When it comes to healing and holding boundaries, we have to be vigilant. One could easily miss it when co-dependency and low self-esteem leave the building only to sneak back in through a broken window in the basement! It’s the foolish notion that healing can ever be “done” and it can trick us into believing all is well or things are as good as they can ever be. We forget that healing, just like a house, needs regular and consistent upkeep.
If shadow work is the tedious and boring clean up that helps you find the broken window in the basement than light work is how you fix it! It is craftsmanship, skills developed over time and through lived experiences that teach us and help us become wise. Shadow work is first finding and then accepting responsibility for your own patterns and triggers, it’s about seeing clearly how you defy and deny yourself. You can’t skip over the embarrassing parts that show you your mistakes. Light work is when what you know informs what you do and how you do it. It means changing the parts of yourself that keep you repeating silly mistakes. A healing journey is using pain and suffering to make a difference in how you feel and how you live. We know the world isn’t all love and light but that’s why people like me work with it. Light work is restoring integrity! And it only begins when we are in the dark.
Sometimes we let the window in the basement go too long without repair because we are stuck in the kitchen playing host to some b******t…
This, lovely reader, is where boundaries come in. If you let yourself grow through the lessons of life, it can work like a magical unfolding map. As we learn and adjust our behavior another piece of guidance shows up like mile markers on the path or the luck of placing your foot on a stable stepping stone. Boundaries help develop trust for the inner compass.
Remember that your beautiful soul is housed in that perfectly imperfect body of yours and healing has a lot to do with keeping your body/house clean and clear of the dangers of fake s**t. You are here for something uniquely your own. When you go off on detours they can be spontaneous and fun or silly self sabotage but either way the GPS reroutes you to your ultimate destination. Relax, you’re always headed where you’re going. That’s the good news! This summer I advise these three things… drink water, mind your business, enjoy the process of getting what you’ve always wanted while noticing the subtle ways the ego tries to sabotage . It’s your job to clean it up, to fix what’s wrong and to be a little picky about who you let in. Balance the shadow and light, sweet one. Integration of both, you hear me? Don’t allow division by listening to the internet tell you light work is delusional but do heed the warning about bypassing important lessons. Healing is a “yes and” process, it’s a “and also”, ok? We need you whole, shadow and light, all your so called good and bad is beautiful.
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