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In this episode we're joined by Amanda McCracken (@amandajmccracken) to explore the topics of longing and limerence. We delve into the connection between limerence and anxious attachment, the influence of purity culture and romanticized ideals on limerence, the role of self-love in overcoming limerence and the importance of closure in moving on from past relationships. We delve into the longing for unavailable partners, the influence of romantic comedies, and the role of social media in fueling limerence. Amanda also shares her personal experiences with limerence and strategies for overcoming it.

We're backkkkkkkkk! Alex shares her dating update and reflects on her recent experience with a tour manager she was seeing. Despite promises of a future together, the communication quickly dwindled while he was away on tour. Alex confronted him about it, but his efforts to improve were short-lived. She felt disappointed and hurt by his lack of effort and unfollowed her on Instagram. Alex expresses frustration with people who say the right things but don't follow through. She is taking a break from dating apps for now. Nicci gives an update on her dating life and her recent visit to see Boots. She reflects on the future prospects of their relationship and the challenges they face, such as living in different cities and having different priorities. Nicci ultimately decides to end things with Boots and have a conversation with him about it. She expresses her gratitude for the experience and the lessons she learned. Nicci also discusses her feelings of loneliness and the desire to find a meaningful relationship. She acknowledges the importance of being in the right mindset and not settling for less than what she wants and deserves.

It's not like the radio bit - we both went on second dates and it went well??? One of us spiraled and the other is realizing that she had some pretty sh*ty expectations from past relationships and is now expecting a new bare minimum moving forward.

Nicci is breaking her 2 year dating break & Alex said ta ta Captain and started talking to a new guy. How did they go? What happened? Will there be a second date?

This week we're joined by Erin Renzas to talk about the radical mind shift she had after a breakdown that led her to completely change her life. We discuss a lot about sense of self and the lie society pushes that losing weight will make everything better.

It's like a carousel that never stops...we're back on the apps and Alex is going on dates! It's been awhile since it's been the two of us so we catch up and dive into passive relationships, the hill theory and all of the other advice we've seen on tiktok.

Last time we had intersectional-feminist dating coach, Lilly Womble (@datebrazen) on Nicci had a full on panic attack about deleting her dating apps. Now she's back and releasing her first book!! You can pre-order "Thank You, More Please: A Feminist Guide to Breaking Dumb Dating Rules and Finding Love" now! We learn more about her step-by-step guide to owning what you want and attracting it with joy and ease!

This week we're joined by Hannah (@mimosasandlipstick_) to learn all about her most recent breakup with Mr. Man's. We've gotten some juicy little tidbits online and now we're finally getting the whole story.

Alex is back from Thailand so we catch up with her about her trip and her latest dating meetups and we're joined by Kayla Stansberry (@fatpositivetherapist) who is a licensed therapist that specializes in fat trauma

This week we're joined by Datura Jonez (@daturajonez) to discuss her dating break and dating as a black, autistic woman. We also talk about passport bros and how Nicci was too busy "gardening" to go on a date.