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Part #2.  If i’m consciously trying to make decisions with God, My Higher Power, whatever you want to call it.  I’m apt to be inspired throughout the day.  So set aside contempt.  And visualize the kind of day you want, the feelings you will have, who you will encounter etc.  Perhaps all you have to do is try.

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Mischa Zvegintzov  00:01  And part two. I will make no decisions. Today, I will make no decisions by myself. Part two. And the idea is that if I'm making no decisions by myself, or that our ego driven, small s self, ego driven, my selfish wants and desires. Versus I'm making joint decisions with that capital S self, making a joint decision, the small self, capital S, Self, God, whatever this is like, it's like teamwork. And so, part of this is, you got to be willing to believe that this is effective. And I am willing to believe.  I like I'm willing to believe so I'm willing to take the action.  Or perhaps you're not willing to believe try it anyway. Right, I would strongly encourage you, if you're like,...  Yo kids, kids on bikes, screaming by making funny faces, e bikes, so they're going really fast. Anyhow, you know, it's interesting, I believe, you don't believe that it's gonna work, you just have to be willing to try. You've just gotta be willing to try.

Mischa Zvegintzov  01:33  And so this was the progression of this for me, I would read the notes that I just told you.  And in the morning visualize the day, and the thoughts, feelings, emotions, I wanted to have the experiences I wanted to have.  And then I would feel great, be super, you know, inspired, productive, boom, boom, boom. You know, a few hours later, cracks in that, in that inspiration start to form. And I was finding that it would take me way, many hours, as I, you know, it will take me many hours to fall back to the, to the idea. And to re visualize the kind of day that I want to have, right? So it's basically saying, Hey, if you fall off track, re-visualize that day you want to have. Start over. And then, you know, reconnect with, with making decisions with the capital S self. So I was finding it was being effective, when I would do that. And so I was like, dang, if I could just do it more, if I could just do this routine, more, if I could just, throughout the day, reflect and pause more. Like, and so I started to do that. Find, you know, a few more times to do it. And this is for when things are really hard in this entrepreneurial endeavor, and I'm really, at a rough, sticky, icky point.

Mischa Zvegintzov  03:36  Most recent, it's been with the avatar work and, and shifting pivoting directions, and all the fears associated with that. So, you know, I'm going to get kicked out of my coaching group.  I'm going to offend people.  A lot of it's how am I going to look people will think that I'm doing the wrong thing or will judge me and so a lot of...  I'll admit it you know, insecurity and fear and, and self doubt, maybe, yeah, self doubt. And so, like, I'd like to shorten that pain loop, perhaps the pain have the pain loop, go away altogether. And and so, I want to read this next thing.  "If you are so unwilling to receive, you cannot even let your question go". So in this case, my question would be, which avatar Should I go with which, who's the perfect customer? "At least I can decide, I do not like what I feel now. And so I hope I have been wrong.  I want another way to look at this. Perhaps there is another way of looking at this. What can I lose by asking?"  Right, what can I lose by asking source your internal clock, God higher power, whatever. So creating space for that inspiration, being...go...You know what I'm not willing to, to, you know, do the process, but I'm willing to ask. I love that or you can read it read that however you want. But again, this has been this whole little process has been very powerful over the last couple of months. And so it culminated with, alright, visualize the day I want. And very effective. And then I would fall out of it. And it would take me a few hours, when I would come to, like a sticking point in my creative process around this entrepreneurial endeavor. So most recently that again, that's been the... which avatar am I going to use in this, this strong sense of time to pivot? And so the fear and insecurity that that brings up, and so whenever I would go back to visualizing the day I would feel new and newly inspired. Alright, God, let's make this decision together. Today, I will make no decision by myself.

Mischa Zvegintzov  06:30  And I had this this sort of Epiphany, two epiphanies very recently. First one was okay. I, I, I can simply reflect and pause and tell myself the kind of day I want. And I don't have to go through like this for you know, meditative process visualization process, right? Like, it's already implanted deeply, in my mind, in my psyche. Now, like, I've visualized that day, very many times, over the past couple of weeks, or months, or whatever it is, months by now, you know.  Two months, perhaps whatever, exact timeline doesn't matter. And so, but, but to go back to that, it's time of agitation. And so then I fully had the inspiration, over the past couple of days. Continue to go to that thought, today, "I'll make no decision by myself", while I'm in inspiration while I'm in the flow. So don't even wait till you fall out of it, like accelerate the flow. Or, or you know, just stay in it. Yeah. So I've been doing that over the past couple of days, as I've been super creative. And feeling like I've been making decisions in partnership with God, my higher power, like going, alright, I'm in the zone. So pause, throughout the day, reflect and pause, and tell myself The kind of day I want. So keep in it.

Mischa Zvegintzov  08:41  I guess that's how I could set I don't know, I'm so excited having so much fun playing with this and in my meditation this morning, and then my and then my note taking and you know, spiritual reading / work. I was just, I wrote down you kind of talk about this. So here I am talking about it. I encourage you to try it. Set aside contempt, the thought of Today I will make no decisions by myself. You'll make him with your higher power, whatever that means to you. And that visualize that kind of day you want the who you're going to encounter.  Which is for me, you know, creative supportive types that are in the same sort of flows process state, co creation.  You know, the thoughts feelings that I would have, how I'd feel I want to feel creative. I want to feel intuitive. I want to feel like the answers are coming easily. There there are no questions because I'm just doing it.  How about that just fully inspired. Anyway there you have it love to all let's keep at it.  Peace out.

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"Today I will make no decisions by myself” and how powerful that can be.  Either I’m making choices from “myself”, “the ego”, ego driven.  Or I'm going to make decisions with God, the capital S inner-self, that internal clock, that internal guidance, the infinite mind the Infinite Intelligence, the universe, the gods, the universe.  Call it what you will.  Things seem to go much smoother when I’m making decisions with something outside of my ego.

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Mischa Zvegintzov  00:00

Alrighty, I am going to talk about this idea that "today I will make no decisions by myself", and how powerful that can be. And yeah, I'm out walking, by the way. So there's lots of kids out this afternoon, lots of soccer players, lots of moms, lots of coaches, lots of dogs. So we may have some distractions. Anyhow, today, I will make no decisions by myself. And this assumes the idea that you're going to... I'm going to make decisions with God, or the capital S inner-self, that internal clock, that internal guidance, some people like to say it that way. You know, the infinite mind the Infinite Intelligence, you know, the universe, the gods. I used to love to say the gods for a while. But that I'll make no decisions by myself, which assumes ego, ego driven by myself small s self. Implies, that ego driven. This is an idea, the way this is framed is my perception or my understanding of something that I had read a couple of months ago, in A Course In Miracles. Everybody, by this point knows how much I love A Course In Miracles, and how powerful a spiritual tool that is in my life.

Mischa Zvegintzov  01:55

So this also, in for anybody who's, you know, in recovery, so I've been in recovery for a long time, and, you know, the idea that's floated around in recovery a lot. And I'm sure it's the same idea that's floating around, floated around in church a lot, or, I'm sure a lot of, you know, positive mindset, speakers, thought leaders, etc. You know, point to the same thing. Sorry, you atheists out there, you might be left hanging out to dry, but you probably have somebody that, or something you can point to as well. But that was an awesome digression. So, in recovery, you know, there's this idea of, Hey, God, how can I be of service, how can I be of service, Thy will not mine be done. This isn't an original idea to life or a way to live life, it's just, that's where that idea was presented to me in recovery. And so, you know, some of the 12 step literature can point to, you know, when you wake up in the morning, take some time, try and get aligned with your higher power. And then, you know, take appropriate action, and then you'll be more inspired throughout the day. And who doesn't want to be inspired, I want to be inspired. I love being inspired. Inspired lends to happiness and fulfillment. And, you know, moving from the heart and all the stuff. You know, spiritual success, you're climbing the right ladder, lord knows I've climbed the wrong ladder. And then, you know, and some in some of the 12 step literature, it'll point to, as you go throughout the day, try and turn back to that, to that idea, like when you're agitated. God, you know, Thy will not mind be done. You know, God, I'm no longer running the I'm no longer running the show. Your will not mine be done. To try and come back and get grounded re get into inspiration. And so I've been playing with this idea for a very, for decades now.

Mischa Zvegintzov  04:31

That I came across it in the Course in Miracles which framed it in in this new way where Today I will make no decisions by myself. And so in the morning, in my morning routine, I've been leaning heavy into that. All right, I'm going to make no decisions by myself. And then it... A Course In Miracles says effectively, "if resistance strong and and dedication week, think about the kind of day you want. And tell yourself, there is a way in which this very day can happen. Just like that. There, there is a way, there is a way in which this very day can happen just like that. Then try again, to have the day you want." And I love that idea. So, I very much recently have been visualizing. And this has been a working process this. And it's been working very well as of late. But anyway, visualizing like this this day that I want. And, you know, I want to be inspired. I want to feel like I'm creative. I want to feel like I'm in the flow. I want to, I want to feel like the kind of day I want, I want things to come to me easily. I don't want to, you know, stress and wonder about which direction to take.

Mischa Zvegintzov  06:10

And as I'm on new entrepreneurial endeavors, I can have a lot of that sort of chaos, zipping through my mind, constantly questioning a course of action. Right? So I'm finding like, yeah, there'd be some great times to, to, to, you know, to turn back to this "today I'll make no decisions by myself" idea. So I think visualizing, sort of this day, I want how I want to fee.  And and then it goes on, throughout the day, reflect, pause, and tell myself, the kind of day I want.  The feelings I would have the things I want to happen to me. And the things you would experience and say, "if I make no decisions by myself, this is the day that will be given me. I have no question. I forgot what to decide." And, obviously, we forgot to decide, or what I forgot to decide is that I'll make no decisions by myself ego driven decisions. And so I've found that as I've taken the time to try to visualize the day that I want, the experiences that I want to have, like the inspirational piece supportive people that I'm going to meet.  That, that I'm writing down ideas that are flowing through I'm not fighting these moments, I'm in embracing these moments, with all and wonder.  And having fun, fun, like I'm having fun. It's not a chore, it's fun. And and as I run long on this episode, I will I'll tell you that I am having success, but that I've definitely got more to say in this regard. So let's talk more episode two.

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Shifting from the healing modality avatar to the business minded avatar.  There’s a way to bridge those two.  How can I be of service with this?  Oftentimes a big source of my problems is me trying to think my way through it.  Who do I need to talk to quickly?  I'm really aware in this moment of how much I am concerned what other people are gonna think. Don’t throw the baby out with the bathwater.  Change that brings me uncertainty vs change that brings good.  Waiting for that moment of inspiration, trusting that it will come. 

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Mischa Zvegintzov  00:03

What can I bring to the table? How can I be of service? How can I be of service and what can I bring to the table? I am trying to keep that in the forefront of my mind. And as I fight this new idea of this new avatar. right. and shift more towards business, this side of things.  Strategy which I love. Business it's a part of me that's that's been rekindled as I come out of you know, being a stay at homeish dad wandering with intention. And very excited about it and but it is causing me turmoil as I've put a lot of time and effort into the Tools For A Good Life Summit and the end, sort of that more of a healing modality type of Avatar.   What's really cool I do believe, though, is there's there's a way to bridge those two. And I, I haven't really figured it out yet. And so I'm going to talk a little bit about that on this episode, but also a really cool breakthrough. I don't know if breakthrough is the right word, but just some freedom I got for, for asking for some help in this regard.

Mischa Zvegintzov  01:36

But the 2CCX coaching group that I'm in, which I'm obviously always talking about, because it's such a big part of my life, is rolling over to, you know, a new, a new course curriculum.  Nott full sail, changes, but definitely changes and so I feel a little hung out to dry. As, as I'm on my island, I can tend to be on an island when I'm trying to figure things out. So as I, as I sort through, needing to do an Ask campaign for what, what, what all you all on my current email list would want, as far as you know, a course or a challenge or, or something like that. I'm battling with the avatar thing, too. So this, this episode is a little wound’ee. Hopefully, by the time it goes up, I'll have all these answers. Clear as a bell, that's what I'm hoping. So that way, by the time I publish it, I'll be able to laugh, laugh at myself. And I think along this the ideas of service of how I can be of service with this. So you can see the struggle, if if you're coming behind me, you can see the struggle of trying to dial in who you're going to help how you're going to help them, you know, just new ventures. And then if you're ahead of me, you can encourage me to catch up with you and into perhaps show me show me show me the better lit path. And if you're side by side with me, well, we can laugh and cry together.

Mischa Zvegintzov  03:36

But, you know, I consistently get this when I focus on this new idea. And don't let the fear of a full pivot take over. I'm generally content. So where am I going with this? All right, where I'm going with this is I'm I've as I felt alone on the island and trying to get answers and think my way through it, which is oftentimes a big source of my problems is me trying to think my way through it. In my in my journaling at the end of the night, in some meditation, it came clear, the answer came clear. Hey, you know, there's a question in my journaling. That's who do I need to talk to? Effectively? Who do I need to talk to quickly? Is there something I need to tell somebody along those lines have a question? And it's like yeah, I need to communicate with the open classroom with the open hours of the classroom with the with the with the coaches in this to 2CCX. I need to bring up my fears and I need to be vulnerable and I'm scared to do it in the open classroom setting because other people are going to are going to be there. And perhaps judge, right. I'm really aware in this moment of how much I am concerned what other people are gonna think. Right? And maybe I get thrown out of this whole thing? And if so, what if and so what?

Mischa Zvegintzov  05:32

But, um, so I trusted my intuition open hours were open until the open classroom out of the open office hours for the coaches. We're open today until 2pm, Pacific Standard Time. And of course, I jumped in at at 135 or something like that. And, you know, had to wait 10 minutes till it was my turn. And so I got the last 15 minutes effectively, but it just, I guess the point of all the of this whole episode is really, when I jumped on the the Open Office Hour, the coaches, open office hours and was willing to be vulnerable, and share my insecurities and my fears. I immediately got great input and great answers, great ideas, great strategies and tactics. But I also had freedom, freedom of the mind. And it was extremely clear. As soon as I got off the call, I was like, Oh, yeah. Okay, like, although the curriculum has changed, the way that I get to interact with the coaches has changed. Don't throw the baby out with the bathwater. Like, I just was very clear how averse to change I can be.  And when it's changed, that brings me uncertainty.  Versus change that's like, I know is bringing good. You know what I'm talking about, right? Um, anyhow. So it felt really good to go in the classroom and, and, you know, get clarity on I got clarity on where the whole curriculums going, more concise vision of what I'm trying to do like it because it's very clear to me right now that when I have ambiguity in the curriculum that I'm following, like, that's no good for me.  Or I need to express it and and healthily deal with it. Right? Some people like a looser guardrail, in that regard.

Mischa Zvegintzov  07:55

What else can I say? Just trying to communicate? You know, I, I was hoping, before I continued with episodes in this vein, I was hoping to have answers, right. I was hoping to be well, on the path well, on one avatar path or the other. But I'm not. And it reminded it definitely reminds me of, of that of when I was in such turmoil with the summit. And then all the sudden one day, you know, I had a conversation with Robert, I believe his name was there's the Robert interviews. I think it's 1, 2, 3. Robert, number one, number two, number three, perhaps, Robert P. But that's where the inspiration for the Tools For A Good LIfe Summit was solidified. And so I'm confident that some of that will continue, or that type of inspiration will continue on the avatar, just perhaps not in my timeframe. Anyway, thank you for letting me ramble. Thank you for listening. Thank you for your support. I truly, truly do appreciate it. And if you're with me on this entrepreneurial and spiritual journey with me, you know, God bless. We'll keep trying one day at a time.

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The new Avatar.  The new inspiration for who I can help.  Who perhaps god wants me to help.  I got an iPad Air 4 and am taking notes on it trying to break away from the yellow pads.  You can record 6 days episodes in a two hour setting.  I swear I’m not being a narcissist.  I’m just finding my voice :).  …it’s more painful to veer away from the path than the pain to press forward with it. How's that?  The fledgling Funnel Hacker.  The fledgling online business creator.  Help them get to the Two Comma Club Award.  I.e. $1,000,000 in revenue :).  …craft a new vision.

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Mischa Zvegintzov  00:02

I'm going to get to it while the mind is fresh, and cranking away.  I was meditating this morning, I do want to say...  Well what main thing I want to talk about is the new avatar for me, or my new direction that that new inspiration and embracing it, that new inspiration towards who I think I can help. Even more specifically, who perhaps, God wants me to help, or the infinite intelligence or the universe with the creative mind, that capital S inner self. Oh my gosh, I've got all these Apple products. And I tried to silence them all for when I record, but I got a new iPad Air 4 I think it is. So I could start taking notes everywhere instead of on yellow pads on an iPad, which has been awesome and amazing. And I strongly encourage everybody to go after it. The pen works you know, the Apple Pencil is freaking awesome. The the tech is fine. You can... it's really cool what you can do and organize and, and all that stuff. There's some bumps as I break away from the yellow pads as much but that's okay. Oh my god, where was I going with all this so?

Mischa Zvegintzov  01:43

Break breathe. So the last episode I recorded, I'm going to give you a little insight to a little secret, which you may or may not know. But you can record six days episodes in a two hour setting. For example, if you were doing if you were doing 8 to 12 minute episodes. podcast episodes, an eight to 12 minute episode every day, and you were to record five of those. What's that? An hour and a half? Let's say. you know, let's assume each one is 10 minutes. On average, that's 15 minutes. Perhaps you have a minute or three or four break in between. So your... the illusion of the timeline is just that. Like perhaps the last episode that that I recorded in this line of thinking of who's my avatar and who am I going to serve? There's that damn iPad 4 beeping at me again, distracting me. Damn you, Apple. Where was I? Oh my gosh, this is just awesome. A quick side note. It's really funny. recording an episode every day to your podcast, blog or YouTube channel. It can feel in the moment like this moment right now incredibly self centered. Um, what's that narcissistic. Someone said to me and not have service in the moment as a microcosm, is that the right word? As a small brief window of the whole thing. Like if I just look at this episode right here, it could sound like "Oh, Mischa is just talking about his own stuff. Blah, blah, blah." But in reality, it is truly helping me be of service to you and the world and my developing niche in a better manner.

Mischa Zvegintzov  04:16

So how about that? So in the moment to anybody just jumping in on this episode. They could be like, Who is this narcissist talking about himself. But in reality, it's helping me find my voice, the elusive voice and I'm definitely gaining ground. Opened up all these these thought loops. I apologize. I seem to be very good at that being distracted. So be it. Welcome to the journey. If you are a fledgling funnel hacker, a fledgling online a fledgling if you're a fledgling Online Business creator, how's that you're trying to create, go go online with a business create an online business? If you're a fledgling person, entrepreneur, online entrepreneur, how about that a fledgling online entrepreneur, or a fledgling funnel hacker means you're kind of brand new to it all. Then perhaps if your vision is not super clear, like some people jump into this game, and they have this, I meet them all the time, their vision is so pure and so clear. Like, how awesome is that? It's so easy to just, well, looks easy'er to, to follow the instructions on how to build your online business, right? And so I am a fledgling funnel hacker that's really good at following the steps and implementing the steps. Like get each step each successive step done. And you will be that much closer to the Two Comma Club Award. That's the goal as a fledgling Funnel Hacker is to get clarity and get vision and get to that Two Comma Club Award. So I can help people do that. So actually, I'm committing to that. Trying one day at a time to commit to that. And whenever I veer away from that, these days, it gets really painful, psychically painful, more painful to veer away from it than the pain to press forward with it. How's that?

Mischa Zvegintzov  06:45

So I'm sorry, divorced dads, or you or you, high performers that have fallen off the horse, and are ready to get back on. Actually, you can still be my avatar, you are part of that avatar. Because creating an online business and crafting a new vision. That's what I'm doing. Crafting a new vision. I need to write that down. Thank you crafting a new vision. Word my pen go. I'm writing this down. Thank you patients. I suppose I could hit pause. I'll do that. See, thank you. That's, that was me. That was the process and actually crafting the vision forward. I love that. So one of the hats that my you know what? Oh my gosh, I'm so excited. That's such a juicy little thing. So you find all hackers out there that are ready to blaze the trail to the two comma Club Award, and would like help in that regard by following the path doing the blocking...block... blocking and tackling. Implementing the key steps. I'm still talking, figuring out how to talk about it. That's where we're going. That's where I'm going. And whenever I go back to the capital S inner self, the higher intelligence that's where I'm led. And one of the hats of the people within that could be a high performing dad, excuse me a high performing get divorced dad wanting to get back on the horse, or just a high performer who's ready to get back on the horse.

Mischa Zvegintzov  08:47

A little bit of babbling going on here. But that is that thank you for hanging in there with me. Thank you for being a part of the process. Thank you for helping me craft the broader vision. Refine my vision. I can actually tell you the exact episode by publishing every day where that happened. I can tell you where and when the new inspiration came to me. I can tell you where I flip flop back to the old and then where the new vision was presented again "This is it. This is it show no fear". That's what I've got little little little fuzzy but brain was cranking I wanted to I wanted to record. I have. And yeah so... I am going to show... what... I'm going to be... try to hold conviction on this new avatar. You fledgling funnel hackers that would like to solidify your path your vision to the Two Comma Club Stage to $1 million in gross revenue. That's what that is the Two Comma Club. I'm writing down again, your path, your vision to the Two Comma Club Stage. So basically you fledgling online entrepreneurs that would like to get to a million dollars in annual revenue, gross revenue. I'm your man. Your fledgling, you're just getting started. I can help you. I'm a few steps ahead. And I am doing it. I'm so good at sticking to the the steps. I've done it in so many different ways in my life, areas of my life and had success putting engines in cars. Getting clean and sober. Became a yoga teacher. It's hyper competitive to be a yoga teacher here in Encinitas, California. The hotspot of yoga teaching. I could go on and on That's it. I'm done. I will not hold you hostage any any longer. I believe I close the loop answered the question, addressed the point. Peace out.

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0:00:05.8 Mischa Z: Welcome back, everybody to the Tools For a Good Life Summit, and I would like to welcome Amy Tran, MA... Welcome, Amy.

0:00:16.7 Amy Tran: Thank you, thank you for having me. Hello, everyone.

0:00:21.2 Mischa Z: Awesome. And quick I'm gonna read your bio and then we'll get down to the fun. Okay?

0:00:28.5 Amy Tran: Mm-hmm.

0:00:29.9 Mischa Z: Fantastic. So Amy is a doctoral student studying clinical psychology in Ontario, Canada, she has received intensive training to provide therapy as well as diagnose mental health disorders and autism in children and adolescents, she has trained in community mental health centers, hospitals and private practices across Ontario. You are also involved in research that examines how the use of smartphones and tablets by young children and parents may disrupt the healthy development of children. Before committing to become a psychologist, you studied visual and creative arts and your Instagram account @doodledwellness, @doodlewellness is where your passion for mental health and art come together, and I do wanna say that your Instagram account is freaking awesome, I just... Brings a smile to my face. And I love everything about it, and it was one of the ways I tracked you down. But let me continue before we get to that.

0:01:42.1 Amy Tran: Thank you.

0:01:44.4 Mischa Z: Indeed. You draw doodles on social media and create workbooks to make mental health resources and information more accessible to everyone. You're very successful at that. Amy's goal is to raise awareness about mental illness, combat stigma, share helpful coping skills, invite you to practice mindfulness and brighten your social media feed with a daily pick me up, and you will be completing your residency in Toronto next year. Correct?

0:02:17.7 Amy Tran: Yes. Well, next year academic year, but this year, September 2021, I'll be off the internship. Yay! [chuckle] Gotta check my pulse.

[laughter]

0:02:30.9 Mischa Z: And then once you graduate, you hope to continue working with youth integrating mindfulness into mental health treatment and advocating for more accessible mental health treatment.

0:02:44.8 Amy Tran: Mm-hmm.

0:02:45.9 Mischa Z: Alright, again, welcome to the Summit. And when I look over here, everybody, I'm just looking at your Instagram feed again, @doodledwellness, and you have managed to compile 154,000 followers. Does that surprise you?

[chuckle]

0:03:04.7 Amy Tran: It really does. I mean, even just hearing you say that number out loud, it's like, "What? Really? Like my account?" So it is surprising. Yeah.

0:03:14.0 Mischa Z: Yeah, I think what's really cool about it too, is there's a humbleness within it, there's a humbleness within your doodledwellness.com, your main web page, so I love that. I think there's so much stuff to talk about there, I like your most recent post, childhood trauma. Again, I'm just looking over here, so I apologize. Yes, childhood trauma can also be dot dot dot... And being in my young 50s and perhaps earlier in my 40s, being an A-type male, like a hard charger and all this, if I heard the word trauma, my brain would think, I don't have trauma or that's only this over here, but that's not true, it turns out. Maybe you could speak to that for a second.

0:04:10.8 Amy Tran: Yeah, No, I'd love to... I agree, I think most people, when they think about trauma, they think about what do we call, big T trauma, right? Catastrophic accident, natural disaster, abuse or neglect, and of course, those things are very, very traumatic, but I think also love is something that all humans want and crave and need, and especially as a child, right? When you're in that vulnerable stage, who do you depend on to receive love and to have your needs met? Well, the answer typically would be your parents, your mom and dad. But you can have an amazing relationship with mom and dad, they can provide you with food, shelter, warmth, but when there are certain dynamics that play out where you feel like you can't express how you're feeling, you can't share your thoughts, you have to be a certain way to gain approval, love or validation, then that's traumatizing because you are betraying who you really are. And when we're younger, we don't have the mature brain to be able to say, "Well, maybe mom and dad are just having a bad day, or maybe mom and dad were never modeled how to cope with my emotional needs."

0:05:38.2 Amy Tran: Instead, the small infant brain is like, "There's something wrong with me." And that core belief gets internalized and carries on throughout adulthood and that's traumatizing, right? To feel like we don't deserve love or cannot receive love unless we're certain people.

0:06:02.5 Mischa Z: Yeah, it is traumatizing. And yeah, so hiding your true self by fear of disapproval and to carry that habit into adulthood, right? Denying your needs to be strong for your family. When you say that, denying your needs to be strong for your family... Tell me that.

0:06:23.7 Amy Tran: Yeah. Yeah, so let me give you an example. So let's say you are the only male in the home and something's going on with your siblings, so maybe they have special needs or maybe they developed a drug habit or a serious mental health condition, and everyone starts to work together to help this person through, or maybe someone gets cancer, let's say.

0:06:50.8 Mischa Z: Okay.

0:06:52.8 Amy Tran: And as the young man, you're like, "Well, my dad is so occupied, he's not able to provide for the family because he's dealing with this or this, so I'm gonna be strong for the family. I'm not gonna talk about how scared I am, how worried I am, what I need." And you suppress that, "Oh, what? I'm fine, I'm totally fine. Let's talk about you, don't worry about me."

0:07:14.1 Mischa Z: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah and then perhaps you develop the habit of... I know I did [chuckle] of not learning how to communicate perhaps, or feeling that it was okay to be stressed out, or I guess to communicate that in a healthy manner, right?

0:07:33.8 Amy Tran: Right, totally.

0:07:36.1 Mischa Z: Yeah, another post that you have that again, I'm looking at over here is it's normalized men, and I love that, and it again, resonated with me being in my 40s, fortunately, I was like, I need to start figuring out how to express my emotions, how to cry, how to check in with another, how to ask for help. That's so hard. So maybe talk to that for a minute, normalized men...

0:08:07.6 Amy Tran: Yeah. The post, it says, Normalize men asking for help, checking in on each other, crying, sharing their feelings, practicing self-care and having fears and doubts. So I think that it again, it comes back to just, who are we? We're just human beings, right? So this concept of men having to hide their emotions, be strong, that vulnerability is a weakness, those are all just societal constructs that we've taken on, but they're really harmful because we're social beings and we need each other, and we ask each other for help. Checking in on each other that makes you feel like you're wanted, like you belong. Crying, this one is a really interesting one because crying is an emotional release, and in fact, when we cry, there is research to suggest that it can actually help your body bounce back into a place of equilibrium, but we suppress that, right? Sharing feelings, same thing.

0:09:14.8 Amy Tran: So having fears and doubts, like if you don't talk about that, then nobody really can reach out to you to help, maybe it gets to the point where you're suppressing it so much that you don't even realize it yourself, so it's just... I think that as someone who identifies as female, I'm very grateful that I have the space with other females to talk about feelings and to share insecurities. And with men, a lot of times, I don't see that, and I think it can be be very detrimental for your mental health because you have no one to talk to and emotions needs somewhere to go, but they're all suppressed in, or it comes out in other ways, like working too much, drinking, gambling, shopping, performance, right? Or...

0:10:12.0 Mischa Z: Yes, yes, yes, yes. Good. [chuckle] Yes, thank you for that.

0:10:13.8 Amy Tran: So you're like, "Oh, I can resonate with that." Is that what you're... Yeah.

0:10:18.9 Mischa Z: Yeah, I think and my sort of the arc for me was, I've been lucky to, a good portion of my life to be on a growth trajectory, let's say, but I definitely think at some point as a male, I was taking in more emotions than I was letting out, so I was building for that pop, and then at some point I was... It leveled out, so I was taking in as much as I was letting out, but I still had a whole bunch of pent-up emotions for a lifetime of these seemingly non-traumatic things. And so when I hit my 40s, it was like divorce, both my parents died in rapid succession, career upheaval, and then I had another failed relationship and just... It was like the...

[vocalization]

0:11:18.6 Mischa Z: Right?

0:11:18.9 Amy Tran: Right, right. Yeah.

0:11:22.3 Mischa Z: And yeah, and so I spent a lot of time, I would say, I just say by the grace of God, finding healthy ways to cry, finding that safe space to... I found a community where it was okay as a male to cry and cry a lot, and so that really saved me and then started asking for help, and I think that can be hard as an A-type male it can be hard to ask for help so...

0:11:49.3 Amy Tran: Yeah, totally.

0:11:51.1 Mischa Z: Yeah, I don't mean to take this over, but I think that that leads us to a great point, if you've got a guy like me who's in his 40s, let's say, and I go through a divorce and one of my kids is like not acting like I want, which can be stressor and that can feel traumatic. Both my parents died and the financial stress and more failed relationships and it became evident to me that my... Like work my way through it, find more success, earn more money, whatever it was, was no longer gonna work. I needed different tools. I needed new tools. So given that scenario, my question to you is thinking of technology as a tool, 'cause you're clearly in tune with that. There we go. I know there's an app you recommend called Mooditude, right?

0:12:48.2 Amy Tran: Yes, yes.

0:12:49.1 Mischa Z: And then, I think you're also proficient in some CBT, some cognitive behavioral therapy?

0:12:55.5 Amy Tran: That's right, yeah.

0:12:56.7 Mischa Z: So, thinking of those sorts of modalities, what are the exact next steps you would offer someone like me? So I knew... Well, I would be headed in the new right direction that I would have positive momentum towards getting my life back on track.

0:13:15.8 Amy Tran: Wow, so, such a great question, but also such a loaded question, 'cause I just have so much to say.

0:13:23.9 Mischa Z: [chuckle] Good.

0:13:24.6 Amy Tran: So I don't even know where to start. [chuckle] Yeah. So how about we talk about, basically, how our inner core beliefs are created? So we kind of touched on this before, where we were talking about how our relationship with the people that we grow up with, like our parents, they form certain core beliefs that we have. So there are many more than this, but there's three main ones that I see and that are taught in the CBT framework. So the first one is that I'm unlovable. The second one is that I'm worthless. And the third one is that I'm helpless. So this is all operating on a subconscious level. So we all have some of these core beliefs. We have one or multiple, and then there's other one, right?

0:14:19.9 Amy Tran: So as a human, you develop compensatory strategy, so for example, one of my core beliefs is that I'm worthless. So I grew up around parents who were quite invalidating, they were Asian immigrants, just cold, never really praised me or told me they loved me. So me as a young girl, I'm like, "I'm unlovable and I'm worthless." So what did I do? I achieved so much, I just tried so hard, because that's how I got approval from my parents, not just, "Good morning, Amy. Love y

Going through a stack of sticky notes on my desk I find this thought…  “The memory of God comes to a quiet mind”.  And I thought, what a beautiful meditation.  So we give it a go.

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I answer my friends question, “What is a recent miracle in your life?”.  With successful people who do things or perhaps are in a place that I want to be, I can be contemptuous or resentful.  What’s up with that?  The idea of if you spot it you got it, but on the GOOD THINGS you see in people, is driven home to me.  And More!

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Mischa Zvegintzov  00:00

I believe you asked me another question, what is the miracle in my life? What was the miracle in my life, almost cut my hair off the other day, I was having massive insecurity coming out of the out of the Funnel Hacking Live, and ways that I'd communicated my experience. I was like, oh my god, I was way to vulnerable, get your hair off. I don't know if you have those moments. But I survived. And obviously, my hair is still in full effect. So that's not the maybe that is a miracle. But that wasn't the miracle. When I was at Funnel Hacking Live, lots of the, you know, there was, it was four days, and I believe there was five or six speakers each day and all very powerful speakers. And there was 5000 people, 6000 people at the sold out conference, two to 3000 in person two to 3000 live. I don't know the exact numbers, but lots of solid energy, lots of amazing heart centered, entrepreneurial messages being shared lots of vulnerability. And then many of the speakers, you know, would do some, they wouldn't call them meditation techniques, but they would lead some, you know, some positive affirmations, or they would even call it that they'd, but like meditation.

Mischa Zvegintzov  01:27  So Tony Robbins was the last speaker. And that was Saturday night. And I've never seen Tony Robbins live and by the grace of God, I, by this point in my life right now, set aside my contempt for the Tony Robbins that I'd never even really seen or known. But like, I was like, God, damn, this dude's helped millions of people like it started hitting me. A year or two ago, I was like, where's this weird, like, for successful people who do things that perhaps are in a place that I want to be? I can be, you know, contemptuous or resentful or whatever. But so anyway, I'm like, Oh, shit, I can see Tony Robbins, you know, live. And being part of the 2CCX, which is the coaching program within all this, we got priority seating. So I was right up in front, and he's leading this amazing meditation. And that this whole thing is just this whole event for days is very well crafted to break down barriers to build energy to, to help you go within to help you, you know. Yeah, just internal barriers, external barriers. Tons of inspiration. Everybody's an open book, or most people, you know, super successful people there are milling about with you. So like, one minute, you can literally be like, oh, there's Tony Robbins. Hey, Tony Robbins, how you doing? Go? Hey, great. I'm just on my way walking to lunch. And you're like, Oh, shit. Well, nice to meet you. Yeah, nice to meet you. Or it's one guy. Obvious couple guys. Like, whatever. There's pretty powerful experience.

Mischa Zvegintzov  03:14  But Tony's meditation was...Tony's thing that he led after... towards the end, and we are all frothy. Pumped up, man. Tony is really good at what he does, right? He's one of the best in the world, let's be real. And so he does this thing. This like meditation and super out of body experience. Right? It could have been like, 45 minutes or five minutes, I don't know. But part of it was... pull out... pull out a recent, a recent moment that you're grateful for in your life, you know.  And then All right, put that in your heart and lalala and all this stuff to really internalize it. Great. And then, Alright, now let's go. Let's go find another leasing moment, or great moment that you're grateful for, you'll have Okay, now, you know, put that into your heart and, and feel it and and imagine that you're there. And it's happening again right now. Right and, and some other things around that. But those were the two most poignant things for me, because with my boys. One was when Waylon graduated high school a few months ago. I don't know if you saw that picture on the social media whereas his arms were were raised in victory because he had graduated from... Thank you again for listening Lisa Randall. From graduating and he had just spontaneously erupted. And the crowd reacted to you know, the audience of parents and kids and You know....

Mischa Zvegintzov  05:01  It just was a very inspired moment. I just as like I saw at that time, I'd heard a message from a lady that I'd interviewed on my podcast or Lena Allen, you can check it out, go to the get Bitch Slap podcast.  And she's like, interview number 20 something. But Arlene Allen and our Lena, you know, you might not even need to do avocado toast after this because you're, you're getting all the information. Or Lena was like, Hey, we were talking about how I'm all in on the fact of if you spot it, you got it. Right. And I tend to look at that towards the negative. She's like, well, what if you spot it, you got it on the good stuff on the beauty or the or the good thing to see and people. And like, in that moment, the world like shifted and rotated before my eyes. Like no shit. I was like, Oh my God. Like, wait a minute. That's amazing. And so I was really internalizing that idea that thought.  And then Waylon Just frickin erupts spontaneously when the principal hands him the diploma in front of the crowd and just it... I was like, Oh, my God, like, how amazing is Waylon and his outgoing attitude and his shining light. And I was like, Wait a minute. Like, that's part of me. Right? And that just because he's my son because I spotted it. I got it right.

Mischa Zvegintzov  06:43  And so So where was I? Sorry, shiny objects with dogs walking by. So that's a powerful moment for me. And that was a moment of gratitude that I was thinking of when Tony Robbins was asking us to think those moments. When I was just so happy and proud for Waylon and just saw him as a shining light out there and just was like, Oh my God, he's such a, you know, I was proud and just all that stuff, right. Like, massive gratitude moment for me. So I'm hugging that close to my heart and feeling it and just loving it.

Mischa Zvegintzov  07:25  And then the other one was Cooper just the other day, maybe a week or so ago. Waylon was buying a new iPhone. And I was like, "Yeah, I'll help you". I'll throw you a couple hundred and fifty bucks, you know, to towards your iPhone purchase. And so I was like, You know what? I'm gonna offer coops 250 bucks so say Coops I texted him. Hey, man. I was gonna throw you a cut 250 bucks you got? Is there anything that you need? Like, I'll give you a couple couple hundred bucks. And he's like, Yeah, I have this outstanding. Dr. bills like $300 because I have this outstanding Dr. Bill. It's $300. And I was like, done. Oh, I'm transferring you $300 right now. Transferred it over. And he erupted in gratitude. This is all via text. Right? He's like, Oh my God, that's so amazing. And we got to have breakfast and bla bla bla bla bla and was just super fired up. And this was a couple of weeks ago.  And I've been trying to be more generous with Coops with no strings attached and trusting that like oftentimes with Cooper, for whatever reason, I can be more of like, I'm gonna give this to you. But I need to know. Here's the strings. Here's the attachment. Where this was just spontaneous. Here's some cash. Go by freakin Sour Patch Kids, I don't give a shit. Like but he, he reacted so powerfully. And then he had a great breakfast and it was just like this catalyst for for me for some really cool moments just me trying to make some changes in my life and how I react to Cooper and the payoff was awesome.

Mischa Zvegintzov  09:14  So that was the thing that I was hugging into my heart. When Tony Robbins was having us do this exercise, and everybody's throbbing and we're all eyes are closed and he's like, okay.  And then, you know, visualizing amazing stuff moving forward and live and all this stuff, just all this visualizing.  And he's so good at it because he's been doing it for 40 years. That  I was freaking glowing. So then it gets done. And he goes, Okay, pick two people. So people, three people together. Thank you for listening to this, but you asked, and I can talk. So thank you. If you Make it if you're making it this far. Again, you're probably on by three speed and if purchased to the Marco Polo Pro, so you can speed this up. But so, two of the people that I had befriended and that were a part of my coaching group, and then James Mays, and Rick Hayhurst. Rick Hayhurst was on my Summit. And James Mays owns a music school, and I'm not sure if you saw the movie School of Rock, or if you've seen the School of Rock Schools, like, all that stuff was started based on him and what he's done and created. So James is super amazing. And, and, sorry, I'm trying to cross the street. And why start a new bit when we can just drag this one out a little bit longer. So circle up with your team, your three people and tell some tell them... you know... What I heard Tony say was "tell them the things you're grateful for".

Mischa Zvegintzov  11:13  And, and so I got to go first. They go, "you go first Mischa".  And I go, "okay". And I started to talk. And I just started sobbing. I just started sobbing. Like crying and crying. And and was like, trying, I was like, "my boys and and Cooper" and I'm sobbing, and just... I didn't stop it. So A) How awesome is that? Two men. And I'm just, like, "fuck it, I'm going to be vulnerable".   And I just started bawling. So whatever I ball for, I don't know how long. And I finally compose myself enough to be like, this is the Cooper moment that I'm grateful for. And I say it in detail as I'm crying with joy. And then I say the wailing moment has cried with joy. And in that moment, if you've made it this far, here's the miracle. Just as a divorced parent, I don't know if you have any of this, Lisa. But there's some guilt towards the kids for me. And there was it was like, Man, am I doing it? Right? If I done good enough, will I ever not have regrets about how I was as a father when I was working? And the marriage, you know? And then like, post divorce and ah...  And it just was like, "your, your, your relationships with your boys are healed". Loud and clear. Loud and clear Lisa Randall. And and what a moment. What a moment. And that is a full miracle. Like to have that. Feel that to your core and internalized. And as I tell you this story, I know it to be true.

Mischa Zvegintzov  13:41  Wow, that doesn't mean we won't scrap moving forward or that my boys won't have rough times or not do things that about do things I don't want them to do or I might yell or whatever. But it's like... we are all where we're supposed to be.  So.  There's the miracle. Love you if you made it this far. Thanks for listening. Suppose we were on the docket for Friday for avocado toast.

Mischa Zvegintzov  14:10  Okay,

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Am I adding value with this podcast?  It is a great question…  Perhaps I’m helping people and I don’t even know.  Sometimes it's up to you to listen and to pull out what is to be learned.  Worst case I’m giving reminders to myself for consistency fortitude, resilience, all these things. 

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Mischa Zvegintzov  00:00 It's funny, I was just thinking how? Maybe it's not funny. I was just thinking, how am I adding value? I've been thinking about this? am I adding value with this podcast? Because it's a great question, is it? Is it an exercise in ego gratification and narcissism? On the very left? Or on the very right, is it? You know, helping be of service to the world, that community? To people who need to hear it? or what have you, however, you want to say, you know, that's something very right. And or is it somewhere in between, and I'm sure on any given day, it's somewhere in between leaning a little off center to the left or a little off center to the right. But hopefully on balance, it's mostly to the right of the curve and, and being, being of value.

Mischa Zvegintzov  01:08

And, you know, one way to be a value is to specifically say the point. So, you know, the last episode that I recorded, I was talking about, you know, being very focused at work, so focused at work that I'd gone to work with different shoes on. But that also the Wells Fargo sales conference, and the Funnel Hacking Live convention. Or what do you call that? Gathering convention on an off convention? Yeah. But it cost I think, on average, $1,000, if you bought early, maybe it was $700. If you bought it right at the last minute, the ticket, if there were any available, it was it. You know, I think $1,500 or something like that, but the event did sell out. So the Funnel Hacking Live sold out. But I had an opportunity there, like I did it, the sales conferences that I went to at Wells Fargo for being a top producer for a while. You know, it's an opportunity to network to learn to get inspired, find new ideas, as well as bring ideas to the table. So I might have left that out on the previous episode.

Mischa Zvegintzov  02:41

But, you know, there's always somebody coming up behind you that you can share your experience strength and hope with and inspire, and, and encourage, etc. But I'm talking about this stuff on that last episode. And I realized that on many episodes, I don't suss out the point. I don't necessarily say, "Okay, here's what you can learn from this". So for example, Funnel Hacking live, pay to go to a convention or a gathering that's in your industry, or in what you're doing, and go learn and go be of service, bring what you can to the table.  Go network.  Honestly, authentically, have cool conversations with people that are ahead of you on the track. And, and, as I'm saying this, I realize a lot of you probably already do that. So God bless you and I love that. But some of you don't, some of you might be thinking thrifty wise, should I spend the money on something like that? Or? Or is it worthwhile or the contempt of "I won't learn anything" or "I don't have anything to bring" or perhaps one of the speakers is somebody that you don't like, and so you throw the baby out with the bathwater.   Like Tony Robbins is speaking there. I don't like Tony Robbins, therefore, I won't go at all. And I will just say that Tony crushed it. But I just had this thought as I hit record on this episode, that sometimes it's it's, perhaps it's up to you to listen to what you're listening to, to pull out what is to be learned.

Mischa Zvegintzov  04:46

I think it's an interesting thought, right? Like, is it my responsibility to tell you what you need to glean from the story that I told about having my shorts on backwards?  And being focused and being committed to my craft and learning from my craft and I had a lot of success as a 15 year loan officer.  And was in sales of, you know, high tech and, and financial services for the five years before that. So there's nuggets in there, or reminders in there for any of you that are listening.  Perhaps I don't say, "work on your focus "or "be committed", or "go with an open mind" or, or "put your contempt aside, throw caution to the wind and spend the money that you don't want to spend and go to a convention". And learn and add, see what you can bring, see what you can learn, see how you can add to the inspirations, how you can be inspired. Like, I think all that's so powerful, and I may not have specifically pointed it out. But all that information was embedded in that episode for you to hear.

Mischa Zvegintzov  06:19

And I will say this too. It's super fun for me to read, listen to my episodes, as I go to edit them and get them published. Because there is great reminders in there for me. Great  reminders in there for me to I need to be reminded all the time of the basics. Be consistent. Show up one day at a time.  Get there early, leave late. See what you can bring to the table, Mischa.  Like I needed to be reminded of that set of basics, but there's so many other basics to be reminded of. So this is just a gentle reminder to myself, maybe a gift from the universe to me that hey, Meesh, I know you have insecurities that can that can drive you or that can make it hard to be creative. Or in the moment, you know, not trust what's happening. And it was just a great reminder of like, hey, trust, keep at it. Like perhaps you're helping people how you don't even know.  And worst case, you're giving reminders to yourself for consistency, consistency, fortitude, resilience, all these things.

Mischa Zvegintzov  07:57

I will say as well. I think this was a great tangent. I would actually honestly like a little bit of a standing ovation, a little bit of applause perhaps. Now, that might be a little narcissistic. But anyway, I am super glad to be in the game of life. Tackling new entrepreneurial opportunities.  Trying new things going for it. And I'm done. Peace out love to all. So I think a good way to button up this episode is to say, hey, perhaps Perhaps a great reminder for Misha, myself, Hey, I am being of service. And perhaps the listener can take some accountability and not that you're not. But can suss out, hear the story and pull out the key nuggets of information as I am trying to learn better how to structure an episode and say, here's the point. Tell you the point and then tell you the point that I told you. All right, I'm done now. Goodbye.

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First, I just about walk out of the house with my shorts on backwards, which reminds me of my home mortgage days.  And I see the parallels between The Funnel Hacking Live 2021 and the Wells Fargo Home Mortgage top producer sales conferences. You can talk to the high performers and learn how it’s done.  The energy is next level.  And everyone is very open.

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Transcript: Mischa Zvegintzov  00:01  I was trying to put my phone in my pocket. As I was getting ready to walk out the door to go for my inspirational walk.  My walks that are deriving so much inspiration for me right now. And the darn phone wouldn't go in my pocket. And I realized because I put my shorts on backwards.  Which is just the funniest damn thing.  If I hadn't been tried to put my phone in my pocket, I would have walked out the door with my shorts on backwards.  Which totally reminded me of a funny moment, back in my mortgage banking days when I was a home loan officer, and working so hard, and grinding, grinding away. And that's not the complete point of this podcast, it's just a really funny story of this episode. The what I'm going to talk about is how, as my friend Lisa Randall likes to say, the information that I was downloading. The inspiration that's been flowing through for me, or through me, or to me, coming out of the Funnel, Hacking Live 2021. How that's coalescing and, and answers are coming clear. And, and a lot of that is a function of patience. Like being being patient, let it come together. So the inspiration was absolutely pure. Just the final answer was not landing what I wanted when I wanted to. So I'll talk a little bit more about that. Anyway, back to the story of walking out the door with my shorts on backwards. So I tried to put the phone in the pocket doesn't happen. And I realized, you know, how, if you put something on your T shirt on the inside out or something, you put something on wrong, may not notice it in the first moment, but but then you're like, oh my god, that is on backwards. So my shorts I said gosh, they are uncomfortable. It's funny, I didn't notice that. So back in the home loan days, especially when I was relatively new, and I was just working hard. Because I had a new baby Cooper Lee, who was you know, a year old, basically, when I started in the business and had my wife, Dawn, the boy's mom. And so I actually started having success fairly quickly. You know, 2000, my first year, I think I made $60,000 or something like that. But then, after that, it was just it was you know, a couple 100,000 year two, I think. And you know, so year two year three on, I was just and I put in the hours, I was dedicated to the craft, learning, learning the craft, getting better at the craft. Whenever I had the opportunity, I would talk to high performing mortgage loan officers and pick their brain. How do you do it? You know, who's your market, what's your niche, all these things? And oftentimes, I wouldn't ask what the niche was, but they would tell me "here's my niche, find your niche focus on it". This is actually really funny because when I was at the Funnel Hacking Live, I saw the parallels between Funnel Hacking Live and the sales conference that I would go to at Wells Fargo home mortgage. So somewhere along the line fairly quickly, I you know, maybe my third or fourth year I probably fourth or fifth year. I made it to the sales conference, the annual Wells Fargo home mortgage sales conference where they you know, send you somewhere super fun for a week.

Mischa Zvegintzov  04:52

And so like if we end up in Mexico one year or some other country another year.  Elton John. They hired Elton John one year. So I was like, at the stage listening, you know, to Elton John, or who else did we have? Beach Boy. I think Brian Wilson, they brought him in as the Beach Boys, but he was the only one left. So it was constantly joking Beach Boy. The Eagles one year How fun is that? This was all in the 2000s. Beach Boy. The eagles who was the other one? Oh, I remember this the year that that the Patriots went 16 and 0, and made it to the Super Bowl. And I think we were on a cruise. So that was the cruise year. And they brought in who's the guy? Was it Margaritaville? It was like James Taylor. That's who it was James Taylor. I was so disappointed. James Taylor. Like the rumors were circulating that it was going to be the Stones or Aerosmith or you know, a rollicking good time band. And it was James Taylor wha wha wha. Anyhow. I worked my butt off to the mortgage industry. I really did. And this one day, I got to lunch with Gary, who was my assistant. He's a great man. salt of the earth. Dude, old school dude. Gary, I can't remember his last name. But Gary was my assistant for a number of years and smoked cigarettes. Like he take his cigarette breaks and all this and funny guy. So anyway, we're out to lunch. I looked down. And I've got a black work shoe on like a black dress shoe, and a brown dress on at lunch. So I probably started work at seven or eight that morning. Noon, we're out to lunch. And I looked down. And I'm like, wait a minute. I've got different colored shoes on and the different styles to it was like, oh my god, I literally had been working the whole day, walking around, ordered lunch and did not figure it out. Until I sat down. And I remember I was really tired that day. I was just working so hard and so focused on what I was doing that that I totally missed that I'd even that I'd had my shoes on wrong.  Anyway, I can't remember what I did from there. I may have run home to fix it because it was like I'm a freak show right now. Or what have you I might have just finished out today with different shoes on. But I'll button up this nice little episode.  The way this shaped up.  Riches are in the niches. I hear that a lot. So at the sales conferences, I would just pick the brains of a top producers. Be like What are you doing? How do you do it? So, you know, I just get a lot of fundamental, basic, good information. And feeding off that energy.  And getting to know people and getting encouraged. And, you know, yeah, the networking, on and on and on. And new ideas, right, you're getting new ideas. People are very forthcoming with the information too, which is awesome. Everybody's so confident in what they do. They're like, here's my niche, here's how I do it. Here's this, this is how I do it. Here's my secrets and and that isn't an awesome environment to be in. And so I found the same thing at Funnel Hacking Live I was having the same experience.

Mischa Zvegintzov  09:17

I was like, this is just like a Wells Fargo home mortgage sales conference for all the top producers or any company's sales conference for the top producers. Except in the funnel, hacking community world, we get to pay to go which is good I think pay to play is awesome because it shows a certain level of commitment and accountability and willingness. But the basic structure is the same. You've got the award night you've got all the amazing speakers. The it's a chance to interact with the top people in the Funnel Hacking Online entrepreneurial game and everyone is super open and forthcoming with what they're up to what they do.  So funny I noticed if they feel like you're, you're in effect wasting their time they will shut you down and move on. Which is really funny I think... car just went by not noticing a human so good I'm still alive. Anyway I could go on and on in this episode I will not I will stop and have a great day. Love to all gosh, I feel like it's a lie. I'm not stopping obviously. Yeah, I'm done. That's it. Peace out. Rough ending

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Sometimes I can be thrifty to my detriment and it can come back to bite me in the butt.  In this case it manifested in me skipping a couple of x-rays at the dentist.  Which lead to some root canals!  WTF!  I’m trying to grow past that :).  And I challenge you: where are you being thrifty in your life, that it's perhaps going to cost you more financially down the road.

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Transcript: Mischa Zvegintzov 00:01

Oh my gosh, I've been meaning to talk about this for quite a bit. Keep on meaning to do an episode about this and it's about how do we say it these days? It's a limited mindset or limiting...or what is it went the opposite of financial abundance or abundance? Lack, that lack of mindset or Thriftiness. Sometimes I can be thrifty to my detriment. Yes, I can be thrifty to my detriment. And I'm, and I'm going to tell you how that has come back to bite me in the butt. As I'm trying to grow past that, and, and act as if, what if? What if I wasn't driven by, by a lack mentality in regards to? What how was it? What if money? What if money wasn't the driving factor of this decision? That's what it is. So oftentimes, I'll be like, well, the financial peace when sometimes you gotta throw caution to the wind, I think. Gosh, this is a bit disjointed, hang in there with me people. But here we go. So the dentist can be a source of financial insecurity for me, and financial stress and financial tension. Seems like genetically, I've been very healthy in many ways. However, as the dentist reminds me, I'm very, I go to the dentist every every six months. And for a while, I was going every three months as we were trying to make sure that my teeth were hanging in there, which is good. But here we go. This is funny, I've got good teeth, they just if I am not... I get to be hyper diligent in dental care or next thing, you know, I've got a cavity. Or next thing you know, I need a friggin root canal. And, and so I was being thrifty in that regard. And that a couple years ago...and time goes fast man, the older you get the faster time goes. The dentist was like, hey, it's time for X rays. We want to X ray you every year. I believe it is the X ray you every year to make sure your teeth and the roots of your teeth and all that and your gums, not gums but your what your jaw, whatever to make sure all that's good and in line and and I can get in the mindset that the dentist is just taking advantage the dentist doesn't need to, to do X rays to racket, it's a scam. And I love my dentist. I do love my dentists. They're always been so gracious and taking such great care of me.  And so that is a belief that is not true. Right And where does that come from? I don't know. But like actually, I kind of know. I did get sold pretty hard one time from a dentist when I had first moved to San Diego in 2001/2002. And it definitely did not feel authentic and like my best interests were in the top of their mind. It was like extract as much finances out of Mischa as you can. And I think we know when when when there is that fine line. Where my current dentist is absolutely just trying to has my health top of mind. So anyway, I think extra is $150 or whatever it is which you know...man, dentists.  They've got an office. They've got dental assistants. Often times dentists are upgrading their equipment you know, learning new stuff. It's one of the great things.  Kent Howard's my dentist and and here in Cardiff by the sea California. Anyone needs a dentist in Cardiff by the sea go to Kent Howard's office.

Mischa Zvegintzov 04:56

But he has some great he's even brought in some great new very He experienced dentists to support his office. And this one of his new dentists that's been helping me, I wish I could remember his name. But the guy, he's, I don't know, 60 or something like that. But he's constantly learning new techniques. And it's really fun to hear him talk about them as he's working on your teeth.  But he was talking about whatever. My point is that there is a significant financial investment and risk and stuff that dentists take on. And, you know, they're trying to support a practice and families.  And so when I can get out like $150, for digital frickin X ray, like that's, that's like 18 year old worries, that's the 18 year old me being worried about an x ray and paying for it. Because financially times were very tight in my youth. You know, as I was learning what I was going to do with my life...which I'm still wondering, by the way.  So, let me get to the point that, hey, if they say, hey, it's time for your X rays, and so in my Thriftiness, I'm like, Yeah, let's put it off for six months. No big deal. I, I'm sure you're gonna guess what's gonna happen. So, six months later, hey, it's time for your X rays. Like, what? Bottom line is that roll in one day? next appointment? I can't remember the exact timeline. But they're like, it's been a little two years over two years, since we did your X rays, which saved me probably 150 or 200, or $300. They do the X rays. I get a call the next couple of days. You have been not doing the best job of flossing in this one ear area, you're probably going to need a root canal. And they're like deer. Does that hurt? Over there? Cuz I was like, no, they're like, Well, we're very surprised. So they make a recommendation to the root canal guy. So what happens is a root canal also means you need a I think it's called a crown. I don't know the exact terminology. Not a bridge, but a crown. I don't know what the difference is doesn't matter. Point is... Yeah, I get there. At the root canal place, the root canal guy, he's like, your teeth Doesn't your tooth doesn't hurt. You're very lucky. We definitely need to make this happen. So me saving $150 ended up costing me $3000 For a root canal and a crown. And then there's actually even a little more to the story where you can email me and I'll tell you the rest of the story. [email protected]. My email is in the show notes. You can either just type in [email protected], and I'll tell you the rest of the story. Or you can click in the my email in the show notes. And I will reply with the rest of the story. But I challenge you because it's really got me thinking as I challenge you, where are you being thrifty in your life, that it's perhaps going to cost you more financially down the road. Like where is my financial insecurity, my focus on lack, instead of abundance... not having my focus in the right place in that regard. Ends up costing you/me? You get what I'm saying? Where in your life are you focusing on that where you should be focusing on the "what is the potential benefit that the spend will bring?" So yeah, that point was absolutely driven home to me through this recent dental experience, as I've been making leaps and bounds, growth in that regard. All right. My gosh, I'm done. Love to all

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