Talks with En

S01 EP12

Topic: “What if you do say no, but he forces himself on you- and at that moment you just freeze” - listener reply to EP 07

Trigger warning!! Contains sexual assault and sexual abuse content. Sharing our own opinions and experience, and solely our own and not a representation of any third party or our families. We are also not professionals within this field, and any information taken from this episode is at your own risk. However, if you do continue to feel discomfort, please seek professional help.

This episode is a topic that was suggested multiple times regarding the hidden truth behind the victims whom have suffered and continue to suffer from being sexually abused and sexually assaulted.This issue happens more often than we know nor want to address because of the fear of the unknown - this is something within the cycle that needs to be broken.

S01 EP11

Topic: Marrying between different Pasifika nations

Sent in by a listener, whom wanted to hear our opinions on our view within a relationship from different cultures.

We understand the importance of culture and tradition - and hope this episode can be used as a learning tool.

S01 EP10

TRIGGER WARNING - contains bullying context - this is our own opinions and experiences shared in this episode.

Topic: https://www.instagram.com/tv/CPoqPF6HDxQ/?utmmedium=sharesheet

Hurt people, hurt people. This link ^^ was sent to one of us, and also tagged on tik tok, regarding the horrible incident of a young girl of Pasifika background being bullied at school and having the courage to speak up.

However, we are fully aware that bullying happens in every part of the world.

S01 EP09

Topic: "what are the negative stereotypes of Pacific Islanders".

S01 EP08

Topic: "What are the roles of the fahu,and why do some fahu take advantage of it in a negative way"

Within the Tongan culture, the role of your Aunties vary depending on which side of the family they are from.

You fathers sisters are called your mehikitanga, and usually the eldest sister is the fahu, and she is the matriarch of the family. The fahu is most respected and praised within the Tongan culture, but it is very unfortunate that some negativily take advantage of their role and mistreat their family members.

According to our very own opinion the following role of the fahu is considered below:

She is the Matriach of the family.

The fahu usually sits at the front table of a wedding and birthday, they're considered VIP and are given money, gifts and cakes or whatever the family has planned but at these occasions she is highly recognized and uplifted, At a funeral the fahu, will sit by the head of the deceased and will also receive gifts and usually provided meals separate from the others and after the funeral, she cuts the hair of those she is entitled to - hair represents wealth in Tonga so when it is being cut its part of the traditional grieving process within the culture

S01 EP07

Topic: "Ignorant guys who cannot respect the concept of women waiting til marriage to have sexual intercourse".

This topic was sent via IG from an anonymous listener. This episode is a TRIGGER WARNING as it contains sexual abuse context.

S01 EP06

Topic: "Not supporting our own people within the business filed"

Great topic sent through for a discussion, as we share our own opinions and experiences within this topic. Although we are not business owners, but for those planning to - we wish you the best of luck. In order to break the cycle, we need to learn to uplift one another.

S01 EP05

Topic" Why do we struggle to express our emotions".

It is very common for Pacific Island people to struggle how to express and cope with our emotions. Tough love is not part of our culture, although it has become a part of it.

Talks with En - This episode we are sharing our own opinions and our personal view on the why behind the struggles of expressing our emotions and the negative influence it has from childhood to adulthood. This is our own view and not a representation of our family or any third party.

S01 EP04

Topic: "The pressures of getting married because you’re pregnant”

Sharing our own opinions as this happens often within the Pacific Island community - where it’s expected for you to marry the mother or father of your child even if you both don’t want to. And it is one of those things that no one really wants to talk about because it’s a taboo topic and so called shameful so rather than doing what’s best for the child, many pressures are focused on the opinions of others which is solely based on religious and cultural views.

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S01 EP03

Topic: "Early warning signs or red flags within a relationship"

We shared our own opinions, and understand every person and every relationship is different however, you have the choice to what you deserve and accept.

We are not a relationship counselor, these are our own opinions and any information taken from the podcast is at your own risk.