Please join Dani Joy and I as we continue to explore spiritual trauma using the book Holy Hurt by Hillary L McBride Phd as a scaffold for our discussion. How might these spiritual wounds relate to Dani's experience as a mother of loss to adoption? How has my being an adopted person been shaped by spiritual trauma? In this installment we talk about the return to the familiar, even when the familiar hurts.

Dani Joy is a mother of loss to adoption, a homesteader and blogger. She can be found at: https://medium.com/@danijoy

https://hillarylmcbride.com/holy-hurt-book/

https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/post-traumatic-stress-disorder/symptoms-causes/syc-20355967

https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/24881-cptsd-complex-ptsd

https://www.healthcentral.com/mental-health/get-help-mental-health

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Please join Dani Joy and I as we discuss the section What we need from the beginning, from the book Holy Hurt by Hilary L McBride, PhD.

Dani is a mother of loss to adoption, as well as a homesteader, advocate and writer. Dani can be found at: https://medium.com/@danijoy

https://hillarylmcbride.com/holy-hurt-book/

https://www.healthcentral.com/mental-health/get-help-mental-health

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California Alliance For Adoptee Rights and Senator Wahab have a bill being heard in the Health Committee this Tuesday, 23 June 2026. They need you to call the members of the Health Committee to ask that they vote yes on the bill as it is written, without amendments.

Please follow the link to find a script and the phone numbers of the members of the Health Committee.

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Please join me and Dani Joy as we continue our conversation about the intersection of spiritual trauma and adoption. We are talking trauma, just nonstop, processing! It's so fun. Come have fun with us! We are using the book Holy Hurt; Understanding Spiritual Trauma and the Process of Healing as a scaffold for our conversations.

Dani can be found at: https://medium.com/@danijoy

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https://hillarylmcbride.com/holy-hurt-book/

https://www.healthcentral.com/mental-health/get-help-mental-health

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Please join me and Dani Joy as we continue to address spiritual trauma from our lived experience as a mother of loss to adoption and as a late discovery adopted person.

Dani can be found at: https://medium.com/@danijoy

https://hillarylmcbride.com/holy-hurt-book/

https://www.healthcentral.com/mental-health/get-help-mental-health

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Please join me for my conversation with Jean Kelly Widner, a domestically adopted person who is the author of The Adoption Paradox: Putting Adoption in Perspective. Jean is a Baby Scoop Era adopted person from Washington who has found herself as an Accidental Tourist in the paradox that is living adopted.

https://adoptionparadox.com/

Mentioned in the episode:

https://boothcampus.salvationarmy.org/booth_campus/booth-records/

https://doh.wa.gov/licenses-permits-and-certificates/vital-records/adoptions/original-birth-certificate-adopted-person

https://adopteerightslaw.com/truth/

https://savingoursistersadoption.org/

https://thefamilypreservationproject.com/

https://www.relinquishedbook.com/

https://www.thegirlswhowentaway.com/

https://onadoption.net/

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Please join Dani Joy and I as we continue our conversation about spiritual trauma using the book Holy Hurt by Hilary L McBride PhD as a guide as we explore how this has impacted us as a mother of loss to adoption and as an adopted person.

Both Dani and I come from a Christian religious tradition, and we speak to our own lived experience as people deconstructing from religion and from the adoption narrative.

Dani can be found at: https://medium.com/@danijoy

https://hillarylmcbride.com/holy-hurt-book/

Mentioned on the podcast:

https://candacecahill.com/book/

https://www.youtube.com/@maklelan

https://www.youtube.com/@dataoverdogma

If you are experiencing distress and need to talk, please reach out to one of the trained responders or to someone you feel safe with: https://www.healthcentral.com/mental-health/get-help-mental-health

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Please join me and mom Dani Joy as we wrap up chapter 3 in our discussion of spiritual trauma using the book Holy Hurt by Hilary L McBride PhD as a guide. In this episode we talk about how leaving can end up being more of the same, and why that happens. We also talk about characteristics of marginalized groups that intersect with our experiences with adoption.

Dani can be found at: https://medium.com/@danijoy

https://hillarylmcbride.com/holy-hurt-book/

https://thebloggess.com/

https://www.healthcentral.com/mental-health/get-help-mental-health

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Please join Dani Joy and me as we continue our conversation on spiritual trauma using the book Holy Hurt: understandin spiritual trauma and the process of healing by Hillary McBride, PhD

Dani can be found at https://medium.com/@danijoy

Holy Hurt: https://hillarylmcbride.com/holy-hurt-book/

https://scienceinsights.org/what-is-ecological-systems-theory-and-why-it-matters/

https://www.healthcentral.com/mental-health/get-help-mental-health

If you or anyone you know is contemplating suicide, please contact one of the help lines for support. Ask for help finding a support group or other resource to help you through this time. You are not alone.

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Hi! This is me, stream-of-thought-ing my way through a monologue on one of my least favorite days of the year. Enjoy!

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