Self-sabotage can be so frustrating. There are times when we know exactly what we need to be doing, yet we still choose the wrong course of action.

Sometimes I can see myself getting in my own way and I am amazed at how creatively I self-sabotage.  If it didn't negatively impact my life I would almost think it is funny!

Brad Yates uses an interesting word to describe this type of creative self-sabotage.  He calls it "brilliant".  It is not brilliant in the outcome that results, but it is brilliant in how creative it is in causing us problems.

In this interview Brad and I talk about the amazing ways we get in our own way and what we can do to leverage this brilliance into having what we want. 

EFT is such a powerful tool that we all know that we should "try it on anything."  Even though most of us have tried it on anything we haven't taken it to the extremes.  Most of have tapped for deep and powerful issues, but not in moments that are literally life or death.

Deborah Miller has done just that.  She works with children with cancer and their parents.  She is doing more than trying it on anything, she is being successful!

In this interview we talk about what all tappers can learn from her work with these extreme issues.  We also talk about the book she has written on how parents and children can use tapping.

There is no question that we are impacted by our past.  That seems so obvious that it doesn't even seem worth commenting on.

Nevertheless I think it is easy to underestimate how some past experiences impact us. 

In my private sessions with clients it is amazing how often we find our way back to roots planted firmly in their childhood via current issues.  We are more than impacted by our childhood experiences, we are deeply imprinted by them.

In this interview I talk with EFT Master Jacqui Crooks about how we are affected by these childhood moments and how we can tap to create freedom from memories and lessons that are no longer helpful.

It happens all the time.  You know how to do something.  You might have done it a ton of times before.  But the moment you step in front of someone else and have to do it you freeze.

You might be before a whole group of people, like giving a presentation, or just in front of one person, like in a job interview.  You get tense.  And sweaty.  You can't remember what to say or do.  You might even shake.

Things that usually come easily to us are suddenly really difficult when others are watching us.

In this interview with Gina Parris we talk about performance anxiety and how you can use what Gina calls "3 R" to move past it.

In a recent Time magazine artile Jessica Lamb-Shapiro points out that only 8% of us follow through on our New Year’s resolutions, with most people giving up within a week.

There are lots of reasons for this. We create goals that are too big, we don't create an infrastructure or system that will set us up for success, and we are trying to change old habits with willpower alone.

It is really easy to feel frustrated with our failed attempts at change. In this week's podcast we tap for dealing with the frustration of not following up on our goals and also do some tapping to set you up to start taking action towards your New Year's resolutions.

Think of this as the reset button for your New Year's Resolutions.

In December I was the guest on the Tapping Solution's monthly ‘Ask The Expert’ call. We answered questions about anger, fear of finding work, how to tap for the fear that comes up when physical symptoms persist, how to tap for feeling overwhelmed, and what to do when we keep sabotaging our own success.

Thanks to Kris (and the callers) for such a great time.

If you missed the call you can hear the whole thing here.

The holidays can be a very stressful time. There are million things going on, we are tempted by tasty treats at every turn, and we are surrounded by people who sometimes push our buttons.

In this audio we tap for:

Managing social anxiety can be difficult. It is not like the fear triggered by something like a snake we encounter in our path.

Social anxiety is insidious, sitting just below the surface, and impacting our every interaction in some way big or small. Not having one specific memory to start with can make tapping for it tricky.

I know this firsthand as this was the very issue that first brought me to tapping. I wish that I had known Sebastiaan van der Schrier when I started out on my own tapping journey.

Sebastiaan specializes in tapping for social anxiety. In this interview he walks us through his comprehensive 8-step process for working with social anxiety, which can also be applied to many other issues.

EFT does a great job of helping us to feel better in the moment. In a very short time we can go from being emotionally overwhelmed to calm. But we know there is much more that can be achieved with tapping. Not only is it helpful for short-term relief but it can also help create long-term change.

I had an interesting conversation with a client this week. "Jackie" was relaying the fact we had tapped for an issue a few weeks earlier, a major shift had happened when we tapped, and it was still hard to make new choices in the moment when the issue came up.

In today's podcast I address why Jackie experienced what she did and some simple things you can do with your tapping to make sure you experience not just short-term relief but long-term change.

Here is the podcast I reference in this recording. Pod #91: Using The Gamut Point To Make Long Lasting Change

I recently had a great conversation with one of my clients. She started the call by saying, "I have some great news! I am no longer a doormat. I am asking for what I need. I am only helping others in a way that is healthy for me. Most importantly I am able to say 'no' to others when I want to!"

After sharing this story in my newsletter many people wrote to me asking how they could achieve the same change in their own lives.

There are three main areas we can tap for when it comes to uprooting a doormat disposition. In order to enjoy the lasting effects of this transformation I would recommend regular if not daily tapping on these issues.

I encourage you to listen to the audio at the end of this post for examples of tapping for these three areas.

Take out a piece of paper and answer the questions below. The answer to each question will provide you with at least one tappable issue. Spending a little time tapping for one of these daily WILL lead to a powerful change.