Anthony uses the fact that he's the host of a relationship podcast to watch all the crazy relationship shows on TV.  One trend he's been noticing is that several of the young participants of these reality shows have NEVER been in serious relationships. Being in reality TV relationships doesn't give you the emotional intelligence to deal with serious relationships. Plus, what constitutes a serious relationship in terms of duration?  For a young person in their early thirties it's considered a red flag not having been in more than 3 relationships that lasted 6 months or more.  There are cultural changes in the new generations regarding dating and relationships.  This new generation doesn't get into a lot of serious relationships like the older generations did - it seems they hop around less intimate relationships that don't last too long. Could it be that the new technologies and dating apps have affected the way young people have relationships nowadays, and influence how long these relationships last?  Listen to this episode to find out if you have enough serious relationship experience to get married or if you're one of the young ones who switch partners as often as they change clothes. 

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This episode starts out with Anthony reciting some old school poetry from Mr. Wiggles, the song from Parliament. Queen Nina is getting ready to make a trip around the world and when she returns she'll be filled with new experiences and observations to share on the podcast. Everyone knows Tom Brady is the GOAT and his skill is unmatched. However, the recent divorce rumors have been concerning - what could be the factors that led to it? When Gisele married Tom, did she know who she was "getting in bed" with, and that the football was the first wife and she was just the "side chick"?

Once you marry someone, can you force them to stop doing what they love doing? Is it fair to give someone an ULTIMATUM to put the marriage first? Some tough and complex issues regarding relationships and priorities are raised in this episode. Listen in to ponder whether you're just in an affair with your spouse and you're actually married to your career.

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Virgins, virginity and celibacy. In this episode the topic deviates from the usual experience of sex to instead focus on the experience of not yet having it yet. Why do people abstain for having sex, and is such a thing biologically possible? Is sex a need or a want, and could masturbation be sufficient to suppress desire or satisfy libido permanently? Anthony shares situations from the television series, “Married At First Sight” where emotions and companionship might be troublesome in making the decision to marry someone, and if people are on the show to get laid or to find true life partners. Plus, the differences in the intricacies of sexuality for men and women - do men have a more basic need for it while women require and enjoy an emotional connection from it more than the sex itself?  Listen to the episode to learn more about why people abstain from sex for religious reasons or otherwise, and where does sex rank in Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs.

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Queen Nina has a crush!  In this episode she blurts out the details of the entire process of how she got to have a crush on a guy who's chasing her romantically, while Anthony dishes out similarities between her current situation and how he came to be married to his wife.  Who is this mystery man that has captivated Nina's attention?  You'd never believe it, Rulers, it's an older white Jewish guy from Long Island!  Nina shares how she's dreamed of him asking her out and them both kissing, how deep have they gone so far in the relationship, what she plans on doing next as well as how their work situation might be an obstacle for their romance.  Listen to the episode to learn about how she's playing hard to get not just to make the relationship last but because she knows he likes the chase.

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Anthony and Queen Nina discuss and analyze the nuances of being a "F. Buddy" and how it compares and differs from being friends with benefits or being in a committed relationship.  They each share stories from their past on how they experienced a F. Buddy situation.  Plus, how complicated does it get when your F. Buddy catches feelings or wants something more, and how do you end up dealing with that situation?  Nina reminds us that women are the gatekeepers for sex, because they have the "cookie", and how they can use that to keep men coming back for more. Listen to this episode to get the best from your F. Buddy relationship, and learn how to manage it if someone involved catches feelings and wants something more than just sex.

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Rulers, are you ready?  In this episode you will learn the top 21 things to woo your woman (according to an old Instagram reel).  The interesting part, however, is that to woo men, only two are needed: show up naked and bring food!  Anthony discusses this interesting piece of internet advice and why there is such a difference regarding what it takes to keep men and women loyal and satisfied in the relationship.  Plus, we learn some statistics about marriage and divorce while Queen Nina argues how infidelity plays an important role in those numbers.  The debate ensues as to why there is such a lopsided difference between the needs and wants of both genders, or if there really is any difference at all. 

Listen to this episode to learn ALL the 21 things to woo and keep your woman, or the two simple things required to woo and keep your man.

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Anthony is outnumbered when he welcomes Queen Nina and Queen Tones Motivates back to discuss the acceptable levels of complaint in a relationship that seems perfect.  

Does having a good man who provides and is attentive to the family enough to invalidate any complaint a woman might have about the relationship?  Is being a responsible man who steps up to the plate when it comes to being a good husband and a good father simply not enough for women nowadays who seem to just want more and more and will complain about anything?  Plus, would women who have the perfect man in the perfect relationship still complain about something?  The girls claim there is always room to grow together, and that it's not always about being a provider or a good father, but about the quality of the relationship.
Join the gang in this lengthy debate discussing the several factors of what makes a healthy relationship and learn a thing or two about taking a man for granted.

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Uh Oh! Everybody’s honesty and integrity are questioned when Anthony asks, "Are you Really Just a Liar?"
What makes someone a liar? Can a bunch of little white lies, spinning, twisting details and exaggerations be dismissed as something innocent and harmless or is that enough for the person in question to be considered a liar?  Anthony talks about a childhood friend who lies a lot, and how that plays into how people feel about them - surprisingly, people still like them!  Plus, what lies could be a deal breaker in a relationship, and is "exaggerating" about income a lie or just "spinning the truth"?  There is a big difference between putting an "untruthful" detail in your resumé and omitting your feelings about someone who isn't part of the relationship.  Listen to this episode to learn the "truth" about lying. 

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After finally plugging social media handles in the episode Anthony and Queen Nina discuss "What You Won't Do For Love" based on the famous song, and what are the things that people in a relationship wouldn't compromise in order to maintain the relationships.  From moving and relocating to choosing different career paths, there is a limit for every person as to what they won't do for love.  Plus, is there a difference on what people are willing to sacrifice for the relationship based on how young or old they are?  They discuss some segments of the lyrics and what they mean and what is probably going on in that relationship, and even share some of the craziest things they did for love, as well as what sacrifices they did or didn't make.  Listen to this episode to learn about "What You Won't Do For Love".

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Anthony and Queen Nina start out this episode with a little bit of movie trivia and some interesting facts and opinions about The Color Purple, and the fact that many people think it was made by a black director instead of Steven Spielberg.  On to the real discussion: is it important for women to have a label in a relationship?  Nina goes into what women really want from a relationship, and they both discuss a situation from one of the previous hosts, Tone.  What makes a relationship, and what makes it official?  Is living together and regularly being intimate with each other enough to be considered an official relationship?  And why do so many people (especially men) fail to introduce the person they're with as their official boyfriend/girlfriend?  How many dates would it take for a couple to be considered mutually exclusive?  The debate ensues as too what is the specific criteria to define the labels of a relationship.  Listen to this episode to get some critical insights into relationship labels and how much it takes to be official in these modern times.

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