRIBE. RATE. and REVIEW. Oh, and follow on social media and share with a friend. @survivingmarriage

 

Show Notes:

0:35 - Intro

1:45 -Ayze & Aiyana Ma'at

2:25 - Why are yall the realest?

4:51 - Ayize's perspective on the realest

6:33 - What's make a relationship expert?

10:33 - Coaches with experience

12:10 - Getting folks to go to therapy

13:46 - The stigmatization of therapy

14:44 - Keeping people in therapy...not one and done

17:14 - Seeking counsel is an ancestral tradition

17:59 - Infidelity - Black Men Don't Cheat

22:54 - Congrats to the Emmy Nominated Parents of Asante Black from When They See Us

25:08 - Food for Thought - Cheaper to Keep Her

28:00 - Ride Out...

#SurvivingMarriage - Judge Mablean Ephraim - Bonus Replay

Ep 008 – What happens when marriages go sour? They most often times end in divorce. fortunately the divorce rate has fallen, but when this interview was originally taped, it was off the charts. But why? Why are relationships such a problem?

Co-hosts Rufus and Jenny Triplett chat with Judge Mablean Ephraim, originally from from Divorce Court and now Justice with Judge Mablean, about relationships, reality TV, community work and becoming a judge.

Judge Mablean does not play. If you remember her and watch her currently, you better come with it becasue she will set you straight with a quickness. If you are married, divorced, engaged or single and seeking, this episode is for you. Also, the insightful Food for Thought segment addresses a current marriage respect issue. This is the seventh episode of the Surviving Marriage Podcast. Be sure to SUBSCRIBE. RATE. and REVIEW. Oh, and follow on social media and share with a friend. @survivingmarriage

 

Show Notes:

0:23 - Intro

6:31 - Judge Mablean Ephraim

10:57 - The jump from lawyer to the small screen

12:18 - A brief chat about what happened with Divorce Court

13:20 - Is Reality TV really Reality TV

15:27 - How the laws connect to life issues

17:10 - Brief Break - Shai (Acapella Interlude)

17:46 - The Divorce Rate

21:14 - Who's the worst in divorce...men or women?

22:26 - Judge Mablean's Life Lessons

24:39 - Mablean Ephraim Foundation - focused on making fathers stronger

27:03 - www.judgemablean.com

29:26 - Ride Out...

#SurvivingMarriage - Judge Lynn Toler

Ep 007 – Wasn't it said a while back to put some respect on ling marriages? Well yes, please and thank you. Not only do long, healthy marriages come with wisdom but also some anecdotes and examples that can help all marriages.

Co-hosts Rufus and Jenny Triplett catch up with Judge Lynn Toler, from Divorce Court and Marriage Boot Camp, while on the road to discuss old school marriage and courting vs new school courting and relationships and how and why things are different today.

This is real relationship talk from people that have been married 30 years. If you are married, divorced, engaged or single and seeking, this episode is for you. Also, the insightful Food for Thought segment addresses a current marriage respect issue. This is the seventh episode of the Surviving Marriage Podcast. Be sure to SUBSCRIBE. RATE. and REVIEW. Oh, and follow on social media and share with a friend. @survivingmarriage

 

Show Notes:

0:23 - Intro

1:04 - Judge Lynn Toler

1:46 - The wisdom that comes in being a long marriage

3:19 - The divorce rate is no longer 50%

5:28 - Old School vs New School Courting

6:51 - Millennials

9:07 - Common Thread for Divorces

11:23 - Serial Monogamy

13:18 - Momma Boy Syndrome

15:12 - The Courting Process

17:00 - The best marriage advice ever given and ever received

18:31 - Every marriage is different

19:19 - Food for Thought - Put some respect on long marriages

22:03 - Ride Out...

#SurvivingMarriage - Bonus Episode - Money, Money, Money

BONUS EPISODE - Money. What did the O'Jays say? "Some people, got to have it. Some people really need it." And that's the truth. Have you heard about the Equifax Settlement and the excitement that lit up social media in anticipation of the $125 windfall you would think they were giving out gold.

Co-hosts Rufus and Jenny Triplett discuss what should or could be done with unexpected windfalls of any size. Do you spend it? Splurge on something frivolous? Do you save it, just put it in the bank? Do you invest it to try to flip it? Or do you give it to charity. What would you do?

This is a bonus episode of the Surviving Marriage Podcast. Be sure to SUBSCRIBE. RATE. and REVIEW. Oh, and follow on social media @survivingmarriage and share with a friend.

 

 

#SurvivingMarriage - Essencefest Episode

Ep 006 – Did you make it to Essencefest this year? No worries if you didn't. You will enjoy these highlights of the 25th Anniversary of the festival as well as get ideas on if you should plan to attend next year.

Co-hosts Rufus and Jenny Triplett are also Best Selling Authors and their book, Surviving Marriage in the 21st Century, was featured in the Essencefest bookstore again this year making it two years in a row. As a travel adventuresome duo, they attended the biggest, blackest networking event for more business opportunities.

If you're an entrepreneur you especially want to listen to this episode. Even if you're not an entrepreneur but a patronizer of black businesses, this episode is of special interest to you. Also, the insightful Food for Thought segment addresses a current marriage respect issue. This is the sixth episode of the Surviving Marriage Podcast. Be sure to SUBSCRIBE. RATE. and REVIEW. Oh, and follow on social media and share with a friend. @survivingmarriage

 

Show Notes:

0:27 - Intro

:49 - The Essencefest Episode

3:30 - There's more to Essencefest than concerts

4:45 - Sexual Health at Essencefest

5:35 - Slave Food Movie Premiere at Essencefest

8:17 - Empowerment at Essencefest

9:46 - Vendors at Essencefest

10:51 - Muslims & Couples Sightings at Essencefest

12:00 - Black folks coming together without fighting at Essencefest

12:56 - Private Event at Essencefest

14:29 - Thelma from Good Times at Essencefest

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16:00 - We met some wonderful people at Essencefest

17:07 - Food for Thought - Put some respect on long marriages

20:03 - Ride Out...

#SurvivingMarriage - Traveling with Your Mate

Ep 005 – Traveling with Your Mate. Traveling brings out the most interesting characteristics in a man and a woman. How do you handle it? Are you a stressed and anal traveler or are you more laid back and go with the flow type of person?

Co-hosts Rufus and Jenny Triplett talk about traveling with each other in their many years and experiences as a married couple and the differences between men and women in preparation for travel. This episode is full of relatable situations and infectious laughter.

Listen to this episode with your mate and see where you fit. As this was recorded on the road it is minus the insightful Food for Thought segment. This is the fifth episode of the Surviving Marriage Podcast. Be sure to SUBSCRIBE. RATE. and REVIEW. Oh, and follow on social media and share with a friend. @survivingmarriage

 

Show Notes:

0:24 - Intro

1:21 - We're Back!

2:58 - Traveling With Your Mate

4:48 - What hotels do you stay in?

6:35 - Aesthetics Matter!

9:09 - What do you eat when you travel?

11:24 - The way a woman thinks vs the way a man thinks when traveling

14:55 - Couple's Temperament

19:57 - Ride Out...

#SurvivingMarriage - Gender Roles

Ep 004 – Gender Roles. Don't get it twisted! There's nothing that is predefined in marriage anymore, unless you are totally going for a traditional marriage. But even that should be a discussion BEFORE marriage.

Co-hosts Rufus and Jenny Triplett talk about traditional roles in marriage for men and women, expectations of marriage and how things have changed in regards to people choosing to live a binary lifestyle. So how does that relate to marriage? This episode is sure to spark conversation.

The episode is jam packed with subject matter and contains the insightful Food for Thought segment. This is the fourth episode of the Surviving Marriage Podcast. Be sure to SUBSCRIBE. RATE. and REVIEW. Oh, and follow on social media and share with a friend. @survivingmarriage

 

Show Notes:

0:31 - Intro

0:52 - Welcome

2:43 - Gender Role Study

6:47 - What were your preconceived expectations for a marriage as far as gender roles?

10:33 - What are some things that a woman should not be doing or responsible for in a marriage?

15:39 - What about taking care of the kids?

20:18 - "My wife handles that"

24:39 - Food For Thought - Get On The Same Page As Your Spouse

28:37 - Ride Out...

#SurvivingMarriage - 10 Things NOT To Do At A Wedding

Ep 003 – Weddings. It is getting be that season. Yup, wedding season. It's the time of year that numerous people get married. Historically, couples have more wedding dates between the months of April & June than any other months.

Co-hosts Rufus and Jenny Triplett countdown 10 sensible things that you should think about NOT doing at a wedding. Although times have changed from weddings of the 80's, certain etiquette still exists. Check out the list to see if you agree.

The episode is jam packed with subject matter and contains the insightful Food for Thought segment. This is the third episode of the Surviving Marriage Podcast. Be sure to SUBSCRIBE. RATE. and REVIEW. Oh, and follow on social media and share with a friend. @survivingmarriage

 

Show Notes:

0:24 - Intro

0:44 - Welcome

3:27 - 10) Try Not to Throw Shade on Everything

5:41 - 9) Do Not Bring a +1 if the Invite Doesn't Say So

8:19 - 8) Don't Wear White To Upstage The Bride

10:17 - 7) Don't Brag About Your Gift or Suggest They Open It First

12:30 - 6) Be in the Present...not Texting, Tweeting or on the Phone

14:48 - 5) Do Not Post Pictures on Social Media before the Bride & Groom

17:56 - 4) Do Not Sing Louder Than The Soloist

20:16 - 3) Don't Spend The Whole Time Talking About Social Justice Issues

24:21 - 2) Do Not Hog The Mic Giving Marriage Tips

26:25 - 1) Do Not Get Caught Up In Your Own Love Story and Forget It's Not Your Day

28:04 - Food For Thought - Agree to Disagree - What Leads to Divorce

31:06 - Ride Out...