In this episode of That’s… What She Shed, I sit down with my CoDA friend (and former sponsor), Liz Custer, to discuss one of my all-time favorite topics—Boundaries and Codependency.

Liz and I get real about our personal journeys, sharing how chronic people-pleasing, controlling behaviors, and encounters with manipulators disguised as "helpers" shaped our past relationships. We dive into the transformative power of boundary work—how difficult yet necessary it is to break old patterns, step into courage, and prioritize our own well-being.

The result? Healthier, safer, and more secure relationships—and ultimately, a life of peace and freedom. If you've ever struggled with setting boundaries or recognizing codependent tendencies, this episode is for you!

Books mentioned in the podcast:

Boundaries by Henry Cloud
Good Boundaries and Goodbyes by Lysa Terkeurst
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Welcome back to That's… What She Shed! This is part two of Sara’s gripping and courageous story. In the first part, we heard about her struggle to feel love and approval from her family, how that desire shaped her identity as a skinny star athlete, and how it ultimately intersected with addiction.

But today, Sara opens up about a much darker chapter—her abusive marriage. She shares the horrifying details of how her ex-husband weaponized faith, using God as a means to manipulate and control her. Sara describes the physical and emotional torment she endured and what finally gave her the strength to leave.

In addition, she reveals the ongoing battle she faces in co-parenting with a narcissistic ex-husband—a daily challenge that requires immense strength and resilience. This episode is raw, real, and incredibly powerful—a testament to Sara’s bravery in reclaiming her life and stepping into her power.

Let’s dive in.

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In this episode, I sit down with Sara, whose story is one of resilience, recovery, and the pursuit of self-discovery. Sara takes us through her early years as a superstar soccer player, a role that came with intense pressure and heavy burdens. From there, she opens up about her struggles with eating disorders, her battle with alcohol and drug addiction, and the winding road to recovery.

But the journey didn’t end there. When Sara came to see me, she was in the middle of navigating a volatile coparenting relationship with her former spouse—who, let’s just say, was definitely not playing on her team.

And it all begins with Sara and her soccer...

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Lily and I pick right back up where we left off in Part 1.  In today's episode we address how creating experiences of connection in relationship can be  sabotaged with unmet expectations, unsolicited opinions or advice (received as criticism), and rigidity.  Rigidity cancels relationship every single time.  I hope you are inspired today to take all that we offer in this episode to create more connections with the people that you love.   

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Today is part one of two.  If you are struggling in your relationship with your older teen AND/OR young adult child, you are going to want to listen to this.  In this episode, my own daughter, Lily joins me as we discuss the complexities in mother daughter relationships.  We hold a candid conversation around our own story of navigating injury, repair, and cultivating connection, as we both worked through our own trauma stories.  

To connect with Lily on all things daughter-ship or direction with your struggles with ED, feel free to email Lily at the below address:

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Today's episode isn't for the faint of heart.  Quentin Hafner, author of Black Belt Husbands is a personal and business coach to entrepreneurs.  Today, Quentin dives deep with me into a provocative and controversial conversation around victim consciousness, servant leadership, and stepping outside of our internal pain to navigate conflict in relationships. Sharing stories from our own experience, he challenges listeners to take responsibility in their relationships. Quentin maintains that "You only need one person to have a great marriage.," and he explains why.  

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My guest today is my longtime friend Michelle Teague.  Michelle shares her personal journey from chaos to peace, beginning with how her family of origin trauma propelled her into the people pleaser whose voice didn't matter.  She reveals how  her "pivot" process  led her to what she describes as "fitting into her own unique fingerprint."  Michelle compares her journey to an archeological dig; her artifact discovery was progressively revealed through the care and intention of the archeologist himself.  

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In this episode, Shelli begins the ongoing conversation about the triumphs and failures of mothering and daughtering and making sure that daughters know that their voice matters.  Injuries will happen, and there is always space to repair with integrity and grace. 

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In the week leading up to 2024, Let's be intentional about our resolutions, goals, and the motivations behind them.  What experience are you committed to cause? 

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Today, Shelli shares implications of entertaining toxic thoughts, and with stories from her own experience. She shares how to embrace new thoughts with intentionality and compassion.  

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