To be Asian American Pacific Islander (AAPI) in this country is to feel ignored, minimized, and invisible.

It's to feel like you don't belong anywhere.  You're too white for other Asians, and too Exotic for Americans.

For myself, my team, and countless survivors, being AAPI is an inseparable part of our experience, affecting how we were abused, how we were treated as survivors, and how we process our trauma.

For the next 9 weeks, we will be sharing stories of AAPI survivors, as well as deep diving into the history of racism and objectification of Asians in the US, explore the unique barriers Asians face, and how to navigate it as a survivor and an ally.

This is our AAPI ARMY Fall 2021 Campaign.

It is our way of filling in the gaps we see in resources and tools for Asian Americans.  We are trying to create what we ourselves needed as survivors, to combat abuse from outside our communities.. And within it.

We are creating what we wish we had.  And we hope you will join us.  

Welcome to the AAPI Army.

To follow the AAPI Army 2021 campaign, visit our website theemotionalabusediscussion.com

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Important Dates!

Giveaway 1: September 13, 2021 via  Instagram & Facebook

Beers, Cheers, & Charity Fundraiser: October 2, 2021 @ Postdoc Brewing

Giveaway 2: October 25, 2021, via  Instagram & Facebook

AAPI Toolkit Launch: October 28, 2021

大家好.  We have officially kicked off our AAPI Army Campaign for 2021!  For the next 9 weeks we are bringing you survivor stories, research and analysis, concluding with the launch of our AAPI Army Survivor Toolkit. 

The name of our campaign, AAPI Army, is a tribute to us, survivors and allies, boldly advocating to break the cycle of violence and abuse in the AAPI communities, seeking to share the educational tools and bravely begin the discussions that we wish we had as survivors.

Each week is a new survivor story or a deep dive into emotional abuse and domestic violence in AAPI communities.

Follow on Instagram, Facebook, and our website for updates on SWAG GIVEAWAYS, content releases, and up to date information.

New video uploaded every Tuesday on YouTube: User/TheEmotionalAbuseDiscussion

New Podcast Episode every Wednesday on all major platforms

New Blog on our website every Thursday

Support our Campaign: paypal.me/eadiscussion

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Today's guest is an incredibly brave survivor.  Her story is one we do not hear often.  It is from a woman of color.  A queer woman of color.  A survivor of same sex abuse, still being contacted by her abuser 4 decades late. 

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This survivor is now an advocate, having volunteered at the National Domestic Violence Hotline and rape crisis centers.  Despite her amazing work, she stated during our interview that they still lack information on how to aid same sex domestic violence survivors. 

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This is why she is sharing her story.  It is her belief, and mine, that by listening to and amplifying the voices of same sex DV survivors, we can create a space where more survivors feel empowered to come forward... and we as a culture can begin to accept, embrace, and aid them properly. 

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Thank you to this brave woman for trusting me, and you the audience, with this story. 

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If you are in a same sex domestic violence relationship, you can call the LGBT National Helpline at 1-888-843-4564.  Their hours are: Monday through Friday, 4pm - 12am ET. Saturday and Sunday, 12pm - 5pm ET.  You can also email them at:  [email protected]

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If you are an LGBTQIA youth in a domestic violence relationship, you can call the LGBT National Youth Hotline at 1-800-246-7743 

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Happy I am officially coming out as Bisexual!

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I had a recent revelation that I had lingering internalized trauma from my homophobic abuser... as well as internal shame from a society that depicts bisexual women through the male gaze. 

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But I realized that being Bi is who I am.  And I chose to annouce it not only because I am proud to be a Bi woman of color, but for others like me who are experiencing similar trauma. 

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This is my story and my revelation and part of my healing journey. 

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I was sexually assaulted in my early twenties while training Krav Maga, a story I shared in my recent episode, Hey Martial Arts, Time to Break Up With Toxic Masculinity

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After the episode aired, a woman with a similar story reached out.  This woman and I, we trained together.  We were friends.  And we both were victimized by the same organization.

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Hearing her story brought me a sense of relief I hadn't realized I needed.  She agreed to share it on the podcast (under the condition of anonymity) in hopes that it will encourage and inspire other survivors.  

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Navigating the legal system is challenging.  Not knowing what to expect is intimidating.  And its not for everyone.

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The legal system can be traumatic.  But it can also provide a sense of validation and empowerment. 

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Today we break it down.  Where to start, what to expect, and how to prepare. 

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Featuring Riddhi Mukhopadhyay, the Executive Director of the Sexual Violence Law Center. 

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SV Law Center provided free legal services and advocacy for survivors in WA state.  Contact them through their website: http://www.svlawcenter.org/ or call toll free (844) 991-7852

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If you are outside the state of WA and require legal services, you can search for services by state at https://www.womenslaw.org/ 

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You can also call the National Domestic Violence Hotline to be referred: 1.800.799.SAFE (7233) or visit their website at thehotline.org

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I knew I was unhappy, but I could not leave my abuser.  The thought made me anxious and panicked.  At the same time, the thought of being near him made me physically sick.  Why?

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Today I break down the phenomenon behind this.  Trauma Bonding.  

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Here to help explain what Trauma Bonds are, and why this is crucial to understanding how to help survivors, welcome Dr. Michelle Finneran.  Check out Dr. Finnerans book ¨Surviving Domestic Abuse: Formal and Informal Supports and Services” (link: https://www.drmichelefinneran.com/)

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Symptoms of strangulation can appear weeks or hours after the initial incident.  Death can occur within minutes, or weeks later.   An incident of non-fatal strangulation increases the risk of extreme violence.  It increases the risk of being killed by an intimate partner by 10 times.  

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Despite the terrifying consequences, many cases do not involve physical marks or visible signs.  Which means, first responders who attend survivors of non-fatal strangulation may miss opportunities to help survivors. 

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Today we talk about how one state became the first to provide trained specialists for survivors of non fatal strangulation, and the potential for other states to follow. 

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Featuring Senator Manka Dhingra. 

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TW: Rape, sexual assault, and I say the word penis more times than intended. 

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For the end of Sexual Assault Awareness Month, I wanted to explore the consequences of our cultural gender norms and toxic masculinity on men and boys. 

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The fallout for girls and women (trans women are women, trans rights are human rights) are obvious.  Think Chanel Miller and Trans Panic Defense. 

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However, if we want to break the cycle of violence, we must also examine how toxic masculinity is harmful to men and boys.  As the recent WW84 movie depicts, male survivors are often parodied and overlooked.  

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Today, we explore this intersection of a system that sets men and boys up to perpetuate violence, while also subjecting them to abuse as well. 

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We examine how they made Wonder Woman a rapist.

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Spring has sprung, and Covid vaccinations are rolling out at a slightly better than expected pace (yes I realize the bar is super low but...its the little victories I guess).

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While we are all starved for human interaction, we must also recognize the dangers in dating.  Particularly, online dating.  In our society especially, we tend to romanticize toxic behavior that are red flags for abuse.

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Today, we talk about these red flags.  Because I am also in need of socializing I brought on 2 amazing women, Danielle Dietzek and Julie Griggs, the founders of Fourplay Social.

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For more Fourplay: https://www.fourplaysocial.com/

Check our their instagram @fourplaysocial

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