Tea Time with Elsa

Chatting about: Learning With The Horse Versus Teaching The Horse…

In this episode we talk about the difference between teaching horses skills and learning with your horse to be a better partner for them. 

Originally aired on: June 4th, 2024

Chatting about: “Relax and Trust Me”, or Not? 

In this episode we talk about two different methods of training: 1. Where we teach the horse to relax and trust the human and do what they are told without question. 2. Where we teach the horse to better use their own sensory system to gather sufficient information to feel safe and make their own good decisions. I prefer and teach the second option. It doesn’t make the first option wrong, there are just some side effects of the first option that I don’t like as much as I like the side effects of the second option. 

Originally aired on: May 28th, 2024

Chatting about: Walking the Walk, Talking the Talk...

In this episode we talk about how we really only learn deeply when we practice the theories we talk about. Practicing our theories of relationship in all moods and all circumstance, doing the best we can, proves to our horse that we can show up and be a good partner adaptable to the reality of life, day by day.

Originally aired on: May 21st, 2024

Chatting about: The Gift Of Connection…

In this episode we talk about Connection. Thinking about Connection as a two-way street where we can show them how connected we are to them, without expecting them to give it back to us. When we sufficiently give connection the horse will naturally want to give it back. I believe the connection is so much stronger  when we give unconditionally and allow the horse to give back if and when they are ready. Pressuring the horse into giving you connection is possible, but never as good as the alternative.

Originally aired on: May 16th, 2024

Chatting about: The Process of Relationship…

In this episode we talk about goals. Either the horse has goals for the relationship, or the human has goals for the relationship. Working toward those goals is the process of relationship. If there are no goals you will find horse or human or both will become bored and then start focusing on problems that are too big and problematic. Finding the right small goals develops the process of relationship, for a better quality of life.

Originally aired on: May 7th, 2024

Chatting about: Quiet Moments to Solve Big Problems…

In this episode we talk about how big problems are seldom solved in the moment they happen. The way we solve big problems is in the better preparation for the next time it comes up.

Originally aired on: April 30th, 2024

Chatting about: Patterns of Trust…

In this episode we talk about trust and how it is built from past experiences. So how do I build the kinds of habits that make the horse feel I am trustworthy and the kinds of habits that make me feel my horse is trustworthy?

Originally aired on: April 23rd, 2024

Chatting about: In With The New…

In this episode we talk about replacing old or bad habits with new and good habits. It’s important we don’t take away old stabilizing habits before we have begun to introduce new and better habits to support the horse better. Showing the horse we understand their past identity so they can grow into their future identity.

Originally aired on: April 16th, 2024

Chatting about: Social Pressure…

In this episode we talk about social pressure in herds and what it takes for horses to make an effort to be like each other, herd cohesion.

Originally aired on: April 9th, 2024

Chatting about: The Purpose of a Push…

In this episode we talk about the reasons we might use pressure in the relationship with our horses. Are you trying to get something from your horse? Or are you using pressure in a way that actually causes them to feel better in their life?

Originally aired on: April 2nd, 2024