Marriage has been force on men, women, children for years. People have lied to get them. Paid to have them. And kidnapped to keep them. The only needed to bear child and keep them close to their child for inherence. Or for pleasure. When women got more wise some noticed we needed men for their money due to not being able to have a bank account. Men of course in my opinion had to keep their wives, or wife fashionable to up keep social representation and the words that got around the village or city. People did accept same sex marriages. and under age males were used for sexual pleasure nearly 4,000 years ago. Most events that we have overcame as a nation or people are not brand new to our civilization, or our being here. Marriages now, days are still full of deceit, competition, no love, abuse, money, children, status, respect, or disrespect. Men and women have been raped or used just for power moves. And some have never been loved in many ways having something different from their norm is confusing, traumatic, or obsessive. Most Black family's have been tore apart by the jail system, child support, death, or lack of manhood and responsibility or sickness. its tough for women and men to sign a contract but it is possible. to live without, because it did not always exist. Its our choice now, how we want to live life and be loved. So Bless you and your choices.