This week's episode is about the principal that coincides with the 5th step - Integrity and Truth.  We discuss how this principal guides our lives.  

First Thought Wrong:  Bre shares how she had a mini moment when there was something she showed up for and the person she was supposed to meet didn't come.  How she got to the point where she realized she was right where she was supposed to be!

We discuss the way being honest and in our integrity is a priority and how it was't always that way prior to recovery.  

We share a great poem The Cookie Thief by Virginia Cox. Link: https://chatsworthconsulting.com/ChatsworthConsultingGroup_The_Cookie_Thief.pdf 

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TOPIC:  PRINCIPLE 10 - Perseverance & Vigilance

First thought wrong - Vikki shares about vanity  and taking the hammer out on ourselves!

Our topic is perseverance and vigilance in recovery. We explain the principles of our 12 step program in recovery - internal decision or external action to get & stay sober.  This episode is really how we maintain sobriety on a day to day basis and what we do when we face setbacks.  Also, how do we keep our "minds sober" so that we don't backslide. Keep moving forward in recovery no matter what!

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NEXT WEEK'S TOPIC:  PRINCIPLE 5 - TRUTH & INTEGRITY

Ok so this week we are going over our journey!  We are reminded that it's only a new decade, not century!  Recovery is like riding a motorcycle!  Be a verb moving forward.  Relentless forward motion...

We talk about Wagon Wheel Ruts, the four agreements and birthing a podcast!

So excited to be back! 

FTW:  Lynn about taking things personally and letting it go. 

Forgiveness definition: Letting go of past grudges or lingering resentments against a person or situation. 

To let go I have to take the action--clean my side of the street. What am I responsible for? Sometimes the only thing I’m responsible for is my reaction to someone else.

Nightly Inventory & Self Care

Poop bags, Jackals and getting our dander up!

Little behaviors can be worse than big behaviors.

Death by 1000 paper cuts

Taking responsibility vs. Gossiping commiserating.

You don’t have to catch a hot potato. 

Living Amends

New Prefix for the Suicide hotline new 9-8-8

Episode 30 is filled with some REAL DEAL tips we have used during our recovery & self development journeys to stay in a healthy place!  

FTW:  Bre’s first thought wrong started last year in the holidays and she has a big important message.

Tips:  1. Move a muscle change a thought

1. Take a sober/like minded friend with you

Jan 6th reading in the 24 hours a day book a super important part of our recovery. 

Seasonal depression stress and water drops that make the grand canyon

Emotional relapse as an indication/precursor to physical relapse.

We have a very special guest this week, MartinJon from the Recover Yourself Podcast.  We got to find out how he has gotten to almost 19 years of continuous sobriety. 

Definition corner: 

Recovery 

Process of change through which individuals improve their health and wellness live a self directed life to reach their full potential

FTW- MartinJon talks about adventures with texting!  

He does all types of great work including art with recovery!  

Please check out MartinJon's podcast @applepodcasts

Golden nuggets:

Discomfort is part of being present 

You can’t un ring a bell

Luxuries are gained by sacrifice of others.

This week we are off site on a weekend filled with all kinds of sober fun!  It's our overtired version of how we found our tribe.  

First Thought Wrong - Vikki is reading an email in a passive aggressive voice, for no apparent reason. 

We talk about how much our tribe helps us in our recovery and our life. 

5th agreement be skeptical but learn to listen:  Don't believe yourself or anybody else.  Use the power of doubt to question everything you hear.  Is it really the truth?Listen to the intent behind words, and you will understand the real message.

There is a misconception that in order to feel like you’ve done your best work, you have to work until the moment you burn out. I had always considered giving my best effort something that required me hitting a high standard that I’ve set for myself alongside standards other people have set for me. After a lot of reflection, I realized the standards of “doing one’s best” can be whatever you want it to be. 

We discuss how “doing your best” changes from day to day. Also how doing your best is dependent on the previous 3 agreements and their interconnectedness.

Lynn has a funny first thought wrong about having her thunder stolen.

We are discussing the wonderful book again The Four Agreements by don Miguel Ruiz.  The third agreement is "Don't Make Assumptions:  Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want.  Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness, and DRAMA.  With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life."

First thought Wrong:  Bre shares the follow up to her speaking engagement.  We all discover that taking compliments is a place we can all improve.  

Definitions:  the act of taking something for granted. Lynn says way more!  

Check out the giveaway for the book from Awkward and Awesome Coaching:  http://bit.ly/2pHWJMz4agreements

Tribe Out!