The Accidental Exile: Stories of Cities, Strangers, and Silence

Set among tree-lined streets, art galleries, and passing strangers with unreadable pasts, this is a portrait of someone unforgettable — and a reminder that even the briefest encounters can shape our journey.

In this intimate spoken-word excerpt from Unravelling China, Finlay reflects on a magnetic meeting with Anna, a woman whose poise and presence seem stitched into the fabric of Shanghai’s French Quarter. What begins as a romantic impression becomes something deeper: a meditation on territory, history, self-invention, and the invisible rules of expat life.

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What does it mean to fall in love with a place — not for what it is, but for what it remembers? In this evocative reading from Unravelling China, artist and writer Finlay Cowan walks through Shanghai’s legendary French Concession on a warm Saturday night. It’s not just a place — it’s a mood. A memory. A city within a city, where colonial villas lean behind high walls, cafes bloom overnight, and silence speaks louder than sirens.

This isn’t a guidebook narrative. It’s a meditation on place, memory, safety, decadence, and longing. Why does this corner of Shanghai feel more alive — and more gentle — than the West ever did?

If you've ever felt like a stranger in your own city, or fallen in love with somewhere foreign that felt like home, this one’s for you.

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✴️ In this episode: Cross-cultural burnout and quiet breakdowns. How a simple question opened something profound. A reflection on foreignness, selfhood, and meaning

The subtle emotional language of ChinaI was standing in a corridor that smelled like despair, staring at a dirty mop and a dying houseplant in the Hangzhou equivalent of Dagenham. Everything in me was asking: why am I here?

The answer came later, in the back of a taxi. A young Chinese woman — poised, graceful, and visibly holding it all together — finally let her mask slip. I asked if she was okay. She said “I’m fine.” But she wasn’t. A few words, a touch on the hand, and the dam broke.

This is a story about what happens when we actually see each other. When empathy cuts through cultural noise. When kindness becomes the reason why we’re here.

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It wasn’t a spiritual retreat. It wasn’t a plan.It was a cracked hillside, a plate of spicy fish, and a pot of summer tea in a tiled-backroom restaurant in Wenzhou — a city most people haven’t heard of, but whose people you’ve definitely met.

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What it means to be truly present in the accidental places

A portrait of Wenzhou — its food, history, and wanderers

The weird wisdom of bad locations and forgotten cities

Why we don’t need to "find ourselves" — just lose the signal

This is about presence in a world obsessed with escape. It's about forgotten places, unlikely meals, and the kind of wisdom that shows up when you're not looking for it - earthy, uncomfortable, spiritual, and grounded in the beauty of accidents.

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It started as a passing thought — one of those background flickers you almost don’t notice. I was standing in Shanghai’s M50 Art Zone, waiting for someone, sipping the perfect coffee, staring at cracked tiles and old air conditioning units when I realised I was being photographed.

Not once. Not twice. But constantly.

Every thirty seconds or so, someone would stop, raise a phone or a camera, and take my picture. Sometimes subtly, sometimes not. They didn’t smile or nod, didn’t ask or linger. Just a quick capture and gone. Like street photography with no pretense of art. Like documenting a building.

At first I felt flattered. Then curious. Then slightly hunted. But eventually, I stopped reacting. Because that’s the thing — in China, you can photograph anyone, anywhere. No one raises an eyebrow. And everywhere is a potential shoot.

There’s something beautifully surreal about it. The city is in a constant state of self-documentation. Every faded wall, every rusted pipe, every person with a vaguely interesting silhouette is repurposed as content. Reality as raw material for performance.

This image came from that moment — or more accurately, from what the moment felt like. The woman in the pink blouse was real, she was focused, absorbed, dressed to be seen. But not separate from the scene, part of the fabric of the place.

She’s watching something. Maybe me. Maybe someone else. Maybe nothing. But she holds the frame. Like they all did.

I wasn’t in a city. I was in a film set that never called “cut.”I was a prop. And I liked it.

✴️ In this episode: A Christmas Eve encounter in Shanghai. The emotional resonance of brief connections. Art, intellect, seduction, and saying what we mean. How some moments become memories the instant they happen.

In a dimly lit café in Shanghai’s French Concession, I met Emily. She had a sharp bob, a wicked smile, and a copy of John Berger’s Ways of Seeing open on the bar. What followed was an afternoon of shared truths and quiet recognition — the kind of fleeting encounter that lives on longer than it should.

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✴️ In this episode: A fleeting encounter that opened a lifetime of memory. Reflections on abandonment, empathy, and intuition. How transit spaces awaken the unconscious. The thin veil between the outer world and the psyche Why presence is sometimes the only answer we have

A brush of the arm. A child’s fear. A sudden flash of recognition. On a subway platform in Shanghai, I stood next to a young girl and her father. For a moment — less than a second — her arm touched mine, and I felt everything. Her anxiety. Her uncertainty. Her sense that the person meant to protect her might not. And then, later, in the silence of a farmhouse, it all came back. My own story. My own fear. The child I had once been — lost, alone, trying to survive a world that didn’t seem to notice.

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In Shanghai’s M50 art district, I wandered into another world. In a city of 28 million souls, she was a still point: a living work of art who spoke of life, creativity, and eternity. We drank blue flower tea, sketched without words, meditated in a room filled with dreams. And then, as suddenly as she appeared, she was gone — her studio vanished like a myth, leaving only memory and the scent of incense behind. Lotus is a story about fleeting encounters, lost worlds, and the strange timelessness we sometimes glimpse inside the noise of modern life.

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After 14 days of quarantine-induced cabin fever, I found myself in a surreal banquet hall being serenaded by a Chinese billionaire — and before I knew it, I was reciting Rudyard Kipling’s If to a room of powerful men, expensive wine in hand and the weight of global history echoing through the silence. This is Part 2 of my encounter with the enigmatic Chairman — a man who survived starvation, rose through the Communist Party ranks, and now controls vast swathes of China’s new empire. From £2000 bottles of vintage brandy to patriotic karaoke, from gaudy carpets to geopolitical nuance, this is the bizarre reality of foreign design work in a country racing toward the future.

✴️ What you’ll experience in this episode: The hidden rituals of business in modern China A poetic showdown of empire and memory Brandy, billionaires, and bewilderment Why the Chinese love Britishness (but not Britain) The moment you become both useful... and expendable

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I’m exploring different ways of defining the book - first with artworks and now with readings which can be found here and on YouTube. I love reading to people so this seemed an obvious choice but I soon got tangled in a world of technical complexity which was not fun but may be part of a learning curve. I was, however, surprised to find myself enjoying ‘clip farming’ these longer form videos, that is: selecting one or two lines of the audio and making 10-15 seconds shorts for social media (Instagram reels, tik tok, and YouTube Shorts). This had the effect of forcing me to come up with ideas for imagery, whether using my photos and video of the actual event, creating new illustrations or generating imagery with AI. It has caused me to approach the creation of illustrations for the book in a different way, causing me to come up with ideas on the fly and execute them rapidly. I end up with illustrations for a printed version of the book…but not in a way that I had anticipated - which makes me look at the relationship between words and images in a different manner to how I may have done it in the past.

You can watch it here on Substack or via my YouTube channel below. The ‘clip farmed shorts’ become their own ‘thing’ and can be found on my other platforms and in Substack Notes (if I remember to post them there) but this brings me to another realisation: Substack works as a repository for texts (entire books and essays), illustrations and video. No other platform (that I can think of) allows creators to do that… so it provides a means of archiving multi-media projects as they unfold. Thank you Substack !