Happy Sexual Assault Awareness Month!

To celebrate we are welcoming the incredible John-Michael Lander.   As an athlete, Lander was groomed and sexually abused by his coaches, benefactors, and medical team which resulted in years of PTSD, depression, anxiety, and suicide attempts.  He is now an advocate, speaker, and author, breaking his silence to help other survivors.  His research, The Grooming Trifecta, provides how grooming effects everyone no matter their sexual orientation, gender, or religious beliefs. 

Check out John-Michael Lander´s work at https://anathletessilence.com/

This episode was made in collaboration with Break The Silence Against Domestic Violence. To learn more about Break The Silence Against Domestic Violence, check out their website at https://breakthesilencedv.org/ and their Insta @BTSADV

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I used to think teaching self defense was the answer to domestic violence, until I was confronted with the reality that the martial arts world is more focused on embracing toxic masculine traits than preaching peace. 

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So what are the options for survivors who want to learn self defense, but need trauma informed training and an empathetic instructor?

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Today we speak to two instructors from Sleeping Tiger Fitness, who discuss what trauma informed self defense training looks like, how to become trauma informed as a self defense instructor, and why traditional ¨stress drills¨ are more harmful than confidence building.  Also a digression or two into waterboarding and strobe lights.  

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Last episode we discussed the importance of self love for survivors.  But how do we learn self love? Many of us grew up watching our parents deal with a lack of self love, and this was passed to us.  So how do we begin to understand it as adults?

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To speak on this topic, we welcome self love expert, life coach, and the incredible inspiration Latarsha Haughton of Break the Silence, Healing the Pain.  

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To learn more about Latarsha Haughton, check out her wesite www.btshtp.org and on FB and Insta @bts_healingthepain. Latarsha offers self-love support groups, coaching sessions, and more.

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For 4 years, I trained in a self defense system called Krav Maga. I became an instructor, traveled nationally and abroad to Israel to train.  I helped open a school and taught new students and led women's self defense courses.

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All this happened while I was being abused.

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Why? What was missed? How was I able to spar with opponents twice my size regular but wilt in front of my abuser?

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Today we welcome Sarah- Marie, founder of MAPS Project Defense, an organization dedicated to teaching survivors.  We discuss the ways mainstream self defense does not prepare survivors and what survivor tailored self defense looks like. 

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Check out MAPS Project Defense at: https://mapsprojectdefense.com/

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This episode was made in collaboration with Break The Silence Against Domestic Violence. To learn more about Break The Silence Against Domestic Violence, check out their website at https://breakthesilencedv.org/ and their Insta @BTSADV If you want to join the Discussion please write in.  Email us at [email protected] or connect on Facebook, Instagram , Twitter, and Tik Tok @theDVDiscussion.  We all have our stories.  And they deserve to be heard.

80% of parents do not believe Teen Dating Violence is real.  However, 1 in 3 teens reports being physically or sexually abused by a partner. More than half of women and men who have been physically or sexually abused, or stalked by a dating partner, first experienced abuse between the ages of 11-24.

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So why? Why do so many youth and teens experience dating violence?  How is Teen Dating Violence different from Domestic Violence? And why has Teen Dating Violence only recently been recognized?

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This episode was made in collaboration with Break The Silence Against Domestic Violence. To learn more about Break The Silence Against Domestic Violence, check out their website at https://breakthesilencedv.org/ and their Insta @BTSADV If you want to join the Discussion please write in.  Email us at [email protected] or connect on Facebook, Instagram , Twitter, and Tik Tok @theDVDiscussion.  We all have our stories.  And they deserve to be heard.

Do you wish you could help survivors of domestic violence?

Do you think survivors deserve protection from abusers with access to guns?

And do you agree that survivors should not sacrifice employment opportunities and child care in order to access legal help that could potentially save their lives?

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There is something you can do to help!!!!

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Happy Anniversary! This episode is the 1 year anniversary for the Domestic Violence Discussion...and we have so many reasons to celebrate! This year the DV Discussion is collaborating with Break The Silence Against Domestic Violence, an International nonprofit organization led by survivors, with a goal of serving victims, survivors, and families affected by domestic violence.  BTSADV has a huge community of survivors who are empowered to share their stories, connect with fellow survivors, and heal after abuse. For 2021, DVD and BTSADV are working together to share resources and stories to help inspire, empower, and help survivors.   Today, our inaugural collab episode, we are sharing what it means to THRIVE.  What does it mean to Thrive?  What does it look like?   Happy 2021.   To learn more about Break The Silence Against Domestic Violence, check out their website at https://breakthesilencedv.org/ and their Insta https://www.instagram.com/btsadv/ If you want to join the Discussion please write in.  Email us at [email protected] or connect on Facebook, Instagram , Twitter, and Tik Tok @theDVDiscussion.  We all have our stories.  And they deserve to be heard.

What are the warning signs the abuse will get worse?  What are the warning signs the abuser may try to kill?  Although there is no way to know for sure, there are warning signs that can indicate the violence will get worse.  Today, we discuss these warning signs, as well as read through Jacqueline Campbell's Danger Assessment .  

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Over half of all female murders are by current or former intimate partners.   This year, the COVID-19 pandemic has driven rates of domestic violence and DV related homicides. 

We know this trend exists.  But what can we do about it?  

Today we welcome special guest Kathryn Jacob, the CEO and President of Safe Haven of Tarrent County.  Kathryn Jacob is an expert in her field with over 20 years experience, and is a leader in the development of early intervention techniques to reduce domestic violence fatalities.

We discuss her work at Safe Haven, the results of the 2019 Fatality Report, what its like working with law enforcement amid the murders of Breonna Taylor, George Floyde, etc, and how the COVID 19 pandemic has effected fatality rates in Tarrant County.  

Learn more about Safe Haven of Tarrant County at https://www.safehaventc.org/.  Download their 2019 Fatality Report at https://www.safehaventc.org/safehaven-presents-the-2019-tarrant-county-fatality-review/

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