Tactical Living

[Intro]

911, what's the nature of your emergency?

Ashlie: Welcome back to another episode of tactical living by Leo warriors. I'm your host, Ashlie Walton.

Clint: And I'm your co-host Clint Walton.

Ashlie: For today's episode I want to talk about what guys really think about the amount of effort that girls put into themselves in order to look pretty. So just sit back, relax and enjoy the content. Clint and I just got back from a little mini trip to Las Vegas. And while we were there, I couldn't help but notice how many sore feet there were. And I say this from a place of me sitting at a machine and instead of paying attention as I'm pressing the button, I was looking at the feet and most importantly the area of the Achilles tendon.

For any girls listening you know that area that rubs like crazy on the back of a high heel. I saw girls with bandages. I even saw men with like sores behind their feet. And it's kind of funny because it brought me back to a place where that used to be me. I used to be the girl thinking that going to Vegas meant that I needed to get all dolled up in a way that made me think I looked pretty. But in reality, also made me really uncomfortable. And as I started noticing this it's one of those things where your attention starts to be directed to it more and more. So as the night went on and girls started to come out in their cute little black dresses, I started to notice the way that a lot of them were walking and coming from a girl's perspective it's something I can definitely relate to and understanding how uncomfortable it is to walk in high heels or these five inch wedges and they looked cute don't get me wrong.

But just by seeing the discomfort of them walking while they're trying to enjoy themselves, made me wonder what men actually think when us as women put forth so much effort, but yet we're not comfortable in what it is that we're walking around in or how we look even. So baby share with me maybe from your perspective how you feel or even how you felt when that would be me going to Vegas.

Clint: You know I think a lot of it comes from that sex appeal. You know men and women both want to have that sex appeal if they are going to the club or they want to have that feeling of looking good to appeal to whoever they're trying to appeal to. And I noticed too you know you always see women walking around the strip or just walking around hotels barefoot with their heels in their hands and it's a funny sight to see because you know they absolutely had to be uncomfortable the whole night they're wearing them.

How many times you see you guys walking around holding their shoes. It's not very often at all. But I think it all goes into that basic nature of us trying to peacock ourselves to show the opposite side of the sex or whoever you're trying to appeal to have that look. And I think it's something that we all have this appearance that we feel we need to keep up. But it really doesn't settle into our own happiness levels of what we want.

Ashlie: And also it boils down to where you're at in your life, I believe. Because in the beginning of our relationship I would get all dolled up, wear these completely ridiculous uncomfortable shoes and I would pretend like I'm enjoying myself when in reality I was suffering in pain based on my choice of attire or my shoe choice and then I got to this place where we got married of course and you get more comfortable with one another. And I don't want to say I've ever gotten to the point to where I don't put forth the effort to look good for you.

Clint: Absolutely not. You look beautiful every day.

Ashlie: Thank you baby. But to be honest Clint I don't do that for you. I love doing makeup. It is a craft of mine. And for me every morning it's always been something that I do that's very therapeutic for me. It might sound funny as you're listening to this, but there's something about this methodical nature of applying makeup and color combination and blending different products and just testing to see what works together and what doesn't. And it's just always been an interest of mine. I'm sorry baby, but this is the truth. I never wonder what Clint's going to think about my eyeshadow today.

Clint: But I always recognize it and I do notice it. Because I love the time you spend on your makeup and how beautiful you look with or without the makeup.

Ashlie: I appreciate that. But the truth is I don't do that to become more appealing for you. I do it to become more appealing for me. It makes me feel good and it makes me know that I'm wearing my face out in the world in a way that makes me comfortable and I don't ever do it to impress anybody. I don't go on wearing like chunks of glue and glitter to make my eyelids stick together to where it's uncomfortable. I have done that before. Maybe for an event and things like that.

But I'm never doing something to where I need to put forth enough effort to make myself look good for somebody else. And on the back end of that where I'm suffering inside. But for women it's tricky. For women it's tricky because we're constantly flooded with this imagery of what perfection is supposed to be. Especially as a young mind being developed. I couldn't imagine what it would be like to be my 13-year-old self in today's world. Where my influence is not the Pop magazine anymore. That's what I used to be. I used to have these collages of pictures and boys and, you know boy bands up on my wall in my bedroom. And the influence truly was MTV, music videos and those magazines I used to beg my mom to buy whenever we would go to the grocery store.

But today the level of influence especially in the eyes of this younger generation, it's getting so much more difficult to emulate and as a byproduct of that, it's becoming nearly impossible to develop your own identity.

Clint: And I agree with that from a male perspective as well. I think men have this image that they want to present themselves with. Whether it's having a very muscular body and I'm not just saying being in shape or being fit. I'm saying this appearance of having huge muscles in this Statue of David image about themselves where they are comfortable walking around with their shirt off and having their muscles all exposed and not showing their true selves of what who or what they are.

Ashlie: Don't get me wrong. These people that put forth the effort in a natural way to develop those body is for the most part, a lot of them, these are like athletes or these are people to where their bodies are their career and the time that they spend on their bodies is time that a lot of people don't have the luxury of, because a lot of people work a 9 to 5 job. But getting back to the topic of perception. How do you view, as a man, looking at those other men? Does anything ping at you when you see them?

Clint: Well it makes me feel like I want to have that image of myself. Whether it's super muscular or just fit and it's just that stigma that's around it to where I'm more attractive for you. And I think in realizing that, it's something that we all have this image of who we want to look like or who we want to be to fit society's image of what we're supposed to look like.

Ashlie: Why is that so important?

Clint: It's just what we've been groomed into thinking men and women alike. This is the image that we're supposed to be. You see movie stars, you see athletes, you see all these really public figures and that's the state of their success you feel, and I don't care who you are, everybody wants to have that level of success in their own lives.

Ashlie: It's interesting you use the word success. So for you as a man seeing another man that maybe makes you feel a little inferior based on the comparison and body type. That's really the same thing that women go through when it comes to comparing themselves to other women. Being at the clothes that they wear, their body type, how much they weigh, the makeup that they wear. Like for women it goes on and on. For men it's pretty much your body and your clothes really. And there's this compounding effect on women where that level is never met. And I know for me one of the biggest things and I'm definitely subject to that, but it's definitely taken a lot of self-work.

Really, stemming from the fact that I grew up in a home with five brothers, me being the only girl. My mom was a very modest mom in a home. And that was her whole world. So she didn't really care about makeup and clothes and things like that. It's was most comfortable for me to be a mom and work in the home and you know drive her kids everywhere and all these things that she did for us. So I didn't have anyone else to look up to in that sort of influence and it was important for me as I got older to understand that what I thought was a positive influence in terms of how I felt about myself shouldn't have ever come from media at all.

And I was very very blessed to have parents that were so supportive and really instilling the fact that I need to discover my own voice and do what values myself and never let anyone walk all over without or take that away from me…that I began to understand as I got older, the importance of doing the things that make me happy and make me comfortable. Going to Vegas couple days ago I'm wearing you know workout pants, a t shirt and sure I may doll up my makeup and my hair. But I do that every day. That's something I do for me; I don't do it for anybody else. And by having the ability to understand that, you're allowed to make your own decision about what you deem to be your own perfection based on your own comfort level. Then it allows you to challenge yourself to be creative and discover who you really are.

Clint: And really establish the fact that it's okay to be who you want to be.

Ashlie: I love that, and I think it's becoming a little bit more brought to the surface. I've seen a lot of campaigns where women will not wear any makeup at all and I have an amazing niece who very humbly posted her bare skin, acne and all with these beautiful, beautiful eyes with the most gorgeous eyeshadow on just showcasing the reality about what happens underneath all of that. What happens underneath all the makeup and the clothes, when it's just you and who you really are and to still be accepted for that.

And I think people will relate to that even more. People start to understand that we're all human. We all at one point or another think that we're in this race with everybody else when the reality is that we're only in a race with the person that we were yesterday and when you're able to realize that and you understand that, it's okay to not have to be that girl walking down the Vegas strip with blood coming out of your heels and the man at the gym who's satisfied with looking at himself in the mirror without having the wandering eyes that then allow you to compare yourself to other people.

Then you can start to take ownership of what you have and make it better. Better not by a comparison of other people, but better like I said, to who you were yesterday and in moving forward and looking at what it is that you want to be. Understanding how you feel is really what's most important. Do I want to sit there and feel ashamed about my body, ashamed about who I am as a person? Do I want to feel bad about myself because I don't live up to this other imagery of somebody else? Well those expectations are only yours. So who cares? And when you're able to understand that and take ownership of who you are and know that you have the ability to craft your own reality based on what makes you most comfortable and what allows you to stay most true to yourself, then you're really able to enjoy your tactical living.

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[Intro]

911, what’s the nature of your emergency? 

Ashlie: Welcome back to another episode of tactical living by Leo warriors. I'm your host Ashlie Walton. 

Clint: And I’m your co-host, Clint Walton. 

Ashlie: For today's episode I want to talk about this whole Facebook, Instagram, WhatsApp crash of 2019.

Clint: Oh my gosh. 

Ashlie: So just sit back, relax and enjoy the content. Now Clint is rolling his eyes right now. Because in true tactical living fashion he has no idea what we're about to talk about before I spit something out of my mouth. 

Clint: I sound like a robot when I know what we're talking about. So we'll see where this goes.

Ashlie: It's cool. Let's just roll with it. Now Clint and I were fortunate enough to head to Vegas on July the 3rd, because we got to see Brad Paisley on the Fourth of July. It was amazing.

Clint: We love Brad Paisley. If there's any singer that can write songs almost taking our love in to consideration, he's the singer that does it.

Ashlie: It's true. I was bawling my eyes out quite a few times. You had a little bit of tears going on too. 

Clint: That was the allergies. 

Ashlie: But that's not what this episode is about. So on our way to Vegas I was doing some work. I'm a part of a team and collaboratively we have a group on Facebook. So we all tasked one another with contributing a lot of valuable posts to add to the group. And so I had to get 8 of these posts done. And it's not like look at my freaking cat kind of posts right. So it takes a lot of consideration. So I spent a good two hours putting together these posts, editing the photos, all that jazz and I tried to go send them to the team member who's facilitating posting all of this for us. And it wouldn't go through. And imagine you spend two hours’ worth of work; somebody is relying on you. You try and try and try it won't go through. I figured it's probably because we're passing through the valley. And then apparently one of my captions went through, but not the photos so he asks me about the photo, like Ash where's the photo? And I told him like dude I’ve been trying to send it to you like 18 times, but it won't go through for some reason and I got frustrated. I just thought it's on my end because you know we're driving through the mountains. 

Clint: And we're used to poor internet connection. 

Ashlie: This is true. And he's like, oh it's no problem. It's probably because Facebook, Instagram and WhatsApp were down, and they're probably backlogged. 

Clint: The whole world's going to end. 

Ashlie: I was like, oh that sucks. So I just figured I’ll try to send it later the next day like still move on with my life, like done deal. And then the next day on the Fourth of July when I go to resend it to him using the internet from the MGM instead, it all went through, no problem. And I hop on and I see people are going crazy. People are bashing Facebook, that damn Zuckerberg. And they're talking so poorly about this piece of software that essentially is a part of their life every single day. And it blew my mind because for me I’m like okay, this is something that you number one use at your leisure. Number two maybe you use it as a business asset. But ultimately this is a tool in your life that you use that you have never paid money for. So what makes you so entitled to get upset when glitches happen?

Like we can't control that, and it continued and I’m like scrolling until I just got fed up and decided to move on with my life after about five minutes of just reading this nonsense. But it also got me thinking about how maybe there's nothing wrong with these people. Maybe the fact that they're getting so upset about not being able to freely use something that they're so accustomed to is a byproduct of being so conditioned that way. And having these free resources, it's almost like when we talk about. Clint and I vent to one another about this constantly how you have people who are utilizing these services that are supposed to be for underprivileged people and yet people are taking advantage of it. And they use it constantly as a way of life instead of going out and getting a job. This stems into free health care. This stems into free internet, free cell phones, free food like name something. That's a whole other episode. But for us to be given the opportunity to use something like these social media platforms for free, I believe that we're being conditioned to almost feel entitled to use them. And I say this from a place of paying witness to so many people that were acting the way that they were based on the inability to use this free program.

Clint: And for me I look into it as you look at driving. Driving is a perfect example for it. People feel that they're entitled to drive, and you know how many people I’ve stopped, well you can't tell me how I can and can't drive. And I go absolutely I can. It's a privilege, it's not an earned right. 

Ashlie: For sure. And yet we get so used to the nuances and how comfortable it is to be able to access to these sorts of things like hopping in a vehicle and getting on a public road that we don't even think about the fact that it is not a right. I'm sorry it is just a privilege. It's not something that we have to be given. It's not something that we have to use. It's not so we're not paying a toll road for the most part every time we drive to work. Sure there's paying for your vehicle, registration, insurance. But that secures you and your vehicle. That doesn't take into account the roads that you're using. It doesn't take into account the traffic lights. And that also doesn't take into account all of the other laws that go into driving a vehicle just as being on social media doesn't necessarily factor in in our minds all the time that there are still regulations and laws and things that you do have to abide by in order to play the game. 

Clint: And all those laws are in place to keep everybody safe and these rules are set so people who shouldn't be driving or shouldn't be using social media really have that environment not to ruin it for everybody else. 

Ashlie: Think about what happens when you're driving down the road and there's a roadblock, there's a detour. Sure you might be like damn it that sucks. But guess what? You probably follow that orange sign until you can finally make your way to your destination. Just like on Facebook or Instagram or oh my God the world's ending because I can't access my social media feed. 

Clint: I can't post funny pictures of my cat today. 

Ashlie: Yeah why allow yourself to get so aggravated that as a byproduct of that it starts to create this negative spiral for the rest of your day. Like who cares? What’s going to happen in the world if you can't hop on your social media feed? 

Clint: Because who does it really affect other than yourself?

Ashlie: Nobody.

Clint: And that's something that I think most people in general is they get so focused on this inconvenience of why is this happening to me when it's happening to everybody. 

Ashlie: And I think people also lose sight of the fact that just like with the roadwork situation people aren't inconveniencing you for the sake of inconveniencing you. They're probably working on repairing the road, making it better, making it safer, making it more enjoyable and maybe on the back end of this social media shutdown of 2019.

Did anybody ever spark any kind of curiosity as to see why it got shut down? What improvements might be taking place on the back end or what improvements might be taking place as a byproduct of everything crashing in the first place. We lose sight of the curiosity. We lose sight of it because we get so caught up in how does this impact me that we don't care about the whole picture. And it's a shame. It's a shame because I believe in our society, we're creating this for ourselves. We're putting ourselves in this situation to where we're reacting this way based on how we're creating our own reality. And I think it's important to take a step back and when things don't necessarily go our way to understand that it's okay, what is a course correct for this thing in my life not having panned out the way that I thought it would. How did I let it make me feel? Did I let it impact me in a way to where it affected the people around me? Did I make myself look foolish, in this case like posting something thereafter about poor pity me when really, I’m not a part of that equation. There's a bigger picture that's a part of the equation and I think that by allowing yourself to take a step back in these situations where we get aggravated, except that aggravation and learn how to process it in a different way. That's number one not going to make you look foolish. And number two and the most important part is to understand how your reaction and your feelings towards anything in your life that doesn't go your way is making you feel and changing the directory of your entire day. The things that you're putting off towards your family. Could you imagine how many times people probably hopped on their phone trying to see if their app was working. 

Clint: And just spending that time being so caught up in your emotion of why is this happening and really, it's not affecting anybody. Mark Zuckerberg is out there making his millions and millions of dollars. 

Ashlie: While you're sitting there pouring salt on the wound. 

Clint: And hurting yourself.

Ashlie: It's pointless. But like I said to begin with, I don't blame anybody for that. I don't think that we are taught the methods that are required in order to be able to tell ourselves it's okay. We're getting so used to being able to rely on technology that we don't and especially the younger generation, we don't know how to deal with it when things go wrong and when that's omitted from our lives. And I think it's important for these sorts of things to start to be brought to the surface. I had a long discussion with my optometrist about this a couple weeks ago, in understanding that the way that we're headed as a society based on our reliance on technology and our disconnect from reality, it's creating really a very destructive lifestyle and upbringing for younger generations to come.

And I believe until we start to instill some of those tactics behind how you get through something like that and I laugh, but it's really not funny when you look at the big picture of things. Because we're not exposed to any kind of backup plan. We're not exposed to any sort of mental endurance or mental shift as to what happens when you have to face the real world without the reliance of this crutch. And by taking a step back with that and maybe using it as a tool in your own life, maybe as you sit there you have kids and you can think about all the car rides that they take with an iPad in their hands instead of a book. I don't think there's anything wrong with you for that. I think it's the way that society is conditioning you. But you have the choice. You have the choice to say, do I want to live in a real world and experience real colors, real sensations, real thoughts, real imagery or do I want to live in a world where my kids are learning life through a computer screen. And by taking a step back and realizing that you're allowed to choose that for yourself and for your family, then you're really able to enjoy your tactical living.

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[Intro]

911, what's the nature of your emergency?

Ashlie: Welcome back to another episode of tactical living by Leo warriors. I'm your host Ashlie Walton.

Clint: And I'm your co-host, Clint Walton.

Ashlie: For today's episode I want to talk about this whole Facebook, Instagram, WhatsApp crash of 2019.

Clint: Oh my gosh.

Ashlie: So just sit back, relax and enjoy the content. Now Clint is rolling his eyes right now. Because in true tactical living fashion he has no idea what we're about to talk about before I spit something out of my mouth.

Clint: I sound like a robot when I know what we're talking about. So we'll see where this goes.

Ashlie: It's cool. Let's just roll with it. Now Clint and I were fortunate enough to head to Vegas on July the 3rd, because we got to see Brad Paisley on the Fourth of July. It was amazing.

Clint: We love Brad Paisley. If there's any singer that can write songs almost taking our love in to consideration, he's the singer that does it.

Ashlie: It's true. I was bawling my eyes out quite a few times. You had a little bit of tears going on too.

Clint: That was the allergies.

Ashlie: But that's not what this episode is about. So on our way to Vegas I was doing some work. I'm a part of a team and collaboratively we have a group on Facebook. So we all tasked one another with contributing a lot of valuable posts to add to the group. And so I had to get 8 of these posts done. And it's not like look at my freaking cat kind of posts right. So it takes a lot of consideration. So I spent a good two hours putting together these posts, editing the photos, all that jazz and I tried to go send them to the team member who's facilitating posting all of this for us. And it wouldn't go through. And imagine you spend two hours' worth of work; somebody is relying on you. You try and try and try it won't go through. I figured it's probably because we're passing through the valley. And then apparently one of my captions went through, but not the photos so he asks me about the photo, like Ash where's the photo? And I told him like dude I've been trying to send it to you like 18 times, but it won't go through for some reason and I got frustrated. I just thought it's on my end because you know we're driving through the mountains.

Clint: And we're used to poor internet connection.

Ashlie: This is true. And he's like, oh it's no problem. It's probably because Facebook, Instagram and WhatsApp were down, and they're probably backlogged.

Clint: The whole world's going to end.

Ashlie: I was like, oh that sucks. So I just figured I'll try to send it later the next day like still move on with my life, like done deal. And then the next day on the Fourth of July when I go to resend it to him using the internet from the MGM instead, it all went through, no problem. And I hop on and I see people are going crazy. People are bashing Facebook, that damn Zuckerberg. And they're talking so poorly about this piece of software that essentially is a part of their life every single day. And it blew my mind because for me I'm like okay, this is something that you number one use at your leisure. Number two maybe you use it as a business asset. But ultimately this is a tool in your life that you use that you have never paid money for. So what makes you so entitled to get upset when glitches happen?

Like we can't control that, and it continued and I'm like scrolling until I just got fed up and decided to move on with my life after about five minutes of just reading this nonsense. But it also got me thinking about how maybe there's nothing wrong with these people. Maybe the fact that they're getting so upset about not being able to freely use something that they're so accustomed to is a byproduct of being so conditioned that way. And having these free resources, it's almost like when we talk about. Clint and I vent to one another about this constantly how you have people who are utilizing these services that are supposed to be for underprivileged people and yet people are taking advantage of it. And they use it constantly as a way of life instead of going out and getting a job. This stems into free health care. This stems into free internet, free cell phones, free food like name something. That's a whole other episode. But for us to be given the opportunity to use something like these social media platforms for free, I believe that we're being conditioned to almost feel entitled to use them. And I say this from a place of paying witness to so many people that were acting the way that they were based on the inability to use this free program.

Clint: And for me I look into it as you look at driving. Driving is a perfect example for it. People feel that they're entitled to drive, and you know how many people I've stopped, well you can't tell me how I can and can't drive. And I go absolutely I can. It's a privilege, it's not an earned right.

Ashlie: For sure. And yet we get so used to the nuances and how comfortable it is to be able to access to these sorts of things like hopping in a vehicle and getting on a public road that we don't even think about the fact that it is not a right. I'm sorry it is just a privilege. It's not something that we have to be given. It's not something that we have to use. It's not so we're not paying a toll road for the most part every time we drive to work. Sure there's paying for your vehicle, registration, insurance. But that secures you and your vehicle. That doesn't take into account the roads that you're using. It doesn't take into account the traffic lights. And that also doesn't take into account all of the other laws that go into driving a vehicle just as being on social media doesn't necessarily factor in in our minds all the time that there are still regulations and laws and things that you do have to abide by in order to play the game.

Clint: And all those laws are in place to keep everybody safe and these rules are set so people who shouldn't be driving or shouldn't be using social media really have that environment not to ruin it for everybody else.

Ashlie: Think about what happens when you're driving down the road and there's a roadblock, there's a detour. Sure you might be like damn it that sucks. But guess what? You probably follow that orange sign until you can finally make your way to your destination. Just like on Facebook or Instagram or oh my God the world's ending because I can't access my social media feed.

Clint: I can't post funny pictures of my cat today.

Ashlie: Yeah why allow yourself to get so aggravated that as a byproduct of that it starts to create this negative spiral for the rest of your day. Like who cares? What's going to happen in the world if you can't hop on your social media feed?

Clint: Because who does it really affect other than yourself?

Ashlie: Nobody.

Clint: And that's something that I think most people in general is they get so focused on this inconvenience of why is this happening to me when it's happening to everybody.

Ashlie: And I think people also lose sight of the fact that just like with the roadwork situation people aren't inconveniencing you for the sake of inconveniencing you. They're probably working on repairing the road, making it better, making it safer, making it more enjoyable and maybe on the back end of this social media shutdown of 2019.

Did anybody ever spark any kind of curiosity as to see why it got shut down? What improvements might be taking place on the back end or what improvements might be taking place as a byproduct of everything crashing in the first place. We lose sight of the curiosity. We lose sight of it because we get so caught up in how does this impact me that we don't care about the whole picture. And it's a shame. It's a shame because I believe in our society, we're creating this for ourselves. We're putting ourselves in this situation to where we're reacting this way based on how we're creating our own reality. And I think it's important to take a step back and when things don't necessarily go our way to understand that it's okay, what is a course correct for this thing in my life not having panned out the way that I thought it would. How did I let it make me feel? Did I let it impact me in a way to where it affected the people around me? Did I make myself look foolish, in this case like posting something thereafter about poor pity me when really, I'm not a part of that equation. There's a bigger picture that's a part of the equation and I think that by allowing yourself to take a step back in these situations where we get aggravated, except that aggravation and learn how to process it in a different way. That's number one not going to make you look foolish. And number two and the most important part is to understand how your reaction and your feelings towards anything in your life that doesn't go your way is making you feel and changing the directory of your entire day. The things that you're putting off towards your family. Could you imagine how many times people probably hopped on their phone trying to see if their app was working.

Clint: And just spending that time being so caught up in your emotion of why is this happening and really, it's not affecting anybody. Mark Zuckerberg is out there making his millions and millions of dollars.

Ashlie: While you're sitting there pouring salt on the wound.

Clint: And hurting yourself.

Ashlie: It's pointless. But like I said to begin with, I don't blame anybody for that. I don't think that we are taught the methods that are required in order to be able to tell ourselves it's okay. We're getting so used to being able to rely on technology that we don't and especially the younger generation, we don't know how to deal with it when things go wrong and when that's omitted from our lives. And I think it's important for these sorts of things to start to be brought to the surface. I had a long discussion with my optometrist about this a couple weeks ago, in understanding that the way that we're headed as a society based on our reliance on technology and our disconnect from reality, it's creating really a very destructive lifestyle and upbringing for younger generations to come.

And I believe until we start to instill some of those tactics behind how you get through something like that and I laugh, but it's really not funny when you look at the big picture of things. Because we're not exposed to any kind of backup plan. We're not exposed to any sort of mental endurance or mental shift as to what happens when you have to face the real world without the reliance of this crutch. And by taking a step back with that and maybe using it as a tool in your own life, maybe as you sit there you have kids and you can think about all the car rides that they take with an iPad in their hands instead of a book. I don't think there's anything wrong with you for that. I think it's the way that society is conditioning you. But you have the choice. You have the choice to say, do I want to live in a real world and experience real colors, real sensations, real thoughts, real imagery or do I want to live in a world where my kids are learning life through a computer screen. And by taking a step back and realizing that you're allowed to choose that for yourself and for your family, then you're really able to enjoy your tactical living.

Balance. Optimize. Tactics.

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[Intro]

911, what’s the nature of your emergency? 

Ashlie: Welcome back to another episode of Tactical Living by Leo warriors. I'm your host Ashlie Walton. 

Clint: And I’m your co-host Clint Walton.

Ashlie: Today is an unnerving day. And that is because here in southern California we've been rocked with quite a few earthquakes. Quite a few aftershocks and now what they're calling a pre quake. So just sit back, relax and enjoy today's content. One of my biggest fears in life is earthquakes. I'm a native of southern California. Clint and I both were born and raised here, and we've experienced a significant amount of earthquakes in our lifetime. But this earthquake that happened last night it was a 7.1 and it was the biggest one that we've had in 20 years. Baby do you remember the one that happened back in 1999?

Clint: I do. It is the landers quake and that one was really powerful, and I was a kid at the time. So I just remember how much a shook and that super close to us, so it really shook us good. 

Ashlie: Do you remember what they said the magnitude of that quake was? 

Clint: I want to say 7.4. 

Ashlie: Okay. And then this one that we had last night with a 7.1 and let's see in 1999, so I was 12 years old when we had that landers quake.

Clint: Yeah. And what's crazy about that one was it was actually the epicenter was so close to us in comparison to even this one.

Ashlie: I remember that one very vividly because it happened so late at night and the entire home was asleep and it started shaking so violently. And my mom ran into my bedroom. She knows how petrified I get at earthquakes and I remember that one. It was unique because it was like a violent shaking. And in the midst of that anyone who's never experienced an earthquake before, they're very loud. You can hear creaking cracking rumbling shaking everything in your house banging together. But for this one I knew something happened like I could hear this loud crashing and being at late at night I remember my folks turn on the hallway light, we all kind of congregate in the hallway. My brothers and my parents and I. And then we walk out into the den and my dad had built several shelves up on the wall. My mom had a collection of them those oil lanterns.

Clint: Oh like those kerosene lanterns?

Ashlie: And some of them still had the kerosene in them probably from wherever she had gotten it from. I don't know maybe my dad brought it home from a job site or something, he is pretty notorious for doing stuff like that. And that whole entire shelf with all these collectibles was all over the ground. And I remember we all just looked at each other because we've never experienced something of damage like that together as a family. And nobody said anything. But we all just started cleaning it up.

There was oil everywhere like smeared all over the carpet and glass was shattered. And the boys and my dad took up the big boards that were once the shelves and we all just started cleaning together. And I remember leaning down and my hands were trembling. I was so scared. And in southern California we get primed with the notion that the big one is coming. So I think a big part of it for me is like okay well when is the next one going to happen.

Clint: And it's something that's instilled within us since we're kids, the big ones always the next one. And looking back at our history, the San Francisco quake, the Northridge quake and seeing the damages that we've seen in our lifetime is just what's the next big one if those winds could create so much havoc and damage. 

Ashlie: And to be honest with you we're sitting upstairs right now, and I told Clint before we came up here that I was scared. I'm scared to even be sitting up here because I mean we know that the statistics for us having another earthquake, especially a bigger earthquake than the one we had last night shortly after they say within the first week or two. But I mean this one we just experienced was even bigger than the one that we had a day prior on the fourth of July. So even talking right now I’m like nervous being up here as we record. But as we're cleaning up this mess and my hands are trembling when I leaned down to pick up what is now just a bunch of trash. I remember trying to reach for something and my hands were shaking so bad and then all the sudden as a lean over this, it was like a white shelf that I’m trying to pick stuff up off of. And my nose started to bleed. Like I was so petrified that it gave me a bloody nose.

And my mom felt so bad and she made me sit down so I couldn't help anymore and just experiencing that kind of fear as a child I think I’ve carried that with me and in my mind like earthquakes are fear. And so last night we were for I should say fortunate enough, but we were in Vegas on the fourth of July. So we actually, although many people did, we didn't feel that earthquake. Which is strange because at the time it happened it was around ten thirty in the morning. And I was sitting on the counter in the bathroom doing my makeup. And if anyone's going to feel an earthquake it's going to be me. 

Clint: You give the slightest of shakes and Ashlie is like, "oh my gosh is that an earthquake."

Ashlie: Yeah, I feel it's like your cell phone when you have these ghost vibrations. I feel like I have these sorts of phantom earthquakes because I’m just always waiting for it to happen. And last night we were just sitting on the couch together and I was like, Clint oh my god, oh my god Clint and I don't think he realized at first what was happening. And in full transparency he is probably so used to me thinking we're having an earthquake when we are not, the fact that we actually were it took him a moment to register and all of a sudden like it wouldn't stop. And I had a blanket over me.

So I took my blanket I threw it on my poor puppy, and he is like struggling because he can't see anything, because I just covered him with the blanket and then we get up and I take the blanket off my dog. I pick him up and I go to head for the backdoor because it still wouldn't stop. And it started to become more and more aggressive. So for me, I’m like okay well I had this entire story of a home on top of me, like I don't want to be inside. So I grabbed the dog, Clint grabs another dog. Our poor oldest dog, she's like being summoned to follow us and we open up the back door. We go outside, Bella follows.

And I remember bracing myself on this pillar that we have outside, and it still wouldn't stop. And this one was really different for me, because it was like you're on a swing set. It wasn't swinging, it was literally swinging back and forth, and it got to the point to where it lasted for so long. I think this one was probably a good 60 to 90 seconds. And as I am bracing myself and it's still not stopping, I started to get vertigo and like immediately started to feel sick. And I’m like okay well is it still really swinging or is it just me that's swinging and the poor dogs they were so nervous, because I was so nervous. And even in that moment when things start to settle down. You're wondering like are these plates going to continue to shift below us and then it's going to start to get more and more violent. And you're just waiting for that to happen.

And finally we go inside and Clint trying to calm me down and I am still trembling like even thinking about how that feeling was last night and I hate it. It's just something we all have that one thing. And for me earthquakes is definitely one of them. And then you try to calm down, but then the aftershocks starts to happen.

Clint: And that's one thing is really crazy because we were watching the news and seeing just everything that was unfolding and seeing what the USGS was saying about the earthquake. And then you see this like timer come up on the screen and it was counting down and it goes five and then we started shaking again. 

Ashlie: Yeah like it's incredible the level of technology that's being created really because of these seismologists and things like that. And to have the capability to have some sort of preface and some sort of precursor to you know get ready the ground's about to shake. I've never experienced before where it's like actual live time and we're watching this counter and we think that the airing was maybe a couple of seconds delayed. 

Clint: And the lady who speaks on the earthquakes she gets so excited and it's just, it's funny to watch her because she always gives you a calming with that. Because she goes, oh here comes another one and then she sits there, and she goes there it is and she has a big smile on her face and it is really funny.

Ashlie: Yeah. And then just to pay witness to what's about to happen and then the ground just starts to shake again and the cool thing about that is it told us it was a 5.3 magnitude. So we knew we were going to feel it. But at least we knew it wasn't going to be as bad or even worse than the one we had just experienced and the advances in technology to have that capacity to be able to forewarn when an earthquake is going to happen, especially here in southern California, I think it's so important. Because it gives people, even if it's 30 seconds of time to be able to, I mean we're supposed to ducking cover here in southern California. But for me I’m like, fuck that shit like get me out of the building. And so to have that, that moment's notice to be able to prepare yourself whatever that means for you, it's incredible how far we've come.

Because I mean think about 20 years ago, we never would have been able to prepare for something like an earthquake. And they also, when things like this happen it also increases the awareness for you to make sure that you're prepared when the big one strikes. Clint and I live about 10 miles away from the San Andreas fault line. Luckily this one was not centered anywhere near the San Andreas fault. 

Clint: Which if you don't know anything about the San Andreas fault, it's one of the biggest fault lines that we have throughout California. It's huge, it's massive. 

Ashlie: Yeah. And when you're studying and following the mapping of these earthquakes and you see that there are these releases on the fault line. My mom used to always say, like it's okay you want the smaller ones to happen because it's releasing the pressure. So like the big huge one doesn't happen. I don't know that I believed her. But it's something that I’m sure she just used to kind of cool me with. And the important thing when you start to experience any kind of natural disaster like this, it's a great wakeup call for being able to be more prepared when the big one hits. And you know we've heard it now for over 30 years, it's not a matter of if, it's a when it's going to happen. So having your supplies, having an exit plan. Like understanding okay if we have an earthquake, we're going to go out the side bedroom door. Having your supplies, your water, your food, your generator. 

Clint: And having that stuff not just in one spot, but somewhere where in case you know god forbid your house does collapse or something like that to where you can access it outside of your house. In your vehicle, in an outside shed somewhere where you can store it safely. 

Ashlie: Yeah or even underground. I mean that you can get creative with. But it's a matter of just understanding that there's a need to be prepared and this could be with you know any kind of manmade or natural disaster and having something so devastating happen. I know last night we were watching the news and as a byproduct of the earthquake, there was homes that were burned down because of electricity problems, gas leaks. And it really helps to prime agencies and prime the individuals in the community to be able to understand how it is that you're supposed to respond when something like this happens and not having this chaotic scene, which for the most part I didn't really see any kind of chaos on any of the videos that we watched.

Everybody I think for the most part we're pretty used to it and doing things like screaming and trampling over one another is obviously not going to help the situation. But there is a sense of panic where people always talk about fight or flight. But the third response that people don't talk about is freeze. So there's fight flight or freeze. And when it comes to an earthquake most people I think just freeze and watching those videos last night. You know we paid witness to that because people were just like looking at each other and like oh shit do you feel that. And looking at things swaying on the ceiling. 

Clint: Pulling out their cell phones to record everything. 

Ashlie: Those mother fuckers. Like I will never understand that. Like you could be in potential harm right now and your first instinct is to pop out your cell phone. 

Clint: And you see it in so many levels and so many major incidents, not just national disasters but just anything. 

Ashlie: Yes, we digress on that one because that’s a whole other episode. But I think a final thought here is to understand the fact that natural and manmade disasters are inevitable. They will always happen as long as you live on the face of this earth. And by experiencing these either personally or as a byproduct by paying witness to it on the news or sharing these experiences with people that you know or even don't know. It's a wakeup call to make sure that you're prepared for the worst-case scenario. 

And by being prepared and using these sorts of events as fuel to really allow your mind to be diverse and creative and get in the mindset of what would I do when this happens, then it allows you to come to terms with the fact that it will happen eventually and you need to have a plan b. Talking about it with your families, having that disaster kit in place, knowing where to go to or even if you need some kind of emergency word to share with one another when you're out at a restaurant and one of you sees danger. These are the types of things that I think having an event like this starts to spark and really allows your train of thought to go there, into that dark place for a moment. And it's necessary to do that. Because we're wherever you're at in life, whether you're in an area where you fear tsunamis or tornadoes or us for earthquakes.

We're all also in the reality of knowing that there could be an active shooter just by going into the grocery store. And by having this awareness and having these discussions with your family and the people that you're closest to, especially the people that you live with. It allows you to be a little bit more prepared mentally and when you're prepared mentally and the inevitable does happen and you're a little bit more confident with your abilities and what you think your actions and reactions will be as a byproduct to that, then you're really able to enjoy your tactical living.

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[Intro]

911, what's the nature of your emergency?

Ashlie: Welcome back to another episode of Tactical Living by Leo warriors. I'm your host Ashlie Walton.

Clint: And I'm your co-host Clint Walton.

Ashlie: Today is an unnerving day. And that is because here in southern California we've been rocked with quite a few earthquakes. Quite a few aftershocks and now what they're calling a pre quake. So just sit back, relax and enjoy today's content. One of my biggest fears in life is earthquakes. I'm a native of southern California. Clint and I both were born and raised here, and we've experienced a significant amount of earthquakes in our lifetime. But this earthquake that happened last night it was a 7.1 and it was the biggest one that we've had in 20 years. Baby do you remember the one that happened back in 1999?

Clint: I do. It is the landers quake and that one was really powerful, and I was a kid at the time. So I just remember how much a shook and that super close to us, so it really shook us good.

Ashlie: Do you remember what they said the magnitude of that quake was?

Clint: I want to say 7.4.

Ashlie: Okay. And then this one that we had last night with a 7.1 and let's see in 1999, so I was 12 years old when we had that landers quake.

Clint: Yeah. And what's crazy about that one was it was actually the epicenter was so close to us in comparison to even this one.

Ashlie: I remember that one very vividly because it happened so late at night and the entire home was asleep and it started shaking so violently. And my mom ran into my bedroom. She knows how petrified I get at earthquakes and I remember that one. It was unique because it was like a violent shaking. And in the midst of that anyone who's never experienced an earthquake before, they're very loud. You can hear creaking cracking rumbling shaking everything in your house banging together. But for this one I knew something happened like I could hear this loud crashing and being at late at night I remember my folks turn on the hallway light, we all kind of congregate in the hallway. My brothers and my parents and I. And then we walk out into the den and my dad had built several shelves up on the wall. My mom had a collection of them those oil lanterns.

Clint: Oh like those kerosene lanterns?

Ashlie: And some of them still had the kerosene in them probably from wherever she had gotten it from. I don't know maybe my dad brought it home from a job site or something, he is pretty notorious for doing stuff like that. And that whole entire shelf with all these collectibles was all over the ground. And I remember we all just looked at each other because we've never experienced something of damage like that together as a family. And nobody said anything. But we all just started cleaning it up.

There was oil everywhere like smeared all over the carpet and glass was shattered. And the boys and my dad took up the big boards that were once the shelves and we all just started cleaning together. And I remember leaning down and my hands were trembling. I was so scared. And in southern California we get primed with the notion that the big one is coming. So I think a big part of it for me is like okay well when is the next one going to happen.

Clint: And it's something that's instilled within us since we're kids, the big ones always the next one. And looking back at our history, the San Francisco quake, the Northridge quake and seeing the damages that we've seen in our lifetime is just what's the next big one if those winds could create so much havoc and damage.

Ashlie: And to be honest with you we're sitting upstairs right now, and I told Clint before we came up here that I was scared. I'm scared to even be sitting up here because I mean we know that the statistics for us having another earthquake, especially a bigger earthquake than the one we had last night shortly after they say within the first week or two. But I mean this one we just experienced was even bigger than the one that we had a day prior on the fourth of July. So even talking right now I'm like nervous being up here as we record. But as we're cleaning up this mess and my hands are trembling when I leaned down to pick up what is now just a bunch of trash. I remember trying to reach for something and my hands were shaking so bad and then all the sudden as a lean over this, it was like a white shelf that I'm trying to pick stuff up off of. And my nose started to bleed. Like I was so petrified that it gave me a bloody nose.

And my mom felt so bad and she made me sit down so I couldn't help anymore and just experiencing that kind of fear as a child I think I've carried that with me and in my mind like earthquakes are fear. And so last night we were for I should say fortunate enough, but we were in Vegas on the fourth of July. So we actually, although many people did, we didn't feel that earthquake. Which is strange because at the time it happened it was around ten thirty in the morning. And I was sitting on the counter in the bathroom doing my makeup. And if anyone's going to feel an earthquake it's going to be me.

Clint: You give the slightest of shakes and Ashlie is like, "oh my gosh is that an earthquake."

Ashlie: Yeah, I feel it's like your cell phone when you have these ghost vibrations. I feel like I have these sorts of phantom earthquakes because I'm just always waiting for it to happen. And last night we were just sitting on the couch together and I was like, Clint oh my god, oh my god Clint and I don't think he realized at first what was happening. And in full transparency he is probably so used to me thinking we're having an earthquake when we are not, the fact that we actually were it took him a moment to register and all of a sudden like it wouldn't stop. And I had a blanket over me.

So I took my blanket I threw it on my poor puppy, and he is like struggling because he can't see anything, because I just covered him with the blanket and then we get up and I take the blanket off my dog. I pick him up and I go to head for the backdoor because it still wouldn't stop. And it started to become more and more aggressive. So for me, I'm like okay well I had this entire story of a home on top of me, like I don't want to be inside. So I grabbed the dog, Clint grabs another dog. Our poor oldest dog, she's like being summoned to follow us and we open up the back door. We go outside, Bella follows.

And I remember bracing myself on this pillar that we have outside, and it still wouldn't stop. And this one was really different for me, because it was like you're on a swing set. It wasn't swinging, it was literally swinging back and forth, and it got to the point to where it lasted for so long. I think this one was probably a good 60 to 90 seconds. And as I am bracing myself and it's still not stopping, I started to get vertigo and like immediately started to feel sick. And I'm like okay well is it still really swinging or is it just me that's swinging and the poor dogs they were so nervous, because I was so nervous. And even in that moment when things start to settle down. You're wondering like are these plates going to continue to shift below us and then it's going to start to get more and more violent. And you're just waiting for that to happen.

And finally we go inside and Clint trying to calm me down and I am still trembling like even thinking about how that feeling was last night and I hate it. It's just something we all have that one thing. And for me earthquakes is definitely one of them. And then you try to calm down, but then the aftershocks starts to happen.

Clint: And that's one thing is really crazy because we were watching the news and seeing just everything that was unfolding and seeing what the USGS was saying about the earthquake. And then you see this like timer come up on the screen and it was counting down and it goes five and then we started shaking again.

Ashlie: Yeah like it's incredible the level of technology that's being created really because of these seismologists and things like that. And to have the capability to have some sort of preface and some sort of precursor to you know get ready the ground's about to shake. I've never experienced before where it's like actual live time and we're watching this counter and we think that the airing was maybe a couple of seconds delayed.

Clint: And the lady who speaks on the earthquakes she gets so excited and it's just, it's funny to watch her because she always gives you a calming with that. Because she goes, oh here comes another one and then she sits there, and she goes there it is and she has a big smile on her face and it is really funny.

Ashlie: Yeah. And then just to pay witness to what's about to happen and then the ground just starts to shake again and the cool thing about that is it told us it was a 5.3 magnitude. So we knew we were going to feel it. But at least we knew it wasn't going to be as bad or even worse than the one we had just experienced and the advances in technology to have that capacity to be able to forewarn when an earthquake is going to happen, especially here in southern California, I think it's so important. Because it gives people, even if it's 30 seconds of time to be able to, I mean we're supposed to ducking cover here in southern California. But for me I'm like, fuck that shit like get me out of the building. And so to have that, that moment's notice to be able to prepare yourself whatever that means for you, it's incredible how far we've come.

Because I mean think about 20 years ago, we never would have been able to prepare for something like an earthquake. And they also, when things like this happen it also increases the awareness for you to make sure that you're prepared when the big one strikes. Clint and I live about 10 miles away from the San Andreas fault line. Luckily this one was not centered anywhere near the San Andreas fault.

Clint: Which if you don't know anything about the San Andreas fault, it's one of the biggest fault lines that we have throughout California. It's huge, it's massive.

Ashlie: Yeah. And when you're studying and following the mapping of these earthquakes and you see that there are these releases on the fault line. My mom used to always say, like it's okay you want the smaller ones to happen because it's releasing the pressure. So like the big huge one doesn't happen. I don't know that I believed her. But it's something that I'm sure she just used to kind of cool me with. And the important thing when you start to experience any kind of natural disaster like this, it's a great wakeup call for being able to be more prepared when the big one hits. And you know we've heard it now for over 30 years, it's not a matter of if, it's a when it's going to happen. So having your supplies, having an exit plan. Like understanding okay if we have an earthquake, we're going to go out the side bedroom door. Having your supplies, your water, your food, your generator.

Clint: And having that stuff not just in one spot, but somewhere where in case you know god forbid your house does collapse or something like that to where you can access it outside of your house. In your vehicle, in an outside shed somewhere where you can store it safely.

Ashlie: Yeah or even underground. I mean that you can get creative with. But it's a matter of just understanding that there's a need to be prepared and this could be with you know any kind of manmade or natural disaster and having something so devastating happen. I know last night we were watching the news and as a byproduct of the earthquake, there was homes that were burned down because of electricity problems, gas leaks. And it really helps to prime agencies and prime the individuals in the community to be able to understand how it is that you're supposed to respond when something like this happens and not having this chaotic scene, which for the most part I didn't really see any kind of chaos on any of the videos that we watched.

Everybody I think for the most part we're pretty used to it and doing things like screaming and trampling over one another is obviously not going to help the situation. But there is a sense of panic where people always talk about fight or flight. But the third response that people don't talk about is freeze. So there's fight flight or freeze. And when it comes to an earthquake most people I think just freeze and watching those videos last night. You know we paid witness to that because people were just like looking at each other and like oh shit do you feel that. And looking at things swaying on the ceiling.

Clint: Pulling out their cell phones to record everything.

Ashlie: Those mother fuckers. Like I will never understand that. Like you could be in potential harm right now and your first instinct is to pop out your cell phone.

Clint: And you see it in so many levels and so many major incidents, not just national disasters but just anything.

Ashlie: Yes, we digress on that one because that's a whole other episode. But I think a final thought here is to understand the fact that natural and manmade disasters are inevitable. They will always happen as long as you live on the face of this earth. And by experiencing these either personally or as a byproduct by paying witness to it on the news or sharing these experiences with people that you know or even don't know. It's a wakeup call to make sure that you're prepared for the worst-case scenario.

And by being prepared and using these sorts of events as fuel to really allow your mind to be diverse and creative and get in the mindset of what would I do when this happens, then it allows you to come to terms with the fact that it will happen eventually and you need to have a plan b. Talking about it with your families, having that disaster kit in place, knowing where to go to or even if you need some kind of emergency word to share with one another when you're out at a restaurant and one of you sees danger. These are the types of things that I think having an event like this starts to spark and really allows your train of thought to go there, into that dark place for a moment. And it's necessary to do that. Because we're wherever you're at in life, whether you're in an area where you fear tsunamis or tornadoes or us for earthquakes.

We're all also in the reality of knowing that there could be an active shooter just by going into the grocery store. And by having this awareness and having these discussions with your family and the people that you're closest to, especially the people that you live with. It allows you to be a little bit more prepared mentally and when you're prepared mentally and the inevitable does happen and you're a little bit more confident with your abilities and what you think your actions and reactions will be as a byproduct to that, then you're really able to enjoy your tactical living.

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[Intro]

911, what’s the nature of your emergency? 

Ashlie: Welcome back to another episode of tactical living by Leo warriors. I'm your host. Ashlie Walton.

Clint: And I am your co-host Clint Walton. 

Ashlie: For today's episode we're going to talk about why having a mentor does not make you weak and how I believe it's one of the only ways that you can allow yourself to be pushed. So just sit back, relax and enjoy today's content. Baby help me reflect a little bit on this time last year where we were at and how our stubbornness really prevented us from doing anything that we could excel in. 

Clint: It goes into a lot for me and you both is we have this mindset that we created for ourselves of I can't do that because of and we're just giving our self excuses of why we can't do something instead of finding routes of actually doing it. That goes down especially to my weight loss journey where I’ve now lost over 75 pounds. I'm probably in the best shape I’ve been in in my entire life and I feel closer to you than I ever have. 

Ashlie: It's crazy for me because I’m incredibly analytical. I can sit and I can read for an entire weekend no problem. But I got to this point where there were things that I allowed myself to dive into that a simple YouTube or google search just wasn't cutting it with. Let's use this podcast for example. I had no idea how to start a podcast. You can google it. There's this www.podcastacademy.com, there's all kinds of resources out there on how to do it. I haven't found anything that takes you from the mentality essence of it. Including the tactical elements that are required to even produce your first episode. I got to the point where I didn't even know if this was something that I wanted to dive into at all.

I started to tell myself all the stories, it was going to be too difficult. It required too much equipment. I've never had to edit any kind of audio in my life. I'm a singer. Why don't I just sing something if I want to put forth all the effort I might as well produce some of my own vocals and learn how to edit that instead of a podcast. All these things came up for me about reasons why I couldn't do something, and it all changed because I allowed myself to become a part of a group. That group was a bunch of people that were all doing the same thing as me and that we're all starting at the base point. We were all at step zero. None of us had any experience apart from listening to podcasts. None of us really knew what we wanted our vision to be. Our message to be our story. We didn't even know what we wanted the title of our podcast to be. This group was facilitated by somebody who stepped away and that created this high level of discouragement among all of us.

We continued meeting as a team and what we found was that we still had that desire to do this. We all knew that it was possible because anybody that we look up to that has a podcast had to have started from somewhere. We were fortunate enough to have somebody, take us up almost as a mentor and helped to pave the path for us. He helped to create the structure for this podcast. He helped to delegate and tell us all what to do and most importantly he showed us how to do it. Hopped on zoom calls, endless Facebook messages back and forth, group chats and the WhatsApp. Like we had a completely inclusive form of conversation that was open to where we can all learn from the questions that we each had, and I didn't even know how to edit my own podcast. I didn't know how to put my own intro into my podcast. It didn't take long for us to figure out how to record, but recording is the easy part. It's everything that goes into the back end of it that really scared the shit out of me. I don't want to put something incorrect. I don't want to upload my own podcasts because I don't want to mess something up. I'm fearful of doing it wrong. 

Clint: I don't want to sound stupid. I don't want to make myself or anyone else feel belittled in any way. 

Ashlie: There's these constant stories where this negative chatter started and that didn't stop until I was able to find somebody to mentor me to get my headspace right to say Ashlie like this is super simple. You can do it; you're not alone I’m going to help you. And he really helped to instill in me that the only reason that this was so scary was because it's something I’ve never done before. By taking a step back and understanding that everybody starts somewhere and knowing that okay we'll have all these other people can do it. I sure have a high enough level of intellect to be able to figure out how to do this too.

But the best resource was for me to have some one on one time with somebody who's done it before. Someone who's had all those mess ups. Somebody who's had all that self-doubt themselves and somebody who could reassure me that it wasn't going to be as difficult as the stories that I was making up in my own mind to believe it to be. And now I love it. I think it’s fun sitting here it's on a Saturday morning. Clint and I are getting to share this time and space with you and we're truly honored for that. We're honored that you took the 10-15 minutes out of your day. Maybe as you drive to work.

Maybe as you're sipping coffee, maybe you're in the kitchen cooking breakfast wherever it is that you consume this content know that your space is completely filled with the love and honor and appreciation that we're sending straight to you from this microphone. And we've had a lot of positive feedback. We've had a lot of people tell us that by sharing our messages, our stories, experiences things are resonating with them and that resignation and those voices back to us from the other end of the microphone gets us excited to keep doing this. And if it wasn't for that mentor, if it wasn't for somebody to not only kick me in the ass, but to kind of push me forward a little bit and to reach their hand down while I was looking up and knowing that I’m not doing this by myself, I don't have to just rely on this dark end of technology every time I google something. Like there's an actual living body that could help me somebody with positive influence. 

Then it made it all okay and it made it all comfortable and we're allowed to share this platform now and experience something completely new just based on getting over yourself. Like getting over myself was really what I had to do. It's one thing when you're going through scholastic studies and I think that's what I was so used to was being reliant on myself and knowing that nobody else was there to help me and supporting me through my journey of my formal education. I'm sure that's where a lot of it stems from. But in allowing myself to understand that I don't have all the answers and I don't have to be the one to dig through all of the answers on my own. And then recognizing that a significant amount of those answers that I was seeking weren't readily available through a google search. I needed that human connection to be able to guide me. I needed something real. I needed something more than just technology in order to help me through something I was struggling with and maybe as you sit there, you can think of something in your own life that you really need that support in order to accomplish. Maybe it's something like starting a new hobby. Do you know anybody who's done that hobby before? 

Maybe you want to build something. Is there anyone you can reach out to who you've never talked to before? But that you've been paying attention to who's done that already. What would life look like for you? If you connected with that person and you were able to reach out and let them know that you needed help. The worst thing that can happen I think is they might charge you a little bit of money. For the most part anybody that I continue to reach out for to ask simple questions that I receive answers to that allow me to take those first steps, people don't charge for that. People love to help other people. I would encourage you to just reach out. Try it. Try something new.

Because an incredible thing happens when you open yourself up with such vulnerability and the gift that you receive on a back end from that are the excitement that other people have in you sharing a similar interest to them. And when you're able to lean into that. And you're able to allow yourself to finally do something that you've always thought maybe one day you'll try. Then you're able to understand that that one day could be now and that excitement, that newfound experience all those thoughts that start fluttering through your mind of the what ifs, what could be are what starts to allow you to be excited to do something new every day. And when you're excited for that newness and you're excited to give something back and create something new and to show your uniqueness and express yourself in a way that you always wished that you could, then you're really able to enjoy your tactical living.

[Intro]

911, what's the nature of your emergency?

Ashlie: Welcome back to another episode of tactical living by Leo warriors. I'm your host. Ashlie Walton.

Clint: And I am your co-host Clint Walton.

Ashlie: For today's episode we're going to talk about why having a mentor does not make you weak and how I believe it's one of the only ways that you can allow yourself to be pushed. So just sit back, relax and enjoy today's content. Baby help me reflect a little bit on this time last year where we were at and how our stubbornness really prevented us from doing anything that we could excel in.

Clint: It goes into a lot for me and you both is we have this mindset that we created for ourselves of I can't do that because of and we're just giving our self excuses of why we can't do something instead of finding routes of actually doing it. That goes down especially to my weight loss journey where I've now lost over 75 pounds. I'm probably in the best shape I've been in in my entire life and I feel closer to you than I ever have.

Ashlie: It's crazy for me because I'm incredibly analytical. I can sit and I can read for an entire weekend no problem. But I got to this point where there were things that I allowed myself to dive into that a simple YouTube or google search just wasn't cutting it with. Let's use this podcast for example. I had no idea how to start a podcast. You can google it. There's this www.podcastacademy.com, there's all kinds of resources out there on how to do it. I haven't found anything that takes you from the mentality essence of it. Including the tactical elements that are required to even produce your first episode. I got to the point where I didn't even know if this was something that I wanted to dive into at all.

I started to tell myself all the stories, it was going to be too difficult. It required too much equipment. I've never had to edit any kind of audio in my life. I'm a singer. Why don't I just sing something if I want to put forth all the effort I might as well produce some of my own vocals and learn how to edit that instead of a podcast. All these things came up for me about reasons why I couldn't do something, and it all changed because I allowed myself to become a part of a group. That group was a bunch of people that were all doing the same thing as me and that we're all starting at the base point. We were all at step zero. None of us had any experience apart from listening to podcasts. None of us really knew what we wanted our vision to be. Our message to be our story. We didn't even know what we wanted the title of our podcast to be. This group was facilitated by somebody who stepped away and that created this high level of discouragement among all of us.

We continued meeting as a team and what we found was that we still had that desire to do this. We all knew that it was possible because anybody that we look up to that has a podcast had to have started from somewhere. We were fortunate enough to have somebody, take us up almost as a mentor and helped to pave the path for us. He helped to create the structure for this podcast. He helped to delegate and tell us all what to do and most importantly he showed us how to do it. Hopped on zoom calls, endless Facebook messages back and forth, group chats and the WhatsApp. Like we had a completely inclusive form of conversation that was open to where we can all learn from the questions that we each had, and I didn't even know how to edit my own podcast. I didn't know how to put my own intro into my podcast. It didn't take long for us to figure out how to record, but recording is the easy part. It's everything that goes into the back end of it that really scared the shit out of me. I don't want to put something incorrect. I don't want to upload my own podcasts because I don't want to mess something up. I'm fearful of doing it wrong.

Clint: I don't want to sound stupid. I don't want to make myself or anyone else feel belittled in any way.

Ashlie: There's these constant stories where this negative chatter started and that didn't stop until I was able to find somebody to mentor me to get my headspace right to say Ashlie like this is super simple. You can do it; you're not alone I'm going to help you. And he really helped to instill in me that the only reason that this was so scary was because it's something I've never done before. By taking a step back and understanding that everybody starts somewhere and knowing that okay we'll have all these other people can do it. I sure have a high enough level of intellect to be able to figure out how to do this too.

But the best resource was for me to have some one on one time with somebody who's done it before. Someone who's had all those mess ups. Somebody who's had all that self-doubt themselves and somebody who could reassure me that it wasn't going to be as difficult as the stories that I was making up in my own mind to believe it to be. And now I love it. I think it's fun sitting here it's on a Saturday morning. Clint and I are getting to share this time and space with you and we're truly honored for that. We're honored that you took the 10-15 minutes out of your day. Maybe as you drive to work.

Maybe as you're sipping coffee, maybe you're in the kitchen cooking breakfast wherever it is that you consume this content know that your space is completely filled with the love and honor and appreciation that we're sending straight to you from this microphone. And we've had a lot of positive feedback. We've had a lot of people tell us that by sharing our messages, our stories, experiences things are resonating with them and that resignation and those voices back to us from the other end of the microphone gets us excited to keep doing this. And if it wasn't for that mentor, if it wasn't for somebody to not only kick me in the ass, but to kind of push me forward a little bit and to reach their hand down while I was looking up and knowing that I'm not doing this by myself, I don't have to just rely on this dark end of technology every time I google something. Like there's an actual living body that could help me somebody with positive influence.

Then it made it all okay and it made it all comfortable and we're allowed to share this platform now and experience something completely new just based on getting over yourself. Like getting over myself was really what I had to do. It's one thing when you're going through scholastic studies and I think that's what I was so used to was being reliant on myself and knowing that nobody else was there to help me and supporting me through my journey of my formal education. I'm sure that's where a lot of it stems from. But in allowing myself to understand that I don't have all the answers and I don't have to be the one to dig through all of the answers on my own. And then recognizing that a significant amount of those answers that I was seeking weren't readily available through a google search. I needed that human connection to be able to guide me. I needed something real. I needed something more than just technology in order to help me through something I was struggling with and maybe as you sit there, you can think of something in your own life that you really need that support in order to accomplish. Maybe it's something like starting a new hobby. Do you know anybody who's done that hobby before?

Maybe you want to build something. Is there anyone you can reach out to who you've never talked to before? But that you've been paying attention to who's done that already. What would life look like for you? If you connected with that person and you were able to reach out and let them know that you needed help. The worst thing that can happen I think is they might charge you a little bit of money. For the most part anybody that I continue to reach out for to ask simple questions that I receive answers to that allow me to take those first steps, people don't charge for that. People love to help other people. I would encourage you to just reach out. Try it. Try something new.

Because an incredible thing happens when you open yourself up with such vulnerability and the gift that you receive on a back end from that are the excitement that other people have in you sharing a similar interest to them. And when you're able to lean into that. And you're able to allow yourself to finally do something that you've always thought maybe one day you'll try. Then you're able to understand that that one day could be now and that excitement, that newfound experience all those thoughts that start fluttering through your mind of the what ifs, what could be are what starts to allow you to be excited to do something new every day. And when you're excited for that newness and you're excited to give something back and create something new and to show your uniqueness and express yourself in a way that you always wished that you could, then you're really able to enjoy your tactical living.

[Intro][Intro]911, what’s the nature of your emergency

Ashlie: Welcome back to another episode of tactical living by Leo worriers. I'm your host Ashlie Walton. 

Clint: And I’m your co-host Clint Walton. 

Ashlie: For today's episode we're going to talk about why it's important to get comfortable with being uncomfortable and how that's really the only way that you can grow. So just sit back, relax and enjoy today's content. Now Clint can you think of a single time that you and I have ever gone out on a holiday weekend and done anything?  In terms of an event wait when you're not working.
Clint: I can't think of anything. We've talked about it, but we always talk ourselves out of it too. 
Ashlie: We've been married for over eleven years and I can't either. I can't think of a single time that we've allowed ourselves to be immersed in a high population event on a holiday. 
Clint: The only one that I just thought of was the presidential inauguration.

Ashlie: Yes. And that was because we knew that we would be surrounded by like-minded people and not a bunch of idiots who were going to just frustrate us and potentially ruin our time. But that's different for us this year. It's different because for the first time we decided that we're going to use the fourth of July holiday, mostly because we both have it off. We have the day to be able to spend together. About two months ago I received I’ll say complimentary tickets to go see brad paisley in Las Vegas. And in addition to that a complimentary suite at the MGM hotel and that's not something to brag about, that just goes to show how much money we donate when we go to Las Vegas. 

Clint: I think it's an easy cause for us.

Ashlie: And when I received that offer. Clint, I love brad paisley, our song. Most people in our relationship have a song that they've embodied to represent their love in their marriage and for us it's one that's written by brad paisley. And when I saw that offer it was right before your birthday. And I remember thinking how cool it would be to surprise you and to take you to Vegas. And for us to be able to just experience what Vegas is like on a holiday. The concert is what they call an exclusive concert. So it's for people that are a part of the rewards program with the m life hotel. So that means that it's not opens to public. You can't go on and buy tickets for this. 

So I thought well that's pretty cool. I just wondered what it would be like to experience the fireworks and just to see other people enjoying themselves in their time as they celebrate the essence of what the fourth of July is and mind you I’m sure when we go there most people are going to be drunk out of their mind and ill intention when it comes to the whole reason why we even celebrate the fourth of July. But I thought it would be a cool thing to experience together, because we've never done anything like that before. 
Clint: And we've always stuck to like fireworks shows that are localized or I’ve always had to work the fourth of July. 

Ashlie: And I can't even remember the last time that we went to go see fireworks together.

 
Clint: Neither can I. 

Ashlie: And those are the things that we did a lot while we were dating. You know we would go out. I mean even something as simple as going to an angel’s game and then watching the fireworks at the end of an angel’s game. And it brought me back to that feeling and how it feels to be together experiencing something like that. And after getting married and going through the motions and your schedule constantly changing. I was going to school until I finished my MBA program and that required a lot of my time to where we didn't go out and we use that as an excuse. 

And mind you I needed to for the most part. But we never allowed ourselves to carve out any dedicated time to get to go and experience life together like that unless we go all out. We tend to, it's like we have this reserve bank where we tend to save two weeks where we know we're going to do an international trip. We try to do that every year and that's the only time that we get to explore and discover things together and really see new things and meet new people. And those are some of the best moments in our marriage outside of our home. 

Clint: And I like that you said to meet new people. Because some of our closest friends now have been when we've actually taken that time to go out and explore and really get to know people from all around the country and the world just to hear their story and get to experience that with them. It's something that we share not only together, but with them. So it's an interesting and exciting experience to do. 

Ashlie: We used to use the excuse of okay well neither one of us are comfortable being in an environment where there's too many people, too many unknowns. And especially with your profession being a police officer, that’s really amplified. We always think of the worst-case scenarios. Then of course we have tragic events that happen. Like the shooting that had happen in Las Vegas and it starts to implant these things in your mind that almost make you want to prevent yourself from exploring and doing these kinds of things. 

And we hear that story a lot when we go traveling somewhere especially when you know there were so many different terrorist elements happening, and it coincided with us traveling somewhere. Of course we would never go implant ourselves in the middle of a war zone and we're always very cognizant and do our due diligence when it comes to researching where we're going. But why would you stop yourself from exploring life because of all of the what if’s. There are what ifs in our day to day that have a lot higher risk rate than doing something like going and enjoying yourself in Las Vegas for a couple of days on a holiday weekend. 

Clint: Absolutely. I mean you run more risk driving to and from work than you do experiencing something like that. And I think it just it's all that numbers game and is it impossible? No absolutely not. But anything's possible in the world that we live in. And you can't limit yourself or your beliefs on not doing something just based off of maybe a couple of people's experiences behind it. 

Ashlie: I think arming yourself too and knowing what your cognitive abilities are and what other types of things you're going to be doing like in our instance, we're not the type of people, we hardly drink. We're not the type of people are going to go get so trashed to where if something ever did happen that we wouldn't be in the right frame of mind to be able to act and react. And I don't ever want us to be held back because of the potential of something being uncomfortable or something really tragic happening, because that could always happen.

Clint: And I think a lot of that for us stems from, when we do international trips we don't always necessarily go to the safest countries in other people's mindsets. And then when I tell people we're going to; we'll say south Africa they look at me like why would you want to go there? And that was the most amazing trip that we've ever experienced.

Ashlie: And maybe that's a part of it. Maybe because our growth and knowing that by putting ourselves out there to be able to experience new things, that's really been the biggest breakthroughs in our life with being able to open our eyes to something more than just coming home and what we see in our own box every day. 
Clint: Yeah. In just that whole experience that you miss out on by just coming home staying in your comfort zone is, it inhibits you to experience life in itself.

Ashlie: We've done a lot of personal development in this past year and we've done a great deal of things that are incredibly uncomfortable. A lot of unknowns. Things that we've had to do tremendous trial and error just to figure out to get from step one to step two when there's a thousand steps in the process. And I’ve found that there's no greater gift than being able to finally make it to step two and I never would have been able to even set my foot into step one if I hadn't have taken the leap of being uncomfortable and getting okay with the fact that. 

I’m accepting and knowing that I have to get uncomfortable and be comfortable with being uncomfortable in order for me to grow in any way. And I think that's not just with the self-development. But that's also with your interpersonal relationships. With the things that you're able to see and experience in the world. Even something as simple as going to a different restaurant you've never been to before. 

Clint: Ordering a new meal from the restaurant. 

Ashlie: Yeah going to the same place you always go and just order something different. And we get so caught up in doing the same thing over and over. We don't even realize that we're doing it because it's comfortable. It's habitual. It's in our human makeup to do the things that don't induce any kind of stressors on our body, any kind of stressors emotionally. But what would happen for you if you allowed yourself to do something that you've never done before. Maybe it's something massive. 

Maybe it's something really minute like parking in the parking space next to the one that you usually park in. What would that feel like? What would it feel like to just to be different for a second? To be different in knowing that you can always come back to that safe space. It’s always there. But that you're making the choice to be uncomfortable. To see what journey you can go on and then what gifts you might discover on the back end of it. And Clint like you pointed out we've some amazing gifts in reference to the friends that we've made and the relationships that we've made based on traveling out of the country. 

I never would have thought that traveling for the first time we would have come home with four best friends on the back end of it. Four best friends where we're always going to be there for each other. We celebrate holidays, we visit one another. Who would have thought I’m going to go to Italy and I’m going to come back home and I’m going to have four best friends? 

Clint: Like Ashlie said, those relationships has just snowballed from there to where we know one another, and we go out of our way to not only help but to spend time with them.

Ashlie: It's happened every time that we've taken a trip. Every time we've allowed ourselves to be vulnerable and to be open to receiving those friendships. And I’m excited. I'm excited to have the time together next week. I'm excited to take a step back to where it all began and just date you for a weekend. And you just get to experience something that we might bypass as something simple like a firework show or like a concert. But with this new, this new awareness that we have in being able to explore the beauty and the gifts instead of all of the negative stuff that could happen. But to just be present and centered in the moment and to just allow us to be and to feel and to smell and to pay witness to all the craziness. All that, that is Vegas.

But I’m excited for that and as you sit there, if there's something in your own life that you can go out of your way to just explore, allow yourself to be immersed in. Take a chance on yourself and take a chance on a new opportunity and then to allow yourself to receive the gifts and the experience and the memories that come on the back end of that. Then you're really able to enjoy your tactical living.

[Intro][Intro]911, what's the nature of your emergency

Ashlie: Welcome back to another episode of tactical living by Leo worriers. I'm your host Ashlie Walton.

Clint: And I'm your co-host Clint Walton.

Ashlie: For today's episode we're going to talk about why it's important to get comfortable with being uncomfortable and how that's really the only way that you can grow. So just sit back, relax and enjoy today's content. Now Clint can you think of a single time that you and I have ever gone out on a holiday weekend and done anything? In terms of an event wait when you're not working. Clint: I can't think of anything. We've talked about it, but we always talk ourselves out of it too. Ashlie: We've been married for over eleven years and I can't either. I can't think of a single time that we've allowed ourselves to be immersed in a high population event on a holiday. Clint: The only one that I just thought of was the presidential inauguration.

Ashlie: Yes. And that was because we knew that we would be surrounded by like-minded people and not a bunch of idiots who were going to just frustrate us and potentially ruin our time. But that's different for us this year. It's different because for the first time we decided that we're going to use the fourth of July holiday, mostly because we both have it off. We have the day to be able to spend together. About two months ago I received I'll say complimentary tickets to go see brad paisley in Las Vegas. And in addition to that a complimentary suite at the MGM hotel and that's not something to brag about, that just goes to show how much money we donate when we go to Las Vegas.

Clint: I think it's an easy cause for us.

Ashlie: And when I received that offer. Clint, I love brad paisley, our song. Most people in our relationship have a song that they've embodied to represent their love in their marriage and for us it's one that's written by brad paisley. And when I saw that offer it was right before your birthday. And I remember thinking how cool it would be to surprise you and to take you to Vegas. And for us to be able to just experience what Vegas is like on a holiday. The concert is what they call an exclusive concert. So it's for people that are a part of the rewards program with the m life hotel. So that means that it's not opens to public. You can't go on and buy tickets for this.

So I thought well that's pretty cool. I just wondered what it would be like to experience the fireworks and just to see other people enjoying themselves in their time as they celebrate the essence of what the fourth of July is and mind you I'm sure when we go there most people are going to be drunk out of their mind and ill intention when it comes to the whole reason why we even celebrate the fourth of July. But I thought it would be a cool thing to experience together, because we've never done anything like that before. Clint: And we've always stuck to like fireworks shows that are localized or I've always had to work the fourth of July.

Ashlie: And I can't even remember the last time that we went to go see fireworks together.

Clint: Neither can I.

Ashlie: And those are the things that we did a lot while we were dating. You know we would go out. I mean even something as simple as going to an angel's game and then watching the fireworks at the end of an angel's game. And it brought me back to that feeling and how it feels to be together experiencing something like that. And after getting married and going through the motions and your schedule constantly changing. I was going to school until I finished my MBA program and that required a lot of my time to where we didn't go out and we use that as an excuse.

And mind you I needed to for the most part. But we never allowed ourselves to carve out any dedicated time to get to go and experience life together like that unless we go all out. We tend to, it's like we have this reserve bank where we tend to save two weeks where we know we're going to do an international trip. We try to do that every year and that's the only time that we get to explore and discover things together and really see new things and meet new people. And those are some of the best moments in our marriage outside of our home.

Clint: And I like that you said to meet new people. Because some of our closest friends now have been when we've actually taken that time to go out and explore and really get to know people from all around the country and the world just to hear their story and get to experience that with them. It's something that we share not only together, but with them. So it's an interesting and exciting experience to do.

Ashlie: We used to use the excuse of okay well neither one of us are comfortable being in an environment where there's too many people, too many unknowns. And especially with your profession being a police officer, that's really amplified. We always think of the worst-case scenarios. Then of course we have tragic events that happen. Like the shooting that had happen in Las Vegas and it starts to implant these things in your mind that almost make you want to prevent yourself from exploring and doing these kinds of things.

And we hear that story a lot when we go traveling somewhere especially when you know there were so many different terrorist elements happening, and it coincided with us traveling somewhere. Of course we would never go implant ourselves in the middle of a war zone and we're always very cognizant and do our due diligence when it comes to researching where we're going. But why would you stop yourself from exploring life because of all of the what if's. There are what ifs in our day to day that have a lot higher risk rate than doing something like going and enjoying yourself in Las Vegas for a couple of days on a holiday weekend.

Clint: Absolutely. I mean you run more risk driving to and from work than you do experiencing something like that. And I think it just it's all that numbers game and is it impossible? No absolutely not. But anything's possible in the world that we live in. And you can't limit yourself or your beliefs on not doing something just based off of maybe a couple of people's experiences behind it.

Ashlie: I think arming yourself too and knowing what your cognitive abilities are and what other types of things you're going to be doing like in our instance, we're not the type of people, we hardly drink. We're not the type of people are going to go get so trashed to where if something ever did happen that we wouldn't be in the right frame of mind to be able to act and react. And I don't ever want us to be held back because of the potential of something being uncomfortable or something really tragic happening, because that could always happen.

Clint: And I think a lot of that for us stems from, when we do international trips we don't always necessarily go to the safest countries in other people's mindsets. And then when I tell people we're going to; we'll say south Africa they look at me like why would you want to go there? And that was the most amazing trip that we've ever experienced.

Ashlie: And maybe that's a part of it. Maybe because our growth and knowing that by putting ourselves out there to be able to experience new things, that's really been the biggest breakthroughs in our life with being able to open our eyes to something more than just coming home and what we see in our own box every day. Clint: Yeah. In just that whole experience that you miss out on by just coming home staying in your comfort zone is, it inhibits you to experience life in itself.

Ashlie: We've done a lot of personal development in this past year and we've done a great deal of things that are incredibly uncomfortable. A lot of unknowns. Things that we've had to do tremendous trial and error just to figure out to get from step one to step two when there's a thousand steps in the process. And I've found that there's no greater gift than being able to finally make it to step two and I never would have been able to even set my foot into step one if I hadn't have taken the leap of being uncomfortable and getting okay with the fact that.

I'm accepting and knowing that I have to get uncomfortable and be comfortable with being uncomfortable in order for me to grow in any way. And I think that's not just with the self-development. But that's also with your interpersonal relationships. With the things that you're able to see and experience in the world. Even something as simple as going to a different restaurant you've never been to before.

Clint: Ordering a new meal from the restaurant.

Ashlie: Yeah going to the same place you always go and just order something different. And we get so caught up in doing the same thing over and over. We don't even realize that we're doing it because it's comfortable. It's habitual. It's in our human makeup to do the things that don't induce any kind of stressors on our body, any kind of stressors emotionally. But what would happen for you if you allowed yourself to do something that you've never done before. Maybe it's something massive.

Maybe it's something really minute like parking in the parking space next to the one that you usually park in. What would that feel like? What would it feel like to just to be different for a second? To be different in knowing that you can always come back to that safe space. It's always there. But that you're making the choice to be uncomfortable. To see what journey you can go on and then what gifts you might discover on the back end of it. And Clint like you pointed out we've some amazing gifts in reference to the friends that we've made and the relationships that we've made based on traveling out of the country.

I never would have thought that traveling for the first time we would have come home with four best friends on the back end of it. Four best friends where we're always going to be there for each other. We celebrate holidays, we visit one another. Who would have thought I'm going to go to Italy and I'm going to come back home and I'm going to have four best friends?

Clint: Like Ashlie said, those relationships has just snowballed from there to where we know one another, and we go out of our way to not only help but to spend time with them.

Ashlie: It's happened every time that we've taken a trip. Every time we've allowed ourselves to be vulnerable and to be open to receiving those friendships. And I'm excited. I'm excited to have the time together next week. I'm excited to take a step back to where it all began and just date you for a weekend. And you just get to experience something that we might bypass as something simple like a firework show or like a concert. But with this new, this new awareness that we have in being able to explore the beauty and the gifts instead of all of the negative stuff that could happen. But to just be present and centered in the moment and to just allow us to be and to feel and to smell and to pay witness to all the craziness. All that, that is Vegas.

But I'm excited for that and as you sit there, if there's something in your own life that you can go out of your way to just explore, allow yourself to be immersed in. Take a chance on yourself and take a chance on a new opportunity and then to allow yourself to receive the gifts and the experience and the memories that come on the back end of that. Then you're really able to enjoy your tactical living.

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Ashlie: Welcome back to another episode of Tactical Living by LEO Warriors. I'm your host,  Ashlie Walton. 

Clint:  And I’m your co-host Clint Walton.

Ashlie: In today's episode, we're going to talk about something that's quite uncomfortable for some people and quite empowering for others and that is the second presidential executive order which is enhancing public safety in the interior of the United States. So for today's episode just sit back, relax and enjoy today's content.

Clint and I try very diligently not to watch the news nowadays. I think what happened was, since the earthquake on the Fourth of July and the fifth of July, we keep just popping on there to see if there's any kind of new updates on anything as it pertains to earthquakes because I’m deathly afraid of them. And in doing that we can't help but see so many protests that are happening and we live close to the Los Angeles area. So it's big news in southern California. And I want to take a step back, because I understand how people are getting upset because of the way that the immigrants are being detained. I also do not believe that that is the way to go about it.

They are literally being kept in cages that are far more condensed than even jail cells. Regardless, I do believe that they are committing crimes and they should be held in some kind of captivity that is very comparable to prison. In the meantime until everything is sorted out. However, those types of conditions are not something that we would even hold our own prisoners in. So that's one thing. I completely understand that and I don't think that it's right. What are your thoughts?

Clint:  Yeah. It's, I think the environment and the system's broken when it comes to the detention of illegal immigrants. They are kept in subpar situations that you know adults nor children should be kept in. That needs to be reformed definitely. 

Ashlie: In saying that, this is the first time that something like this has happened in our history.

Clint:  Yeah. And actually this has been going on for decades it's just never been brought to light. 

Ashlie: Yeah, and so the reason I felt that it was so important to talk about this is because I feel that the media is really misconstruing the exact reason for this presidential order. It was actually put forth back in 2017 and it's so easy for us to just flip on the news and think what's going on our screen is all that's happening. But there's a reality behind the scenes. And so I have this executive order (it's the second one actually), pulled up right now on my computer and I just want to touch on some of these points to hopefully shed some awareness on the reality and the reasons why this executive order is so important and why there's a crackdown that's happening under our current president’s placement.

So in section 1, it says that “the purpose is for interior enforcement of our nation's immigration laws critically important to the nation's security and public safety of the united states.” Now, as a police officer Clint, talk to us a little bit about how you see this playing out in real life on your day to day.

Clint:  It hasn't really changed a single thing for me.

Ashlie: No, i want go into how you see our nation's security being jeopardized by having illegal immigrants here and more importantly how this executive order is not targeting, you know somebody selling corn from a cart on the corner of the street.

Clint:  The orders in place to effectively allow the deportation of these criminals who are violating our laws in a more severe way. I mean, put yourself in the victim's shoes if your house was broken into and your property was taken by someone who is an illegal immigrant. And I do understand that our own citizens do the same thing. But if you could completely avoid that situation by not having that person here in the first place, wouldn't you? 

Ashlie: For sure and we can dive deeper into the types of crimes that are statistically being showcased as to the reason why we cannot allow them in our country... Which are far more really vile than just somebody committing robbery. 

Clint:  Yeah and that ranges from murder to rape to manslaughter. The list goes on and on…and looking at that, most of the sweeps that are going on right now, they're targeting more of these violent offenders and they're targeting the families so to speak, because people have protested them separating the families as well. So you remove the parents and the kids are okay to stay, even though this person committed some heinous crime, but they don't want to separate the family. So they had to deport everyone. And I understand, you know, there are going to be people who didn't do anything wrong getting deported based off the point of they want to stay together as a family.

Ashlie: And it's sad. It's sad that that's the reality. And how separation of family is happening and me actually coming from a family of immigrants. My dad came over here from Canada illegally upwards of 45-50 years ago. But immediately did it the right way. So I couldn't imagine having my family torn apart because my dad decided that when he got here he was just going to, you know, not abide by the laws… and I mean, his plan was to just come here and then pave the path for doing it the right way and following the laws, which is exactly what he did. But for most of these families, I mean name an excuse. It takes too long. They don't want to go through the process. They're worried that they're going to get deported sooner than later. I get that. But ultimately, that fault would have lied on my dad’s shoulders and not the president's. Not the state’s. Not the federal government. Knowing what I know now, I would have blamed that on my father. 

Clint:  That's an excellent point. People need to point the finger at somebody but instead of pointing the finger at the person who actually committed the crime or who's committing the unlawful acts. 

Ashlie: They're pointing it at the people who are taking it all away. Not the person who instigated it in the first place. 

Clint:  And that's where it gets so muddy and that's why we do have such a divide in our country right now. 

Ashlie: For sure…and going on here to the second section of this executive order. It says on here, “to ensure the faithful execution of the immigration laws in the United States, including the INA against all removable aliens. Consistent with Article 2 Section 3 of the United States constitution and Sections 3331 of Title 5 United States code.” So we can go on and we can read this and read this. But what it also talks about here is the “enforcement of the immigration laws in the interior of United States. In furtherance of the policy described in Section 2 of this order, I hereby direct agencies to employ all lawful means to ensure the faithful execution of the immigration laws of the United States against all removable aliens.”

Clint:  So with that being said, how would you as an individual feel if someone (and we’ll use the previous example), broke into your house, took everything and then they say, ‘well, we don't want to separate this person from their family, so we're not going to send them to jail. We're not going to hold them accountable for the law that they just broke.’ 

Ashlie: It starts to create this divide among Americans, in my opinion. Because it starts to make me question where do my own rights and laws stand if they're not equivalent to people that are in this country illegally. That's not fair. I'm not okay with that as an American. As an American who has supported my country from the moment that I knew how to. 

Clint:  And that's exactly right. It's, where is that line that's drawn in the sand to say, either it's a violation of someone who is breaking the laws/rights or a violation of someone who's not breaking the law and doing everything the right ways rights. 

Ashlie: Absolutely. And just thinking on this further, I believe it's still important for us to, regardless of what side of this you sit on, there's no gray area. You are either for it or against it. I think that it's still important for us to understand the level of empathy that's required in order to move through this situation and I don't want to say move past it, because I do not believe that this country should move past it. I think that what the president has put forward has really shed some light on the vulnerability and the holes that are created along our border that make it so easy for the drug smugglers to come in, the rapist to come in, the human trafficking to happen…and somebody has finally taken a stance and said okay we need to have some security to where we define ourselves as American to a point to where we say, we're American and you're not and this is what makes our country different. Not having these free open borders to where there is no divide in our country. Our country has to be divided from other countries, otherwise it doesn't make us a country. 

Clint:  That's exactly right. We are a country of freedoms that we have to protect the citizens who are already here. 

Ashlie: And in having that level of empathy and understanding of what these families are going through, these families of immigrants… I mean if I had it my way, every immigrant that we know of… we should fully screen them all and the ones that do not have any kind of criminal backgrounds or even might should be interviewed and sent back to where they came from and then have the opportunity to come back but do it the right way if they don’t. It's not like you're leaving and you can never come back. I don't think people understand that. They're not saying you're never allowed in the United States of America. They're saying you came here the wrong way. Please go back to the country that you came from. And we still have that door to freedom, but the door is locked. And you have to wait until you're given the key to be granted permission. Just like us as Americans would need that same permission in order to access living in any other country in the world. 

Clint:  And in our travels we've seen this. And this isn't just an American problem. This is a worldwide problem. Every country has immigration issues and every country has their own approaches. People look at us that we're such tyrants and how we're approaching this. But in our travels, we've seen how we're actually very liberal and how we do approach it. Where other countries they just load them up in a truck and send them back over, whether it's in a war-torn country or not.

Ashlie: They are zero tolerance… and I mean we've been fortunate enough to travel to enough countries to where we've paid witness to that. And I think in really moving forward I want to point out how we started this conversation with the fact that turning on the news and being showcased information that isn't fully exclusive and it's not executing exactly what's going on behind the scenes. I believe that's what's starting to create this hatred and us believing that we have to choose a side and that's not really having the ability to showcase that empathy, because the media is saying, okay well you people who believe in this and you people who support this or support your president, look at what you're doing. You're putting these people in cages. Well, I don't feel that way. I feel that the process (regardless of what it is) starts somewhere. And unfortunately, this is just the reality of where this process is starting until more agencies get employed and more locations get created in order to disperse these people. And we took such massive action in such a short amount of time that this is what has created, this influx of these immigrants being held in these facilities that can't maintain them all. And having these sweeps like this, I think and I hope, is just the start of the process of being able to move things forward to where we're not keeping these human beings stuck in these cages the way that we are. 

Clint:  In absolutely streamlining the process to obtain citizenship or work visas or the legal way of getting here to where it's not taking years and years and years to where someone can do it in a reasonable amount of time.

Ashlie: Exactly. And if their families stay here, then they can choose they come back here to their families in a reasonable amount of time. But it goes back to doing it the right way. And I think, I wish the media would showcase the fact that we're not closing our doors on these people. We're just saying, please go back to go and start the game the right way. Because we want to make you safer too. If you want to come here to our country, we want to make sure Americans are safe. But we want to make sure you're safe too. And as you sit there, it's just my hope that you can find that level of empathy to understand that the way that this process is being carried out, anybody with any kind of humanity would understand that it's not okay. It's not okay the way that it's happening. But that there is a process and a reason as to why this is happening this way, and it's okay to have your own thoughts and opinions and beliefs, but to also showcase exactly what the reality is behind something such as our immigration reform. This is a brand new wave that the president is creating, and people really need to take a step back and educate themselves on the facts. I mean, the president asks you to fact check all of the time, and by doing that, and having an understanding of what's really going on based on your own knowledge and not a freakin headline, then you're really able to enjoy your Tactical Living.