TBH

I see a lot of young people in particular that have these sharp shifts in their lives where they improve and grow rapidly and are almost unrecognizable from who you knew them as just a few years before. What I've noticed in myself is that the internal and external validation, confidence, and feelings of efficacy that such a shift can bring is extremely addictive. To the point that you begin to idolize "self improvement" and create a narrative with it being savior. And yeah maybe that is what got you through a tough time and maybe it has added so much good. But the question is can that pendulum swing too far? Do the returns begin to diminish or even backslide as you continue to enslave yourself to a way of being that should have been momentary? Maybe now the best thing you can do to actually improve yourself is conversely to have more acceptance and grace with your flaws instead. Just something I'm tossing around in my head.

"he who is not satisfied with a little is satisfied with nothing" -Epicurus

every step in life is a blind step

"Course he isn't safe. But he's good. He's the King, I tell you."- Mr. Beaver

the longer you stare in the mirror the worse everything looks

the whole basis of life is novelty. you're going against the grain of your soul to never go against the grain of your mind.

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the power that one good question can have to completely change the course of your relationship is nothing to shrug off. especially as a man, I believe it's our responsibility to lead by framing communication well and seeking to first understand before being understood.

what's been a question that was game-changing in your relationship(s)?

do feelings follow actions or do actions follow feelings? honestly a fantastic question. What I've decided is both are true. That said I think feelings first is a much faster and eaiser route to arriving where you want

you receive exactly what you think you should receive. not more. not less. what's cool is you can change what you think.