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Nicci is finally back on the apps and she has some new icks which leads to discuss the challenges of navigating dating apps, the impact of societal issues on dating, and the complexities of attraction and body image. We also touch on the influence of social media, the weirdness of online interactions, and the importance of community engagement.

If you need a break from doom scrolling - this episode is for you. This was recorded early last week before election results and is full of laughs. Enjoy.

In this episode we discuss various aspects of dating, communication challenges, and the evolution of how people meet their partners over time and generational differences in dating behaviors. The conversation also touches on perceptions of flirting between genders and the importance of effort in relationships. We explore discuss different flirting styles, the challenges of recognizing romantic interest, and the importance of self-affirmation in maintaining emotional balance. The concept of a 'situationship funeral' is introduced as a unique coping mechanism for dealing with unfulfilled romantic connections, emphasizing the need to process feelings and move on. We end on the importance of companionship and the realities of future partnership.

In this episode we're joined my Matchmaker, Simone Grossman (@theinternetyenta) to learn all about matchmaking. She shares her journey into the world of matchmaking, discussing the evolution of dating in modern times, the impact of dating apps, and the importance of understanding client needs. The discussion delves into the challenges faced by plus-size individuals in dating, the significance of enthusiasm in relationships, and the process of working with a matchmaker. The conversation highlights the complexities of dating advice and the necessity of trusting one's intuition in romantic pursuits

In this episode we share life updates, including Nicci's broken fibula and Alex's exciting news about meeting someone new in real life. We discuss gaps and the implications for future relationships.

You asked us questions and we answered. We discuss coping with heartbreak, the complexities of dating and matchmaking, and the impact of body image on self-esteem. We explore the dynamics of dating apps, friends with benefits situations, and the importance of confidence in meeting new people. The conversation also touches on societal pressures regarding body image, the journey of self-acceptance, and the challenges of navigating insecurities.

Alex went to a bar and talked to men in the wild and matched with a chef! Is Nicci a top? Girls on dating apps seem to think so. "I'm a plus size so of course" trend. Body image issues. Do plus size women date less than straight-sized women? Olympics is bringing us back together.

Notes from Nicci: I said omakase wrong TWICE and Ilona Mahar's last name wrong. I know. I'm mad at myself enough for all of us.

In this episode we're joined by Amanda McCracken (@amandajmccracken) to explore the topics of longing and limerence. We delve into the connection between limerence and anxious attachment, the influence of purity culture and romanticized ideals on limerence, the role of self-love in overcoming limerence and the importance of closure in moving on from past relationships. We delve into the longing for unavailable partners, the influence of romantic comedies, and the role of social media in fueling limerence. Amanda also shares her personal experiences with limerence and strategies for overcoming it.

We're backkkkkkkkk! Alex shares her dating update and reflects on her recent experience with a tour manager she was seeing. Despite promises of a future together, the communication quickly dwindled while he was away on tour. Alex confronted him about it, but his efforts to improve were short-lived. She felt disappointed and hurt by his lack of effort and unfollowed her on Instagram. Alex expresses frustration with people who say the right things but don't follow through. She is taking a break from dating apps for now. Nicci gives an update on her dating life and her recent visit to see Boots. She reflects on the future prospects of their relationship and the challenges they face, such as living in different cities and having different priorities. Nicci ultimately decides to end things with Boots and have a conversation with him about it. She expresses her gratitude for the experience and the lessons she learned. Nicci also discusses her feelings of loneliness and the desire to find a meaningful relationship. She acknowledges the importance of being in the right mindset and not settling for less than what she wants and deserves.

It's not like the radio bit - we both went on second dates and it went well??? One of us spiraled and the other is realizing that she had some pretty sh*ty expectations from past relationships and is now expecting a new bare minimum moving forward.