WITH-ness: The experience of being deeply connected with God and others through joy, presence, mutual delight, trust, safety, and shared life. A relational environment where people become more fully alive because they are deeply known, genuinely loved, and continually invited to grow. ~ Table & Well

Big Question:
What happens when our longing for security turns into a need to control the relationship through performance and appeasement?

Join Tennison & Ginelle as they conclude their conversation on the posture of UNDER. In this episode they will take a look at the invitation that WITH brings as couples move from:

From performance to presence.
From appeasement to authenticity.
From anxiety to security.
From managing your response to trusting our relationship.
From self-abandonment to healthy autonomy.
From earning belonging to living from belonging.
From UNDER to WITH.

Every spouse longs to know, "Are we okay? Am I safe here? Will you still be here?"That longing for security is good. We were created for secure attachment, for relationships in which we can rest, trust, grow, and know we belong.But when that security feels threatened, fear begins looking for a way to guarantee the outcome.

In the UNDER posture, the strategy becomes performance, pleasing, or appeasement:

"If I do everything right, our marriage will be okay."

Instead of receiving security through attachment, we try to earn it through our behavior. And slowly, marriage moves from joy to fear, from relationship to rules, and from intimacy to performance.

If you have been impacted by what you have heard in this podcast and would like to support us in our mission to help people experience healthier & deeper relationships with God, themselves, and others, go to: tableandwell.org/#support
To learn how we can help develop your community, family or team: Schedule Interest Call
To start on your journey to relational health go to: tableandwell.org
To watch this and other Podcast go to our YouTube Channel: Table & Well co

WITH-ness: The experience of being deeply connected with God and others through joy, presence, mutual delight, trust, safety, and shared life. A relational environment where people become more fully alive because they are deeply known, genuinely loved, and continually invited to grow. ~ Table & Well

Big Question:
What happens when our longing for security turns into a need to control the relationship through performance and appeasement?

Join Tennison & Ginelle as they Continue to dive into the posture of UNDER and what The Cost is in your marriage that come when you live from this relational strategy in your marriage.  

Every spouse longs to know, "Are we okay? Am I safe here? Will you still be here?"That longing for security is good. We were created for secure attachment, for relationships in which we can rest, trust, grow, and know we belong.But when that security feels threatened, fear begins looking for a way to guarantee the outcome.

In the UNDER posture, the strategy becomes performance, pleasing, or appeasement:

"If I do everything right, our marriage will be okay."

Instead of receiving security through attachment, we try to earn it through our behavior. And slowly, marriage moves from joy to fear, from relationship to rules, and from intimacy to performance.

If you have been impacted by what you have heard in this podcast and would like to support us in our mission to help people experience healthier & deeper relationships with God, themselves, and others, go to: tableandwell.org/#support
To learn how we can help develop your community, family or team: Schedule Interest Call
To start on your journey to relational health go to: tableandwell.org
To watch this and other Podcast go to our YouTube Channel: Table & Well co

WITH-ness: The experience of being deeply connected with God and others through joy, presence, mutual delight, trust, safety, and shared life. A relational environment where people become more fully alive because they are deeply known, genuinely loved, and continually invited to grow. ~ Table & Well

Big Question:
What happens when our longing for security turns into a need to control the relationship through performance or pleasing?

Every spouse longs to know, "Are we okay? Am I safe here? Will you still be here?"That longing for security is good. We were created for secure attachment, for relationships in which we can rest, trust, grow, and know we belong.But when that security feels threatened, fear begins looking for a way to guarantee the outcome.

In the UNDER posture, the strategy becomes performance, pleasing, or appeasement:

"If I do everything right, our marriage will be okay."

Instead of receiving security through attachment, we try to earn it through our behavior. And slowly, marriage moves from joy to fear, from relationship to rules, and from intimacy to performance.

Join Tennison & Ginelle as they unpack The False Solution that come when you  live from the relational strategy of Under in your marriage.  

If you have been impacted by what you have heard in this podcast and would like to support us in our mission to help people experience healthier & deeper relationships with God, themselves, and others, go to: tableandwell.org/#support
To learn how we can help develop your community, family or team: Schedule Interest Call
To start on your journey to relational health go to: tableandwell.org
To watch this and other Podcast go to our YouTube Channel: Table & Well co

WITH-ness: The experience of being deeply connected with God and others through joy, presence, mutual delight, trust, safety, and shared life. A relational environment where people become more fully alive because they are deeply known, genuinely loved, and continually invited to grow. ~ Table & Well

Big Question:
What happens when our longing for security turns into a need to control the relationship through performance?

Every spouse longs to know, "Are we okay? Am I safe here? Will you still be here?"That longing for security is good. We were created for secure attachment, for relationships in which we can rest, trust, grow, and know we belong.But when that security feels threatened, fear begins looking for a way to guarantee the outcome.

In the UNDER posture, the strategy becomes performance:

"If I do everything right, our marriage will be okay."

Instead of receiving security through attachment, we try to earn it through our behavior. And slowly, marriage moves from joy to fear, from relationship to rules, and from intimacy to performance.

Join Tennison & Ginelle as they begin to unpack living Under, this unhealthy relational strategy, in our marriage. 

If you have been impacted by what you have heard in this podcast and would like to support us in our mission to help people experience healthier & deeper relationships with God, themselves, and others, go to: tableandwell.org/#support
To learn how we can help develop your community, family or team: Schedule Interest Call
To start on your journey to relational health go to: tableandwell.org
To watch this and other Podcast go to our YouTube Channel: Table & Well co

WITH-ness: The experience of being deeply connected with God and others through joy, presence, mutual delight, trust, safety, and shared life. A relational environment where people become more fully alive because they are deeply known, genuinely loved, and continually invited to grow. ~ Table & Well

Healthy marriages don't usually collapse because people stop loving each other. They slowly drift from connection to control. Every unhealthy posture in marriage is an attempt to secure something good—security, certainty, fulfillment, or significance—but through fear and control rather than love and connection. Throughout this series, we're going to discover that beneath nearly every conflict lies a deeper question:  What are we really longing for?

And beneath every unhealthy pattern lies another:  What are we afraid of?

Most couples assume their biggest problems are communication, conflict, parenting, finances, or intimacy. But what if those are only symptoms of something much deeper?

In this episode, Tennison and Ginelle begin to unpack how the 4 unhealthy postures we take in our marriage try to move us back WITH-ness when fear enters in:

• UNDER searches for WITH-ness through Pleasing.
• OVER searches for WITH-ness through Certainty/Control.
• FROM searches for WITH-ness through Consumption.
• FOR searches for WITH-ness through Appearance.

If you have been impacted by what you have heard in this podcast and would like to support us in our mission to help people experience healthier & deeper relationships with God, themselves, and others, go to: tableandwell.org/#support
To learn how we can help develop your community, family or team: Schedule Interest Call
To start on your journey to relational health go to: tableandwell.org
To watch this and other Podcast go to our YouTube Channel: Table & Well co

WITH-ness: The experience of being deeply connected with God and others through joy, presence, mutual delight, trust, safety, and shared life. A relational environment where people become more fully alive because they are deeply known, genuinely loved, and continually invited to grow. ~ Table & Well

Healthy marriages don't usually collapse because people stop loving each other. They slowly drift from connection to control. Every unhealthy posture in marriage is an attempt to secure something good—security, certainty, fulfillment, or significance—but through fear and control rather than love and connection. Throughout this series, we're going to discover that beneath nearly every conflict lies a deeper question:  What are we really longing for?

And beneath every unhealthy pattern lies another:  What are we afraid of?

Most couples assume their biggest problems are communication, conflict, parenting, finances, or intimacy. But what if those are only symptoms of something much deeper?

In this opening episode, Tennison and Ginelle introduce a powerful new framework for understanding why marriages become disconnected—not because couples stop loving one another, but because fear quietly begins replacing trust, curiosity, and joy.

You'll discover the five relational postures that shape every marriage and learn why living "WITH" one another changes everything.

If you've ever wondered why your marriage feels different than it once did, this conversation will help you understand why—and offer hope for a different way forward.

If you have been impacted by what you have heard in this podcast and would like to support us in our mission to help people experience healthier & deeper relationships with God, themselves, and others, go to: tableandwell.org/#support
To learn how we can help develop your community, family or team: Schedule Interest Call
To start on your journey to relational health go to: tableandwell.org
To watch this and other Podcast go to our YouTube Channel: Table & Well co

"...The blending of awareness of knowing we need more maturity as Elders, but we need other people,...more elders who understand the goal and understand the process and are working towards that. Elders are suppose to co-labor with God to create the environments...to help people become who they were created to be." ~ Laran Wilke

Fingerprints: How God is Growing the Relational Health of His Family
Hosted by Tennison and Ginelle Barry, Fingerprints reveals how God is quietly restoring His family through relational healing, joy, and connection. Through real stories, practical tools, and spiritual insight, this podcast explores how God is forming safe, mature, emotionally healthy communities—starting with us. Discover the quiet revival already unfolding in homes, churches, and relationships, and learn how to notice His fingerprints in your own life.

Join Tennison & Ginelle as they continue to find God's Fingerprint in the lives of God's family.  In this episode the begin a conversation with Lara & Lissa Wilke. They are newly married True Elders for the community at large and doing the individual work needed to be healthy and mature to create and leave a lasting legacy! 

Listen to the conclusion of this conversation with Laran & Lissa. In this episode we talk about where the Wilkes are seeing God's fingerprints in their community, and how they are practically creating opportunity for their community to experience real relational connection. We also explore how Laran & Lissa are walking out being Elders in the community they are building. Also, learn what they are dreaming for in their community and their lives.

If you have been impacted by what you have heard in this podcast and would like to support us in our mission to help people experience healthier & deeper relationships with God, themselves, and others, go to: tableandwell.org/#support
To learn how we can help develop your community, family or team: Schedule Interest Call
To start on your journey to relational health go to: tableandwell.org
To watch this and other Podcast go to our YouTube Channel: Table & Well co

"I have always tried to be aware...to be present... Tipically the questions that come up (for me), are more on the thinking, processing, how do we make it happen. I have noticed that I am spending more time when people are talking thinking about, how does that make you feel, where is that coming from. More looking at it from that side and giving more space for that." ~ Lissa Wilke

Fingerprints: How God is Growing the Relational Health of His Family
Hosted by Tennison and Ginelle Barry, Fingerprints reveals how God is quietly restoring His family through relational healing, joy, and connection. Through real stories, practical tools, and spiritual insight, this podcast explores how God is forming safe, mature, emotionally healthy communities—starting with us. Discover the quiet revival already unfolding in homes, churches, and relationships, and learn how to notice His fingerprints in your own life.

Join Tennison & Ginelle as they continue to find God's Fingerprint in the lives of God's family.  In this episode the begin a conversation with Lara & Lissa Wilke. They are newly married True Elders for the community at large and doing the individual work needed to be healthy and mature to create and leave a lasting legacy! 

In this episode listen in as Lissa and Laran dive into the nuts and bolts of daily living and growing in these new relational skills. They both share how these skills affect the way they relate with their families and how healing has come in those most precious relationships.  They also talk about how these skills have changed how they relate to each other

If you have been impacted by what you have heard in this podcast and would like to support us in our mission to help people experience healthier & deeper relationships with God, themselves, and others, go to: tableandwell.org/#support
To learn how we can help develop your community, family or team: Schedule Interest Call
To start on your journey to relational health go to: tableandwell.org
To watch this and other Podcast go to our YouTube Channel: Table & Well co

"We are told to love our neighbor as ourselves, but we are never told how to love ourselves...what we have learned through doing the Co-Labs with you, is what was intended... in how we were supposed to be cared for..." ~ Laran Wilke

Fingerprints: How God is Growing the Relational Health of His Family
Hosted by Tennison and Ginelle Barry, Fingerprints reveals how God is quietly restoring His family through relational healing, joy, and connection. Through real stories, practical tools, and spiritual insight, this podcast explores how God is forming safe, mature, emotionally healthy communities—starting with us. Discover the quiet revival already unfolding in homes, churches, and relationships, and learn how to notice His fingerprints in your own life.

Join Tennison & Ginelle as they continue to find God's Fingerprint in the lives of God's family.  In this episode the begin a conversation with Lara & Lissa Wilke. They are newly married True Elders for the community at large and doing the individual work needed to be healthy and mature to create and leave a lasting legacy! 

Listen in today as they talk about how they met and how their own unique journey brought them on this journey to relational health together. They share how their  journeys began and the surprises that they have found in themselves along the way.   

If you have been impacted by what you have heard in this podcast and would like to support us in our mission to help people experience healthier & deeper relationships with God, themselves, and others, go to: tableandwell.org/#support
To learn how we can help develop your community, family or team: Schedule Interest Call
To start on your journey to relational health go to: tableandwell.org
To watch this and other Podcast go to our YouTube Channel: Table & Well co

"When we started developing those (relational) skills, and becoming more relational toward her, (our youngest daughter), we became Gentle Protector for her. " ~ Sylvia Snodgrass

Fingerprints: How God is Growing the Relational Health of His Family
Hosted by Tennison and Ginelle Barry, Fingerprints reveals how God is quietly restoring His family through relational healing, joy, and connection. Through real stories, practical tools, and spiritual insight, this podcast explores how God is forming safe, mature, emotionally healthy communities—starting with us. Discover the quiet revival already unfolding in homes, churches, and relationships, and learn how to notice His fingerprints in your own life.

Join Tennison and Ginelle as they continue their conversation with John & Sylvia Snodgrass. In this episode listen as John and Sylvia talk about their journey to become Gentle Protectors and guides to help people see the Bible as relational and not just a book to be studied.  Also her how they learned to be Gentle Protectors in their family before trying to protect the community at large. 

If you have been impacted by what you have heard in this podcast and would like to support us in our mission to help people experience healthier & deeper relationships with God, themselves, and others, go to: tableandwell.org/#support
To learn how we can help develop your community, family or team: Schedule Interest Call
To start on your journey to relational health go to: tableandwell.org
To watch this and other Podcast go to our YouTube Channel: Table & Well co