We recently ran into a surprisingly contentious issue: Who pays for the first date? The person who asked out the other? Should you split the bill? Perhaps the company responsible for the app that got you there in the first place should pick up the tab? There are no right answers on this one, so we explore different perspectives and preconceptions while laughing along the way. 

In this unusually lengthy episode, we talk about how to transition from messaging/texting to actual irl dating. We go over the importance of meaningful interactions through messaging, not spending too long in texting limbo (unless you are looking for a pen pal), and coming from a place of self-worth when dealing with occasional rejection. Not-Lilly also shares some specific ways to make someone comfortable enough to ask you out, which led us to discuss the importance of communicating interest. 

This dating advice episode is about desperation. This person is self aware enough to ask: "How do I stop being desperate?" We talk about common causes for desperation, how it can keep you from seeing the true personality of anyone you meet, and ways to shift your perspective towards contentment with your current place in life. We also talk about the similarities between it and addiction, and how continuously longing for a partner can be detrimental for your personal growth. 

The dating scene can be a rollercoaster, and it's sometimes tempting to lose sight of vulnerable optimism and instead lean towards the fleeting comfort of cynicism. In this episode, we talk about common causes for cynicism, and ways to not lose sight of the good things. 

One of our listeners asks: why so many pictures with sunglasses? Are they trying to hide something? And also, not-lilly gets an unexpected text from a long-forgotten person that leads to hilarious analysis and advice. 

The dating world can be exhausting to traverse at times, leading to feelings of hopelessness, cynicism or worse. In this episode, we talk about what it means to feel burnt out from dating, the importance of taking breaks and taking care of yourself, and things you can do before jumping back onto the dating scene.

In this dating advice episode, We give some perspective to a woman that felt a bit intimidated by her date's rugged good looks. Also, some quick advice to a man complaining about sleep problems with his newfound love interest. The sleep problems are not what we thought, they will not be what you think, and the advice we give is both hilarious and timely. 

Sometimes, you need more than two perspectives on things. So, get ready for our very first group dating discussion! With seven participants in total, we go around the table and discuss different dating-related topics such as "How long does it take to know if you have chemistry with someone", "What are some green flags you look for during a first date", and more! It's fun, it's funny, it's gluten-free, and we hope you like it! 

A silver lining of this past year has been an increased tolerance for virtual dates before a real date. In this episode, we talk about why it might be a good idea to meet over video first, what things you can watch out for, and how to bring your best self forward by choosing your environment wisely. 

We all have our list of must-haves, but are you being too picky? In this episode, we discuss the difference between preferences and deal-breakers (yes, there is a difference). We will go over some ways to distinguish between the two, and urge our listeners to remember that in some cases "perfect" is the enemy of "good".