Hiya – we're Nicky & Carrie, 2 ADHD coaches figuring it out together...

Following on from our last episode, this time we investigate when and why we loathe being told what to do!

• What is 'Autonomy Sensitivity'?

• How saying "PLEASE" can have unexpected results….

• The impact of our 'boundaries' being crossed

• 'Emotional landmines'

• What might be lacking when we feel we're being told what to do

• How our reactions can overlap with the fear of 'getting it wrong'

• Responding – not reacting

• The 'Have-a-cuppa’ rule

and, of course:

• That omnipresent fear of looking stupid!

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Thanks SO much for joining us on our ADHD journey,

Nicky and Carrie

Hiya – we're Nicky & Carrie, 2 ADHD coaches figuring it out together...

This time, we’re delving into the trials & triumphs of decision-making,

from dithering & delaying to direct decisiveness!

• The challenge of CHOICES: notably, arrays of make-up & extensive menus...

• The range of emotions that even small decisions can trigger – including downright PANIC!

• How being REALLY interested changes things

• Impulsivity

• Impatience

• Intuition

...and: the Worst Business Advice Ever – OR IS IT?!

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Thanks so much for joining us on our ADHD journey,

Carrie and Nicky

Hi – we're Nicky and Carrie, 2 ADHD coaches figuring it out together.

This time, we’re exploring feeling stupid...

•⁠ ⁠...even when there's NO reason you should know something

•⁠ ⁠wanting to keep people happy, even if they’re unlikely to care either way!

•⁠ ⁠how uncertainty affects us

•⁠ ⁠"everyone else knows this!"

• the power of our nervous inner child

•⁠ under/valuing our knowledge & talents

•⁠ 'Philosophy Hour' – ⁠what is intelligence anyway?!

•⁠ the huge difference being interested makes

•⁠ ⁠appreciating – and managing – how our minds work!

Plus... BIG revelation... we discover the plural of ‘roof'.

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Thanks so much for joining us on our ADHD journey,

Carrie and Nicky

Hi – we're Nicky and Carrie, 2 ADHD coaches figuring it out together...

In ep. 20, we dive into the issue of trying to keep all our sh*t together whilst still having enough bandwidth for our loved ones....

• The power of a pen!

• Our 'capacity barrel'

• Cheap post-it notes under the fridge

• Being the 'brusher', 'telephone operator' or 'emotional breadwinner’

• Does the old lady actually want to cross the road?

• Being present… in some cases, literally!

• What could I possibly let go of??

• Passing it back!

• “Let them...." (with thanks to Mel Robbins)

• Utilising visual & auditory cues

• The impact of A Challenge – and/or a cocktail!

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Thanks so much for joining us on our ADHD journey,

Nicky and Carrie

Hi – we're Nicky and Carrie, 2 ADHD coaches figuring it out together...

This episode's a bit different from our usual style – a live coaching session, with Carrie's questions assisting Nicky in delving into her very-ADHD feelings of panic tied up with being (or the fear of being) LATE – something she proudly thought she'd pretty much sorted out! During the conversation, Nicky openly and vulnerably explores some deep feelings - and makes an important discovery.

Along the way, we look at:

• our mental narrative versus reality
• the dreaded 'WTF Look'!
• some strategies & preventative measures - and how we can approach things if & when they don't work!

A note from Nicky... we didn't release this episode when recorded in early 2024, as the sound was weirdly poor – but the latest AI tech has now transformed it (thanks, Adobe!). Also, I've been sitting, long term, with whether I actually wanted it to go live. As you can see, I've decided on balance to go ahead. Hope you find it interesting, potentially useful - and think it's worth the wait!

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Thanks so much for joining us on our ADHD journey,

Nicky and Carrie

Hi – we're Nicky and Carrie, 2 ADHD coaches figuring it out together...

So, picking up where we left off in ep.17... we briefly recap 'our Chimp', and how – with highly variable success – it tries hamfistedly to help us!

Then we look at our suite of inner voices* (with a detour about motivation), and how we can perhaps spot the origin of our infamous ‘Inner Critic'. We touch on something called Internal Family Systems and how a specific inner voice may actually be a remnant part of e.g. our 4 year old self.

We also explore how we can start to take charge, including:

“Passengers on a bus”

Increasing awareness

Interrogating the evidence

Disempowering the negative

Taking control through action

…and, of course, enlisting the assistance of our good old friend: The Pause!

**with huge thanks to Mel Robbins/The Mel Robbins Podcast ep. 287 and Dr Ethan Kross, PhD, and his book, ‘Chatter’.

If you enjoy our podcast, PLEASE would you take a min to help us reach others by subscribing, rating the show, and/or leaving us a review - and telling all your friends : ) – it really does help us 'connect'!

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@theadhdconnection_podcast

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carrieovertoncoaching.com

www.nickyshipp.coach

Thanks so much for joining us on our ADHD journey,

Carrie and Nicky

Hi – we're Nicky and Carrie, 2 ADHD coaches figuring it out together...

Since you last joined us, we've both been dealing with the anxiety of preparing for important events in our lives.

So in this episode we dig into: wrestling with overwhelming logistics, unknown unknowns, fear of cataclysmic eventualities, hierarchies of need, trying too hard to think - and basically wanting to take EVERYTHING! We move on to how (and that!) we survived... notably the power of understanding and managing our emotions, including recognising our screaming 'inner-chimp' and then persuading it to go and sit quietly enjoying a nice banana....

With heartfelt thanks to Professor Steve Peters for his brilliant books, including: 'The Chimp Paradox', 'A Path Through the Jungle', and 'My Hidden Chimp' for children.

If you enjoy our podcast, please would you take a min to help us reach others by subscribing, rating the show, and/or leaving us a review - and telling all your friends : ) – it really does help us 'connect'!

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@theadhdconnection_podcast

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www.nickyshipp.coach

carrieovertoncoaching.com

Thanks so much for joining us on our ADHD journey,

Carrie and Nicky

Hi, we're Nicky and Carrie, 2 ADHD coaches figuring it out together – and, in this episode, we look at how our ADHD minds can 'cost' us...

...finding you have a LOT more (whatevers) than you thought . the Can't Be Arsed factor . the joys & drawbacks of Amazon . being REALLY great at losing things! . Comparing the (very, very boring) Market . unexpected fines . emotional distraction . postal piles . missed appointments . hobbies we have known and loved . digital tyranny . annoying other people . following instructions (NOT) . a short detour into This Is Us... and resisting the impulse to shoot from the hip versus just bloody doing it!!

If you enjoy our podcast, please would you take a min to help us reach others by subscribing, rating the show, leaving us a review/comment - and telling all your friends : ) – it really does help us 'connect'!

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@theadhdconnection_podcast

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www.carrieovertoncoaching.com

www.nickyshipp.coach

Thanks so much for joining us on our ADHD journey,

Carrie and Nicky

Hi – we're Nicky and Carrie, 2 ADHD coaches figuring it out together... and, OK, we’ve had a bit of a gap! – to be followed by another one!!

(…until, hopefully, March; for a couple of additional 'Life' reasons, there's been a bigger gap than we anticipated!)

So, in this episode, we answer: "do we want to stop the podcast?", and explain the main reasons for the gap/s, notably involving weeks of scary silence, having waaaay too much of a good thing (not least, the perils of being invited out for a coffee) – and getting a metaphorical slap!

We also give some random updates on previous topics, and dig further into managing our minds & emotions, including: Bronze Medal Attitude, a revelation about “doing it NOW”, Serendipitous Spontaneity, and How To Wipe Down A Worksurface...

If you enjoy our podcast, please would you take a min to help us reach others by subscribing, rating the show, leaving us a review/comment - and telling all your friends : ) – it really does help us 'connect'!

You can see photos & reels and keep in touch with us on instagram:

@theadhdconnection_podcast

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www.nickyshipp.coach

carrieovertoncoaching.com

Thanks so much for joining us on our ADHD journey,

Nicky and Carrie

Hi – we're Nicky and Carrie, 2 ADHD coaches figuring it out together... and, in this episode, we explore "shoulds" – along with what we PLAN versus what actually happens... including:

• feeling we 'should' do something – and doing our best to avoid it!

• having SO many things we want to do/so little time, or

• at times, having no idea WHAT we want to do!

• the Butterfly effect – aka: "Squirrel!"

• what's REALLY going on for us?

And we look at strategies that can help:

• 'body doubling'

• 'now and next'

• productive pottering!'

• how to get started, and

• minding your language!

(Plus a cautionary tale about orange squash...!!)

If you enjoy our podcast, please subscribe, rate the show, leave us a review/comment - and feel very free to tell all your friends : ) – it really does help us 'connect'!

You can see photos & reels and keep in touch with us on instagram:

@theadhdconnection_podcast

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carrieovertoncoaching.com and www.nickyshipp.coach

Thanks again for joining us on our ADHD journey,

Carrie and Nicky