That's What She Said! Vodcast

We sit down with Bidanya Barasa — girl boss, cancer survivor, and wellness advocate who doesn’t play when it comes to her health. After her cancer journey, Bidanya’s approach to life completely shifted. She’s intentional about balance, mindful about nutrition, and bold about saying no to hustle culture when it threatens her wellbeing.  

Sis, let’s be honest — there is no reward for being the “Strong Black Woman.” We’re expected to grind, hold everyone down, and never break… but at what cost?

In this episode of That’s What She Said, we’re talking to you, girl — the one chasing the bag, building the dream, but also craving softness, ease, and love that lets you exhale. Can African women really have it all? Can we be both ambitious and spoiled?

At 28, Nelly Naisula made a choice most African women are told is too bold — she decided she never wants children, and made it permanent by tying her tubes.

In this unapologetic, real-talk conversation, Nelly opens up about:

1. Why motherhood was never part of her dream
2. The reactions from family, friends & society
3. What it means to take full control of her body & future
4. The freedom (and challenges) of being child-free in Africa

Sis, motherhood has always been sold as the ultimate “you’ve made it” badge for women… but lately, more and more young African women are asking, “Is it actually for me?”

In this unfiltered convo, we’re pulling up a chair for both sides:
The mamas — riding the rollercoaster of pregnancy, childbirth & those sleepless newborn nights
The child-free queens — owning their choice, breaking traditions & building life on their own terms

From cultural pressure to the price tag of raising a child, to the new definitions of legacy & fulfillment — this two-part heart-to-heart gets real.  

What if you could test for STDs from the comfort of your own room—no awkward clinics, no judgment, no waiting weeks for results?

This week on That’s What She Said, we’re joined by biotech innovator Violette Defourt, the brilliant mind behind a 15-minute at-home STI self-test kit that’s changing the game for young women everywhere.

Let’s be real—STDs are awkward to talk about, but silence is way worse.
Too many of us are navigating our sexual health in the dark because of stigma, fear, or straight-up lies we were told in school (or never told at all ).

Think only “promiscuous” people get STDs? Think you'd definitely know if you had one?
Think again.

In this episode, we break the shame and spill the facts:

1. How STDs really spread (hint: not just through sex)
2. The myths keeping young women misinformed
3. Why knowing your status is the ultimate power move

Sis… can we talk?

Sex is everywhere — in the music, the memes, the movies. But when it comes to actually talking about it? It’s still whispers, awkward silences, and way too much guesswork.

From the gaps in sex ed to the pressure to perform, to reclaiming pleasure as a right (not a reward) — we’re unlearning, unpacking, and saying it all. No filters. No shame. Just real talk.

If you’ve ever felt confused, silenced, or lowkey faking it — this one’s for you.

Sis… can we talk?

Sex is everywhere — in the music, the memes, the movies. But when it comes to actually talking about it? It’s still whispers, awkward silences, and way too much guesswork.

From the gaps in sex ed to the pressure to perform, to reclaiming pleasure as a right (not a reward) — we’re unlearning, unpacking, and saying it all. No filters. No shame. Just real talk.

If you’ve ever felt confused, silenced, or lowkey faking it — this one’s for you.

We live in a patriarchal society—and the thing about patriarchy? It eats its own children.It protects abusers, and punishes survivors. It teaches us to be quiet, to endure, and to blame ourselves when things go wrong.In this episode, we sit down with Njeri Migwi founder Usikimye to unpack how deeply this system runs—from the way we silence survivors, to how we excuse violent men as “good guys who made a mistake.”

LET'S BE REAL GUYS....We need to talk... About the questions that come before compassion. About the whispered judgments. About how survivors become suspects in their own stories. In this episode, we unpack the toxic culture of victim blaming—why it persists, how it silences women, and what it means to finally believe survivors without conditions. Because the truth is: women don’t get assaulted because of what they wore. They get assaulted because someone chose to hurt them.