That's a Hard No

Being a pre-teen is HARD. As parents we are desperate for a look inside the days and lives of our kids - the days of school being "good" and learning "nothing" today have begun and parents are slowly appearing less and less cool in the eyes of their once adoring fans. The school day and time spent with peers are full of opportunities to set boundaries where our children feel safe, happy, and comfortable. Do they have the tools to do so? What is working? What isn't? This episode with two ten-year-olds provides some insight into all of these burning questions.

 This is another episode in our series with The Literacy Cooperative to bring more information and support to parents and children about better ways to learn, have a safe learning environment and beyond. Donate to this amazing organization here. Listen in now!

Key Takeaways

Boundaries in Your Daily Life

[00:07:11] Peer Pressure

[00:11:00] Confidence in saying no

[00:13:30] Exclusion in friend groups

[00:22:40] Bullying and its consequences

[00:30:45] Standing up to bullying

[00:38:17] Stress and coping mechanisms

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Denisha Jones is the Executive Director of Defending the Early Years and an adjunct professor at Sarah Lawrence College and Howard University. Her research interests include organizing activist research projects that examine grassroots movements to achieve racial justice in education, documenting the value of play as a tool for liberation with an emphasis on global approaches to play, and collaborating with parents and educators to foster positive racial, ethnic, and cultural identity development in the early years. Her first co-edited book, Black Lives Matter at School: An Uprising for Educational Justice, was published in December 2020 by Haymarket Books. She joins us today to remind us and share with us the value of having play in our lives and more importantly the lives of our young children.

This is the next episode in our incredibly series with The Literacy Cooperative to better provide resources for those looking to continue their education, prepare their children for the world, or extend their lifelong learning. Donate to this amazing organization here. Listen in now!

Key Takeaways

[00:00:45] Definition of play 

[00:03:45] Productive educational play exploration

[00:08:34] The value of play

[00:12:55] Importance of unstructured play

[00:17:04] Solo play versus group play

[00:22:19] Screen time 

[00:25:34] Screen time and brain development

[00:35:01] Lack of play effects

[00:36:40] The Value of Homework

[00:39:45] Afternoon restraint collapse in children

[00:50:18] Importance of play in life

[00:52:25] Children's liberation through play

Where to Find Denisha

Where to Find Defending The Early Years

How to find us - Visit our website – hardnopodcast.com – for show notes, which include links to books and other helpful resources. Like what you hear? Please subscribe, rate and review so others can find us, and make sure to follow us on social media. We're @hardnopodcast on Instagram, Facebook, LinkedIn & YouTube!

Joan Spoerl of The Literacy Cooperative as Director of Dolly Parton’s Imagination Library book-gifting program, a former kindergarten teacher of 10 years, avid volunteer, world changer and encyclopedia is back for part two! This second half really digs into a lot of specific details about best practices for parenting and educating side by side (which is no easy feat). Joan talks boundaries and literacy for parents and adults alike as well as all The Literacy Cooperative has to offer. Donate to this amazing organization here. Listen in now!

Key Takeaways

If you don't take away anything else, these are the two most important items:

1. The Literacy Cooperative provides support for the entire family to develop better literacy skills

2. Joan Spoerl is a human library

[00:03:08] Limiting screen time for children

[00:06:04] Goldilocks effect in brain development

[00:10:13] Feeding your child's interests

The Importance of Setting Boundaries in Early Childhood Development

[00:12:57] Remember quality as much as quantity

[00:17:32] Routines & Environment, Especially Sleep

[00:22:43] Importance of imaginative & unstructured play

[00:32:51] Dolly Parton's Imagination Library

[00:35:08] Long-term literacy program support

What to Expect Out of Our Series

Where to Find Joan

Where to Find The Literacy Cooperative

Where to Find Dolly Parton's Imagination Library

See if it's available for your little one's here!

How to find us - Visit our website – hardnopodcast.com – for show notes, which include links to books and other helpful resources. Like what you hear? Please subscribe, rate and review so others can find us, and make sure to follow us on social media. We're @hardnopodcast on Instagram, Facebook, LinkedIn & YouTube!

Joan Spoerl works for The Literacy Cooperative as Director of Dolly Parton’s Imagination Library book-gifting program, a former kindergarten teacher of 10 years, avid volunteer, world changer and encyclopedia. She will draw you into this episode in the first few seconds of hearing her sweet quick voice. Her passion will radiate through your ears. The way she understands and cares about supporting all people struggling with any form of literacy is one unmatched. Joan will take us through the all the efforts of the Literacy Cooperative, how they began, how we came together and why this is of such value to both of us! Donate to this amazing organization here. Join us on this journey!

Key Takeaways

If you don't take away anything else, these are the two most important items:

1. The Literacy Cooperative provides support for the entire family to develop better literacy skills

2. Joan Spoerl is a human library

[00:02:32] Mission and Programs of the Literacy Cooperative

[00:06:24] Imagination Library Value & Enrollment

[00:10:06] Literacy Statistics and Challenges

[00:17:08] Addressing Literacy from Early Years to Adulthood

[00:18:02] Overcoming Literacy Challenges and Dyslexia

[00:24:38] Neuroplasticity and Lifelong Learning

[00:28:23] What to Expect Out of Our Series

Where to Find Joan

Where to Find The Literacy Cooperative

Where to Find if Dolly Parton's Imagination Library

See if it's available for your little one's here!

How to find us - Visit our website – hardnopodcast.com – for show notes, which include links to books and other helpful resources. Like what you hear? Please subscribe, rate and review so others can find us, and make sure to follow us on social media. We're @hardnopodcast on Instagram, Facebook, LinkedIn & YouTube!

Joan Spoerl works for The Literacy Cooperative as Director of Dolly Parton’s Imagination Library book-gifting program, she teases at the exciting topics for this series as well as why literacy resources are incredibly important in all communities. Today, September 11th we are competing in their biggest fundraiser of the year, an adult spelling bee, the CLE Bee. Donate to this amazing organization here. Join us on this journey!

Key Takeaways

Where to Find The Literacy Cooperative

Where to Find if Dolly Parton's Imagination Library

See if it's available for your little one's here!

How to find us - Visit our website – hardnopodcast.com – for show notes, which include links to books and other helpful resources. Like what you hear? Please subscribe, rate and review so others can find us, and make sure to follow us on social media. We're @hardnopodcast on Instagram, Facebook, LinkedIn & YouTube!

Tiffany Mead is a childcare professional with over 20 years in the industry/profession. She has experience in public daycares, private in-home daycares, public and private schools as well as my current position in professional nannying. Through many years in the industry she has learned valuable lessons that she feels are important for both parents and caregivers to know. Boundaries in this profession can get blurry easily as the closeness and intimacy of the relationship with children and their families forces a closeness quickly. Learn about the do's and don'ts of finding the right caregivers, understanding red flags, appropriate boundaries to set, and how to make both parties as comfortable as possible.

Key Takeaways

[00:02:13] Finding quality child care options

[00:07:26] Childcare budget considerations

[00:15:06] Childcare challenges and solutions

[00:19:39] Checking references for childcare

[00:27:59] Professional boundaries in child care

[00:32:27] Respect of time

[00:37:06] Responsibilities

[00:41:53] Teaching Life skills for children

[00:46:34] Respect for childcare providers

Where to Find Tiffany 

How to find us - Visit our website – hardnopodcast.com – for show notes, which include links to books and other helpful resources. Like what you hear? Please subscribe, rate and review so others can find us, and make sure to follow us on social media. We're @hardnopodcast on Instagram, Facebook, LinkedIn & YouTube!

Betsie Norris is the Founder and Executive Director of Adoption Network Cleveland: The Ohio Family Connection. Betsie is an adoptee who searched for and was reunited with her birthparents and siblings in 1986, when she was in her mid-twenties. She emerged from that experience with strong convictions about the lifelong journey of adoption for all involved, and the need for systemic change. She found Adoption Network Cleveland in 1988, was a volunteer for the first 7 years, and has been the Executive Director since 1995.

Listen is as Betsie discusses the trauma around adoption, how to find support, her personal reunification and search process, as well as what boundaries to set for a healthy experience for all involved parties.

Key Takeaways

[00:03:15] Adoption as a lifelong journey

[00:11:11] Search Challenges & Reunion Experiences

[00:23:19] Navigating Family Boundaries

[00:25:19] Modern Family Dynamics

[00:29:19] Trauma in Adoption

[00:38:13] Setting Boundaries During Your Search

[00:42:34] What boundaries can look like in an open adoption

[00:49:18] Supporting Foster Care Practices

Where to Find Betsie Norris & The Adoption Network

How to find us - Visit our website – hardnopodcast.com – for show notes, which include links to books and other helpful resources. Like what you hear? Please subscribe, rate and review so others can find us, and make sure to follow us on social media. We're @hardnopodcast on Instagram, Facebook, LinkedIn & YouTube!

Julie Sumner is a recovering attorney who has more than 20 years of experience in labor and employment litigation. She started Monarch Endeavors in 2016 with the goal of helping employers resolve employee-related issues before they got sued. Monarch offers HR consulting and training services directed at HR professionals and management-level employees, since they are typically the first line of defense for an employer. Monarch's specialty is those "Oh, Sh!t!" moments that often paralyze employers because they do not know how to respond. At Monarch, our goal is to be your partner through those moments and help you resolve them as painlessly as possible.

Key Takeaways

[00:04:15] Clear Expectations

[00:09:24] Building Trust

[00:12:43] Proactive vs. Reactive Leadership

[00:19:42] Disrespect in the Workplace

[00:38:05] The No Asshole Rule: by Robert Sutton

[00:39:16] Civility in Society

[00:42:37] Teaching People to Connect Again

Where to Find Julie Sumner, Monarch Endeavors & Whine with HR

Whine with HR Podcast

How to find us - Visit our website – hardnopodcast.com – for show notes, which include links to books and other helpful resources. Like what you hear? Please subscribe, rate and review so others can find us, and make sure to follow us on social media. We're @hardnopodcast on Instagram, Facebook, LinkedIn & YouTube!

Kristi Horner is the Founder and Executive Director for Courage to Caregivers. She is a certified Family Peer Support Specialist and NAMI Ohio Trainer for this program. In 2014, she lost her brother to suicide. She had been one of her brother’s mental illness long-distance caregivers for four years. He lived with depression, anxiety and obsessive-compulsive disorder. As someone who supported someone she loved very much, living with mental illness, she knew there had to be a better way to support mental illness caregivers and the idea for Courage to Caregivers was born! Listen in as she discusses the struggles of caregiving, learning to prioritize yourself, and ways to avoid fatigue and burnout.

Key Takeaways

[00:02:44] Setting boundaries for caregivers

[00:05:44] Mental health crisis intervention

[00:12:31] Boundaries and self-care

[00:19:39] Gender roles in caregiving

[00:21:33] Letting go of guilt

[00:35:19] Decision fatigue

[00:39:36] Rest and self-care boundaries

[00:43:19] Motivation versus self-discipline

Where to Find Courage to Caregivers

Resources

Courage to Caregivers – Boundaries Guide

Dr. Jenny King is an Assistant Professor and Co-Director of the Center on Trauma and Adversity in the Mandel School of Applied Social Sciences at Case Western Reserve University. After more than a decade of doing therapy, Dr. King now works to prepare future social workers to engage in clinical practice that is rooted in the neurobiology of trauma and healing. A highly sought-after speaker and consultant, she draws from her practice experience to bridge the gap between the academy, research, and the general public, sharing complex information in accessible ways. Dr. King is the creator of the Take a Break Micropractice framework– a neurobiologically-informed, body-based approach to managing stress fast. Listen in as she talks with us about trauma, the boundaries we can set, ways to begin healing, and how our brains can change.

Key Takeaways

[00:02:36] What is Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder? (CPTSD)

[00:05:23] CPTSD vs PTSD

[00:19:06] Trauma responses and reactions

[00:31:00] Signs of needing help

[00:37:03] Rewiring the brain - Neuroplasticity

[00:43:30] Using scripts

[00:48:10] Setting boundaries and self-appreciation

[00:48:46] Trauma discourse and collective experiences

Where to Find Jenny

How to find us - Visit our website – hardnopodcast.com – for show notes, which include links to books and other helpful resources. Like what you hear? Please subscribe, rate and review so others can find us, and make sure to follow us on social media. We're @hardnopodcast on Instagram, Facebook, LinkedIn & YouTube.