Do you ever struggle to find that perfect Goldilocks "just right" spot being gentle and empathetic but also being firm? In this episode, we break down one of the biggest myths in parenting teens—the idea that you have to choose between connection and boundaries. Learn why BOTH are essential and how to combine them into a powerful strategy that builds trust, responsibility, and long-term influence.

What You’ll Learn:

Takeaway: You don’t have to choose between connection or control. The real magic happens when you blend both.

In this episode of Teens Who Thrive, we're digging into a truth that might feel uncomfortable at first—but is actually incredibly empowering: the secret to transforming your relationship with your teen starts with YOU.

Cheryl explores three powerful reasons why your self-awareness, emotional history, and parenting habits shape the connection you have with your teen—and what you can do to shift the dynamic in a positive way.

What You'll Learn:

As our kids transition into their teenage years, we all know it's essential to give them more responsibility and help them become accountable and independent. But how?

This week on Teens Who Thrive, we'll explore how to navigate this tricky middle stage of parenting. The stage where you know you shouldn’t be doing everything for them, but they aren’t quite ready to tackle everything on their own. The stage where we move from doing everything for our kids to doing things alongside them.

Inside the episode you’ll find concrete examples that include:

Parenting teens is about gradually transferring responsibility and fostering independence. By working alongside our teens and guiding them through new tasks, we prepare them for adulthood. This process might be messy and challenging, but it ultimately equips our kids with the skills they need to thrive on their own.

Join the Back-to-School Bootcamp: I know many parents feel uneasy about the transition from elementary school to middle school – from little kid to teenager – which is why I put together my new BOOTCAMP: Mastering Middle School Spend 10 days in an interactive group with me learning the essential skills and strategies to help you have a successful school year with your newly minted “tween”. Your child will be making the leap to teenager whether you’re ready or not. But you can do more than just hold on and try to survive the ride. Let me show you how. Learn more at coaching.cherylsomers.com/bootcamp

We all know we need to give our teenagers a little more freedom. But how much? And how? Your teenager is growing and changing right before your eyes and it can be hard to figure out how much independence is the right amount. It can also be incredibly difficult and scary to let go of control as a parent.

This week on TEENS WHO THRIVE, I am giving you concrete examples of how to loosen your parenting reins just a little.

Join me this week to take at what it looks like to grant a little more freedom and independence when it comes to:

When we do it right and we find the balance between freedom and oversight, we not only empower our teens to become more independent, but we also do wonders when it comes to keeping our relationship with them on solid ground.

Join the Back-to-School Bootcamp: I know many parents feel uneasy about the transition from elementary school to middle school – from little kid to teenager – which is why I put together my new BOOTCAMP: Mastering Middle School Spend 10 days in an interactive group with me learning the essential skills and strategies to help you have a successful school year with your newly minted “tween”. Your child will be making the leap to teenager whether you’re ready or not. But you can do more than just hold on and try to survive the ride. Let me show you how. Learn more at coaching.cherylsomers.com/bootcamp

We’ve all experienced it – the famous eye roll. Your teenager receives news they don’t like – usually about something they need to do that they don’t want to do – and they respond with an eye roll, an exaggerated sigh, or they storm away and maybe even slam a door.

It’s the teenager version of a toddler tantrum. I’ve worked with so many parents who come to me just furious about the eye rolling. “It’s so disrespectful” “It makes me so angry” etc.

So today we’re going to break down this teen body language and talk about:

Did you ever ready Choose-Your-Own_Adventure books as a kid? I loved those books!

And these CASE STUDY episodes are set up much the same way: I present a scenario that has come up in a recent parent session or teen session, and we will walk through 3 different options for how it might play out.

This week's scenario is about Teens and Summer Chores. How do we help our teen's learn that they need to contribute around the house and they need to do what's been asked in the timeframe that we expect?

More importantly, how can we do that WITHOUT nagging, arguing or exploding into a full-on-battle every single time.

On this week's episode we'll explore 3 different options for responding to requests that go ignored. You'll learn strategies to avoid:

If you want your teen to be more responsible about doing what you've asked them to do around the house -- and you are committed to doing it WITHOUT the "because-I-said-so" tactics of obedience, compliance and punishment -- then this episode is for you!

Want to send me a scenario for a future CASE STUDY episode?  Send it to: [email protected]

This week on Teens Who Thrive we’re going to dive into 3 reasons why BECAUSE-I-SAID-SO parenting is so tempting.

The short answer is:

But those are all short-term wins at the expense of long-term goals.

So we’re going to dig even deeper an explore:

➡Why it’s a bad idea

➡Why it doesn’t actually work

🌟And🌟 ➡What to do instead.

On this episode of Teens Who Thrive, we explore a crucial question for parents: How often do we truly allow our kids to fail? While the concept of letting children stumble and face natural consequences is widely acknowledged, putting it into practice is often challenging.

We will dive into several essential reasons our teens benefit from struggling:

-->Building resilience by giving them the opportunity to develop problem-solving skills.

-->Fostering independence as teens learn to solve their own problems. -

->Teaching accountability, helping teens understand the consequences of their actions.

-->Boosting confidence by helping our teens see they can accomplish challenging tasks.

We will also do some self-reflecting and get honest without ourselves about why this is so hard for us to do as parents, and why we are so tempted to jump in and rescue our kids when it might be better for them to struggle.

Special Invitation: —->>>>Your relationship with your teenager isn’t difficult because she’s a teenager. It’s difficult because she struggles (and maybe you struggle too!) with essential communication and regulation skills.

But the good news is that all of these skills – emotional regulation, conflict and communication skills, expressing empathy, understanding actions → consequences – all of these are critical skills that both you AND your teen need to develop if you want to enjoy a more connected relationship. J

oin me for my FREE MASTERCLASS for parents of teens: COMMUNICATE & CONNECT where we will explore all of these skills and more!

https://coaching.cherylsomers.com/communication-webinar

One thing we know for sure about teenagers is that they have BIG feelings about everything. We know this not just from experience but from actual research about adolescent development. We know that teens experience emotions with more intensity than adults – they feel higher highs and lower lows. We also know that they often experience these big feelings all of the sudden and it can be very overwhelming and unsettling. So the question is – knowing all of this – how do we help our teens learn how to manage those big feelings. AND – how do we teach them that their big feelings are not an excuse for big, explosive behavior? In today's episode we will explore:

We will also discuss why this process can be so difficult for parents who want a quick fix or who feel really uncomfortable with conflict and big emotions.

P.S.  I want to invite you to my free parent training “The Essential Skills your Teen Needs to Thrive” where we will talk all about the communication and self-regulation skills your teenager desperately needs and how you can be the one to teach them!  Check out the free training here: https://coaching.cherylsomers.com/thrive-webinar

In today's episode, we're diving into all things boundaries!

I'm going to share my 3 favorite examples of moms setting simple but important boundaries that actually worked!

I'll walk you through these examples and highlight: