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Imagine the relief of a warm, understanding hand reaching out just when your carefully constructed plans start to crumble under the weight of ADHD. That's the feeling Nikki and Pete aim to instill as they wrap up their series on their new book, "Unapologetically ADHD: A Step-by-Step Framework for Everyday Planning on Your Terms." This week, they tackle the often-dreaded concept of "planning for the future," acknowledging the unique hurdles it presents for those with ADHD.
Forget rigid schedules and unforgiving to-do lists. Nikki and Pete encourage listeners to reimagine their planning systems as a circle of supportive friends, always ready to welcome them back, no matter how long it's been. They offer gentle guidance on recognizing the subtle signs of a system in need of repair – the overflowing inbox, the forgotten calendar, the siren song of the sticky note. But more importantly, they delve into the heart of the matter: the emotional turmoil that often accompanies these struggles. They urge listeners to face those feelings of fear, uncertainty, and shame with compassion, recognizing them as a natural part of the journey.
Pete shares a passage from the book, validating the immense effort it takes to maintain those carefully crafted systems, reminding listeners that "it is not easy. It's never been easy. The dirty truth is that it never will be easy." He celebrates the quiet courage it takes to keep trying, to embrace imperfection, and to find joy in the face of constant challenges.
The episode leaves listeners with a message of hope and self-acceptance. Nikki and Pete remind us that true success lies not in flawlessly executing our plans, but in finding the strength to get back up, dust ourselves off, and embrace the beautiful, messy reality of living "Unapologetically ADHD."
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Today on Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast, hosts Nikki Kinzer and Pete Wright delve into the nitty-gritty of building an effective "planning workflow" as they continue the trip through their new book, Unapologetically ADHD. They acknowledge the aversion many with ADHD feel towards rigid routines and advocate for a more flexible, forgiving approach. Instead of aiming for minute-by-minute scheduling, they emphasize the importance of creating a system that adapts to the ever-changing currents of life with ADHD.
Nikki and Pete guide listeners through the key elements of their workflow, starting with diligently capturing new information from various "inboxes" like emails, text messages, and even those stray thoughts jotted down on scraps of paper. They stress the importance of regularly transferring this information into a centralized "workbox," utilizing tools like calendars and task managers to maintain order and prioritize tasks.
The duo emphasizes the need for resilience and flexibility within the workflow, acknowledging that consistency isn't always easy. They recommend scheduling regular "weekly focus" sessions, ideally twice a week, to review, adjust, and plan for the days ahead. Thursday, they suggest, is the sweet spot for this review, offering ample time to adjust for the remaining workday and plan for the weekend.
Finally, Nikki and Pete tackle the often-contentious topic of time blocking. They debunk common myths surrounding this technique, assuring listeners that it doesn't require rigid adherence to unrealistic schedules or perfect time estimations. Instead, they advocate for a more forgiving approach, incorporating buffer time for distractions and transitions while emphasizing the importance of simply dedicating blocks of time to specific tasks.
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Join Pete and Nikki this week as they dive into the world of planning tools, focusing on the concepts of "inboxing" and "workboxing” from their new book, Unapologetically ADHD. They explore the challenges of managing the constant influx of information and tasks that come with ADHD, emphasizing the importance of a systematic approach.
Nikki and Pete discuss the common struggle of finding the "perfect" tool, acknowledging the allure of shiny new apps and planners. They encourage listeners to shift their focus from finding a magical solution to developing a personalized system that works for them. This involves viewing tools as part of a cohesive whole rather than isolated entities.
The conversation takes a turn as they explore the role of impulsivity in planning. They introduce the concept of strategically introducing "friction" to combat impulsive decision-making, particularly when it comes to adopting new tools or systems. This involves setting up personal commitments and boundaries to prevent ADHD tax-inducing purchases.
Tune in to discover practical strategies for managing inboxes, optimizing work time, and navigating the world of planning with ADHD. Pete and Nikki offer valuable insights and actionable advice to help listeners find a system that brings calm and control to busy lives.
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Time and ADHD, they’re just not great bedfellows Just as soon as time’s wind is at your back and you feel like the world is opening up to you, it can turn and make hours feel like days. We’re talking about the messy and inconsistent nature of time as we continue our exploration of our new book, Unapologetically ADHD (which you can order right here!)
Pete introduces the idea of time as an antagonist for individuals with ADHD, comparing it to a complex villain with a rich backstory. But it’s still a villain. And you know who does villains well? The Good Place, that’s who.
We emphasize the importance of recognizing and accommodating the fluid nature of time for individuals with ADHD, urging you to embrace strategies that align with your unique experiences. We highlight the significance of self-compassion and understanding in navigating the challenges of "ADHD time," encouraging you to find humor and acceptance in your relationship with time.
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In this episode of The ADHD Podcast, hosts Nikki and Pete dive into the complexities of planning with ADHD, launching their series based on their new book, Unapologetically ADHD: A Step-By-Step Framework For Everyday Planning On Your Terms. They explore the unique challenges ADHD presents in organizing daily life, focusing on executive functions such as organization, prioritization, and time management. These cognitive skills are crucial for planning but often become hurdles for those with ADHD, leading to high expectations, disappointment, and shame spirals.
Nikki and Pete discuss how traditional planning methods fall short for those with ADHD, emphasizing the importance of adapting strategies to fit individual needs. They highlight the need for trusted systems, like a reliable calendar or task manager, to keep tasks and projects organized. The hosts share insights into the ADHD mind's struggle with prioritization, where everything feels urgent, and time management, where perceptions of time are skewed. By understanding these challenges, listeners can begin to develop more realistic and supportive planning habits.
The episode also touches on the concept of radical acceptance, encouraging listeners to embrace their ADHD and plan their days accordingly. Nikki and Pete advocate for self-compassion and flexibility, allowing planning to guide rather than constrain. Their mission is to help listeners understand and support their ADHD, creating a resilient approach to daily life that accommodates the unpredictable nature of the condition.
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This week on the show we tackle the challenges of overwhelm and over-commitment!
There are a bunch of factors that contribute to feeling overwhelmed that are exacerbated by our ADHD. We take on too many responsibilities. We have a difficulty saying no. We suffer the constant pressure to keep up with demands. We discuss the negative impact of over-commitment on mental health, relationships, and overall well-being, emphasizing the importance of setting boundaries and prioritizing self-care.
Throughout the conversation, we’ve got some practical strategies for managing overwhelm and preventing over-commitment. We share tips on how to assess your current commitments, clarify your priorities, and learn to say no when necessary. We also explore the benefits of delegating tasks, breaking projects into smaller, manageable steps, and creating realistic schedules that allow for flexibility and downtime.
It's okay to admit when you've taken on too much and that seeking support is a sign of strength. We encourage you to be kind to yourself, celebrate your accomplishments, and embrace the power of intentional decision-making.
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This week on the show, Nikki and Pete dive into the unique challenges of navigating the emotional rollercoaster of ADHD with guest Brooke Schnittman. Brooke, an ADHD coach with a background in education, is expert in the concepts of overwhelm and underwhelm, two extremes that often go hand-in-hand for those with ADHD. She explains that underwhelm, or boredom, can result from burnout after periods of overwhelm or a lack of interest and connection to a task. She emphasizes the importance of understanding the "why" behind tasks and breaking them down into small, manageable steps to build momentum and motivation.
Pete and Brooke also discuss the role of executive function deficits in preventing individuals with ADHD from recognizing and addressing their basic needs, such as hydration, sleep, and self-care. Brooke highlights Dr. Thomas Brown's six executive function clusters and how deficits in these areas can contribute to both overwhelm and underwhelm.
Throughout the episode, Brooke offers insights and strategies for managing these emotional extremes, such as preparing for potential setbacks, attaching oneself to small actions to regain momentum, and practicing self-compassion. The hosts and guest explore the overlapping triggers for both overwhelm and underwhelm, emphasizing the importance of self-awareness and developing coping mechanisms to navigate the challenges of ADHD.
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In this episode of Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast, Nikki Kinzer and Pete Wright discuss changing your mind and the challenges it presents for those with ADHD. Nikki shares a personal experience from her recent declutter challenge, during which she felt the urge to switch gears and focus on a different project—organizing and hanging photo frames. This shift in focus prompted a discussion about the difficulties of changing course and the feelings of failure that often accompany such decisions for individuals with ADHD.
Nikki and Pete explore the concept of black-and-white thinking, also known as all-or-nothing or absolute thinking, and how it can lead to self-judgment and self-loathing when faced with the opportunity to change one's mind. They discuss various cognitive distortions, such as overgeneralization, mental filters, and emotional reasoning, which can contribute to these negative thought patterns.
They discuss the sunk cost fallacy, the tendency to continue doing something because of the time and effort invested, even if it's no longer beneficial. Nikki shares a relatable example involving an unfinished 2,000-piece puzzle and an upcoming furniture delivery, highlighting the importance of self-compassion and reframing the concept of "finishing" in a more ADHD-friendly way.
Throughout the episode, Nikki and Pete emphasize the significance of self-awareness, flexibility, and healthy self-talk when navigating the challenges of changing one's mind. If you’re stuck, it might be time to redefine goals, be kind, and understand that it's okay to adjust course when necessary.
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Grab your virtual feather duster and join us as we embark on a quest to vanquish digital disorder in the season premiere of Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast. That’s right… we’re tackling the ever-growing challenge of managing the countless files, documents, and browser tabs that threaten to overwhelm our devices and our minds.
Digital clutter can be a sneaky foe. Consider the statistic from Microsoft: 57% of US office workers struggle to quickly locate files and documents. And while we’re at it, let’s ponder the perplexing difference between how we organize physical papers versus digital files.
But fear not, dear listener! We are here to save the day with a treasure trove of practical tips and strategies for taming digital disorder. We’ll guide you through the art of creating logical folder hierarchies, establishing consistent file naming conventions, and using browser features like pinned tabs and tab groups.
The episode concludes with a tantalizing tease about a mystery tool we believe could be a digital game-changer for many listeners. Curious? You'll have to tune in to find out more!
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The podcast currently has 647 episodes available.