Episode #7: The green-eyed monster. The possession potion. Love’s little insecurity… no matter what you call it, jealousy can not only hinder intimacy, it can outright destroy a relationship. Most of us have been there. We’ve either been on the receiving end of a jealous lover, or we WERE the jealous lover. No matter what side you were/are on, jealousy isn’t all bad.

I know. I know. “But Bobby, jealousy is never good!” Au contraire mon frère (or however the French say that). Yes, unchecked jealousy is a poison to any relationship, but jealousy is also a sign for both people involved to take a closer look at things to communicate and work through some issues.

Is this an easy thing to do? No. Will there be vulnerability, possible disappointment, and tears? More than likely. But on the other side of that difficult conversation is freedom and deeper connection.

Bobby V and Stephanie talk about jealousy and the ways it hurts and helps relationships.

What about you? Have you noticed that jealousy is a common theme in all (or most) of your relationships? Let’s talk!

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Oh, the cheaters in the world. Where would we be without you? No drama. No watercooler gossip. No judging your relationship against the relationship of Jan whose husband was caught with her evil twin sister at the family bbq last Sunday. What a boring world that would be, right?

So, all kidding aside, cheating is serious business. We know that… better than you can imagine (that story to come in a future podcast soon). The pain. The embarrassment. The sheer horror of it all, and if it’s happened to you, you know what we’re talking about. It does, indeed, feel like you’re in a horror movie.

In this episode, we talk about cheating. What, exactly, is cheating? Why do people cheat? Is there life after cheating? We explore all that and more in this episode of Tangled Hearts!

By the way, do YOU say “all of A sudden” or “all of THE sudden” and where did you grow up?? We MUST know the answer!

Ok, I’m a big enough man to admit when I need help. I needed a co-host in a bad way. Well, I got one! My beautiful wife, Stephanie, has graciously (and by “graciously” I mean, she’s agreed to do it on a case-by-case basis… and if I don’t piss her off too bad) agreed to by my co-host!

So, if I’m being honest, Episode 5 is the REAL Episode 1 of Tangled Hearts. Don’t even bother listening to the first 4 episodes. They’re trash. It’s ok. I know they are. You can say it. But now I have a co-host and I understand how podcasts work now (no, no I don’t. But I try). And I think we’re just going to get better from here on out!

In this episode we talk about falling in love with an A.I. app. No, I don’t mean our obsession with ChatGPT writing our emails and texts for us, I mean, there are actual A.I. apps you can buy that will be your girlfriend/boyfriend… even spouse!

I do have to say that we do talk a bit about suicide (or “un-aliving” as my kids call it now for some reason). If you have thoughts of self-harm, please know that you DO matter and people DO love you. I’ve been in that dark spot and thank God I had people rally around me in my pit and just sit with me. You do too.

If you or someone you know is struggling with thoughts of suicide, there are several resources in the U.S. that offer support

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline:

Crisis Text Line:

The Trevor Project (for LGBTQ+ youth):

Veterans Crisis Line:

SAMHSA’s National Helpline

Local Emergency Services:

These resources provide support, listen without judgment, and can guide individuals to the help they need.

Well, the first 4 episodes of Tangled Hearts used to be hosted on another podcast hosting service and, well, we moved… and forgot to move Episode 4 before we did.

Ooops. My bad.

But I saved the audio and because I’m lazy and just don’t want to go back and listen to the whole episode again, you have to deal with my random description here. BUT, as you will see in Episode 5, Episode 5 is the REAL Episode 1. I actually talk my beautiful bride into doing the podcast with me! So you don’t have to listen to my voice drone on-and-on by myself anymore!

In the meantime, Episode 4 I continue talking about sex… I think. Possibly. I’m not 100% sure anymore. But you’re going to start listening at Episode 5 anyway, so it doesn’t even matter.

Step into the intricate world of relationships with Bobby V in this captivating episode of Tangled Hearts. Explore profound truths about sexual intimacy, communication, and honesty within relationships as our host guides you through the challenging process of initiating difficult conversations as well as navigating through potential conflicts. Discover the tools to maintain a balanced mental state even in the face of disagreements.

Midway through the podcast, embark on a transformative journey as Bobby introduces a game-changing book – Cockfidence: The Definitive Guide to Being the Man You Want to Be and Driving Women Wild (Amazon Link). Penned by two of Bobby’s mentors, Celeste Hirschman and Dr. Danielle Harrell, this book fuels men’s sexual confidence and provides insights on how to enhance their partner’s satisfaction. Go beyond the surface as you delve into the beautiful complexities of intimacy and learn how to cultivate a healthier, more fulfilling sexual life.

Overflowing with practical advice, insightful tips, and a generous dash of humor, this episode guarantees an enlightening experience. Don’t miss out on the expert guidance it presents, and learn how to conquer your fears in conversation and intimacy. Tune in now and begin to revolutionize your relationships.

In this part of the series, we unveil the nine qualities of an extraordinary lover as described by Hirschman and Harrell: presence, acceptance, confidence, generosity, passion, empathy, curiosity, spontaneity, and sensuality. Get an in-depth understanding of ‘presence,’ the act of being completely in the moment for deeper connections and experiences. Relive the host’s personal struggles with presence, and learn how to master this quality not just in your relationship, but in your life as a whole. On this thrilling journey, you will recognize the importance of these qualities in shaping you into an extraordinary lover and the subsequent rewards that come with it.

Join in the laughter as we share a humorous story from a listener, serving as an amusing break from the serious discussion. The story serves as a hilarious reminder to always be thorough with any invitation details. Join us in the exhilaration of unveiling the rest of the qualities in the upcoming episodes, starting with the second quality – acceptance. Tune in now and take strides towards becoming an extraordinary lover.

Welcome to the second episode of Tangled Hearts, a trusted podcast discussing the nuances and complexities of relationships. In this insightful session, certified relationship and intimacy coach Bobby V explores the critical issue of expectations in interpersonal connections. The episode, titled “Communication 101: Know Thyself”, investigates the role of self-awareness and how unmet expectations often result in difficulties in relationships.

Bobby delves into his unique approach to enhance communication and brings forward practical advice to initiate a journey of self-discovery. The episode is imbued with personal anecdotes that add authenticity to the discussion. Whether it’s about friendships, parent-child relationships, or romantic partnerships, this insightful episode is a universal guide for relationship enhancement.

The episode also introduces the transformative power of journaling in identifying both known and unknown expectations. Bobby emphasizes on the role of introspection in unearthing hidden assumptions that silently strain relationships. He promises a roadmap to improved interpersonal connections by understanding oneself more deeply and critically.

The episode eloquently highlights how seemingly trivial instances stem from the crux of unmet expectations and effectively communicates the essence of empathy towards understanding these disputes. With a focus on the psychological understanding of arguments and disputes, this episode is a guide for anyone intrigued by relationship dynamics or looking to improve their own.

Amidst practical advice on handling challenging conversations, Bobby emphasizes the importance of providing room for your partner’s expressions and thoughts. The episode conclusively reshapes the traditional understanding of relationships and communication, projecting them not as smooth paths but continuous processes that require effort, empathy, and understanding.

Dive into this profound episode to unlock healthier and happier relationships through an advanced understanding of expectations and effective communication. Tune in for a transformative journey of unspoken expectations, insightful communication, and healthier relationships with Bobby V.

Welcome to the transformative episode of “Tangled Hearts” where we navigate through the intricacies of relationships – both personal and professional. Guided by certified relationship and intimacy coach, Bobby V, every conversation unfolds the complex nature of intimacy and relationships. Get an inside look at our tumultuous journey through life’s tangled routes. (Note: This podcast is not a substitute for professional assistance).

Unwrap the rationale behind the podcast title “Tangled Hearts”. Relationships are described as a knotted process, beautifully complex but riddled with unmet expectations and resentment. Follow Bobby V’s journey from a young pastor married in 1997, to a lost dream job in 2010, and a heart-wrenching divorce in 2013. Learn how life’s ups and downs can carve your path.

In this powerful episode, our host shares deeply personal experiences that molded him into the passionate relationship coach he is today. Venture in the rollercoaster that was 2013, a year that saw him lose his loved ones and nearly his own life. From surviving a car crash, dealing with family deaths, enduring a draining job, to being diagnosed with PTSD, Bobby V recounts his poignant journey from the edge of despair to the path of recovery.

Embrace the transformative journey of Bobby V. His hardships have led him to develop empathy and a passion for helping others, especially in nurturing romantic and sexual relationships. Join him in “Tangled Hearts”, a podcast providing an open, safe platform for discussing relationship issues and offering guidance. The show’s ultimate message? Hope, love, and the courage to seek help when dealing with mental health struggles. Believe in the light at the end of the tunnel, no matter how dark the journey.

For more information, please contact Bobby at [email protected]